Ever wish you could magically be a kid again?

iluvcats

the wolf wrote:

I'm with you. I'm 37 in a job I could easily lose or just quit tomorrow, i have bills, but nothing that i really NEED, other than shelter of course.
my work week goes by so fast, some would say that would be great, but it sucks because i'm just another week older and in the same life sucking place.

i do miss the carefree days. god do i miss them.

37? have you put in an order for your walker yet?

Ms. Haiku

pearljgirl2010 wrote:

I know some people who play in adult kickball leagues, which is pretty cool!

*raises hand* I did for one summer. I pulled a muscle running to first base once, and my kickball career was over. It's all about the team t-shirt anyway, eh?

gabers

Every day.

pjtradeking

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eESgH765 ... L&index=12

No way! Dont you remeber how tramatic it was for Tom!!

keeponrockin

Kick Ball was the shit.

pearljgirl2010

Ms. Haiku wrote:

pearljgirl2010 wrote:

I know some people who play in adult kickball leagues, which is pretty cool!

*raises hand* I did for one summer. I pulled a muscle running to first base once, and my kickball career was over. It's all about the team t-shirt anyway, eh?

LOL!! at least you had a base-kick, yeah?

Claireack

Wouldn't mind being a teenager again and knowing what I know now. I would have a lot more fun and less angst.

Mind you, when my son was little I felt like a kid again, I used to spend hours playing with him (probably why the house was such a mess), trips to the park and to feed the ducks etc etc. It was fantastic! The only odd thing was on the roundabout I felt sick and dizzy and I never remember that from being a kid. Has anyone else experienced this?

the wolf

iluvcats wrote:

the wolf wrote:

I'm with you. I'm 37 in a job I could easily lose or just quit tomorrow, i have bills, but nothing that i really NEED, other than shelter of course.
my work week goes by so fast, some would say that would be great, but it sucks because i'm just another week older and in the same life sucking place.

i do miss the carefree days. god do i miss them.

37? have you put in an order for your walker yet?

not yet. i've been eyeing one of those electric carts people drive around at the grocery store though :?

musicismylife78

pjhawks wrote:

keeponrockin wrote:

pjhawks wrote:

I totally get where the OP is coming from. I see kids playing with no cares and it definitely makes me long for that. We spend way too much of our adult life worrying about things and frankly working. Often times I feel tht work is a waste- why work? I mean other than supporting yourself and your family is any of it really necessary? Unless you are like a teacher, fireman or something of value but working in business, is there really a value? It's not that I dislike my job or anything, I just wonder why my life is wasting away 40 hours a week for a few weeks of vacation a year.

But behind a lot of the care free kids is USUALLY someone (or two people) working 40 hours a week...

agree but I saw a great quote one time or a movie line (not sure where I heard this) but heard someone say 'no one on their deathbed ever says they wished they worked more' - right now as I reach middle age I just feel that each day runs into the next and weeks and months go by so fast, then the years - it's like i am spending 90% of my waking life working to enjoy 10% of it - seems out of whack. guess it's just a mid-life crisis or something.

Where were you in my other thread? I got pummelled by everyone saying I was spoiled, for suggesting I as a 25 year old felt completely lost, and directionless, working a job I am not meant to do, and just feeling like, "Wow this is my life for the next 40 years...".

Seems like we have the same view on life and work. I completely agree. As I am taking my dying breaths, I can assure you, that I will not be thinking "gee I wish I spent more time at work". It will be more focused on regrets, things I didnt get to do. Thats why I want to live a life of no regrets.

my dad is in the medical field. He studied pshychology in school. I sort of took a similar but very different path, I got a degree in sociology. People often interchange the two, as people say to me, "didnt you get a degree in pshychology?". But the psychologist looks at things like a person that is a deviant or murderer or whatever and says "they are this way because of brain chemistry, because of their family history and their environment growing up". While myself a sociologist says "they are this way because of social and societal pressure, social control, the world, and what not".

For me, the definition of insanity, fitting with the psychologist view of it, is the idea that people do things over and over again, hoping for a different result, when its obvious the same old result will happen.

The majority of people, and this has been proven by studies, work jobs they hate. They go to these jobs 5 days a week, some more than that. We spend most of our waking hours at jobs we hate. That to me, again, is the definition of insanity.

How about the old "Thank god its friday" statement. To me, that symbolizes despair. Its celebrating another week of your dreary and mundane life has passed. One week you will never get back. People live their lives for the weekend, which really means they spend 5 days not living, just thinking about the future.

