When religious people won't take no for an answer

deadendp

PJfanwillneverleave1 said:

^^^
You didn't realize who the OP was?
It's not even half a page.

Avatar change. Sorry. Mistakes. I make them. The world continues to spin.

hedonist

Just be honest and if he doesn't stop, there's no shame in unfriending (blocking?) him.

If things get awkward, so be it. Getting through and over it can be a valuable experience.

PJfanwillneverleave1

Get off faceturd.

Thoughts_Arrive

deadendp said:

Thoughts_Arrive said:

I don't want to unfriend him as we will be in the same lectures and possibly classes next semester and semesters in future.

TA, Didn't realize that you were the OP. Block out what you can. Are you positive you'll be in classes with him?

Yeah we study the same subject so will definitely be in lectures and if we end up being allocated in the same classes, then there too.

Thoughts_Arrive

FoxyRedLa said:

Thoughts_Arrive said:

I don't want to unfriend him as we will be in the same lectures and possibly classes next semester and semesters in future.

See what you get for being nice

Yeah, I am too nice for my own good.

Thoughts_Arrive

This guy thinks I need some saving. He wants me to the see the light.
I told him twice at university I am not religious, this is before he sent me a friend request.

RKCNDY

Just unfriend him. BFD if you have classes with him. Again, you're worrying about what people think about you, who cares? It's not like he's going to kill you for unfriending him.

deadendp

Thoughts_Arrive said:

This guy thinks I need some saving. He wants me to the see the light.
I told him twice at university I am not religious, this is before he sent me a friend request.

Flick a light switch on and tell him that you see the light!

markymark550

Thoughts_Arrive said:

markymark550 said:

You don't have to go as far as unfriending him. If the invitation is coming from a specific group, you should be able to block everything from that group. If the invitation is coming from the guy's personal account, you can unfollow him while still remaining friends. Next time an invitation comes, look at the top right corner of the post and look for a down arrow. Clicking that should bring up the options to hide the post, block posts from the group, or unfollow the guy depending on what kind of post it is.

For example, I am a member of "The Official Pearl Jam Ten Club Members" group. If I got annoyed with posts from that group or from someone in particular, follow the pictures below:




This was from my phone, but the same should apply for desktop.

Thank you. I will try that next time he sends me an invite. He always invites from his personal page.

No problem. It would be better if he did that from a group page instead of his personal page. Imo it's easier to cut off communication from a group page than an individual's page. If you unfollow him and he posts other things not related to those invitations, then you'll be out of luck seeing those posts (more like you'll be lucky to not see those posts based on what you've said already).

markymark550

FoxyRedLa said:

Wow. Marky there are 34k members in that fb group.

Yeah. The only person from here in that group that I even recognize is dimitrispearljam because of the flag

mickeyrat

Yes. Yes there is. It is called "unfriend". You do it. Speak to him in person if you wish about why. Keep whatever relationship you will have with him on an in person basis.

Besides. ITS FUCKING FACEBOOK. It is NOT that critical to life.

brianlux

Maybe use the same technique some do to turn religious people away from the door only with a selfie... if you know what I mean.

2-feign-reluctance

Annoying is annoying - reasons aside. This sounds an awful lot like the girl situation from weeks ago OP. This is precisely where Facebook gets people by the way. Trapping you into thinking this is the only way to really connect with others.

chadwick

Wobbie said:

chadwick said:

you could... message him back some ridiculous bullshit
you could... avoid him like the plague
you could... unfriend him altogether
you could... attend one of his events
you could... quite possibly torque his mom's engine real quick

you could....get the hell off faceturd.

you could... take the advice of rob & thank him sometime in the future

F Me In The Brain

Rob is the master, listen to his advice and delete your account.

retropony

you could invite him to your own event.......... call it, oh.... I don't know... "It's evolution baby!"

PJ_Soul

Thoughts_Arrive, I think you really, really need to try and stop caring so much about what other people think. It seems like you almost make yourself sick on a regular basis by overthinking what others think about you. Of course it's still necessary to care about what others think in some ways, for a person to be considerate and to navigate relatively peacefully through life, but I feel like you take that and multiply it by a million. You don't have to sweat what some dude thinks about you unfriending him on facebook. It just doesn't matter. He probably wouldn't even notice. It's not like people get notified when they are unfriended. But even if he did notice and said something, the reply could just be "I don't like getting e-vites". Whatever. I just hope that you can stop worrying to much about how people react to you. Some concern is natural, but I think you know that you're rather obsessive about it.
Assuming you are generally a kind and reasonable person, you should just be yourself, behave however feels right and comfortable to you, and not worry about everyone else. They can worry about their own feelings about minor social complexities.

jnimhaoileoin

If it were me I would not only unfriend him but if he continued to hassle you I would be more forceful and tell him to piss off. Admittedly I have very strong feelings on religion and my right to not practice it, those feelings would help me overcome my usual people-pleasing tendencies

Thoughts_Arrive

PJ_Soul said:

Thoughts_Arrive, I think you really, really need to try and stop caring so much about what other people think. It seems like you almost make yourself sick on a regular basis by overthinking what others think about you. Of course it's still necessary to care about what others think in some ways, for a person to be considerate and to navigate relatively peacefully through life, but I feel like you take that and multiply it by a million. You don't have to sweat what some dude thinks about you unfriending him on facebook. It just doesn't matter. He probably wouldn't even notice. It's not like people get notified when they are unfriended. But even if he did notice and said something, the reply could just be "I don't like getting e-vites". Whatever. I just hope that you can stop worrying to much about how people react to you. Some concern is natural, but I think you know that you're rather obsessive about it.
Assuming you are generally a kind and reasonable person, you should just be yourself, behave however feels right and comfortable to you, and not worry about everyone else. They can worry about their own feelings about minor social complexities.

I'm a people pleaser, that's my issue too.
I was so angry about it last night in bed. Kept thinking about it. I had a good night out with friends but when I went to bed it was on my mind what to do about it.
I agree with you nonetheless.

Thoughts_Arrive

I might just start posting music videos like Jesus Christ Pose, Heart Shaped Box and a Bad Religion song called Come Join Us. Anything to offend him lol.