i think i fell in love with my girlfriends friend....

Hugh Freaking Dillon

why are you people jumping down the OP's throat about his passion? priorities are priorities for a relationship, who the hell are you people to judge?

thing is, OP, is that one person is right. if you thinking about "testing the waters" to see if this girl is interested, and just going back to the current girlfriend if football girl doesn't bite, it's not really that fair to current girl.

it's kind of like emotional cheating. I guess it all depends how old you are, as I did this exact same thing in my teens. I had a girlfriend for 6 months. I went to my buddy's cottage, met this girl and cheated on my g/f with her. Got back to the city and dumped my g/f for new girl. New girl, I found out later, had a boyfriend. I ended up with nobody.

However, 8 years later, new girl and that guy (the singer of my band!) broke up, a year after that new girl and I started dating, and now we're married with two kids. And ocassionally we actually hang out with cheated-on girl and her husband, who she started dating a week after I dumped her!

So go for it if you're willing to wait a decade for football girl.

Cradles Broken Glass

I think you should break up with your girlfriend regardless. If you guys are not friends, then your relationship has no chance. My husband and I are best friends and that is what makes our relationship so great. If you like her friend, feel free to pursue her after you have ended things with your girlfriend. However, the thing with her friend is not a sure thing, but if y'all do have stuff in common, it may work out. Although, contrary to popular belief by some, being single for a while never killed anyone. You owe it to yourself and your girlfriend to end your relationship.

Thoughts_Arrive

Do as Charlie Sheen does and have both, call them your angels.

81

still waiting on the links.....

pandora

dCowboyPJ wrote:

i'm a huge football fan. i live and die for the dallas cowboys. my whole life is structured around football. this has always caused problems in my reltionships with women because they feel like they are always second (which they are ).

everyone always told me that i would never be able to find a girl who likes sports as much as me. i gave up on that awhile ago..until a week ago.

the girlfriend and i went to one of her friends birthday dinner. i've been told about this girl a little bit before. i briefly met her a couple times. but i was too wasted to remember. i really didn't want to go that night because my girlfriends friends are a little lame. the guys in the group are a little to fruity for my taste. so there isn't much to talk about. but she said "oh don't worry, the birthday girl loves sports. you will like talking to her".

oh did i.

i'll tell you that i can be an asshole towards alot of people and talking about sports. i can't stand people who claim they like football, hockey, baseball, basketball... any sport really, and then you get into a convo with them and they have no idea at all about that sport. you can usually tell within the first couple mins if they know what they are talking about. after that i don't want to talk to you about sports because you will probably say some ignorant comment about my team and i can only hold my tounge for so long.

i figured this would be the case with this girl.

not at all.

my mind was blown.

i sat across from her that night and we talked for a long time. i felt like i was on a first date with this girl. our eyes locked and we were having these crazy sports discussions. all of this going on with my girlfriend beside me. i could tell that my girlfriend was feeling a little jealous that i was having this crazy connection with this girl. she even made a comment afterwards that she has been avoiding us to me like that because she knew i would like this girl to much.

i've been wanting to message this girl on facebook so bad. i know its not a good idea. i'm not one to cheat or do anything behind anyones back. but its so weird this feeling that i've had for the past week.

the girlfriend and her aren't great friends. in fact they didn't talk for years and only started talking again recently because of common friends. i don't even know if this could be pulled off if i wanted to talk to her. i would feel pretty stupid if i fucked things up with the girlfriend and things went no where with the sports girl.

i feel like i'm living in a seinfeld episode.

should this be something i should even be considering?

bad idea or what? :?

Throughout your whole life people will enter and you will connect.
Often of the opposite sex when you are already spoken for.
A lot of 'what ifs' happen in a lifetime.

If you really love your current girlfriend, feel there is a future together,
then chalk it up to an enjoyable random meeting with the sports fan you were attracted to momentarily.

If you and your girlfriend have no future, you are quite sure she is not the one,
let her go she deserves this and pursue your new found friend.

Only your heart knows if it is an opportunity that should go un-missed
or if it was a just a 'what if' situation.

Know your heart, follow it and tread lightly on others.

81

good news is, if she wants a jan or feb wedding, you won't have to worry about the playoffs interferring with it.

Flagg

wpg pearl wrote:

was your girlfriends friends name TONY ROMO ? lol
most cowboys fans are so deep in the closet they can find christmas presents
sorry all love PEARL JAM HATE THE COWBOYS and or anything to do with them

Whatever. I guess that explains Stone wearing his Cowboys hat all through the early 90s. there are several pics with him and that blue star on his hat. God love him!

g under p

Paul David wrote:

why are you people jumping down the OP's throat about his passion? priorities are priorities for a relationship, who the hell are you people to judge?

thing is, OP, is that one person is right. if you thinking about "testing the waters" to see if this girl is interested, and just going back to the current girlfriend if football girl doesn't bite, it's not really that fair to current girl.

it's kind of like emotional cheating. I guess it all depends how old you are, as I did this exact same thing in my teens. I had a girlfriend for 6 months. I went to my buddy's cottage, met this girl and cheated on my g/f with her. Got back to the city and dumped my g/f for new girl. New girl, I found out later, had a boyfriend. I ended up with nobody.

However, 8 years later, new girl and that guy (the singer of my band!) broke up, a year after that new girl and I started dating, and now we're married with two kids. And ocassionally we actually hang out with cheated-on girl and her husband, who she started dating a week after I dumped her!

So go for it if you're willing to wait a decade for football girl.

PD....*Nice story tell it to Reader's Digest*.....Dave Mustaine

Peace

g under p

dCowboyPJ wrote:

i'm a huge football fan. i live and die for the dallas cowboys. my whole life is structured around football. this has always caused problems in my reltionships with women because they feel like they are always second (which they are ).

everyone always told me that i would never be able to find a girl who likes sports as much as me. i gave up on that awhile ago..until a week ago.

the girlfriend and i went to one of her friends birthday dinner. i've been told about this girl a little bit before. i briefly met her a couple times. but i was too wasted to remember. i really didn't want to go that night because my girlfriends friends are a little lame. the guys in the group are a little to fruity for my taste. so there isn't much to talk about. but she said "oh don't worry, the birthday girl loves sports. you will like talking to her".

oh did i.

i'll tell you that i can be an asshole towards alot of people and talking about sports. i can't stand people who claim they like football, hockey, baseball, basketball... any sport really, and then you get into a convo with them and they have no idea at all about that sport. you can usually tell within the first couple mins if they know what they are talking about. after that i don't want to talk to you about sports because you will probably say some ignorant comment about my team and i can only hold my tounge for so long.

i figured this would be the case with this girl.

not at all.

my mind was blown.

i sat across from her that night and we talked for a long time. i felt like i was on a first date with this girl. our eyes locked and we were having these crazy sports discussions. all of this going on with my girlfriend beside me. i could tell that my girlfriend was feeling a little jealous that i was having this crazy connection with this girl. she even made a comment afterwards that she has been avoiding us to me like that because she knew i would like this girl to much.

i've been wanting to message this girl on facebook so bad. i know its not a good idea. i'm not one to cheat or do anything behind anyones back. but its so weird this feeling that i've had for the past week.

the girlfriend and her aren't great friends. in fact they didn't talk for years and only started talking again recently because of common friends. i don't even know if this could be pulled off if i wanted to talk to her. i would feel pretty stupid if i fucked things up with the girlfriend and things went no where with the sports girl.

i feel like i'm living in a seinfeld episode.

should this be something i should even be considering?

bad idea or what? :?

Forget ALL the other stuff..sports etc what you NEED to do is give her the test, THE DOOR TEST give it a look.

I did this exact test with my fiance on our first date years ago. I insisted on my client's old Buick which had one of those locks that you could pull up. My door was locked, I escorted her to the car opened the door, she got in I closed the door and BEFORE I could get to the back window to look in she had already opened my door enthusiastically I KNEW then she was the one. Give it a shot, she doesn't open that door....dump her.

Peace

JonnyPistachio

g under p wrote:

dCowboyPJ wrote:

i'm a huge football fan. i live and die for the dallas cowboys. my whole life is structured around football. this has always caused problems in my reltionships with women because they feel like they are always second (which they are ).

everyone always told me that i would never be able to find a girl who likes sports as much as me. i gave up on that awhile ago..until a week ago.

the girlfriend and i went to one of her friends birthday dinner. i've been told about this girl a little bit before. i briefly met her a couple times. but i was too wasted to remember. i really didn't want to go that night because my girlfriends friends are a little lame. the guys in the group are a little to fruity for my taste. so there isn't much to talk about. but she said "oh don't worry, the birthday girl loves sports. you will like talking to her".

oh did i.

i'll tell you that i can be an asshole towards alot of people and talking about sports. i can't stand people who claim they like football, hockey, baseball, basketball... any sport really, and then you get into a convo with them and they have no idea at all about that sport. you can usually tell within the first couple mins if they know what they are talking about. after that i don't want to talk to you about sports because you will probably say some ignorant comment about my team and i can only hold my tounge for so long.

i figured this would be the case with this girl.

not at all.

my mind was blown.

i sat across from her that night and we talked for a long time. i felt like i was on a first date with this girl. our eyes locked and we were having these crazy sports discussions. all of this going on with my girlfriend beside me. i could tell that my girlfriend was feeling a little jealous that i was having this crazy connection with this girl. she even made a comment afterwards that she has been avoiding us to me like that because she knew i would like this girl to much.

i've been wanting to message this girl on facebook so bad. i know its not a good idea. i'm not one to cheat or do anything behind anyones back. but its so weird this feeling that i've had for the past week.

the girlfriend and her aren't great friends. in fact they didn't talk for years and only started talking again recently because of common friends. i don't even know if this could be pulled off if i wanted to talk to her. i would feel pretty stupid if i fucked things up with the girlfriend and things went no where with the sports girl.

i feel like i'm living in a seinfeld episode.

should this be something i should even be considering?

bad idea or what? :?

Forget ALL the other stuff..sports etc what you NEED to do is give her the test, THE DOOR TEST give it a look.

I did this exact test with my fiance on our first date years ago. I insisted on my client's old Buick which had one of those locks that you could pull up. My door was locked, I escorted her to the car opened the door, she got in I closed the door and BEFORE I could get to the back window to look in she had already opened my door enthusiastically I KNEW then she was the one. Give it a shot, she doesn't open that door....dump her.

Peace

haha, Awesome G.. I have done that too!

g under p

JonnyPistachio wrote:

g under p wrote:

dCowboyPJ wrote:

i'm a huge football fan. i live and die for the dallas cowboys. my whole life is structured around football. this has always caused problems in my reltionships with women because they feel like they are always second (which they are ).

everyone always told me that i would never be able to find a girl who likes sports as much as me. i gave up on that awhile ago..until a week ago.

the girlfriend and i went to one of her friends birthday dinner. i've been told about this girl a little bit before. i briefly met her a couple times. but i was too wasted to remember. i really didn't want to go that night because my girlfriends friends are a little lame. the guys in the group are a little to fruity for my taste. so there isn't much to talk about. but she said "oh don't worry, the birthday girl loves sports. you will like talking to her".

oh did i.

i'll tell you that i can be an asshole towards alot of people and talking about sports. i can't stand people who claim they like football, hockey, baseball, basketball... any sport really, and then you get into a convo with them and they have no idea at all about that sport. you can usually tell within the first couple mins if they know what they are talking about. after that i don't want to talk to you about sports because you will probably say some ignorant comment about my team and i can only hold my tounge for so long.

i figured this would be the case with this girl.

not at all.

my mind was blown.

i sat across from her that night and we talked for a long time. i felt like i was on a first date with this girl. our eyes locked and we were having these crazy sports discussions. all of this going on with my girlfriend beside me. i could tell that my girlfriend was feeling a little jealous that i was having this crazy connection with this girl. she even made a comment afterwards that she has been avoiding us to me like that because she knew i would like this girl to much.

i've been wanting to message this girl on facebook so bad. i know its not a good idea. i'm not one to cheat or do anything behind anyones back. but its so weird this feeling that i've had for the past week.

the girlfriend and her aren't great friends. in fact they didn't talk for years and only started talking again recently because of common friends. i don't even know if this could be pulled off if i wanted to talk to her. i would feel pretty stupid if i fucked things up with the girlfriend and things went no where with the sports girl.

i feel like i'm living in a seinfeld episode.

should this be something i should even be considering?

bad idea or what? :?

Forget ALL the other stuff..sports etc what you NEED to do is give her the test, THE DOOR TEST give it a look.

I did this exact test with my fiance on our first date years ago. I insisted on my client's old Buick which had one of those locks that you could pull up. My door was locked, I escorted her to the car opened the door, she got in I closed the door and BEFORE I could get to the back window to look in she had already opened my door enthusiastically I KNEW then she was the one. Give it a shot, she doesn't open that door....dump her.

Peace

haha, Awesome G.. I have done that too!

J....You should have seen my face I must have jumped 3 feet with excitement. I took her to the Kravis Center in Palm Beach to see Julio Iglesias the day before Valentine's Day 4 rows back isle seats man. We had the best time.

Peace

dr0ptheleash

As a few others have said, sports passion aside, don't lead your current girlfriend on if you have no intention of really loving/being in love with her. If you're just keeping her next to you because she's nice to have at the current moment, it's not fair to her. Truthfully, from solely reading your post, it doesn't seem like you're very into her at this point in your life.

As for the facebook thing, this is NEVER a good way to go about pursuing someone. (Plus, your g/f will have written evidence of your sneaky unfaithfulness from her -not your- friend).

You're young. Do what you want, do what makes you happy. Take chances. Love the things you are passionate about. But try not to hurt others in the process.

maynardsux

And on next week's episode of "The Bachelor".....

JonnyPistachio

g under p wrote:

J....You should have seen my face I must have jumped 3 feet with excitement. I took her to the Kravis Center in Palm Beach to see Julio Iglesias the day before Valentine's Day 4 rows back isle seats man. We had the best time.

Peace

Awesome!

And I have to agree with everyone else in here, you've obviously been with your current g/f for awhile, and if you're not in love with her, you better start thinking about whether or not that is healthy. Its not fair to her.

Also, what Pandora says makes sense, you will have many temptations in life. There are amazing people all over the world. Just make sure your bond with the one you are with is most important. But you seem young.. have some fun man.

Hugh Freaking Dillon

g under p wrote:

Paul David wrote:

why are you people jumping down the OP's throat about his passion? priorities are priorities for a relationship, who the hell are you people to judge?

thing is, OP, is that one person is right. if you thinking about "testing the waters" to see if this girl is interested, and just going back to the current girlfriend if football girl doesn't bite, it's not really that fair to current girl.

it's kind of like emotional cheating. I guess it all depends how old you are, as I did this exact same thing in my teens. I had a girlfriend for 6 months. I went to my buddy's cottage, met this girl and cheated on my g/f with her. Got back to the city and dumped my g/f for new girl. New girl, I found out later, had a boyfriend. I ended up with nobody.

However, 8 years later, new girl and that guy (the singer of my band!) broke up, a year after that new girl and I started dating, and now we're married with two kids. And ocassionally we actually hang out with cheated-on girl and her husband, who she started dating a week after I dumped her!

So go for it if you're willing to wait a decade for football girl.

PD....*Nice story tell it to Reader's Digest*.....Dave Mustaine

Peace

:?

Gary Carter

go with the sports girl

UpSideDown

Just posting here to say:

81

UpSideDown wrote:

Just posting here to say:

but don't worry about the rest of the cowpokes since they couldn't stop a fiat with a train

g under p

Paul David wrote:

g under p wrote:

Paul David wrote:

why are you people jumping down the OP's throat about his passion? priorities are priorities for a relationship, who the hell are you people to judge?

thing is, OP, is that one person is right. if you thinking about "testing the waters" to see if this girl is interested, and just going back to the current girlfriend if football girl doesn't bite, it's not really that fair to current girl.

it's kind of like emotional cheating. I guess it all depends how old you are, as I did this exact same thing in my teens. I had a girlfriend for 6 months. I went to my buddy's cottage, met this girl and cheated on my g/f with her. Got back to the city and dumped my g/f for new girl. New girl, I found out later, had a boyfriend. I ended up with nobody.

However, 8 years later, new girl and that guy (the singer of my band!) broke up, a year after that new girl and I started dating, and now we're married with two kids. And ocassionally we actually hang out with cheated-on girl and her husband, who she started dating a week after I dumped her!

So go for it if you're willing to wait a decade for football girl.

PD....*Nice story tell it to Reader's Digest*.....Dave Mustaine

Peace

:?

Hey PD I'm not saying that in anyway negative...it's really meant to be a joke and if not taken that way please forgive me I apologise. In fact I loved your story it's quite amusing.

Peace

joely_91

Watch the movie high fidelity how long does the cycle go on????