A safe place for anxiety sufferers to share.

JPPJ84

lastexitlondon said:

We are semi ill in isolation . Not knowing if its that or not. So much of it in my actual village. Thanks  for the kind words keep you  posted.!

IF it’s Corona and it’s mild then all the better. It may well be a common cold. In any case take care of yourselves and fingers crossed it‘ll pass soon

hedonist

what dreams said:

Thoughts_Arrive said:

It's great that we have a clinical psychologist contributing in this thread

This is "A Safe Place for Anxiety Sufferers to Share." I'm not going to be baited into an argument with you and blow up the thread. I am going to respond once, however, and then put you on ignore so I can continue to be part of this thread without being poked by you every time I comment. Here is the FULL text of the PM you sent me that apparently you are still angry about:

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Thoughts_Arrive January 25

I'd like to apologise and also say thank you for your honesty. I hope you read this and reply but if not, I understand.
May I ask what you've been diagnosed with? And what childhood trauma? Maybe we have similar stories.
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I did not reply. Clearly you do not understand. So let me make it clear in the honest way I have of communicating: I am not obligated to have private conversations with strangers about deeply personal subjects. I have shared details of my diagnosis here in this thread when appropriate to the conversation, in ways that I think could be helpful to others. The details of my childhood trauma are really none of your business -- but from it I have learned to trust my gut instincts and to not feel shamed or manipulated into doing things I don't want to do. 

If you are upset because I never acknowledged your apology, then here it is publicly: I accept your apology.  I'm not sure why you even felt the need to apologize. I offered some suggestions to some problems you were having, as did a number of people here. I made some observations about your self-reported behaviors and asked a question that I thought could be helpful to your treatment.  You, as you have the right to do, rejected all the suggestions, observations, and the question. I was neither offended nor harmed by that. But if you need forgiveness for something you perceived to be offensive on your part, then I offer it to you. I hope you find your closure and move on. I am sorry that my conversation with you hit such a soft spot.

To everyone else:  I am really, really sorry for going here in this thread. I was trying to be strong and let TA have his passive-aggressive moments but I'm not one to let attacks on my character go unanswered. I just couldn't today. It won't happen again from me. I promise -- if I can help it -- this thread will not turn into a shit-storm between me and TA.  Be well, everyone. We all deserve peace and calm in our lives right now. Do what you have to do to find it.

Well said...and those last two sentences, amen.

hedonist

And Rob, hang in there. Are your daughter and little one okay?

brianlux

Great to see some supportive words here. 

Keeping you all in my best thoughts.

lastexitlondon

Yes  thank you.  Me and my partner have whatever  this is. Wont know  i guess of its mild .

Fifthelement

hedonist said:

what dreams said:

Thoughts_Arrive said:

It's great that we have a clinical psychologist contributing in this thread

This is "A Safe Place for Anxiety Sufferers to Share." I'm not going to be baited into an argument with you and blow up the thread. I am going to respond once, however, and then put you on ignore so I can continue to be part of this thread without being poked by you every time I comment. Here is the FULL text of the PM you sent me that apparently you are still angry about:

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Thoughts_Arrive January 25

I'd like to apologise and also say thank you for your honesty. I hope you read this and reply but if not, I understand.
May I ask what you've been diagnosed with? And what childhood trauma? Maybe we have similar stories.
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I did not reply. Clearly you do not understand. So let me make it clear in the honest way I have of communicating: I am not obligated to have private conversations with strangers about deeply personal subjects. I have shared details of my diagnosis here in this thread when appropriate to the conversation, in ways that I think could be helpful to others. The details of my childhood trauma are really none of your business -- but from it I have learned to trust my gut instincts and to not feel shamed or manipulated into doing things I don't want to do. 

If you are upset because I never acknowledged your apology, then here it is publicly: I accept your apology.  I'm not sure why you even felt the need to apologize. I offered some suggestions to some problems you were having, as did a number of people here. I made some observations about your self-reported behaviors and asked a question that I thought could be helpful to your treatment.  You, as you have the right to do, rejected all the suggestions, observations, and the question. I was neither offended nor harmed by that. But if you need forgiveness for something you perceived to be offensive on your part, then I offer it to you. I hope you find your closure and move on. I am sorry that my conversation with you hit such a soft spot.

To everyone else:  I am really, really sorry for going here in this thread. I was trying to be strong and let TA have his passive-aggressive moments but I'm not one to let attacks on my character go unanswered. I just couldn't today. It won't happen again from me. I promise -- if I can help it -- this thread will not turn into a shit-storm between me and TA.  Be well, everyone. We all deserve peace and calm in our lives right now. Do what you have to do to find it.

