Couldn't read this thread and not post.
I went through a horrid and nasty break up 3 years ago, and had that same wretched empty feeling.
All I can say is you must be really hurting right now and the emptyness is part of it. I didn't think I would ever stop feeling that way, but time does heal...not completely but it does help.
You will get over this, the strength is within you and you may not know it yourself yet.
(((hugs)))
2009 - Manchester. 2010 - Dublin, Belfast, London, Berlin, Arras, Werchter. 2011 - PJ20 i & ii, Montreal, Toronto i & ii, Ottawa, Hamilton. 2012 - Manchester i & ii, Berlin i & ii, Stockholm. 2014 - Amsterdam i & ii, Trieste, Vienna, Berlin, Leeds, Milton Keynes. 2016 - Boston Fenway i & ii, 2018 - Amsterdam i & ii, Pinkpop, London i & ii, Padova, Krakow, Barcelona, Seattle i & ii.
Couldn't read this thread and not post.
I went through a horrid and nasty break up 3 years ago, and had that same wretched empty feeling.
All I can say is you must be really hurting right now and the emptyness is part of it. I didn't think I would ever stop feeling that way, but time does heal...not completely but it does help.
You will get over this, the strength is within you and you may not know it yourself yet.
(((hugs)))
thank you. i went through this in 2005 with the ex wife.. this is too soon to be going through it again.
Peace, Love.
"To question your government is not unpatriotic --
to not question your government is unpatriotic."
-- Sen. Chuck Hagel
I think it is important to remember that everything happens for a reason. Some that have been divorced or dated someone for a long time and since broke up, after a few years, you can look back and realize that things weren't really all too great. Unfortunately, it isnt a skill that we have during the rough relationship.
Take all the good things from the relationship; how you grew as a person, found more passion, became a better partner and lover, set more goals for your life... And leave all the bad shit at the door!
There is nothing better that you can do but to show her that you can be happy with your own life/dreams/goals and be content with who you are.
To quote a song: Only love can break your heart only love can mend it again
Buy really, the right person will come along, don't try to hard and just let it happen.
Or go out there and fight to win her back if she truly is the right girl for you!
Come on dude you have seen it in alot of movies, go get her back if she is right for you
That what you fear the most could meet you halfway
I think it is important to remember that everything happens for a reason. Some that have been divorced or dated someone for a long time and since broke up, after a few years, you can look back and realize that things weren't really all too great. Unfortunately, it isnt a skill that we have during the rough relationship.
Take all the good things from the relationship; how you grew as a person, found more passion, became a better partner and lover, set more goals for your life... And leave all the bad shit at the door!
There is nothing better that you can do but to show her that you can be happy with your own life/dreams/goals and be content with who you are.
Great points to remember. Every person you meet, everyone that you love, teaches you something. What you do with it is up to you (((more hugs)))
"What the CANUCK happened?!? - Esquimalt Barber Shop
I think it is important to remember that everything happens for a reason. Some that have been divorced or dated someone for a long time and since broke up, after a few years, you can look back and realize that things weren't really all too great. Unfortunately, it isnt a skill that we have during the rough relationship.
Take all the good things from the relationship; how you grew as a person, found more passion, became a better partner and lover, set more goals for your life... And leave all the bad shit at the door!
There is nothing better that you can do but to show her that you can be happy with your own life/dreams/goals and be content with who you are.
i must sent this Itinerary
"...Dimitri...He talks to me...'.."The Ghost of Greece..".
"..That's One Happy Fuckin Ghost.."
“..That came up on the Pillow Case...This is for the Greek, With Our Apologies.....”
She told me tonight that she is in love with another man, and left.
I still love her, and think what we have/had is worth fighting for. Worth trying to save.
She don't though. I have not let myself cry yet. Maybe I'm out of tears from crying all week because she told me she wanted out, to be alone. She said she didn't know what she was going to do until tonight when she got home.
I'm not even angry with her for falling in love with someone else. I can't explain that.
I guess I just look at it as it's not her fault, she can't help it that she fell in love with him.
I'm worried about her though, I truly feel like she is making a mistake. She works with him and I don't know much about him, and have only met him once.
Right now all I feel is worry for her. I just feel like she is going to get hurt. She has experienced so many bad things in her 26 years. Hell, In many ways, I guess I'm part of those bad things now.
I feel foolish for thinking at my age that I could keep someone that much younger than me forever.
I want her to be happy. She deserves to be happy. She saved my life four years ago, and for that I will always love her.
I'll cherish these past four years until I die.
I just feel numb. Hollow. I feel like the shell of a man that I was when she came into my life.
She told me tonight that she is in love with another man, and left.
I still love her, and think what we have/had is worth fighting for. Worth trying to save.
She don't though. I have not let myself cry yet. Maybe I'm out of tears from crying all week because she told me she wanted out, to be alone. She said she didn't know what she was going to do until tonight when she got home.
I'm not even angry with her for falling in love with someone else. I can't explain that.
I guess I just look at it as it's not her fault, she can't help it that she fell in love with him.
I'm worried about her though, I truly feel like she is making a mistake. She works with him and I don't know much about him, and have only met him once.
Right now all I feel is worry for her. I just feel like she is going to get hurt. She has experienced so many bad things in her 26 years. Hell, In many ways, I guess I'm part of those bad things now.
