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How long do I wait to call?

milarsomilarso Posts: 1,280
edited November 2009 in All Encompassing Trip
I'm sure this has prolly been asked before, but I'm too lazy to search.
I met this amazing girl on Friday, and we really seemed to hit it off, and before I left, I asked her if she wanted to get together and if I could get her number. She seemed interested and gave it too me. I'm just wondering (more from the girls' perspective) how long should I wait to get a hold of her? I don't want to desperate or needy, but I've been thinking about her all day.
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  • dimitrispearljamdimitrispearljam Posts: 139,721
    the one who dare wins.....
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  • Sprunkn7Sprunkn7 Posts: 5,286
    Call today. If you called her yesterday you may have been out together already!
    Good luck!
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  • ClaireackClaireack Posts: 13,561
    If it was Friday, I would say today (Sunday here) would be fine. If I was the girl and you left it too long I would think you weren't that bothered. Do it in the eve and do the 'how's your weekend been' thing. It's worth a go.
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  • Mcam55Mcam55 Posts: 1,407
    "When is the next Olympics?"
  • agfyagfy Posts: 133
    what's the number i'll call for you :twisted: :twisted: :twisted: :twisted:
    " I'll ride the wave where it takes me"
  • pandorapandora Posts: 21,855
    call now never hold back
  • 8181 Needing a ride to Forest Hills and a ounce of weed. Please inquire within. Thanks. Or not. Posts: 58,276
    call now. if she doesn't answer, leave a stumbling bumbling message ending in oh shit

    then call back in 5 minutes. if she doesn't answer, leave anouther message apologoizing for your first message.

    then call back in 20 minutes, but don't leave a a message

    repeat half a dozen times

    call back and leave a message saying sorry for all the calls

    call back in 40 minutes

    repeat as needed


    ________


    it shows you really are interested
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  • oona leftoona left Posts: 1,677
    81 wrote:
    call now. if she doesn't answer, leave a stumbling bumbling message ending in oh shit

    then call back in 5 minutes. if she doesn't answer, leave anouther message apologoizing for your first message.

    then call back in 20 minutes, but don't leave a a message

    repeat half a dozen times

    call back and leave a message saying sorry for all the calls

    call back in 40 minutes

    repeat as needed


    ________


    it shows you really are interested


    This always works on me 8-)
  • SPEEDY MCCREADYSPEEDY MCCREADY Posts: 25,786
    milarso wrote:
    I'm sure this has prolly been asked before, but I'm too lazy to search.
    I met this amazing girl on Friday, and we really seemed to hit it off, and before I left, I asked her if she wanted to get together and if I could get her number. She seemed interested and gave it too me. I'm just wondering (more from the girls' perspective) how long should I wait to get a hold of her? I don't want to desperate or needy, but I've been thinking about her all day.
    Should have called her Saturday...

    Why wait???

    Why would you look desperate or needy??

    You liked her...You found her interesting, exciting, blah blah blah......right???

    So call her....
    Take me piece by piece.....
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  • normnorm Posts: 31,146
    when you do call, don't be this guy

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=u0PUrNwvvBk
  • Bathgate66Bathgate66 Posts: 15,813
    SPEEDY MCCREADY wrote:
    milarso wrote:
    I'm sure this has prolly been asked before, but I'm too lazy to search.
    I met this amazing girl on Friday, and we really seemed to hit it off, and before I left, I asked her if she wanted to get together and if I could get her number. She seemed interested and gave it too me. I'm just wondering (more from the girls' perspective) how long should I wait to get a hold of her? I don't want to desperate or needy, but I've been thinking about her all day.
    Should have called her Saturday...

    Why wait???

    Why would you look desperate or needy??

    You liked her...You found her interesting, exciting, blah blah blah......right???

    So call her....

    agree here.
    don't put it off .
    show her youre not a player
    and I'd also open up with the fact that youve been thinking about her alot lately or ever since she gave you the number.

    Good Luck !
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  • youngsteryoungster Boston Posts: 6,576
    General rule is 3 days for me. If it comes up why you didn't call sooner, just say you were swamped with work and you wanted to clear you're plate first.
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  • WhizbangWhizbang Posts: 1,314
    cropduster82 wrote:
    General rule is 3 days for me. If it comes up why you didn't call sooner, just say you were swamped with work and you wanted to clear you're plate first.