Well said...and those last two sentences, amen.

I concur, very well said.  We’re all here to share as much of our stories as we need or want to.  To provide support and encouragement if we’re able.  Sending love and light to all.

Thoughts_Arrive

I thought it's against forum rules to share PM's on threads

Thoughts_Arrive

I mean you are a clinical psychologist, right?

I honestly thought you must be seeing you diagnosed me with a personality disorder.

Thoughts_Arrive

I thought this is a safe place not a place to be incorrectly diagnosed by a faceless stranger who has never received training in personality assessment and has no knowledge of underlying theories of personality behind said assessment.

hedonist

Please, let this go here.

Fifthelement

Thoughts_Arrive said:

I thought this is a safe place not a place to be incorrectly diagnosed by a faceless stranger who has never received training in personality assessment and has no knowledge of underlying theories of personality behind said assessment.

Right now, it seems to me M, that you’re the one making this an unsafe space for another board member. Your passive-aggressive tone and demands to be answered are full of hostility.  WD owe you anything, none of us do.  We share if we feel it might help.  We see similarities in ourselves and struggles. Take from our advice or not.  Be well M. We do want the best for you.  We want the best for all of us.

myoung321

keep the crap away from this thread, plenty of threads for that!  Positive Positive Positive!!! 

brianlux

myoung321 said:

keep the crap away from this thread, plenty of threads for that!  Positive Positive Positive!!! 

Oh hell, yes, m!  Right on.

We're all on edge.  Would be great if we could keep it reeaaal cool here.

Thoughts_Arrive

And what What Diagnosis posted is fine?
First with making me feel uncomfortable (unsafe to share) here by diagnosing me without any qualifications.
Then to post my PM on public.

brianlux

Thoughts_Arrive said:

And what What Diagnosis posted is fine?
First with making me feel uncomfortable (unsafe to share) here by diagnosing me without any qualifications.
Then to post my PM on public.

Whatever your "diagnosis" is, Thoughts, it's cool.  We're all at least a little bit damaged- I know I sure as hell am.  I'm not sure what's going on here, but I support you, him/her, I support everybody I can, to whatever degree I can.  Hope we could all do that.  Maybe just ignore the stuff that rubs you the wrong way.  Not worth the time or emotional expense for either party. 

Just my 2 cent.  Hope you're doing OK.

Thoughts_Arrive

I cannot report his/her post sharing a PM because he/she ignored me and the button is not on there. Great.

JPPJ84

Stop it, M. So you wanna get WD banned to feel better about yourself? Wow that’s petty! There’s nothing all that personal in that shared pm so give it a rest. A lot of us in this thread have assumed things and tried to be a psychologist. Why? Because we tried to help. Sometimes that results in hurt feelings or egos. Maybe ask yourself why you are so mad about the comments. Maybe you find they have a hint of truth and you don’t like it. Maybe ask yourself why you’re not taking any of the advice that’s given to you here. Maybe you’re mad at yourself.
so stop being a bully and concentrate on getting yourself better

Thoughts_Arrive

It is strictly against forum rules to share PMs on threads. All I ask is that it be removed, not for WD to be banned.
She/he did not assume, he/she diagnosed. 
Yeah, like I believe I have a narcissistic PD, do you even know what that looks like? 

Thoughts_Arrive

brianlux said:

Thoughts_Arrive said:

And what What Diagnosis posted is fine?
First with making me feel uncomfortable (unsafe to share) here by diagnosing me without any qualifications.
Then to post my PM on public.

Whatever your "diagnosis" is, Thoughts, it's cool.  We're all at least a little bit damaged- I know I sure as hell am.  I'm not sure what's going on here, but I support you, him/her, I support everybody I can, to whatever degree I can.  Hope we could all do that.  Maybe just ignore the stuff that rubs you the wrong way.  Not worth the time or emotional expense for either party. 

Just my 2 cent.  Hope you're doing OK.

I was until a few minutes ago.

lastexitlondon

Ok . Please  do not get my thread shut down . I and others need this more than ever. 
If anyone cannot respect each other.  Please respect  me. 
I dont have any strength for fights. Wrong is wrong and we need to move past this now.  Everyone has had their say and its not helping any of us in these times of extreme and i mean extreme fear.
When  the  past is the  present and the  futures no more. 
The numbers keep falling off the calenders floor.