Inter personal relations in this age

whispering hands

it seems to me that the world has become enthralled with sexual pleasure to the point that there is no standard or moral practice to relations these days. Kids text or share phone #'s, and then it's on.. There's no need to know the person.. No necessity in finding things out about one another.. No perfection to the consummation..
Just sex, in all its raw, explicit glory. The 60's have NOTHING on the free flow of sex and perversions of this day and age.. Those of you whom are parents.. How do you feel about this??

callen

Sex drive for animals is strong. See no problem with it or our sexually charged society. Sex is healthy and great.

Thirty Bills Unpaid

It's a hell of a lot better than shootin' shit.

With that said... appropriate ages and some level of discretion would be encouraged by myself.

PJ_Soul

I don't feel like this is anything new. I think maybe people just talk about it a lot more now.

oftenreading

I don't think that I agree with you on this, particularly as it relates to teens. The available evidence suggests that fewer teens are actually having sex now than even a decade ago (by a few percentage points). Teen pregnancy in the US has gone down significantly, which is a wonderful thing as almost all of those pregnancies are unplanned, although most of that is likely due to better use of contraception (despite the stubborn refusal of many in power to make access to reliable contraception easier).

One other thing that I think is a good thing but you may well disagree on, WH - of those teens having sex, a higher percentage are describing their sexual encounters as voluntary; i.e. they are not feeling pressured to have sex by partners or peers. They are making the decision themselves. Are they always making the right decision? Probably not, but at least they are more often feeling in control of that decision.

I'll say again what I've said before in other threads - I do not feel pessimistic about today's teenagers in the way that many seem to. I know a lot of teens and by and large they are great kids and good human beings.

brianlux

oftenreading said:

I don't think that I agree with you on this, particularly as it relates to teens. The available evidence suggests that fewer teens are actually having sex now than even a decade ago (by a few percentage points). Teen pregnancy in the US has gone down significantly, which is a wonderful thing as almost all of those pregnancies are unplanned, although most of that is likely due to better use of contraception (despite the stubborn refusal of many in power to make access to reliable contraception easier).

One other thing that I think is a good thing but you may well disagree on, WH - of those teens having sex, a higher percentage are describing their sexual encounters as voluntary; i.e. they are not feeling pressured to have sex by partners or peers. They are making the decision themselves. Are they always making the right decision? Probably not, but at least they are more often feeling in control of that decision.

I'll say again what I've said before in other threads - I do not feel pessimistic about today's teenagers in the way that many seem to. I know a lot of teens and by and large they are great kids and good human beings.

I agree. I think the each generation is going to do better than the last. I'm also practicing being extremely optimistic... but why not, right? And I really do think that it's possible, especially if we give kids encouragement to do well.

rr165892

I'm not in agreement.There is just more ways to sell it show it and talk about it.Sex has and will always be the same.We all want sex and we all want to be loved.Its been the same since the garden of Eden.

Amongst the Ani

This is the generation where some will get to watch porn on the internet and have that "Holy shit is that my Mom when she was younger" moment. I assume that will scar many sexually.

Thirty Bills Unpaid

Amongst the Ani said:

This is the generation where some will get to watch porn on the internet and have that "Holy shit is that my Mom when she was younger" moment. I assume that will scar many sexually.

I was thinking about this the other day. 'Skeletons in the closet' is no longer a relevant expression.

Bentleyspop

I'm glad Im not a parent

hedonist

Availability + anonymity + technology = ...?

Sexual desire, exploration, satisfaction - of course all natural. Shouldn't be stifled either.

But I think it's equally important to understand the value of intimacy, of not always literally opening to, or injecting yourself into, just anyone. As Thirty mentioned, some caveats to be acknowledged - important ones.

And also sometimes restraint? Checking yourself before sending videos of yourself to strangers and/or friends?

At this point, there are many other means available to those who are horny.

hedonist

Bentleyspop said:

I'm glad Im not a parent

Fuckin a, man. Me too.

I'd suck at the expense of my kid, or excel at the expense of myself.

PJ_Soul

Amongst the Ani said:

This is the generation where some will get to watch porn on the internet and have that "Holy shit is that my Mom when she was younger" moment. I assume that will scar many sexually.

Lol. I was talking about that very thing with a co-worker the other day. He was thinking it wouldn't be THAT bad, and then I told him to imagine seeing a porn his own parents made. His parents are from Eastern Europe. He freaked out from the thought of it. Those Eastern Europeans make some pretty freaky-deaky dirty porn.

Last-12-Exit

My 14 year old daughter has a smart phone. She has 2 gigs a month that she uses mainly on pandora. My wife has access to her email, instagram, and whatever other account she has. Cait is not allowed to delete any text until my wife sees her texts. I can't say she's never deleted something. But we have compared the phone bill to what is on her phone and its never been off. All of her texts have been accounted for.

The only time we have had a problem is we found in an Internet browser a website that had sex stories. She said she heard about it from a class mate. We believed her. We know she knows about sex. We've discussed with her. She is not into boys that much, yet. My wife and I trust her and know she will make the correct decision when faced with pressure from boys.

Now madison, our 11 year old, will be a complete different story. I will fear her teenage years.

rr165892

Hang in there Scotty boy shits about to get interesting for you.haha teenage girls are grey hair makers.im thankful my wife kept me in check when they brought little assholes home with them.

whispering hands

Last-12-Exit said:

My 14 year old daughter has a smart phone. She has 2 gigs a month that she uses mainly on pandora. My wife has access to her email, instagram, and whatever other account she has. Cait is not allowed to delete any text until my wife sees her texts. I can't say she's never deleted something. But we have compared the phone bill to what is on her phone and its never been off. All of her texts have been accounted for.

