My brother died Sunday from suicide; he took comfort in PJ's music in his last days. Thank you.

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  • pjman75
    pjman75 Indiana Posts: 850
    I've never been more proud to call you my friend than I am during these past few days. The way you are dealing with all of this should be an example for others. After an amazing day Sunday, you got hit with more than any person or family should have to handle. Please keep sharing. Please keep expressing. Please stay strong. Beth and I are here for you any day, any time, any where. I love you Hank.
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  • hankholetsgo
    hankholetsgo Posts: 125
    Man - I'm so happy we had such a wonderful day Sunday, before I got the news. Sunday was just one of those days that was perfect. Good experiences, good food, great weather, good buds... and then the worst.

    Thank you so much for the support over the last few days.
    pjman75 said:

    I've never been more proud to call you my friend than I am during these past few days. The way you are dealing with all of this should be an example for others. After an amazing day Sunday, you got hit with more than any person or family should have to handle. Please keep sharing. Please keep expressing. Please stay strong. Beth and I are here for you any day, any time, any where. I love you Hank.

  • oftenreading
    oftenreading Victoria, BC Posts: 12,856
    Nothing really helps at a time like this but I hope that you can take some comfort from music and the love and support of your family and friends, even those of us here who don't know you personally but share the bond created here.
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  • Caught-A-Bolt-Of-Lightning
    Caught-A-Bolt-Of-Lightning Posts: 1,336
    I am very sorry for your loss. My condolences to you & your family.
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  • EM194007
    EM194007 Posts: 2,827
    Very, sorry to hear this. My thoughts and prayers go out to you and your entire family and friends.
  • pjalive21
    pjalive21 St. Louis, MO Posts: 2,818
    just shed tears at work...ive been here...trust me I have...there is no worse struggle...I hope he found peace wherever he has gone

    thoughts are with you and im going to be thinking about this all day
  • PJ_ROCKS
    PJ_ROCKS THE 406 Posts: 6,736


    sending good (((vibes))) to you and your family. stay strong

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  • buck502000
    buck502000 Birthplace of GIBSON guitar Posts: 8,951
    :(
  • Shakescky
    Shakescky Posts: 343
    my condolences to you and your family. i know the feeling all too well as i am one who deals with severe depression on a daily basis. positive vibes and the strongest digital hug to you and your family. reflect and celebrate his life with happier times, which i am sure you are doing. your brother will always be by your side especially when you're listening to pearl jam.
    i have witnessed some performances. i have soaked up a lot of memories.
  • IamTom
    IamTom Posts: 1,138
    Hank,

    There's so little I can say to ease the fierce truth of what you're going through so I won't try.

    I'll simply say I hear you and honour your brother's death and the acute suffering that drew him down this path. And I honour your grief and your courage in sharing here.

    May you hear your brothers words in the wind.

    Tom
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  • Vedder1029
    Vedder1029 Posts: 179
    Stay strong.... thinking about you and your family!
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  • crookedcross
    crookedcross Right Near Da Beach, Boiii Posts: 1,545
    Sorry for your loss. Stay strong, stay very strong. I dont know you personally but we are a family here. Suicide is something that hits close to home for me so please don't hesitate to reach out even if you just need someone to talk to.
  • GAMMA_WAVE5
    GAMMA_WAVE5 Posts: 15
    Man, so sorry to read about what you just went through. I'll be praying that you and your family can find comfort in the time you did get to share together. I've been through a similar situation... best wishes to you and your family Hank.
  • dphares
    dphares Maryland Posts: 118
    Sorry for your loss.
  • QuarterToTen
    QuarterToTen Cincinnati, Ohio Posts: 3,649
    My sincerest condolences to you and your family.

    Mary Beth
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  • AO253126
    AO253126 Posts: 366
    Thoughts and prayers to you and your family, OP
  • PJ_Soul
    PJ_Soul Vancouver, BC Posts: 50,674
    edited August 2016
    Oh no, I am so sorry for you and your family's loss. I am awed by how strong you are being, and you're honouring your brother well.
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  • djklambake
    djklambake PHX, AZ Posts: 2,524
    I am so sorry to hear this. Your brother, you and your family will be in our prayers and thoughts this week...
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  • lolobugg
    lolobugg BLUE RDGE MTNS Posts: 8,195
    positive thoughts to you and your family.

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  • madtowndave
    madtowndave Minneapolis, MN Posts: 4,013
    May you continue to find solace in the music, and may you be comforted by those around you and the memories of those that aren't.
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