On "growing up"...

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  • ShimmyMommy
    ShimmyMommy Posts: 7,505
    blackredyellow wrote:
    People who seem to think all married people or people with kids are miserable or only did it because they "are supposed to", are as ignorant and annoying as people questioning why others don't have kids or aren't married.

    I'm 37, married with two little kids, and I am 100 times happier than before my wife and kids. If you are single and/or kidless and happy, then more power to you.

    Do what ever makes you happy, and don't waste your time judging other people or worrying what they think about you or your choices.

    +1
    Lots of love, light and hugs to you all!
  • iamica
    iamica Chicago Posts: 2,628
    I didn't mean to infer that all people who have kids are miserable or anything, I know quite a few who are happy with their decision, and that's great. I just wish that more people would understand that having kids isn't right for everyone. Live and let live, that's my motto.
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  • tinkerbell
    tinkerbell New Zealand Posts: 2,161
    I too just turned 30. I am married with 2 kids but did everything out of order. I had my daughter when I was 23 (not planned) and son at 26. I always knew I wanted to have kids, and I truely believe in choice and support those out there for choosing not to have children. As for marriage - I was never going to get married, the thought of spending a fortune on one day just for a piece of paper was bizarre to me, all of this changed when I had my children, I felt so much more love for my partner and really wanted the world to know that this man was who I chose to spend the rest of my life with. This year on our 15th anniversary we quietly got married at the registry office with only my parents and brothers present. To us that was way more special than forking out a deposit on a house for a party.

    My brother got married last year and him and his wife are so sick of being asked when they are having children that they have started telling people that they can't - that soon shuts them up. For my step brother and his wife that was true, when people finally found out the truth they felt awful for hassling them.

    Good on you if you are happy with your lot - whatever that is!
    all you need is love, love is all you need

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