Inter personal relations in this age
whispering hands
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it seems to me that the world has become enthralled with sexual pleasure to the point that there is no standard or moral practice to relations these days. Kids text or share phone #'s, and then it's on.. There's no need to know the person.. No necessity in finding things out about one another.. No perfection to the consummation..
Just sex, in all its raw, explicit glory. The 60's have NOTHING on the free flow of sex and perversions of this day and age.. Those of you whom are parents.. How do you feel about this??
Just sex, in all its raw, explicit glory. The 60's have NOTHING on the free flow of sex and perversions of this day and age.. Those of you whom are parents.. How do you feel about this??
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With that said... appropriate ages and some level of discretion would be encouraged by myself.
One other thing that I think is a good thing but you may well disagree on, WH - of those teens having sex, a higher percentage are describing their sexual encounters as voluntary; i.e. they are not feeling pressured to have sex by partners or peers. They are making the decision themselves. Are they always making the right decision? Probably not, but at least they are more often feeling in control of that decision.
I'll say again what I've said before in other threads - I do not feel pessimistic about today's teenagers in the way that many seem to. I know a lot of teens and by and large they are great kids and good human beings.
Fuckus rules all
Rob
Seattle
Sexual desire, exploration, satisfaction - of course all natural. Shouldn't be stifled either.
But I think it's equally important to understand the value of intimacy, of not always literally opening to, or injecting yourself into, just anyone. As Thirty mentioned, some caveats to be acknowledged - important ones.
And also sometimes restraint? Checking yourself before sending videos of yourself to strangers and/or friends?
At this point, there are many other means available to those who are horny.
I'd suck at the expense of my kid, or excel at the expense of myself.
The only time we have had a problem is we found in an Internet browser a website that had sex stories. She said she heard about it from a class mate. We believed her. We know she knows about sex. We've discussed with her. She is not into boys that much, yet. My wife and I trust her and know she will make the correct decision when faced with pressure from boys.
Now madison, our 11 year old, will be a complete different story. I will fear her teenage years.
Talking about KIDS.. It is not healthy for kids to practice in it.. Emotionally and intellecually they are not ready for such commitments.
And sex drive in animals is NOT the same thing.. Most animals will breed their mothers.. Because they know no different, so nowhere near the same relevance.
Like a snooty anti-sex jerk. But I honestly think that sex should have a proper place. And by a proper place I mean within marriage between two people whom
Have made a commitment to one another for LIFE. It should mean something.. It should not just be this free for all. And I know that I am one of VERY few left in this planet left that still believes in marriage as a life long commitment. I also know that I am the extreme rarity in the fact that I don't practice sex as an outlet device for every little thing in my life, like most everyone else does these days.. It just blows my mind that suddenly everyone is ok with their kids.. KIDS engaging in something that has the power to destroy them mentally. Cause let's face it, even as adults sometimes it's difficult to process why someone whom professed their undying love for you just the day before, suddenly quits calling once they've bedded you. Now imagine the emotional roller coaster that would cause in an already emotionally insecure kid.. It's just fucked up that parents for the most part are so blasé about it all, writing it off as healthy exploration..
I was 15 the first time I kissed a girl. Before I turned 16 I had sex.
15 years later she gave birth to our first child!
Not all stories of teenage sexual exploration are so detached as you seem to think. Part of growing up is learning how to value yourself and others, and just like the rest of life, you learn best by making mistakes!
Nobody wants 14 year olds having orgies every weekend, but teenage sex is nothing new. Sex among teens is actually falling, and I think the availability of pornography and the relaxed attitudes about sex are part of the reason why. Kids don't have to jump straight into the sheets for intercourse anymore, they better understand the options, alternatives, and risks than they did in former generations.
As to limiting sex to within the confines of marriage, it's just not realistic. What about those who choose not to marry, or aren't allowed to? Or aren't ready to?
I think gambs' comment about self-worth was important too, as well as how Last-12 is handling this time in his daughter's life.
My father was staunchly opposed to the idea of it and was about to assert his parental rights, but my mother stood up to him. She said (a little more colorfully), "There going to do it. I would much rather her in the comfort of her own bed than the back of a car."
Not surprised that teen sex is down. Hiding things drives want to check things out, drugs, alcohol etc
Are you against birth control?
Is this thread a veiled abstinence platform?
And sex between family members, even siblings, has occurred since time immemorial. Many cultures have practiced it, from the Egyptians to the Romans to the British to those in the backwoods of the USA, either for dynastic reasons or simply due to lack of available alternatives. I'd say the rates are probably less now than in the past, but I don't have evidence for that and am not that interested in looking it up.
Trying to ignore the fact that most humans naturally have a sex drive has never worked out well. Countries that recognize this and give our children and teens correct information and support have the healthiest populations.
Sorry to have strayed from the original point. Conversations here have a way of doing that
often - I appreciate your input on this. There are many acts that were practiced (and maybe just accepted?) in those earlier times. Some of those are just unacceptable now, or at the least, are discouraged as we're much more aware of the repercussions.
Fuckus rules all
Rob
Seattle
Pretty sad, whether that kind of porn is actually incestual or being portrayed as such because some get off on that.
I think it has more to do with porn addiction and the desensitization that comes with having such a huge variety of porn so readily available. People watch too much normal sex and then down the road the fetish stuff is the only thing that gives the same excitement they used to get.