He fed my 13 year old niece weed and booze
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My lucky sister ended up marrying an undiagnosed bi-polar/manic depressive who won't seek help. He's also a cocaine abuser that physically emotionally and verbally destorys her and her 3 daughters. I sometimes see bruises on their faces or hear them lashing out for no reason, but everything came to a boiling point last Sunday.
For the longest time (3+ years), he was enemployed. Stayed up all night working on his buddies' bikes, cars, etc- getting high on weed and coke. All the while collecting unemployment...until that ran out.
In the spring, she threatened to leave him if he didnt land a steady job....and he did. Now that he made a few bucks, he asked her permission to buy another motorcycle. She put her foot down and said no. Then, he snapped.
I don't know the details but I do know he ended up going to the hosp. to get stitches on his cracked skull.Out of craziness/anger/irresponsibile frustration, he slammed his stupid head on their kitchen glass table- in front of the 3 girls.
See, for the longest time while not working, he was supposed to work from home- buy beat up bikes, fix them and sell them for a profit. Since I haven't talked to the SOB in 3 years, I guess he wasn't really doing that. He was just collecting them, maybe occasionally selling them for weed and or coke.
Anyway, the night he went off on himself, Julia was so scared for her and the kids, she spent the night in my house. She asured me that he was moving out by last Friday, but he never did. I guess they talked things out.
So, if my sister doesn't love them enough to keep her children safe in their own home, I did something about it. This has been pattern of horrible behavior by him for years and I filed a report this morning. He's not a good provider, he's not a good husband, he's a horrible father...and he's crazy. My sis is obviously not protecting her girls. so i will.
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For the longest time (3+ years), he was enemployed. Stayed up all night working on his buddies' bikes, cars, etc- getting high on weed and coke. All the while collecting unemployment...until that ran out.
In the spring, she threatened to leave him if he didnt land a steady job....and he did. Now that he made a few bucks, he asked her permission to buy another motorcycle. She put her foot down and said no. Then, he snapped.
I don't know the details but I do know he ended up going to the hosp. to get stitches on his cracked skull.Out of craziness/anger/irresponsibile frustration, he slammed his stupid head on their kitchen glass table- in front of the 3 girls.
See, for the longest time while not working, he was supposed to work from home- buy beat up bikes, fix them and sell them for a profit. Since I haven't talked to the SOB in 3 years, I guess he wasn't really doing that. He was just collecting them, maybe occasionally selling them for weed and or coke.
Anyway, the night he went off on himself, Julia was so scared for her and the kids, she spent the night in my house. She asured me that he was moving out by last Friday, but he never did. I guess they talked things out.
So, if my sister doesn't love them enough to keep her children safe in their own home, I did something about it. This has been pattern of horrible behavior by him for years and I filed a report this morning. He's not a good provider, he's not a good husband, he's a horrible father...and he's crazy. My sis is obviously not protecting her girls. so i will.
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The courts proved that my ex brother in law abused my nephew and my sister while they were married and he still has custody of the child but he has a strike on his record that comes off in just a few years. To me that should be a one strike thing.
On another side of the coin, it was so easy for them to investigate my brother at the recommendation of their baby's doctor for a few minor bruises on a child just learning to crawl and get around. They didn't call people that knew my bro and his wife or do any sorta background check, just assumed the worst. I know it made my brother feel like a real piece of shit to just be accused of that.
I'd imagine that's just the tip of the iceberg with all variations from state to state.
just keep in mind that when dcfs contacts them unless at least one of the kids verify to them that they've been phsyically abused there's not much if anything dcfs will do...
and another thing is be prepared that it's probable your sister & the kids will see you as the "bad guy" for reporting him. unforunately if he doesn't get out it has to be up to her to take the kids & leave him
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ya, seriously 81, what the fuck was that? did u even come up with that on your own?
Where the fuck did that come from???
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Till there aint nothing left worth taking away from me.....
He may know him but I don't think that makes a difference.
my thoughts exactly. i would have done the same thing.
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Im not saying what you did was right or wrong...
Im just saying I might have gone about this in a different way....
Because I think YOUR LIFE is about to get real ugly....
I may be wrong...
Till there aint nothing left worth taking away from me.....
No offence....but your sister needs to grow the fuck up and think of her kids....and herself. Another
'victim' story. Wtf is wrong with chicks? Stand up for yourself!! Stop dealing with cockheads and accepting shit lifestyles!! :x At least he has an 'excuse' (bipolar or whatever). These horrible situations are happening in front of your sister's kids....by CHOICE?! She could have left him! No one stopped her! She's an idiot!
I'm sure people will disagree with me....but I think some mothers are to blame as well in situations like this. Guy acting like a complete fuckhead multiple times = leave. Don't threaten to kick him out over and over, fight it out in front of the kids, wait for dramatic events to eventuate etc.....just fucking leave.
I'd never put up with this shit for myself....bring my (future) kids into it and it's war. Hell, if you fucked with my dogs I'd seriously hurt you (and want to kill you). And I'm not kidding. Don't know how people put up with this abuse for themselves and their kids.
Some women are so weak..........makes me sick..........I absolutely DO NOT understand!
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tough call
hope you did the right thing
I'd rather see them go a better home than be in that situation. I may look like the bad guy, but the toughest decisions are sometimes the right ones. If DCFS gives her an ultimatum, maybe this will be a wake up call to finally leave that scum.
And If that rat bastard comes at me, so be it.
Sending your family positive vibes!
She IS weak. It's been going on for too long. The asshole brings nothing but destruction to that family and she never does a damn thing about it. I really hope this helps.
Its sad but true - women will stick around hoping that things will change and get better but they never do. Women can be "weak"- its time she puts an end to it.....
Here is an interesting article on Marital Violence
http://www.psychologytoday.com/articles ... l-violence
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