I feel foolish for thinking at my age that I could keep someone that much younger than me forever.
I want her to be happy. She deserves to be happy. She saved my life four years ago, and for that I will always love her.
I'll cherish these past four years until I die.
I just feel numb. Hollow. I feel like the shell of a man that I was when she came into my life.
God, I still love her so much.
She DEFINATELY ***Loves*** you...
what makes you say that ?
Peace, Love.
"To question your government is not unpatriotic --
to not question your government is unpatriotic."
-- Sen. Chuck Hagel
i would say the same wolf..the problem isnt that she love u or not ..is that she question it...
"...Dimitri...He talks to me...'.."The Ghost of Greece..".
"..That's One Happy Fuckin Ghost.."
“..That came up on the Pillow Case...This is for the Greek, With Our Apologies.....”
Do you ever think about what would happen if you did get her back? Would you be able to look past everything and start fresh from that day forward? If not, and things are brought up from the past, are you going to be able to not get hurt by those things and live in the present? What if it happened again? Would the trust ever be completely intact again?
Do you ever think about what would happen if you did get her back? Would you be able to look past everything and start fresh from that day forward? If not, and things are brought up from the past, are you going to be able to not get hurt by those things and live in the present? What if it happened again? Would the trust ever be completely intact again?
im sure wolf have all this in his mind..ofcource u are 100% right,,but u know,u and me Jen its more easy to think that,couse we are like the third eye in the story,this man here live all,from the first breath till his last thought..not easy...
"...Dimitri...He talks to me...'.."The Ghost of Greece..".
"..That's One Happy Fuckin Ghost.."
“..That came up on the Pillow Case...This is for the Greek, With Our Apologies.....”
Do you ever think about what would happen if you did get her back? Would you be able to look past everything and start fresh from that day forward? If not, and things are brought up from the past, are you going to be able to not get hurt by those things and live in the present? What if it happened again? Would the trust ever be completely intact again?
I believe I could yes. everyone makes mistakes, and I think love deserves a second chance.
it would be a second chance for both of us.
Peace, Love.
"To question your government is not unpatriotic --
to not question your government is unpatriotic."
-- Sen. Chuck Hagel
Most of us have been in this same situation, me and my ex many times. Always giving second or third chances, hoping that this time will be different. You cant live your life or be honest to yourself in that situation.
Do whatever you have to do. Just remember that you shouldnt have to convince someone to love you back...
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I went through a horrid and nasty break up 3 years ago, and had that same wretched empty feeling.
All I can say is you must be really hurting right now and the emptyness is part of it. I didn't think I would ever stop feeling that way, but time does heal...not completely but it does help.
You will get over this, the strength is within you and you may not know it yourself yet.
(((hugs)))
2012 - Manchester i & ii, Berlin i & ii, Stockholm. 2014 - Amsterdam i & ii, Trieste, Vienna, Berlin, Leeds, Milton Keynes.
2016 - Boston Fenway i & ii, 2018 - Amsterdam i & ii, Pinkpop, London i & ii, Padova, Krakow, Barcelona, Seattle i & ii.
i agree.
"To question your government is not unpatriotic --
to not question your government is unpatriotic."
-- Sen. Chuck Hagel
thank you. i went through this in 2005 with the ex wife.. this is too soon to be going through it again.
"To question your government is not unpatriotic --
to not question your government is unpatriotic."
-- Sen. Chuck Hagel
Take all the good things from the relationship; how you grew as a person, found more passion, became a better partner and lover, set more goals for your life... And leave all the bad shit at the door!
There is nothing better that you can do but to show her that you can be happy with your own life/dreams/goals and be content with who you are.
Buy really, the right person will come along, don't try to hard and just let it happen.
Or go out there and fight to win her back if she truly is the right girl for you!
Come on dude you have seen it in alot of movies, go get her back if she is right for you
Great points to remember. Every person you meet, everyone that you love, teaches you something. What you do with it is up to you
"..That's One Happy Fuckin Ghost.."
“..That came up on the Pillow Case...This is for the Greek, With Our Apologies.....”
-Greg Dulli
She DEFINATELY ***Loves*** you...
Man I want to so bad....
"To question your government is not unpatriotic --
to not question your government is unpatriotic."
-- Sen. Chuck Hagel
what makes you say that ?
"To question your government is not unpatriotic --
to not question your government is unpatriotic."
-- Sen. Chuck Hagel
"..That's One Happy Fuckin Ghost.."
“..That came up on the Pillow Case...This is for the Greek, With Our Apologies.....”
oh. nice.
"To question your government is not unpatriotic --
to not question your government is unpatriotic."
-- Sen. Chuck Hagel
"..That's One Happy Fuckin Ghost.."
“..That came up on the Pillow Case...This is for the Greek, With Our Apologies.....”
I believe I could yes. everyone makes mistakes, and I think love deserves a second chance.
it would be a second chance for both of us.
"To question your government is not unpatriotic --
to not question your government is unpatriotic."
-- Sen. Chuck Hagel
Most of us have been in this same situation, me and my ex many times. Always giving second or third chances, hoping that this time will be different. You cant live your life or be honest to yourself in that situation.
Do whatever you have to do. Just remember that you shouldnt have to convince someone to love you back...
Take care.
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10/10 - Brad in B'more