Problems explaing PJ to the girlfriend?

tmud91087

I took mine to both shows in Mass because, get this, no one else wanted to go because they said it was too much! What morons...Anyway the first show she said she liked and she was dancing but i felt she was a little intimidated in a way. Then Monday night we had much better seats and were sitting with a better crowd and now shes a fresh member of the Jamily!

PJLaur

5against1- wrote:

I was just wondering if anyone else experiences this. I often have trouble explaining to chicks I date the love I have for this band. They always look at me like wow thats nice, but don't seem to get it. My girlfriend now listens and smiles but then just tells me about how she likes incubus, nickelback or some other dumb shit. I know there is more to a relationship than just music but I often have to hold back on talking about them. I'm slowly playing different boots for her. She did wanna go to the D.C. show with me but I couldn't let my best friend who also loves the band down by giving her my extra ticket.

As a Hardcore PJ fan, I once struck up a conversation with a guy who told me his favorite band in the whole wide world was Dashboard Confessional. It really turned me off.

I like a guy that I can have an intelligent conversation with about music. It sounds kind of snobbish, but Come on now. Dashboard Confessional? Impress me here. There's a lot of bands out there that I respect and are legendary, but that band is NOT one of them. Ha.

RipitLikePujols

5against1- wrote:

She did wanna go to the D.C. show with me but I couldn't let my best friend who also loves the band down by giving her my extra ticket.

Seriously? Girlfriend=Pussy. Best friend needs to buy his own ticket. What

are you bitching about then? You're complaining that she doesn't understand,

and then you don't take her???

C'mon man, you're better than that!!!

Surf Rider

If I was single the first thing I would ask a girl would be:

Do you like Bon Jovi?
Do you like Nickleback?
Do you like Green Day?
Do you like Kid Rock?
Do you like Puffy Daddy Diddy P Flash Master (or whatever his name is this week)?
Do you like Keane West?
Do you like Lil Wayne?
Do you like Daughtry?
Do you like Good Charlotte?
Do you like either Simpson sister?
Do you like Good Charlotte?
Do you like My Chemical Romance?
Do you like Paris Hilton?
Do you like Lifehouse?
Do you like Creed?
Do you like Good Charlotte?
Do you like The Pussycat Dolls?
Do you like Usher?
Do you like Snoop Doggy Dog?
Do you like Justin Timberlake?



If she answered yes to any of these, I would round house kick her and leave.

PearlJen401

JaneNY wrote:

Welcome to the world of having people around you that don't get Pearl Jam. The best you can do is have a kid, bring them to shows, and hopefully they will like them. It worked for me!

Seriously, I NEVER meet PJ fans. I have been obsessed with them since '92 and lived in 4 different states. I met a few casual fans years ago but now, people either don't know the band (which i don't get) or people who are just not interested. I should have joined this board a long time ago to meet you wonderful fans. Luckily my husband loves the band, although he isn't obsessed like me. And my kids, i think get my obsession.

Sorry for getting off the original topic.

Lukin66

5against1- wrote:

I was just wondering if anyone else experiences this. I often have trouble explaining to chicks I date the love I have for this band. They always look at me like wow thats nice, but don't seem to get it.

haha, I am the girlfriend....

itsevobaby

PittGrrl04 wrote:

OK, as a girlfriend of a fanatical fan who is NOW a pretty fanatical fan herself, here's what worked on me:

1) Make her a CD of all the slow, "sit-down", "sing-along" songs. You know, Betterman, Long Road, the last track of every album, Black, Small Town, etc. You can include B-sides and other rarities, but nothing too crazy. No Satan's Bed or anything like that.

2) Once she begins to like this CD and asks for more, give her some shows that are heavy on the songs from section 1, so that she can begin to appreciate the band live, but on the girly songs she likes. Like Benaroya Hall. Plus, it will start to expose her to the other faster songs that you love.

3) After passing these two steps, she is ready to go to ONE show. But only one during the next tour. You should preferably go to a show that is close to where you live, and you should have great 10c tickets. Oh, and at this show, try to keep your poster obsession to a minimum... its annoying to get to the show super early and stand in line for a poster when you are just a casual fan at this point.

4) By now, she should be on her way to being hooked, so start her listening to more shows with rarer songs and "songs boys like to go crazy over"... Leash, DTE, etc.

5) The next tour will come, and she will be BEGGING to go to as many shows as possible.

