Proposing to my Girlfriend in Italy

jcmitchell28

Good morning All,

I am all booked to see the Padova and Rome shows with my girlfriend in a few weeks.  I have been ready to propose for a while, and am looking for some feedback from both male and female PJ fans.
 
Has anyone proposed at a PJ show?  
If so, how did it go?  
Is it a good idea or bad idea to do it at the show?

Thanks in advance for your input.  Trying to decide the best way to do this.

dankind

I proposed after a show. If they had played "Untitled," I would've proposed to her at the show. Either way, I'm fucking married.

RP112579

Don't do it

cincybearcat

So - is Pearl Jam your thing?  Her thing? or both equal? 

jcmitchell28

dankind said:

I proposed after a show. If they had played "Untitled," I would've proposed to her at the show. Either way, I'm fucking married.

HAHAHA!  This will be my second marriage, so I understand.

So if the song is right and the spirit moves me...do it!!!

willbarclay

jcmitchell28 said:

dankind said:

I proposed after a show. If they had played "Untitled," I would've proposed to her at the show. Either way, I'm fucking married.

HAHAHA!  This will be my second marriage, so I understand.

So if the song is right and the spirit moves me...do it!!!

Ha ... if the song moves her, than its the right time.

and Goodluck

jcmitchell28

cincybearcat said:

So - is Pearl Jam your thing?  Her thing? or both equal? 

More mine than hers, but she is way into it.  We just got a house together and she LOVES decorating with my PJ posters.

wall232

So many wonderful sites in Italy I'd do it in a much more romantic spot than a Pearl Jam show.

But as mentioned above, if Pearl Jam is both of you "thing" then do it, if it's your thing and she is just super awesome to travel with you when seeing them then do it somewhere more memorable to her.

MayDay10

If it were me, I wouldnt do it at a PJ show unless she is a super-fan and it is one of her top pleasures.

Youre in Italy.  There are 1,000 things you can do to propose to blow her socks off.  Do that.  Then use the show as a celebration!

Spiritual_Chaos

I wish a stranger proposes to me. I'm 34 and has nothing going for me. I'd say yes.

F Me In The Brain

Congrats!

Since you are looking for opinions, I would do it during the trip in a spot you think she will find breathtaking and remember forever. 

Think if the pictures you can take (assuming she says yes!) afterword with some dramatic backdrop.

I looked up Padua images and there seem to be some pretty spectacular locales.

You can then spend the rest of the trip riding that glow...

I love PJ shows more than almost anything, and my wife enjoys them, but I would vote to do it somewhere before one of the shows.

Good luck and great times ahead!

dankind

F Me In The Brain said:

Congrats!

Since you are looking for opinions, I would do it during the trip in a spot you think she will find breathtaking and remember forever. 

Think if the pictures you can take (assuming she says yes!) afterword with some dramatic backdrop.

I looked up Padua images and there seem to be some pretty spectacular locales.

You can then spend the rest of the trip riding that glow...

I love PJ shows more than almost anything, and my wife enjoys them, but I would vote to do it somewhere before one of the shows.

Good luck and great times ahead!

So getting down on one knee on the filthy floor of a dive bar ranks where exactly?

lastexitlondon

Don't  do just breathe that's an awful idea

Hobbes

dankind said:

F Me In The Brain said:

Congrats!

Since you are looking for opinions, I would do it during the trip in a spot you think she will find breathtaking and remember forever. 

Think if the pictures you can take (assuming she says yes!) afterword with some dramatic backdrop.

I looked up Padua images and there seem to be some pretty spectacular locales.

You can then spend the rest of the trip riding that glow...

I love PJ shows more than almost anything, and my wife enjoys them, but I would vote to do it somewhere before one of the shows.

Good luck and great times ahead!

So getting down on one knee on the filthy floor of a dive bar ranks where exactly?

That's rank, yo.

F Me In The Brain

dankind said:

F Me In The Brain said:

Congrats!

Since you are looking for opinions, I would do it during the trip in a spot you think she will find breathtaking and remember forever. 

Think if the pictures you can take (assuming she says yes!) afterword with some dramatic backdrop.

I looked up Padua images and there seem to be some pretty spectacular locales.

You can then spend the rest of the trip riding that glow...

I love PJ shows more than almost anything, and my wife enjoys them, but I would vote to do it somewhere before one of the shows.

Good luck and great times ahead!

So getting down on one knee on the filthy floor of a dive bar ranks where exactly?