    Just me as a woman....3 days is a good general rule. If I'm interested and we exchanged numbers, I'd call after three days.

    'Bathgate66" wrote:
    agree here.
    don't put it off .
    show her youre not a player
    and I'd also open up with the fact that youve been thinking about her alot lately or ever since she gave you the number.[\quote]

    While I wouldn't be weirded out if a guy called me he next day but the "thinking about you a lot lately" after one night would put that at an 8 on the Weird-O-Meter for me.
    believe it or not, we don't "need" anything. that is only the spoiled brat in us trying to fill some temporary solution to an emptyness that does not exist.

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  • iamsam_pjiamsam_pj Posts: 300
    Whizbang wrote:

    While I wouldn't be weirded out if a guy called me he next day but the "thinking about you a lot lately" after one night would put that at an 8 on the Weird-O-Meter for me.
    i agree...that would definitely weird me out! just call her tonight and ask how the rest of her weekend went...maybe make plans to meet up some time this week or next weekend.
  • Heatherj43Heatherj43 Posts: 1,254
    You need to call now. She won't think you are desperate, she will think she is just that special. honest, I know that when I would meet a guy and I thought he thought I was special from the other girls he may had met that night, I expected a call the next day and if I didn't get one and he called later, I felt like maybe I could be a booty call.
    It doesn't have to be a call to go a out tonight, but perhaps plan a date or as I did with my bf I have now, when he called the next day I invited him to a kid's party I was going to that day at my ex-husband's. We been together 10 years.
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  • rriversrrivers Posts: 3,698
    Mcam55 wrote:
    "When is the next Olympics?"

    That made me laugh out loud.
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  • 8181 Needing a ride to Forest Hills and a ounce of weed. Please inquire within. Thanks. Or not. Posts: 58,276
    by chance was her number 313-915-3115
    81 is now off the air

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  • Gary CarterGary Carter Posts: 14,067
    you wait 2-4 days. anything more or less than that and she wont care for you and return your call.
    Ron: I just don't feel like going out tonight
    Sammi: Wanna just break up?

  • WhizbangWhizbang Posts: 1,314
    metsfan wrote:
    you wait 2-4 days. anything more or less than that and she wont care for you and return your call.

    See? I agree and disagree here. If a guy called me the next day, thanking me for a good night, I wouldn't think it weird/odd/desperate. Contrary to that, if he didn't call for 2-4 days or not at all, I wouldn't think he's an asshole, just not interested and move on with life. If I'm interested, I'm not likely to wait for him to call....but I'd probably adhere to the 2-4 day rule!
    believe it or not, we don't "need" anything. that is only the spoiled brat in us trying to fill some temporary solution to an emptyness that does not exist.

    I have eaten so much gold I crapped excellence - drtyfrnk29

    Life is either a daring adventure or nothing at all!
  • Gary CarterGary Carter Posts: 14,067
    Whizbang wrote:
    metsfan wrote:
    you wait 2-4 days. anything more or less than that and she wont care for you and return your call.

    See? I agree and disagree here. If a guy called me the next day, thanking me for a good night, I wouldn't think it weird/odd/desperate. Contrary to that, if he didn't call for 2-4 days or not at all, I wouldn't think he's an asshole, just not interested and move on with life. If I'm interested, I'm not likely to wait for him to call....but I'd probably adhere to the 2-4 day rule!

    i never call the next day and say i had a good night. sounds to weird/ "nice guy". the 2nd day after i would call and say "i had a good time and would like to see you again".

    the 2-4 day rule is a weird for both sex
    Ron: I just don't feel like going out tonight
    Sammi: Wanna just break up?

  • WhizbangWhizbang Posts: 1,314
    metsfan wrote:
    Whizbang wrote:
    metsfan wrote:
    you wait 2-4 days. anything more or less than that and she wont care for you and return your call.

    See? I agree and disagree here. If a guy called me the next day, thanking me for a good night, I wouldn't think it weird/odd/desperate. Contrary to that, if he didn't call for 2-4 days or not at all, I wouldn't think he's an asshole, just not interested and move on with life. If I'm interested, I'm not likely to wait for him to call....but I'd probably adhere to the 2-4 day rule!

    i never call the next day and say i had a good night. sounds to weird/ "nice guy". the 2nd day after i would call and say "i had a good time and would like to see you again".

    the 2-4 day rule is a weird for both sex

    Yes, it is a weird rule that we all seem to follow. Seriously though, if you called the next day, said you had a good time and would like to see me again, that would be cool. Someone mentioned earlier, call the next day and say you've been thinking about her a lot. That just screams that you've added her to your most recent "spank bank" to me and registers a full 8 on the Weird-O-Meter.
    believe it or not, we don't "need" anything. that is only the spoiled brat in us trying to fill some temporary solution to an emptyness that does not exist.

    I have eaten so much gold I crapped excellence - drtyfrnk29

    Life is either a daring adventure or nothing at all!
  • dimitrispearljamdimitrispearljam Posts: 139,721
    81 wrote:
    call now. if she doesn't answer, leave a stumbling bumbling message ending in oh shit

    then call back in 5 minutes. if she doesn't answer, leave anouther message apologoizing for your first message.

    then call back in 20 minutes, but don't leave a a message

    repeat half a dozen times

    call back and leave a message saying sorry for all the calls

    call back in 40 minutes

    repeat as needed


    ________


    it shows you really are interested
    :lol::lol::lol::lol::lol:
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    "..That's One Happy Fuckin Ghost.."
    “..That came up on the Pillow Case...This is for the Greek, With Our Apologies.....”
  • dimitrispearljamdimitrispearljam Posts: 139,721
    SO U CALL OR WHAT???
    "...Dimitri...He talks to me...'.."The Ghost of Greece..".
    "..That's One Happy Fuckin Ghost.."
    “..That came up on the Pillow Case...This is for the Greek, With Our Apologies.....”
  • PatrickBatemanPatrickBateman Posts: 2,243
    norm wrote:
    when you do call, don't be this guy

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=u0PUrNwvvBk
    first movie that came to mind :lol:
    If a man speaks in a forest and there is no woman around to hear him, is he still wrong?
  • decides2dreamdecides2dream Posts: 14,977
    SPEEDY MCCREADY wrote:
    milarso wrote:
    I'm sure this has prolly been asked before, but I'm too lazy to search.
    I met this amazing girl on Friday, and we really seemed to hit it off, and before I left, I asked her if she wanted to get together and if I could get her number. She seemed interested and gave it too me. I'm just wondering (more from the girls' perspective) how long should I wait to get a hold of her? I don't want to desperate or needy, but I've been thinking about her all day.
    Should have called her Saturday...

    Why wait???

    Why would you look desperate or needy??

    You liked her...You found her interesting, exciting, blah blah blah......right???

    So call her....



    this.

    hopefully you've already called her by now and set up a date. :)
    Stay with me...
    Let's just breathe...


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  • 8181 Needing a ride to Forest Hills and a ounce of weed. Please inquire within. Thanks. Or not. Posts: 58,276
    if you haven't called by now, the best thing to do is wait until friday, then go out to the bars, kick back half a dozen drinks, then call her around closing time and ask her if she wants to do something.
    81 is now off the air

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  • Heatherj43Heatherj43 Posts: 1,254
    81 wrote:
    by chance was her number 313-915-3115
    Hey thats a number in the area I live.
    Save room for dessert!
  • 8181 Needing a ride to Forest Hills and a ounce of weed. Please inquire within. Thanks. Or not. Posts: 58,276
    Heatherj43 wrote:
    81 wrote:
    by chance was her number 313-915-3115
    Hey thats a number in the area I live.


    give her a call and say hi. :mrgreen:
    81 is now off the air

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  • pandorapandora Posts: 21,855
    I don't agree with the game playing makes for more games and it just gets stupid.
    Hard enough meeting new people wondering if they like you and all then to have someone pretending they aren't all that interested.
    You've probably already called hopefully
  • milarsomilarso Posts: 1,280
    decides2dream wrote:

    hopefully you've already called her by now and set up a date. :)

    Yeah- I called her last night (So two days) and we're going out Wednesday.
    Pretty excited :D
    "The dude abides. I don't know about you, but I take comfort in that. It's good knowin' he's out there. The Dude. Takin' her easy for all us sinners."
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