Need prayers....thoughts, vibes, anything....

PJSiren

Here is Keyton with Santa...

hedonist

Sweet

SD48277

PJSiren, Keyton looks adorable and happy. I hope all is going well.

JWPearl

what a cutie..

PJSiren

Omg I'm losing my ever loving mind and have no where else to vent...my best friend came here with the promise that she would help clean and cook, well she sorta cleans, and she has basically refused to cook, and she sorta helps with Keyton. Otherwise she is planted on her ass on the couch with Netflix going and her face buried in her phone. I finally called her on all her bullshit today and she left...she went for a walk, she's been gone all day, instead of just facing me, she knew I was mad, and she couldn't face me instead she just bails...made me even more mad. Luckily she is going to see her mom for Christmas and we decided its better that she stays with her mom. Its just been a lot of added stress the last week or so...

SmallestOceans

Vibes to you and your family... I hope it all works out ok!

Gillycw

Geez, that's the last thing you need!! At least you called her out on it. She's going through a shit time, but she still needs to pull her weight. I hope you can set things straight with her.
X

PJSiren

I talked to her last night in person when she finally decided to come home after I had taken care of Keyton's nightly routine. And she acted like this is all on me..."she's not good enough for me, I don't talk to her, I don't care about what she's going through too....she's leaving on Tuesday and I'll never have to see her again...." And I'm like that's not what I want you're my best friend, but I can't live with you. You're not doing things I've asked you to do(she smokes, I asked her to bathe every day because the smell of cigarettes is killing me, it gives me migraines, I said if she showered daily it wouldn't be as strong or stale on her and she said she would, which was a lie, instead her answer was to cover it up with nasty ass perfume which I am just as allergic to, I also told her this when I came home from work the first time and smelled the perfume in the house and yet she continued to do it), you ARE doing things I've asked you NOT to do(smoke up by the front porch, we have asked her to not smoke near the house at all because we don't smoke and don't want the smell coming in our house, she'll stand away from the house for a day or two but then slowly inches her way back up closer to the porch), you half ass clean my kitchen more half ass than my teenage kid does, and you vacuum my living room, that's the extent of her cleaning, and I out right told her that, and the one time I asked her to cook dinner she gives me the excuse that Jason is a better cook than her...and my kid is mad at her because she keeps tattling on her....she's a grown ass woman, why is she tattling to me on my kid(like she tattled on my kid for eating candy for breakfast, do you really have room to talk, you drink soda at 6am)? I don't know....things are going to be strained between us for a while...because she thinks I don't appreciate the things she's done while she's been there like helping with Keyton, which I've thanked her for on multiple occasions and so has my husband, and we've provided a roof over her head and a bed for her to sleep in and food for her to eat, and we've taken her out to eat multiple times, how is that not appreciating what she's done to help? She says I don't talk to her when I get home from work...well, first off it goes both ways, she keeps her face literally buried in her phone or she goes upstairs and goes to bed shortly after I arrive home from work...and I'm mentally, physically and emotionally drained when I get home(at 7:30pm BTW) and I still have my hubby, Chyann and Keyton to deal with, dinner to eat, plus the animals to feed and dogs to take outside...please excuse me if I don't ask how your day of watching MY Netflix account and playing on your phone was...not to mention, I kept trying to ask her about stuff when she first got here and I would see her visibly upset and she wouldn't open up and talk to me she would just brush it off...I mean really how many times is someone supposed to get that before they get frustrated and give up?

I'm just really frustrated you know because I went to her and tried to have a grown up conversation with her about the whole thing and all she did was act very childish towards me....

Gillycw

Far out that's a lot to deal with. It sounds like she's in a fug of feeling sorry for herself. I think you've done all you possibly can at this point. You need to look after yourself. Thinking of you and I hope you and your family have a good Christmas xx

JWPearl

a moment where you find who are your true friends are
i hope you find a way to manage although it sounds like
your buggered you do need help..

SD48277

Best wishes for a healthy and better New Year, PJSiren! All the best.

JWPearl

hope your doing okay and had some nice rest..

PJSiren

Thanks guys!!! Been kinda busy since the new years started, we're looking into possibly getting a house....

just thought I would pop in and tell you about our experience last night though...Keyton was completely ridiculous last night…I got home and Chyann was trying to help him with his homework while Jason got dinner started and he wouldn’t work with her, he wasn’t listening, not focusing just throwing guesses out, and he knows his numbers, but he wouldn’t do it…so he ended up getting put in a time out, and after about 10 minutes I asked him, if Mrs Jaxell asked you what number comes after a 5, what would you tell her, and he says “six”(instead of guessing a random number), then Chyann asked him why he wouldn’t do his homework for us and he answers her with “I think I don’t have to” so then she asks him do you think I have to do mine? To which he replies “yes” so I ask him what makes you so special then that you don’t have to do your homework? And he says in front of all three of us, “my wheelchair” to which we had to explain to him in a way a 5 year old can understand that just because he’s in a wheelchair that doesn’t give him special privileges…

JWPearl

oh that was cute..
nice to hear from you..

ldent42

PJSiren said:

Thanks guys!!! Been kinda busy since the new years started, we're looking into possibly getting a house....

just thought I would pop in and tell you about our experience last night though...Keyton was completely ridiculous last night…I got home and Chyann was trying to help him with his homework while Jason got dinner started and he wouldn’t work with her, he wasn’t listening, not focusing just throwing guesses out, and he knows his numbers, but he wouldn’t do it…so he ended up getting put in a time out, and after about 10 minutes I asked him, if Mrs Jaxell asked you what number comes after a 5, what would you tell her, and he says “six”(instead of guessing a random number), then Chyann asked him why he wouldn’t do his homework for us and he answers her with “I think I don’t have to” so then she asks him do you think I have to do mine? To which he replies “yes” so I ask him what makes you so special then that you don’t have to do your homework? And he says in front of all three of us, “my wheelchair” to which we had to explain to him in a way a 5 year old can understand that just because he’s in a wheelchair that doesn’t give him special privileges…

The Serenity Prayer popped into my head while I was reading that. You're a better woman than me PJSiren!

PJSiren

haha, yeah I've needed the Serenity prayer quite a few times during this whole thing....

PJSiren

Also just a quick update...not to do specifically with just Keyton but with my family....we made an offer on a house on Saturday and found out last night that they accepted our offer, so we are under contract...we can't close on the house until after April 2 though, because it's in probate, but we're excited. :-) It's our first house!

ldent42

congrats!

RKCNDY

congrats PJSiren!

hedonist

Nice way to start the new year!