They all should rank as amazing.  it is the people, of course, and not the location.  I did it in our living room.  Nothing incredibly romantic or memorable about that location!

cincybearcat

Yeah I'm not sure I'd want to propose around a lot of loud, drunk, crazy people....but if it's both your thing, sounds just as good as any other.  It all depends on what you want.  Private moment vs lots of people.  Serenity vs craziness.  Both can work and in reality it doesn't matter one bit, so do what feels right for you and your lady.

deadendp

I am a fan of private proposals.  My husband carried me through the snow and to a beautiful bridge in the National Park.  He knelt down and it was just the two of us.  A private moment, a private setting... Just us.  

Just a thought.  

shawnb199

At a show is a terrible idea. So is a baseball game or any other huge public event.

Spend a day in Venice. Take the waterbus to Lido and walk to the beach. Find a long pier and walk to the end so you can propose to her in the middle of the ocean with a nice beach and beautiful Italian city as the backdrop.

PP193448

Not at the show.  Venice in St. Marks square in the evening, then split a bottle of wine under the stars.  Went there on my honeymoon and made my wife wake up around 8-9p or so after jet lag to listen to classical music by quartet while drinking wine at a table there.  Ultra romantic.  But there are so many better places in Italy to propose, than at the show.  I would agree to have one of the shows as the celebration.

Thief of Silence

I had to do mine in a McDonald’s parking lot in -20 weather, so it could be worse??

PJ_Soul

wall232 said:

So many wonderful sites in Italy I'd do it in a much more romantic spot than a Pearl Jam show.

But as mentioned above, if Pearl Jam is both of you "thing" then do it, if it's your thing and she is just super awesome to travel with you when seeing them then do it somewhere more memorable to her.

I agree with this. Unless she is ALL about PJ, and that show is considered by her to be a monumental moment in your lives, then do it somewhere more romantic and lovely and more private. But yeah, if you two being at that show together is a BIG HUGE DEAL because your relationship has a massive PJ thread running through it, then do it at the show.
But hey, you know her best. We can all make our own assumptions and offer our opinions about this, but you're the only one who knows what will be the best, most loving way to propose to her. Just remember, your proposal is you telling her just how much she means to you and that you love her so much you want to spend the rest of your life with her... If you think saying that to her is somehow best expressed while being said at a PJ concert, and doing at that show symbolizes something greater between you and her, then go for it. If not, then maybe don't?

PP193448

^This.  

stuckinline

PP193448 said:

Not at the show.  Venice in St. Marks square in the evening, then split a bottle of wine under the stars.  Went there on my honeymoon and made my wife wake up around 8-9p or so after jet lag to listen to classical music by quartet while drinking wine at a table there.  Ultra romantic.  But there are so many better places in Italy to propose, than at the show.  I would agree to have one of the shows as the celebration.

This. And good luck, please let us know how it went!

Amir1978

Try Terrazza del Gianicolo in Rome. 
Or Il Pincio. 
Or Trinità dei Monti (above the Spanish steps). 

Preferably at sunset or night. Good luck!

jcmitchell28

Thanks all for the really good feedback.  It really confirms what I already felt.  We will be in Venice for one day/night before heading to Padova for the first show, so I may do it there.  The engagement should be private and meaningful. The shows will be icing on the cake!

Again, thanks to everyone for taking the time to reply!

MayDay10

Best of luck.  I think you are on the right track.  Such a great opportunity for an engagement.

Poncier

Thief of Silence said:

I had to do mine in a McDonald’s parking lot in -20 weather, so it could be worse??

Hopefully she didn't look at the ring and request it to be supersized.

dankind

MayDay10 said:

Best of luck.  I think you are on the right track.  Such a great opportunity for an engagement.

Yeah, even if the marriage winds up being a bust, at least the engagement was awesome.

jpdannabelle

dankind said:

MayDay10 said:

Best of luck.  I think you are on the right track.  Such a great opportunity for an engagement.

Yeah, even if the marriage winds up being a bust, at least the engagement was awesome.

Lol. You might make the guy change his mind and run for the hills. But at least they’ll always have PJ in italy. But seriously don’t do it at the show. 

Amir1978

jcmitchell28 said:

Thanks all for the really good feedback.  It really confirms what I already felt.  We will be in Venice for one day/night before heading to Padova for the first show, so I may do it there.  The engagement should be private and meaningful. The shows will be icing on the cake!

Again, thanks to everyone for taking the time to reply!

I proposed to my wife in Venice - it's such a beautiful, romantic and unique place, really just any corner is stunning.
You'll see! Again good luck and happy travels

PJ_Soul

Hey OP, you may have already dealt with this, but in case you haven't... How are you getting the ring through airport security without your GF knowing about it? Or are you putting it in a checked bag? That seems mildly risky, but I guess bags don't get lost that often. Just FYI, you can call the airport you're flying out from and talk to them about how to get that ring through without security calling attention to it. Apparently they have "methods" that they know and will keep their traps shut if you do it their way.
Good luck!