I dont know how to live other peoples lives. I am only my own self. I know how I feel and thats it. Its funny to me, in other threads the people who went beyond the straight up advice. They were scathing, rude and mean. I dont like that much. How dare you tell me how to feel. How to act. How to live. If I feel lost, confused and adrift in a world I dont really understand, who are you to tell me I shouldnt feel one way or the other?

musicismylife78

pjhawks wrote:

I totally get where the OP is coming from. I see kids playing with no cares and it definitely makes me long for that. We spend way too much of our adult life worrying about things and frankly working. Often times I feel tht work is a waste- why work? I mean other than supporting yourself and your family is any of it really necessary? Unless you are like a teacher, fireman or something of value but working in business, is there really a value? It's not that I dislike my job or anything, I just wonder why my life is wasting away 40 hours a week for a few weeks of vacation a year.

thats the whole reason for this so called crisis I am in. I have had a unique life, people seem to suggest. I went to high school and college, and escaped both without ever having to get a job. This seems to be unique. And I studied sociology and politics and marxism in college, so it definitely has had an impact on how I view work. I read the Communist Manifesto, and Das Capital, way before I ever got a job, and whatever you may think of those books, they give intense detail of what working life is like. After having worked at my first ever job for a year and a half, I can say there really isnt a detail in those books that are incorrect for me. Working life fits that model to the t.

Its a feeling of being a twenty year old, seeing the fleeting nature of life, and feeling like I dont really want to spend the rest of my life, feeling so burnt out, tired and listless (as I do after working a shift at work). I come home, after work, and feel so tired I dont want to do anything. When I wake up, I feel sore, tired and burnt out. So its constant. Why wouldnt I feel like I have to quit my job? Why wouldnt I feel desperate?

Whatever your views on Zach Braff, or Joe Strummer, or Sean Penn or whoever, those people, symbolize something to me, I have gotten inspiration and advice from them for years. I have learned as much from London Calling, and Garden State, as I have from any teacher or course.

I listened to The Clampdown for years, and low and behold, work turned out exactly as Joe Strummer said it would.

mookeywrench

South of Seattle wrote:

I do. But I wouldn't want to be a kid right now.

I enjoyed riding my bike without a helmet . . .
I enjoyed watching MTV for the music . . .
I enjoyed playing sports with only the winners getting trophy's . . .
I enjoyed TV that wasn't reality based . . .

don't forget television shows made for kids that weren't super cheesy/corny. Adults could actually tolerate them. Also, saturday morning cartoons that were only 2-d animation, no computer generated crap.

musicismylife78

As i said, if i spent the majority of my high school life, and all of college, getting increasingly political and radical, holding Strummer, and Marx up as heroes, getting a degree in an overtly political field, and then having to get a job in real life, and having everything that you read and heard about working life, be actually true, that working life is really that demeaning, boring and soulcrushing, why wouldnt i feel so desperate about my situation?

Time and time again, most people choose the easier path. Whether thats going for a degree in a money making field, getting a job in a field that promises fame, wealth and status, or just schlepping along and going to your job day after day, that you hate and despise. For most people, the choice, is work or die. Continue on their downward spiral, do nothing at all, and just see their life waste away.

For me, I wasnt meant for that fate. I am out of step with others my age, and I am out of step with alot of you here, despite our mutual love of a band.

The idea that I would, as a single, 25 year old, with no kids and no mortgage, no car payments, no debt, would feel obligated and forced to stay in any situation I hate, is absolute madness. I wont stand for it.

I control my life. If I hate a situation, this is the time to go about doing something about it.

I feel it is my right to feel as I do, considering my age. Reguardless of that, its how I feel.

I wasnt meant to toil away my life, like that. Its not my destiny. I feel that more than ever.

mookeywrench

lots of complaining, but no action.

when I felt stuck in a rut in MN...rather than complaining about it on a message board, I found a place to live in Seattle and moved.

When I felt that the music industry wasn't going to be paying the bills for the lifestyle that I wanted... rather than complaining about it on a message board, i dropped out of art school and enrolled at a community college till I found out what I what major best suited me.

eMMI

musicismylife78 wrote:

As i said, if i spent the majority of my high school life, and all of college, getting increasingly political and radical, holding Strummer, and Marx up as heroes, getting a degree in an overtly political field, and then having to get a job in real life, and having everything that you read and heard about working life, be actually true, that working life is really that demeaning, boring and soulcrushing, why wouldnt i feel so desperate about my situation?

Time and time again, most people choose the easier path. Whether thats going for a degree in a money making field, getting a job in a field that promises fame, wealth and status, or just schlepping along and going to your job day after day, that you hate and despise. For most people, the choice, is work or die. Continue on their downward spiral, do nothing at all, and just see their life waste away.

For me, I wasnt meant for that fate. I am out of step with others my age, and I am out of step with alot of you here, despite our mutual love of a band.

The idea that I would, as a single, 25 year old, with no kids and no mortgage, no car payments, no debt, would feel obligated and forced to stay in any situation I hate, is absolute madness. I wont stand for it.

I control my life. If I hate a situation, this is the time to go about doing something about it.

I feel it is my right to feel as I do, considering my age. Reguardless of that, its how I feel.

I wasnt meant to toil away my life, like that. Its not my destiny. I feel that more than ever.

then don't stand for it and do something more fulfilling.


as for the topic of this thread.. ( :? ) I don't necessarily wish I could be a kid again, but I do sometimes miss not having as much responsibilities.

at the same time though, I love the fact that I'm in charge of my own life. all the little things as well as the bigger ones. if I don't go to the store, there will be nothing to eat. if I don't pay my bills, I will not have a phone/electricity/internet.

I don't always like going to work and I do dream about winning the lotto ( ) but in general I'm very happy with my life as it is. I wouldn't mind being able to go back and tell my teenaged self to stop being such an intolerable bitch though.

Ms. Haiku

Something to consider - what did you love most to do as a child? Are you doing it now? You work during the week now, did you go to school during the week as a child? Really, it's always been about the evenings, and weekends, and house-delivered pizza.

I loved to read as a child - it's still my favorite activity. Being an adult is not such a bad state of living. In fact, we should all break out the champagne for surviving adolescence in my opinion

iluvcats

to the OP:

was your username something like world turned to black on the old board?

musicismylife78

mookeywrench wrote:

lots of complaining, but no action.

when I felt stuck in a rut in MN...rather than complaining about it on a message board, I found a place to live in Seattle and moved.

When I felt that the music industry wasn't going to be paying the bills for the lifestyle that I wanted... rather than complaining about it on a message board, i dropped out of art school and enrolled at a community college till I found out what I what major best suited me.

Thats quite an assumption. Have we met? Are we friendly? If not, you dont know a damn thing about me, so dont pretend to.

I dont spend 24 hours a day in front of a computer, and I have left my apartment every day, to go to work, or whatever, so I am not curled in a ball in bed or anything, so I would say your characterization of me is completely inaccurate.

I think the problem comes into play, of myself declaring my view of how things are, or how I view the world, and then trying to implement that in my own life. So in that we do agree. But I dont think I will be beating down your door or PMing you about how you feel I should run my life, mookey, sorry. I got bigger fish to fry.

I think the thing to realize, is, and its backed up by every movie that deals with the so called quarter life crisis, and is backed up by an entire message board community of twenty year olds who are in this crisis, is that trying to figure out how to do what you want to do in life, is something that can bring paralysis and a feeling of being unable to do something. Not knowing where to begin or what to do.

So good for you, you took control of your life. Applause all around. But there are many others like me, who know my life is off track, that I am not living to my full potential, and feel that with every fiber of my being. But we also know that just as strong as that feeling is, another feeling of drifting, of being lost and confused and not knowing what to do, that feeling is just as powerful. And from personal experience, those feelings are overpowering. They are strong.

To feel like you have wasted your life, or that you feel trapped at any age is tough, but I think to feel that way as I do as a 20 year old, I think those feelings are very powerful. As a 80 year old, you may not be able to do anything about regrets or the feelings I described. As a 25 year old, I think there is endless possibilies about what could be done to alleviate it. Thus another branch of the struggle. Too many options. I literally could do anything I wanted to do. Quit job, stay, join the army (as a pacifist its unlikely), move to australia, become a priest and on and on. Thats adds to the pressure.

To feel that life awaits outside of what you are living, that you are destined for something better, that you arent where you are supposed to be, are very strong feelings. And as I said, I am justified in feeling how I do.

