He fed my 13 year old niece weed and booze

davidtrios

My lucky sister ended up marrying an undiagnosed bi-polar/manic depressive who won't seek help. He's also a cocaine abuser that physically emotionally and verbally destorys her and her 3 daughters. I sometimes see bruises on their faces or hear them lashing out for no reason, but everything came to a boiling point last Sunday.

For the longest time (3+ years), he was enemployed. Stayed up all night working on his buddies' bikes, cars, etc- getting high on weed and coke. All the while collecting unemployment...until that ran out.

In the spring, she threatened to leave him if he didnt land a steady job....and he did. Now that he made a few bucks, he asked her permission to buy another motorcycle. She put her foot down and said no. Then, he snapped.

I don't know the details but I do know he ended up going to the hosp. to get stitches on his cracked skull.Out of craziness/anger/irresponsibile frustration, he slammed his stupid head on their kitchen glass table- in front of the 3 girls.

See, for the longest time while not working, he was supposed to work from home- buy beat up bikes, fix them and sell them for a profit. Since I haven't talked to the SOB in 3 years, I guess he wasn't really doing that. He was just collecting them, maybe occasionally selling them for weed and or coke.

Anyway, the night he went off on himself, Julia was so scared for her and the kids, she spent the night in my house. She asured me that he was moving out by last Friday, but he never did. I guess they talked things out.

So, if my sister doesn't love them enough to keep her children safe in their own home, I did something about it. This has been pattern of horrible behavior by him for years and I filed a report this morning. He's not a good provider, he's not a good husband, he's a horrible father...and he's crazy. My sis is obviously not protecting her girls. so i will.
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DS1119

Wishing all of the best for your family. I'm sure it's not easy to do that but hopefully some help can be found.

youngster

I can't argue with you at all. Good for you for standing up for your family.

josevolution

Can't disagree with your decision , the children's safety should be the main concern i believe you made the correct choice here ....

perfectlefts14

Wow that seems like a real difficult situation, I think you did the right thing. Hopefully your sister understands that you did it because you care for her and her kids, and this doesn't create a problem between the both of you. I hope everything works out for the best.

DewieCox

I hope for the best, but it's a pretty fucked up system.

The courts proved that my ex brother in law abused my nephew and my sister while they were married and he still has custody of the child but he has a strike on his record that comes off in just a few years. To me that should be a one strike thing.

On another side of the coin, it was so easy for them to investigate my brother at the recommendation of their baby's doctor for a few minor bruises on a child just learning to crawl and get around. They didn't call people that knew my bro and his wife or do any sorta background check, just assumed the worst. I know it made my brother feel like a real piece of shit to just be accused of that.

I'd imagine that's just the tip of the iceberg with all variations from state to state.

81

hopefully, everyone involved will act like adults and move on with their lives so that all involved can be solid, happy members of society and the parents can provide a childhood filled with positive joyfull memories for the children caught in the middle.

prism

you did good by reporting it...


just keep in mind that when dcfs contacts them unless at least one of the kids verify to them that they've been phsyically abused there's not much if anything dcfs will do...

and another thing is be prepared that it's probable your sister & the kids will see you as the "bad guy" for reporting him. unforunately if he doesn't get out it has to be up to her to take the kids & leave him

DS1119

81 wrote:

hopefully, everyone involved will act like adults and move on with their lives so that all involved can be solid, happy members of society and the parents can provide a childhood filled with positive joyfull memories for the children caught in the middle.

Where's 81 and what have you done with him?

davidtrios

DS1119 wrote:

81 wrote:

hopefully, everyone involved will act like adults and move on with their lives so that all involved can be solid, happy members of society and the parents can provide a childhood filled with positive joyfull memories for the children caught in the middle.

Where's 81 and what have you done with him?

ya, seriously 81, what the fuck was that? did u even come up with that on your own?

BinauralJam

why cant 81 say something positive and heartfelt?

davidtrios

well, it just doesnt fit the mold of an 81 post. if you show me 1 or 2 examples of something heartfelt, then ill buy that

DS1119

BinauralJam wrote:

why cant 81 say something positive and heartfelt?

SPEEDY MCCREADY

81 wrote:

hopefully, everyone involved will act like adults and move on with their lives so that all involved can be solid, happy members of society and the parents can provide a childhood filled with positive joyfull memories for the children caught in the middle.

*SPEEDY falls off computer chair*

Where the fuck did that come from???

hehe

BinauralJam

DS1119 wrote:

BinauralJam wrote:

why cant 81 say something positive and heartfelt?

no seriously, i've been the biggest ass on here in the past, but every now and then everybody has something to say, i mean doesnt he know david in real life, wouldnt that make differance?

davidtrios

:?

DS1119

BinauralJam wrote:

DS1119 wrote:

BinauralJam wrote:

why cant 81 say something positive and heartfelt?

no seriously, i've been the biggest ass on here in the past, but every now and then everybody has something to say, i mean doesnt he know david in real life, wouldnt that make differance?

He may know him but I don't think that makes a difference. Might make it worse.

BinauralJam

ah, i had a different impression, either way, accept the positive! it was a nice thought.

mfc2006

youngster wrote:

I can't argue with you at all. Good for you for standing up for your family.

my thoughts exactly. i would have done the same thing.

know1

I don't understand why people marry other people who are so unfit for marriage...or any relationship for that matter.

I hope it all works out for the best.

SPEEDY MCCREADY

davidtrios wrote:

My lucky sister ended up marrying an undiagnosed bi-polar/manic depressive who won't seek help. He's also a cocaine abuser that physically emotionally and verbally destorys her and her 3 daughters. I sometimes see bruises on their faces or hear them lashing out for no reason, but everything came to a boiling point last Sunday.

For the longest time (3+ years), he was enemployed. Stayed up all night working on his buddies' bikes, cars, etc- getting high on weed and coke. All the while collecting unemployment...until that ran out.

In the spring, she threatened to leave him if he didnt land a steady job....and he did. Now that he made a few bucks, he asked her permission to buy another motorcycle. She put her foot down and said no. Then, he snapped.

I don't know the details but I do know he ended up going to the hosp. to get stitches on his cracked skull.Out of craziness/anger/irresponsibile frustration, he slammed his stupid head on their kitchen glass table- in front of the 3 girls.

See, for the longest time while not working, he was supposed to work from home- buy beat up bikes, fix them and sell them for a profit. Since I haven't talked to the SOB in 3 years, I guess he wasn't really doing that. He was just collecting them, maybe occasionally selling them for weed and or coke.

Anyway, the night he went off on himself, Julia was so scared for her and the kids, she spent the night in my house. She asured me that he was moving out by last Friday, but he never did. I guess they talked things out.

So, if my sister doesn't love them enough to keep her children safe in their own home, I did something about it. This has been pattern of horrible behavior by him for years and I filed a report this morning. He's not a good provider, he's not a good husband, he's a horrible father...and he's crazy. My sis is obviously not protecting her girls. so i will.
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So when DCFS takes your sisters children, and throws them in a foster home, and your sister is screaming bloody murder, wishing YOU had maybe minded your own business, or maybe tried another solution before getting DCFS invloved, be sure to give us an update. When your nieces refer to you years from now as "Uncle David, the uncle we havent talked to in 20 years because he had DCFS tear apart our family".......When your brother in law comes home in the next few days, and wants to rip your head off....

Please be sure to give us updates....

Im not saying what you did was right or wrong...
Im just saying I might have gone about this in a different way....

Because I think YOUR LIFE is about to get real ugly....
I may be wrong...