Was she "asking for it"?
LiLiNY81
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Dennis Hopper's son is being sued by a mother of a 15-year-old girl...she's claiming he (a 21-year-old) lured her daughter to his home with the promise of drugs and alcohol. Once she got wasted, he took advantage of her.
When I read the article, it wasn't so much the act of what he did that disturbed me most. It was the fact that a 15-year-old went to an older man's house to do drugs and drink. I understand teens do shit to be rebellious, but there's a line. I smoked and drank at 15 (not a lot, but I did it), but I never could fathom putting myself in that situation. And I did it with my other 15-year-old friends. I'm sure the girl was aware of what would happen...surely, she didn't think they would get wasted and play Monopoly.
The debate I'm having is whether this could fall under the "she asked for it" scenario? Of course, I find it hard to say that anyone asks to be violated. But honestly, what do you expect? My theory is if you don't want unsavory attention and advances, don't put yourself in shady situations.
Thoughts?
When I read the article, it wasn't so much the act of what he did that disturbed me most. It was the fact that a 15-year-old went to an older man's house to do drugs and drink. I understand teens do shit to be rebellious, but there's a line. I smoked and drank at 15 (not a lot, but I did it), but I never could fathom putting myself in that situation. And I did it with my other 15-year-old friends. I'm sure the girl was aware of what would happen...surely, she didn't think they would get wasted and play Monopoly.
The debate I'm having is whether this could fall under the "she asked for it" scenario? Of course, I find it hard to say that anyone asks to be violated. But honestly, what do you expect? My theory is if you don't want unsavory attention and advances, don't put yourself in shady situations.
Thoughts?
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It happens all the time.
im sure it does... doesnt make it right tho.. nor does it make it acceptable.
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Is the male still at fault? Yes, yes he is. As DS said, "the law is still the law"
How hard is it to ask a chick's age? "18 huh? Well, I'm just gonna get drunk. Just give me a half hour or so..."
how was she asking for it??? a hot young actor invites an impressionable girl to his place... and she accepts the invitation. im sure she didnt expect to be raped. thats horseshit.
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Lured to me sounds like he waited outside of a school or near a bus stop.
Well, that he took advantage of her isn't acceptable to me. Otherwise, it's not really any of my business. I'll just say that I don't allow 15 year olds to my parties... There are creeps out there.
What does it mean by lured?
according to the huffington report they met throgh a mutual friend and continued that friendship via facebook. the girl had gone to hoppers place more than once it would seem.
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Hopper Jr should be aware of his surroundings.
we may well be speaking of statutory rape in this case. i wouldnt imagine if she felt hopper was co ercing her into acts of sexual ludeness shed go back for more... tho maybe she would.. who knows? seems mum found out and the girls survival instincts kicked in. what doesnt change is the fact that hes an adult and shes not.
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Buddy of mine goes to college freshamn year...he's 19...comes home for winter break...has sex with his girlfriend of 2 years on New Years Eve...she was 17...they get caught by Dad and the girl claims she was ridiculously drunk and didn't know what was going on to save her embarrassment...he gets charged with statuatory rape...Rutger's University finds out about the charges and he's asked to leave the football team...during meetings with the attorney's A YEAR LATER she fesses up and explains she knew what was going on and begged for the charges to be dropped. If memory serves me correctly the charges couldn't be fully dropped becasue of the age difference but were pled dwon to something insignificant.
This story smells like my buddies a lot.
I was very stupid. I'm extremely fortunate that I never came to any harm.
So I don't buy the idea that this girl knew the risk she was taking. It disgusts me that anyone would suggest that she knowingly put herself in situation where a man--who certainly knew what he was doing!--could take advantage of her.
Any girl at 15 that doesn't recognize a dangerous "sexual" situation with someone older and there's alcohol and drugs involved as well better not be in that fucking line at 16 waiting to get her driver's license then becasue she is obviously very high on the dumb scale. :fp:
A year later (19)I was at a Dave concert at Alpine. Met this amazing girl, made out a bit and later found out she was 17. I was beyond shocked! I pretty much ran for it and thank god I asked! Yeah... Not a proud moment, but she was 2'years younger, nothing happened and she looked like she was 20. Coulda been trouble!! :shock:
j/k, but do you see what I'm saying? Teenagers are not particularly smart or experienced about a lot of things, be they female or male.
If you were 18 you would have been fine. Hellooooo Wisconsin.
i find this most interesting. when i was 17 my boyfriend was 19. it would never have occurred to me during the entire 2 year relationship that anything we did was wrong, let alone against the law. hmmm... but then again our age of consent is 16.
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My buddy and her were both their firsts when they were together. They broke up when he went to college and she became the class skank... A real "dumpster" if you know what I mean!
Anyways, she surpassed the double digit mark in those 6 months they were apart. She was also a really sheltered child with a very religious family.
Only when her mom found out about her relations with her ex did things happen.
After the court battle, 6 months later she was pregnant from a boy her own age. She aborted it and lost all ties with her family.
...seems fair.
which part is fair????
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Sounds like she has self esteem problems...nice. :corn:
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But in all seriousness, I was an impressionable 15 year old girl once too...but I knew where to draw the line. You can't tell me this girl is "mature" enough to drink and do drugs, but not mature enough to know that an older guy just wants to bang her? I'm sure this wasn't her first time at the rodeo, if you know what I'm sayin'.
Probably not. :corn: