The wedding thread

Heineken Helen

redrock wrote:

Heineken Helen wrote:

redrock wrote:

Just focus on the shoes! Once you have the perfect shoes, everything falls into place. .

Perfect shoes perfect shoes perfect shoes... okies, I'm in the zone now

There you go! I would have made such a good wedding planner! Missed my vocation!

It's not too late... you can start with mine off ya go!

jethrojam420

Heineken Helen wrote:

JonnyPistachio wrote:

Heineken Helen wrote:

I just got engaged and i'm 36 yrs old (never been married), But...
Although we are in the very early stages of planning the wedding, I think i'm having the same troubles as you because I dont need 'things'. I could care less about gifts. However, I am paying for the wedding myself, and i'm just hoping some guests give cash/checks so i can repay some of the wedding costs. Not sure what do do either about a registry. I've been thinking of doing a very small registry so that people would be more inclined to give cash.. Is that rude?

I don't know... I've done plenty of research and it seems some people even consider a list rude so we're probably not gonna please everyone anyway! I'm just glad people are turning up to be honest... it feels rude and presumptious to even think about gifts. But yeh, when I moved over here in the first place, I realised that I don't like 'stuff'... it just weighs ya down :oops:

Joe, the bottom drawer website does stuff like that where people pick gifts and all and then at the end you can decide to just get it all in cash... but it costs like £85 or something. Trailfinders have a wedding gift thing.. that might be a good idea

society is past the idea of lists being rude. any kind of list indeed. the reason for the list is to give your guest a choice without ruining the surprise. it also, well theoretically anyways, eliminates the possibility of getting four microwaves and 6 blenders....

Heineken Helen

Heineken Helen wrote:

Of COURSE there's stuff we haven't done... there's fucking LOADS of stuff we haven't done and it's less than three months now! I'd be happy if we had all the legal/religious stuff sorted since that's the main thing... but we DON'T. I still have to ask the local priest here for our letters of freedom and I'm procrastinating cos I've never met him and never been to mass here and now I'm just gonna pop up from nowhere and ask him for a really really big favour. I decided to go to mass on Saturday and show my face first but then I chickened out at the last mo :oops: imagined walking into the church and everyone turning and staring trying to figure out who I am and stuff so I had an attack of agorophobia and stayed at home and got drunk instead.

We've yet to actually BOOK photographer, cars, florist... have no idea who's making the cake and I really really really really really need some fucking SHOES!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Never mind who's doing my make up and where we're actually staying the days surrounding the wedding... oh we could do with booking our ferry any day now too. Speaking of suits... yep, they're not done either!

So we've got an appointment with the priest tomorrow night to get our letters . Still have the appointment with the photographer so can't book til we've met him. We've booked our car . I'll call into the florist when I'm over in a couple of weeks and talk them into cutting their prices dramatically. My sister's making the cake now... for definite . Still don't have my shoes :oops: but I now know who's doing my make up and we can practice plenty. Still haven't booked our accommodation or ferry though but we're gonna leave that til closer the time. Suits still not done :roll:

Getting there!!!!!!!!! :oops:

Claireack

Sounds like you're doing really well!!

Heineken Helen

Claireack wrote:

Sounds like you're doing really well!!

Yeh, I'll be happy when I've got the legal/religious stuff sorted cos that's all we NEED really (and the shoes ). I could do without all the other stuff... it's other people insisting they're important!

Heineken Helen

Heineken Helen wrote:

So we've got an appointment with the priest tomorrow night to get our letters . Still have the appointment with the photographer so can't book til we've met him. We've booked our car . I'll call into the florist when I'm over in a couple of weeks and talk them into cutting their prices dramatically. My sister's making the cake now... for definite . Still don't have my shoes :oops: but I now know who's doing my make up and we can practice plenty. Still haven't booked our accommodation or ferry though but we're gonna leave that til closer the time. Suits still not done :roll:

Getting there!!!!!!!!! :oops:

MET the priest... and another one bites the dust

Getting even MORE there!

It was pretty nerve wracking but he was really really nice so that made it a bit easier.

Heineken Helen

Hmmm :oops: emailed the florist we were going for to see if we could get an appointment for when we're over... turns out she's fully booked and wished me the best of luck :shock: so now we're back to square 1 with flowers :shock: and it's my least favourite of the stuff to organise cos I haven't got a bloody clue about them :?

Anyone ever been to a wedding without flowers? Guess it's an easy way to save a few hundred

Cree Nations

I separated from my partner 6 mths back, we were engaged had a house and every thing then it went to shit. Everytime I see or hear something about a wedding, it reminds me of her and I fall into a deep depression.......thanks HH....jk :ugeek:

Heineken Helen

We just had a bit of a flying visit and got LOADS sorted. Saw the photographer and he's now booked and agreed to even more than I was hoping for. We've had our tasting and decided on our menu . My Dad's giving us even more money than he agreed to. My niece, who's performing at the ceremony, came third in the county final of schools got talent and qualified for the provincial final... she was brilliant. The act who won are her friends and are also performing for us, not saying who or what they are though but they're bloody brilliant

We also met the priest and have given him all our paperwork and the oh's dad has agreed to do our order of service which we need to finalise.

Really coming along now :P still need shoes and suits and flowers though.

Lizard

When's the big day, HH?
sorry if you posted it already...

redrock

Heineken Helen wrote:

....and I really really really really really need some fucking SHOES!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Heineken Helen wrote:

....d cos that's all we NEED really (and the shoes ).

The shoes, Helen, the shoes!!! What did I tell you??? My whole wedding planner skills going to pots here!

Heineken Helen

Lizard wrote:

When's the big day, HH?
sorry if you posted it already...

3rd April... so about 8 weeks left or something!

Red I know I know... I messed up ok? But I'm back on the wagon now and shoes are the only important thing

JOEJOEJOE

Heineken Helen wrote:

We just had a bit of a flying visit and got LOADS sorted. Saw the photographer and he's now booked and agreed to even more than I was hoping for. We've had our tasting and decided on our menu . My Dad's giving us even more money than he agreed to. My niece, who's performing at the ceremony, came third in the county final of schools got talent and qualified for the provincial final... she was brilliant. The act who won are her friends and are also performing for us, not saying who or what they are though but they're bloody brilliant

We also met the priest and have given him all our paperwork and the oh's dad has agreed to do our order of service which we need to finalise.

Really coming along now :P still need shoes and suits and flowers though.

Always nice to get a lot sorted in a short time! Good job!

The Juggler

so helen is the mexico trip your honeymoon? that is where we're going...on march 20th.

i think we have most of our stuff done. just waiting on the rsvp's to come back in. i gotta get fitted for the tux in the next couple weeks. wanna coordinate with the dj about the music.

the only issue we are having is who to walk the gifts up to the altar. catholic wedding but most of our friends and family don't seem to be catholic. then there is the issue of asking one of my cousins to do it (i'm not close to them much) and feeling like i am slighting the other cousins......eh, not a huge deal. just something i didn't anticipate.

good luck

redrock

The Juggler wrote:

the only issue we are having is who to walk the gifts up to the altar.

One of the little servers (or whatever they are called now)? Or would that ruffle the feathers of the very catholic wanting a member of the family to do it?

Helen - good to know you are back on track

The Juggler

redrock wrote:

The Juggler wrote:

the only issue we are having is who to walk the gifts up to the altar.

One of the little servers (or whatever they are called now)? Or would that ruffle the feathers of the very catholic wanting a member of the family to do it?

Helen - good to know you are back on track

altar boy?

maybe... :think:

redrock

The Juggler wrote:

redrock wrote:

One of the little servers (or whatever they are called now)? Or would that ruffle the feathers of the very catholic wanting a member of the family to do it?

Helen - good to know you are back on track

altar boy?

maybe... :think:

Yes - that's what I meant! I was being a bit more PC as they can be boys or girls, women or men!

Lizard

Heineken Helen wrote:

Lizard wrote:

When's the big day, HH?
sorry if you posted it already...

3rd April... so about 8 weeks left or something!

Red I know I know... I messed up ok? But I'm back on the wagon now and shoes are the only important thing

Oh wow--it IS Soon!!

and shoes should be easy to find!!!

Heineken Helen

JOEJOEJOE wrote:

Heineken Helen wrote:

We just had a bit of a flying visit and got LOADS sorted. Saw the photographer and he's now booked and agreed to even more than I was hoping for. We've had our tasting and decided on our menu . My Dad's giving us even more money than he agreed to. My niece, who's performing at the ceremony, came third in the county final of schools got talent and qualified for the provincial final... she was brilliant. The act who won are her friends and are also performing for us, not saying who or what they are though but they're bloody brilliant

We also met the priest and have given him all our paperwork and the oh's dad has agreed to do our order of service which we need to finalise.

Really coming along now :P still need shoes and suits and flowers though.

Always nice to get a lot sorted in a short time! Good job!

Thanks all I seem to be arranging everything in spurts... procrastinate, panic, get loads done, relax, procrastinate, panic, get.................. yeh yeh yeh, you get it

Heineken Helen

The Juggler wrote:

so helen is the mexico trip your honeymoon? that is where we're going...on march 20th.

i think we have most of our stuff done. just waiting on the rsvp's to come back in. i gotta get fitted for the tux in the next couple weeks. wanna coordinate with the dj about the music.

the only issue we are having is who to walk the gifts up to the altar. catholic wedding but most of our friends and family don't seem to be catholic. then there is the issue of asking one of my cousins to do it (i'm not close to them much) and feeling like i am slighting the other cousins......eh, not a huge deal. just something i didn't anticipate.

good luck

Yep, Playa Del Carmen in May SOOOOOOOOOOOOO can't wait!

Wow, you're getting really close then! I can't figure out if we need a dj or not :oops: . Our band have said they'll play as long as we want but that's potentially 5 hours... I don't know if anyone would WANT any band to play that long? It might be best they play 3 hours and leave us wanting more and then one of them could do dj for an hour and half or something?

There's a LOT I never anticipated about a wedding :oops: although we don't need gift bearers cos we're just going for the ceremony and not the mass too... but we need to sort out our readings and hymns and stuff. Gift bearers don't have to be catholic though, you could ask anyone to do it and just tell them what they have to do?