Just look at the responses of people to my thread about quitting my job. People were very pessimistic about what would happen if I did it. You dont think that could add to any paralysis and insecurity I may feel? If I feel trapped and like I am wasting away my life, and feel a change is warranted, and then hear a majority of people on here tell me I would be broke and pennyless if I quit, its quite a contradiction. I feel the way I do and feel I need to move on, but people tell me if I leave I would be homeless?

To suggest its a simple matter to figure out life, to find your place in the puzzle called life, thats ignorant at best. And to tell the people who are engaged in this struggle, and who are lost, and having a rough time, that its "oh its so easy you just do this and this" as you did, I think is pretty asinine and childish

musicismylife78

iluvcats wrote:

to the OP:

was your username something like world turned to black on the old board?

no.

musicismylife78

musicismylife78 wrote:

iluvcats wrote:

to the OP:

was your username something like world turned to black on the old board?

no.

I also love the spirit of the board. I mean, its one thing to offer advice and say, "this is my advice to you" and then say "but its up to you, it will work out either way". Its quite another to do, as many on this board did, to ridicule me, my views, and my life.

What a great community, where a person, who is seeking advice, and is obviously a genuine and contientious person, is told they will be homeless if they make a decision they are considering. Wow, thanks guys.

the wolf

musicismylife78 wrote:

mookeywrench wrote:

lots of complaining, but no action.

when I felt stuck in a rut in MN...rather than complaining about it on a message board, I found a place to live in Seattle and moved.

When I felt that the music industry wasn't going to be paying the bills for the lifestyle that I wanted... rather than complaining about it on a message board, i dropped out of art school and enrolled at a community college till I found out what I what major best suited me.

Thats quite an assumption. Have we met? Are we friendly? If not, you dont know a damn thing about me, so dont pretend to.

I dont spend 24 hours a day in front of a computer, and I have left my apartment every day, to go to work, or whatever, so I am not curled in a ball in bed or anything, so I would say your characterization of me is completely inaccurate.

I think the problem comes into play, of myself declaring my view of how things are, or how I view the world, and then trying to implement that in my own life. So in that we do agree. But I dont think I will be beating down your door or PMing you about how you feel I should run my life, mookey, sorry. I got bigger fish to fry.

I think the thing to realize, is, and its backed up by every movie that deals with the so called quarter life crisis, and is backed up by an entire message board community of twenty year olds who are in this crisis, is that trying to figure out how to do what you want to do in life, is something that can bring paralysis and a feeling of being unable to do something. Not knowing where to begin or what to do.

So good for you, you took control of your life. Applause all around. But there are many others like me, who know my life is off track, that I am not living to my full potential, and feel that with every fiber of my being. But we also know that just as strong as that feeling is, another feeling of drifting, of being lost and confused and not knowing what to do, that feeling is just as powerful. And from personal experience, those feelings are overpowering. They are strong.

To feel like you have wasted your life, or that you feel trapped at any age is tough, but I think to feel that way as I do as a 20 year old, I think those feelings are very powerful. As a 80 year old, you may not be able to do anything about regrets or the feelings I described. As a 25 year old, I think there is endless possibilies about what could be done to alleviate it. Thus another branch of the struggle. Too many options. I literally could do anything I wanted to do. Quit job, stay, join the army (as a pacifist its unlikely), move to australia, become a priest and on and on. Thats adds to the pressure.

To feel that life awaits outside of what you are living, that you are destined for something better, that you arent where you are supposed to be, are very strong feelings. And as I said, I am justified in feeling how I do.

Just look at the responses of people to my thread about quitting my job. People were very pessimistic about what would happen if I did it. You dont think that could add to any paralysis and insecurity I may feel? If I feel trapped and like I am wasting away my life, and feel a change is warranted, and then hear a majority of people on here tell me I would be broke and pennyless if I quit, its quite a contradiction. I feel the way I do and feel I need to move on, but people tell me if I leave I would be homeless?

To suggest its a simple matter to figure out life, to find your place in the puzzle called life, thats ignorant at best. And to tell the people who are engaged in this struggle, and who are lost, and having a rough time, that its "oh its so easy you just do this and this" as you did, I think is pretty asinine and childish

holy fuck dude. way to de-rail your own thread. the original topic was fun.
this, back to the other shit.
i gave you the benefit of doubt, now you are back on the same old stuff.

if you are really that unhappy, change can only be made by you.
i'm not bashing, but listen to yourself.
you dont sound spoiled to me, but rather out of touch with reality.

i dont know.

good luck man.