Are you addicted to social media?

PJ_Soul

Thoughts_Arrive said:

HesCalledDyer said:

bootlegger10 said:

HesCalledDyer said:

I turn off notifications on all my apps except calls, texts, & sports scores, and also turn off auto-play on Youtube. It makes walking away much easier and it's less tempting to check things so often.

turned off email alerts.  that was huge.

Yep, I only use the icon badge for email and even that's annoying because it makes me want to open & clear it out.  I should probably just turn off email on my phone all together.  I never even look at most of it, just goes straight to the trash.  And GMail is the fucking worst!  Every god damn iteration of my name, I get ALL the emails.  (e.g. mine is "c.a.dyer@" but I'll get emails for cadyer, c-a-dyer, c.adyer, cady.er, etc because 15 years later Google still can't figure out how to differentiate character registers.)

I have the same problem.

I used to reply to say that the email was sent to the wrong address. Now I just delete.

I have no notifications turned on at all, aside from missed called and text messages. I also don't keep any social media apps or my email on my phone's desktop. They stay buried in my apps folder, so I have to actively search for them when I want to access them... That is less successful for facebook, but it works like a charm for email. I literally never check my email unless I'm on my PC at work.

Meltdown99

Addicted to social media...lmfao.  

brianlux

Thoughts_Arrive said:

The racist and homophobic comments on Facebook bring me down.

The thing I hate about FB is it seems to know everything about me- what music I listen to, what vitamins I take, what I like to read.  It's super invasive.  It looks at everything you check out on the internet.  It's worse than Big Brother.  Or, well, maybe it is Big Brother.  If it weren't for a few people who only keep in touch with me via FB, I would dump it in a heartbeat.

HesCalledDyer

Meltdown99 said:

Addicted to social media...lmfao.  

Great contribution.

HesCalledDyer

brianlux said:

Thoughts_Arrive said:

The racist and homophobic comments on Facebook bring me down.

The thing I hate about FB is it seems to know everything about me- what music I listen to, what vitamins I take, what I like to read.  It's super invasive.  It looks at everything you check out on the internet.  It's worse than Big Brother.  Or, well, maybe it is Big Brother.  If it weren't for a few people who only keep in touch with me via FB, I would dump it in a heartbeat.

Of course it’s BB.  Cocksuckerfuckerberg is a government stooge.  

Thoughts_Arrive

Meltdown99 said:

Addicted to social media...lmfao.  

What's funny?

I've been on my phone all day.

12 hours.

I'm struggling to put my phone away.

I thought about playing guitar or reading a book today but just had no motivation.

Thoughts_Arrive

Meltdown99 said:

Just curious, what do you do for money?  I mean your in 30's living with your folks.  You still need some money.  Please don't say they are giving you an allowance?  LOL

Government student assistance payments.

Plus savings from my time working.

I couldn't live with myself if I were receiving an allowance from my folks.

Meltdown99

Thoughts_Arrive said:

Meltdown99 said:

Just curious, what do you do for money?  I mean your in 30's living with your folks.  You still need some money.  Please don't say they are giving you an allowance?  LOL

Government student assistance payments.

Plus savings from my time working.

I couldn't live with myself if I were receiving an allowance from my folks.

Dude.  You are the only one that can solve the problems you constantly are unhappy within your life.  People here have given you plenty of reasonable suggestions and you have excuses why those suggestions will not work.  In a nutshell, I think if you could you'd never leave home or school.  It is your responsibility to have gotten your shit together by now...no one else.  A lot of us have had less than ideal families, that's why I left ADSAP and have never moved back...but hey it is your life.  Life is to short to be wandering around.  Get a job and a place to live and maybe other things will fall into place.

Thoughts_Arrive

I agree with what you're saying.
Believe me, I want to do what you're saying.
I just can't. I've lost hope in finding a job or happiness or a purpose in life.
I often have suicidal ideation, have spoken to my psychologist about this.
The exercises I've been given do not work.
I fear death so I don't want to die and don't want to hurt my loved ones.
I'm just existing without living. 
I'm ashamed of myself. My family don't care about me. And I wonder whether I've lost the respect of my friends.

HesCalledDyer

Thoughts_Arrive said:

I agree with what you're saying.
Believe me, I want to do what you're saying.
I just can't. I've lost hope in finding a job or happiness or a purpose in life.
I often have suicidal ideation, have spoken to my psychologist about this.
The exercises I've been given do not work.
I fear death so I don't want to die and don't want to hurt my loved ones.
I'm just existing without living. 
I'm ashamed of myself. My family don't care about me. And I wonder whether I've lost the respect of my friends.

Are you still seeing the same psychologist as a year ago?  Have you sought out a different one (or maybe give a couple different ones a try)?  I'm not a professional, so maybe I'm just talking out of my ass, but I think it would benefit to stop looking at such a big picture of "job/career/long-term relationship/purpose in life."  When you look that far ahead and make the big picture your goal, it puts such a huge burden on you that it's like "Why even try? This is all too much to overcome!"  Have to get out of that mindset.  Focus on "today," one day at a time. I know it's a cliche thing to say, but it's true.  Focus on the small daily victories instead of epic battles.  And understand that, if you have a bad day, it's still ok.

Thoughts_Arrive

Hey,

Saw a different psychologist.

That's a very good point you made.

Small steps. Break it down.

Thank you.

HesCalledDyer

Thoughts_Arrive said:

Hey,

Saw a different psychologist.

That's a very good point you made.

Small steps. Break it down.

Thank you.

Sure thing man.  See, right there is something to build on. You brought some of your worries to light and you got some information you think could be helpful.  Positive thing.