Ever wish you could magically be a kid again?
musicismylife78
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Do you ever wish you could go back in time, to be a small kid again, and sort of go back to the time when things were easy and carefree? When you didnt have to worry about the responsibilities of adulthood and life in general. For me, the emotions come from feeling so overwhelmed as an adult, so stuck, so lost, and like my life has spun out of control.
My grandparents live in a house, in the country, and as a kid, I remember, on hot sunny, summer days, just swimming all day. And how, that was the best thing ever to me, at that time. How, I felt as the sunset came, and you knew my mom would say "we gotta head home now". I would feel sad about leaving but, happy, because I just had the greatest day of my life. Thats the feeling I am talking about
I am reminded of the best quote from Garden State when Zach Braff says:
You know that point in your life when you realize the house you grew up in isn't really your home anymore? All of a sudden even though you have some place where you put your shit, that idea of home is gone. You'll see one day when you move out it just sort of happens one day and it's gone. You feel like you can never get it back. It's like you feel homesick for a place that doesn't even exist. Maybe it's like this rite of passage, you know. You won't ever have this feeling again until you create a new idea of home for yourself, you know, for your kids, for the family you start, it's like a cycle or something. I don't know, but I miss the idea of it, you know. Maybe that's all family really is. A group of people that miss the same imaginary place.
I often get this feeling when listening to a song, that reminds me of a feeling, or makes me sad.
My grandparents live in a house, in the country, and as a kid, I remember, on hot sunny, summer days, just swimming all day. And how, that was the best thing ever to me, at that time. How, I felt as the sunset came, and you knew my mom would say "we gotta head home now". I would feel sad about leaving but, happy, because I just had the greatest day of my life. Thats the feeling I am talking about
I am reminded of the best quote from Garden State when Zach Braff says:
You know that point in your life when you realize the house you grew up in isn't really your home anymore? All of a sudden even though you have some place where you put your shit, that idea of home is gone. You'll see one day when you move out it just sort of happens one day and it's gone. You feel like you can never get it back. It's like you feel homesick for a place that doesn't even exist. Maybe it's like this rite of passage, you know. You won't ever have this feeling again until you create a new idea of home for yourself, you know, for your kids, for the family you start, it's like a cycle or something. I don't know, but I miss the idea of it, you know. Maybe that's all family really is. A group of people that miss the same imaginary place.
I often get this feeling when listening to a song, that reminds me of a feeling, or makes me sad.
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I enjoyed riding my bike without a helmet . . .
I enjoyed watching MTV for the music . . .
I enjoyed playing sports with only the winners getting trophy's . . .
I enjoyed TV that wasn't reality based . . .
Home is where the heart is. Good Memories are able to be recreated. You just need to make your own home a place to cultivate some new memories for you, and your family and friends. As long as you remember those feelings from yesterday, you get to feel them again. When you remember swimming at Nan's doesn't that make you FEEL that way again? Hold on to those when times are tough.
Why on earth would I want to make the same mistakes twice?
The risk I took was calculated, but man, am I bad at math - The Mincing Mockingbird
to the OP, I have fond memories too of grand parents or great grand parents. I'm glad you have memories; my nephews won't/don't have memories of my family b/c they live 12 hours away and their mom chose to take their vacations to other places than to see family.
8/08 - Ed solo in DC, 6/09 Ed in B'more,
10/10 - Brad in B'more
The risk I took was calculated, but man, am I bad at math - The Mincing Mockingbird
agree but I saw a great quote one time or a movie line (not sure where I heard this) but heard someone say 'no one on their deathbed ever says they wished they worked more' - right now as I reach middle age I just feel that each day runs into the next and weeks and months go by so fast, then the years - it's like i am spending 90% of my waking life working to enjoy 10% of it - seems out of whack. guess it's just a mid-life crisis or something.
i agree we have to work too much; combine that with commuting to and from work and when is there time to exercise? just an example...
8/08 - Ed solo in DC, 6/09 Ed in B'more,
10/10 - Brad in B'more
Great post....
Great fucking post................
Till there aint nothing left worth taking away from me.....
I'm with you. I'm 37 in a job I could easily lose or just quit tomorrow, i have bills, but nothing that i really NEED, other than shelter of course.
my work week goes by so fast, some would say that would be great, but it sucks because i'm just another week older and in the same life sucking place.
i do miss the carefree days. god do i miss them.
"To question your government is not unpatriotic --
to not question your government is unpatriotic."
-- Sen. Chuck Hagel
I got to play street hockey and enjoy the outdoors
no shit. i remember being out playing base ball or football until you could not see the ball anymore and were in danger of catching the ball with your face.
with every tech advancement we make, we rob our children of just being kids. or so it seems to me.
