My brother died Sunday from suicide; he took comfort in PJ's music in his last days. Thank you.

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  • Degeneratefk
    Degeneratefk Posts: 3,123
    Wish you the best. Keep your head up.
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  • Kevinman
    Kevinman Atlanta, GA USA Posts: 1,921
    Peace be with your brother, you, your family, and loved ones. Time does not heal the pain but it will ease it a bit. Have peace in knowing that you'll see him on the flip side. My thoughts and prayers are with you.
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  • Irish_Aenima
    Irish_Aenima Memphis, TN Posts: 122
    Prayers to you and your family from Memphis.
  • Leezestarr313
    Leezestarr313 Temple of the cat Posts: 14,444
    I am too very sorry for your loss. And while it all is a very sad occasion, I like that you chose to make it into a celebration of your beloved brother. I am wishing you and yours much strength in these hard times.
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  • Fifthelement
    Fifthelement Lotusland Posts: 6,965
    My deepest condolences to you and your family. You are in my heart and thoughts.
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  • hankholetsgo
    hankholetsgo Posts: 125

    Thank you, from another Memphian.
    Irish_Aenima said:

    Prayers to you and your family from Memphis.

    And thank you so much to everyone else.
  • JH6056
    JH6056 Posts: 2,437
    edited August 2016
    Wow, so sorry, so very sorry. Also, thank you. Thank you for your attitude, your perspective, and for sharing all of this. Your family is lucky to have you, as I'm sure you're lucky to have them.

    Hope your brother has finally found peace. I agree with a PP, he'll be there by your side whenever you hear PJ. I'll be thinking of him and all of you next times I hear Long Road and GTF.

    Wishing you and your mom all the support you can get as you both celebrate his life. ::HugeHugs::
  • given2fly23
    given2fly23 Evanston, IL Posts: 6,042
    Incredibly sad. So sorry for your loss.
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  • chimpat
    chimpat Posts: 590
    Hank, sorry for your loss, condolences to you and your family.

    Long Road is probably one of the most powerful songs both lyrically and musically I can think of, I hope it along with some of the other songs you and your brother shared can bring you some peace at this difficult time.
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  • trident
    trident MA Posts: 81
    Sorry to read of your loss. He is at peace, and in a better place. I know there is little that can be said or done to ease the pain you and your family are going throught at this time. But hopefully the music brings you great memories of your times together. Prayers and strength to your family.
    So this life is sacrifice....
  • jcmitchell28
    jcmitchell28 Fort Worth Posts: 217
    Much love from a fellow DFW Pearl Jam fan. I had a family member take their own life and know how that feels. My thoughts are with you, your family and your brother.
  • Suziemay
    Suziemay Posts: 11,168
    Very sorry for your loss. Love and prayers to you and your family.
  • mcgruff10
    mcgruff10 New Jersey Posts: 29,117
    Sorry for your loss bud.
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  • FadedGlory
    FadedGlory Chicagoland Posts: 427
    Man. No words. I'm so sorry. I truly do appreciate your attitude toward making it a celebration of your brother's life. Godspeed to your brother and all my best mojo for you and your family.

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  • FoxyRedLa
    FoxyRedLa Lauren / MI Posts: 4,810
    RIP BROTHER

    https://youtu.be/X8QA49PZLmw

    We're here for you.

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  • hankholetsgo
    hankholetsgo Posts: 125
    Thank you all again for the kind words. There truly is something nice about solidarity with lellle over a shared love. I thought I'd share a picture of us from a few months ago. It's the last photo of us. I'm in the hat. He was a good dude.

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  • hedonist
    hedonist Posts: 24,524
    I love seeing my husband's individual relationships with his brothers (albeit from miles and miles away).

    I also love how your brother is looking at you there. What a smile! I see pure joy on his face, and hope you continue to feel that from him, or at the least, your memories of time spent with him.
  • mschostok
    mschostok Chicago, IL Posts: 858
    Sorry for your loss, brother. Keeping you and your family in my thoughts.
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  • iwasatpj20
    iwasatpj20 Rockford, IL Posts: 3,470
    Sorry to hear about your brother, that is very sad to hear. Hopefully the band's music finds some comfort for you and your family. I'll keep you and your family in my thoughts and prayers.
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  • Leezestarr313
    Leezestarr313 Temple of the cat Posts: 14,444
    hedonist said:

    I love seeing my husband's individual relationships with his brothers (albeit from miles and miles away).

    I also love how your brother is looking at you there. What a smile! I see pure joy on his face, and hope you continue to feel that from him, or at the least, your memories of time spent with him.

    This is a very sweet picture.
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