This is literally what my boyfriend did with me starting in 2003, and on this last tour we took a week's vacation and went to 6 shows (DC through Mansfield II). So for me, it was a 5 year process, but it was worth it. I love Pearl Jam, and I love him!

the man's smooth :cool:

Brain Of E

I find it's best not to force it on to them. I know that it would be great if she liked them as much as you, but sometimes it just doesn't happen instantly. I bet you don't like "Sex in the City" just because she does, but maybe one day she's watching it and you sit next to her and start watching it, you may not be a huge fan the first time you watch it but maybe you find one thing funny about it. So you find one thing thats good about it on your own, with out it being forced on you and before you know it you're watching Sex in the City even when she's not there. The same could happen with her and PJ, there may be one song she likes, and on her own she starts looking for more PJ. And if she never likes PJ, then I hope thats not all your relationship is based on, otherwise dump her.

j3trowkill

5against1- wrote:

My girlfriend now listens and smiles but then just tells me about how she likes incubus, nickelback or some other dumb shit. t.

She respects your love for the boys, I guess you should respect her taste as well...or else you're not getting any tonight lol! or date some guy who loves PJ. hahaha!

Surf Rider

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ryan198

PittGrrl04 wrote:

OK, as a girlfriend of a fanatical fan who is NOW a pretty fanatical fan herself, here's what worked on me:

1) Make her a CD of all the slow, "sit-down", "sing-along" songs. You know, Betterman, Long Road, the last track of every album, Black, Small Town, etc. You can include B-sides and other rarities, but nothing too crazy. No Satan's Bed or anything like that.

2) Once she begins to like this CD and asks for more, give her some shows that are heavy on the songs from section 1, so that she can begin to appreciate the band live, but on the girly songs she likes. Like Benaroya Hall. Plus, it will start to expose her to the other faster songs that you love.

3) After passing these two steps, she is ready to go to ONE show. But only one during the next tour. You should preferably go to a show that is close to where you live, and you should have great 10c tickets. Oh, and at this show, try to keep your poster obsession to a minimum... its annoying to get to the show super early and stand in line for a poster when you are just a casual fan at this point.

4) By now, she should be on her way to being hooked, so start her listening to more shows with rarer songs and "songs boys like to go crazy over"... Leash, DTE, etc.

5) The next tour will come, and she will be BEGGING to go to as many shows as possible.

This is literally what my boyfriend did with me starting in 2003, and on this last tour we took a week's vacation and went to 6 shows (DC through Mansfield II). So for me, it was a 5 year process, but it was worth it. I love Pearl Jam, and I love him!

Sounds like my wife...I took her to D.C. and Boston 2 this year. She's been two 4 of the 19 shows I've been to since '03, and after the last one this time around she seemed more excited to see EV-solo than I was. Yes I want to, but need to save up some loot before I can commit, but she was all about it so it looks like I'm in baby! The big thing is that you can't force someone to like your music, you can only play it for yourself and hope.

SENROCK

DriftingByTheStorm wrote:

I mean, that singer guy is no Kid Rock.

camaros

rollingstone423 wrote:

incubus sucks and so does nickelback- you need to find a new girlfriend

sad but true... metallica sucks too

NothinGBetteRPJMaN

I dont understand people saying get a new gf?

its not like she said she hates them and the OP can no longer listen to them.....you people are very strange

bruce

Chicks that I meet think I'm really fucking wierd cause i have photoshoped pictures of my and Eddie Vedder hanging out and stuff... what i've learned is to hide the obsesion until they get to know you... and keep your myspace away if you have it loaded with PJ stuff like me.

ALSO,

Ledbetterman10 wrote:

I love Incubus' first two albums but can pretty much leave the rest....though there are some good songs here and there.

I agree, I love incubus... but their setlists are always the same.. how fuckign boring guys... switch it up!

SENROCK

bruce wrote:

Chicks that I meet think I'm really fucking wierd cause i have photoshoped pictures of my and Eddie Vedder hanging out and stuff... what i've learned is to hide the obsesion until they get to know you... and keep your myspace away if you have it loaded with PJ stuff like me.

ALSO,



I agree, I love incubus... but their setlists are always the same.. how fuckign boring guys... switch it up!

dude. that IS weird for you to have pics of you and Ed! :eek:
jk If theres any guy that can get away with being in another guys wallet, its Ed. Chicks need to recognize.

bruce

SENROCK! wrote:

dude. that IS weird for you to have pics of you and Ed! :eek:
jk If theres any guy that can get away with being in another guys wallet, its Ed. Chicks need to recognize.

Thanks you senrock. I do thank you for your 31 thousand posts of wisdom. When I retire, it will be my goal to catch up with your number of posts.

mfc22

girlfriend: i am tired of hearing pj all the time

me: i am tired of hearing you all the time

bruce

mfc22 wrote:

girlfriend: i am tired of hearing pj all the time

me: i am tired of hearing you all the time

LOL... and she didn't break up with you? gotta introduce me to her sister!

mfc22

her sister is hottt....