Speaking at the Hay festival on Saturday, Paul Dolan, a professor of behavioural science at the London School of Economics, said the latest evidence showed that the traditional markers used to measure success did not correlate with happiness – particularly marriage and raising children.
“Married people are happier than other population subgroups, but only when their spouse is in the room when they’re asked how happy they are. When the spouse is not present: fucking miserable,” he said.
“We do have some good longitudinal data following the same people over time, but I am going to do a massive disservice to that science and just say: if you’re a man, you should probably get married; if you’re a woman, don’t bother.”
Men benefited from marriage because they “calmed down”, he said. “You take less risks, you earn more money at work, and you live a little longer. She, on the other hand, has tl put up with that, and dies sooner than if she never married. The healthiest and happiest population subgroup are women who never married or had children,” he said.
I call bullshit on the italicized part, plus a couple others.
Further, I'm fortunate that I not only love my husband, but like him too. Happiness isn't skipping around la-la-la-ing while wearing rosy glasses. It's about living through some of life's worst blows together, and knowing there's no one else in the world we'd want with us in both good and bad times. Vows and all...
In the end, if possible, do what's right for you.
Well I for one took it rather tongue in cheek. I’m not single voluntarily so please leave me my illusion that it’s brilliant to be alone and free ;-) it’s so much easier to have all these happy(ish) couples around you when you’ve convinced yourself that you don’t need/want that. Works most of the time 😎
Oh, no worries! I've just read similar articles / studies posted by the OP about what women supposedly want and what makes them happy. I was offering a differing mindset.
For what it's worth, I figured I wasn't going to be with anyone long-term and that was fine...great, even. But we met (here!) when I was in my early 30's and that was it. I know of others here who've come together (no pun intended) in similar fashion.
Sometimes things simply go better when unplanned. Regardless, enjoy the ride
For sure. I have no intention of getting into a relationship at all, but if something just falls straight in my lap, it's not like I'm going to straight up reject one of those super strong connections that just happen. I'm not a psychopath.
If a dude fell into my lap with a super strong connection and THEY weren't a psycho or sociopath, I'd be willing to go with the flow. I don't see anything falling into my lap that has that kind of connection though unless we get into a Weather Girls situation and I rip off the roof and lay in bed, it's raining men. (Hallelujah)
Psychopaths would always go for the relationship, esp if it fell in their lap. Sociopaths too. The psychopath would end the relationship after they had their fun and it would be a possible deadly ending. Sociopaths would stick around and torment behind the facade of being a good guy.
I think that you would go with the lap situation because you're not psychotic.
Oh yeeeeaaaah. Taylor Ham! Those crazy Jersey people.
Hey now! You messin' with some fine food there!
And they write songs about us Jersey Girls.
A short article about the love affair Northern Jersey has with Taylor Ham. (South Jersey has fine beaches but the residents think they own them, and they know fine crabs but otherwise they're quite confused). I think it's the Manhattan connection vs the Philly connection. Need I say more??
Oh yeeeeaaaah. Taylor Ham! Those crazy Jersey people.
Hey now! You messin' with some fine food there!
And they write songs about us Jersey Girls.
A short article about the love affair Northern Jersey has with Taylor Ham. (South Jersey has fine beaches but the residents think they own them, and they know fine crabs but otherwise they're quite confused). I think it's the Manhattan connection vs the Philly connection. Need I say more??
Well, I'm just going to start making shit up since Spiritual is ignoring this thread. Agnes has one green eye and one brown eye. She has a mohawk of grey hair. And she dresses like Dexys Midnight Runners.
Well, I'm just going to start making shit up since Spiritual is ignoring this thread. Agnes has one green eye and one brown eye. She has a mohawk of grey hair. And she dresses like Dexys Midnight Runners.
Well, I'm just going to start making shit up since Spiritual is ignoring this thread. Agnes has one green eye and one brown eye. She has a mohawk of grey hair. And she dresses like Dexys Midnight Runners.
People say she reminds them a bit of Audrey Hepburn. Brunette.
"Mostly I think that people react sensitively because they know you’ve got a point"
Fuck.. just started "trying to finish" an animated short I started way back in 2015, and there is a recorded voice over going through it and the voice over mentions a couple of girls and how they broke the heart of this boy... and the last girls name I wrote back then is the same as Miss-fuck-your-jokes.
Haha. What a damn coincidence.
"Mostly I think that people react sensitively because they know you’ve got a point"
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Psychopaths would always go for the relationship, esp if it fell in their lap. Sociopaths too. The psychopath would end the relationship after they had their fun and it would be a possible deadly ending. Sociopaths would stick around and torment behind the facade of being a good guy.
I think that you would go with the lap situation because you're not psychotic.
Here's a gift for my fellow pre-spinster....
She did what she had to do.
Thanks, Nancy!
Happy Page 100!!!
Does anybody know, after 100 pages, what color of hair/eyes Agnes has?
We don't even know what beer she likes!?!
And they write songs about us Jersey Girls.
A short article about the love affair Northern Jersey has with Taylor Ham. (South Jersey has fine beaches but the residents think they own them, and they know fine crabs but otherwise they're quite confused). I think it's the Manhattan connection vs the Philly connection. Need I say more??
https://www.northjersey.com/story/entertainment/dining/2018/07/11/taylor-ham-named-most-iconic-nj-food/774500002/
What love songs were your jam before you even really knew what love was all about?
"I'll Be There For You" was really popular when I was in middle school, but I preferred this Bon Jovi gem...
If you want one from growin up:
Haha. What a damn coincidence.