The only time we have had a problem is we found in an Internet browser a website that had sex stories. She said she heard about it from a class mate. We believed her. We know she knows about sex. We've discussed with her. She is not into boys that much, yet. My wife and I trust her and know she will make the correct decision when faced with pressure from boys.

Now madison, our 11 year old, will be a complete different story. I will fear her teenage years.

This was what I was asking^^^^ and only Scott really answered it..

callen said:

Sex drive for animals is strong. See no problem with it or our sexually charged society. Sex is healthy and great.

As adults, IN proper context.. I'm
Talking about KIDS.. It is not healthy for kids to practice in it.. Emotionally and intellecually they are not ready for such commitments.
And sex drive in animals is NOT the same thing.. Most animals will breed their mothers.. Because they know no different, so nowhere near the same relevance.

whispering hands

I just couldn't imagine having a child of either gender and dealing with the everyday barrage of sexual interjection all the way down to using sex to sell candy bars these days. And as a conservative I believe there should be appropriate limits to what kids are exposed to.. And these days there's just no filter.. It's EVERYWHERE..., and it won't be long and everyone will be ok with inter familial relationships.. You wanna fuck your brother?? Sure, cause sex is healthy in any case presented right? At least that's how it feels. I mean we're pretty much teaching kids these days that whatever feels good is what's good. Which pretty much boils down to your kids are some other kids's living dildo or pocket pussy, in all reality.. To me it's just sad.. It's scary and unhealthy. ( just wait til your daughters are jaded bitches at20 yrs old because they began relations early and are burned out on love lost..)

whispering hands

I know I seem
Like a snooty anti-sex jerk. But I honestly think that sex should have a proper place. And by a proper place I mean within marriage between two people whom
Have made a commitment to one another for LIFE. It should mean something.. It should not just be this free for all. And I know that I am one of VERY few left in this planet left that still believes in marriage as a life long commitment. I also know that I am the extreme rarity in the fact that I don't practice sex as an outlet device for every little thing in my life, like most everyone else does these days.. It just blows my mind that suddenly everyone is ok with their kids.. KIDS engaging in something that has the power to destroy them mentally. Cause let's face it, even as adults sometimes it's difficult to process why someone whom professed their undying love for you just the day before, suddenly quits calling once they've bedded you. Now imagine the emotional roller coaster that would cause in an already emotionally insecure kid.. It's just fucked up that parents for the most part are so blasé about it all, writing it off as healthy exploration..

dignin

oftenreading said:

I don't think that I agree with you on this, particularly as it relates to teens. The available evidence suggests that fewer teens are actually having sex now than even a decade ago (by a few percentage points). Teen pregnancy in the US has gone down significantly, which is a wonderful thing as almost all of those pregnancies are unplanned, although most of that is likely due to better use of contraception (despite the stubborn refusal of many in power to make access to reliable contraception easier).

One other thing that I think is a good thing but you may well disagree on, WH - of those teens having sex, a higher percentage are describing their sexual encounters as voluntary; i.e. they are not feeling pressured to have sex by partners or peers. They are making the decision themselves. Are they always making the right decision? Probably not, but at least they are more often feeling in control of that decision.

I'll say again what I've said before in other threads - I do not feel pessimistic about today's teenagers in the way that many seem to. I know a lot of teens and by and large they are great kids and good human beings.

You nailed it Often. The evidence just doesn't back up Whispering's beliefs.

rgambs

No offense meant, but you do sound very jaded.
I was 15 the first time I kissed a girl. Before I turned 16 I had sex.
15 years later she gave birth to our first child!

Not all stories of teenage sexual exploration are so detached as you seem to think. Part of growing up is learning how to value yourself and others, and just like the rest of life, you learn best by making mistakes!
Nobody wants 14 year olds having orgies every weekend, but teenage sex is nothing new. Sex among teens is actually falling, and I think the availability of pornography and the relaxed attitudes about sex are part of the reason why. Kids don't have to jump straight into the sheets for intercourse anymore, they better understand the options, alternatives, and risks than they did in former generations.

hedonist

whispering hands said:

I just couldn't imagine having a child of either gender and dealing with the everyday barrage of sexual interjection all the way down to using sex to sell candy bars these days. And as a conservative I believe there should be appropriate limits to what kids are exposed to.. And these days there's just no filter.. It's EVERYWHERE..., and it won't be long and everyone will be ok with inter familial relationships.. You wanna fuck your brother?? Sure, cause sex is healthy in any case presented right? At least that's how it feels. I mean we're pretty much teaching kids these days that whatever feels good is what's good. Which pretty much boils down to your kids are some other kids's living dildo or pocket pussy, in all reality.. To me it's just sad.. It's scary and unhealthy. ( just wait til your daughters are jaded bitches at20 yrs old because they began relations early and are burned out on love lost..)

The bolded part strikes me as quite a leap, almost akin to those who oppose gay marriage talking about what's next - wedding your pet pot-bellied pig?

As to limiting sex to within the confines of marriage, it's just not realistic. What about those who choose not to marry, or aren't allowed to? Or aren't ready to?

I think gambs' comment about self-worth was important too, as well as how Last-12 is handling this time in his daughter's life.