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yellowporch wrote:

as much as this all sucks to hear, thanks for the input everyone, really helps, and makes sense

Good luck to you! I know it sucks, but I promise it will get better. Undoubtedly; for sure.

haffajappa

While I can't relate to the first part of the post I can definitely relate to the part about waiting and holding out to call. It can be painful... but you can do it! If he has used up his chances with you, i knwo its hard but try and hold out and value yourself first. It sounds like he doesnt deserve you

soulsinging

Whizbang wrote:

soulsinging wrote:

Lauri wrote:

I don't think that deep down he's really trying to be an asshole. I think he just knows he needs to move on, but is too afraid to do so. He's afraid of losing what he's got- both the sex and the girlfriend. If his plan works out, he gets the sex back up in the short run, and the girlfriend back up in the long run. Plus you're still in touch throughout, so he still gets the sort friendship and the emotional support...but all the while, free to sleep with whomever else he wants. Yeah it's sort of an asshole move, but I'm sure it makes perfect sense to him. It even seems to make some sense to his girlfriend. But in the end, he wants to do this because he knows it's over between them, he's just taking a conservative approach to ending it.

i dont think any of that makes him less of an asshole. i say that as a guy that's done it.

nope....it doesn't. but women do this too. women tend to always have a life boat waiting for them when they finally end a relationship. Be it a guy they've taken interest in who's satisfying her emotional needs or has taken it to a physical level. "just in case, I'll keep him around because if this doesn't work out, I don't want to be alone."

oh no doubt. i've had it done to me as well but those girls are as much bitches as the guys doing it are assholes.