"To question your government is not unpatriotic --
to not question your government is unpatriotic."
-- Sen. Chuck Hagel
A couple months ago I took my niece to her elementary school playground, and we played tennis against the wall. I played tennis against my elementary school wall all the time growing up. And just like I did when I was a kid I accidentally hit the tennis ball on the roof. When I was a kid it was nothing to climb up something to get up on the roof, but when I was with my niece I wondered about my sanity as a kid
The risk I took was calculated, but man, am I bad at math - The Mincing Mockingbird
love it...yes, I miss those things!
I still act like a kid, so i'm partly there...but I would love to go back to being able to play outside allllll day long, and having my biggest troubles be who to invite to a sleepover...
Whatever you are, be a good one --Lincoln
we used to play four square for HOURS. do kids play it anymore?
and i could never make it all the way across on the *bars*
Hide and Seek !! till the wee hours of the morning on weekends.
of course we were a bit older, maybe 12 or so, so our parents would let us stay out very very late.
of course parents cant even do that now days. shitty.
"To question your government is not unpatriotic --
to not question your government is unpatriotic."
-- Sen. Chuck Hagel
Four Square, Dodgeball, Hide and Seek, kickball...we used to play until someone got hurt because you couldn't see anymore :-)
I know some people who play in adult kickball leagues, which is pretty cool!
Whatever you are, be a good one --Lincoln
37? have you put in an order for your walker yet?
8/08 - Ed solo in DC, 6/09 Ed in B'more,
10/10 - Brad in B'more
The risk I took was calculated, but man, am I bad at math - The Mincing Mockingbird
No way! Dont you remeber how tramatic it was for Tom!!
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LOL!! at least you had a base-kick, yeah?
Whatever you are, be a good one --Lincoln
Mind you, when my son was little I felt like a kid again, I used to spend hours playing with him (probably why the house was such a mess), trips to the park and to feed the ducks etc etc. It was fantastic! The only odd thing was on the roundabout I felt sick and dizzy and I never remember that from being a kid. Has anyone else experienced this?
not yet. i've been eyeing one of those electric carts people drive around at the grocery store though :?
"To question your government is not unpatriotic --
to not question your government is unpatriotic."
-- Sen. Chuck Hagel
Where were you in my other thread? I got pummelled by everyone saying I was spoiled, for suggesting I as a 25 year old felt completely lost, and directionless, working a job I am not meant to do, and just feeling like, "Wow this is my life for the next 40 years...".
Seems like we have the same view on life and work. I completely agree. As I am taking my dying breaths, I can assure you, that I will not be thinking "gee I wish I spent more time at work". It will be more focused on regrets, things I didnt get to do. Thats why I want to live a life of no regrets.
my dad is in the medical field. He studied pshychology in school. I sort of took a similar but very different path, I got a degree in sociology. People often interchange the two, as people say to me, "didnt you get a degree in pshychology?". But the psychologist looks at things like a person that is a deviant or murderer or whatever and says "they are this way because of brain chemistry, because of their family history and their environment growing up". While myself a sociologist says "they are this way because of social and societal pressure, social control, the world, and what not".
For me, the definition of insanity, fitting with the psychologist view of it, is the idea that people do things over and over again, hoping for a different result, when its obvious the same old result will happen.
The majority of people, and this has been proven by studies, work jobs they hate. They go to these jobs 5 days a week, some more than that. We spend most of our waking hours at jobs we hate. That to me, again, is the definition of insanity.
How about the old "Thank god its friday" statement. To me, that symbolizes despair. Its celebrating another week of your dreary and mundane life has passed. One week you will never get back. People live their lives for the weekend, which really means they spend 5 days not living, just thinking about the future.
I dont know how to live other peoples lives. I am only my own self. I know how I feel and thats it. Its funny to me, in other threads the people who went beyond the straight up advice. They were scathing, rude and mean. I dont like that much. How dare you tell me how to feel. How to act. How to live. If I feel lost, confused and adrift in a world I dont really understand, who are you to tell me I shouldnt feel one way or the other?
thats the whole reason for this so called crisis I am in. I have had a unique life, people seem to suggest. I went to high school and college, and escaped both without ever having to get a job. This seems to be unique. And I studied sociology and politics and marxism in college, so it definitely has had an impact on how I view work. I read the Communist Manifesto, and Das Capital, way before I ever got a job, and whatever you may think of those books, they give intense detail of what working life is like. After having worked at my first ever job for a year and a half, I can say there really isnt a detail in those books that are incorrect for me. Working life fits that model to the t.
Its a feeling of being a twenty year old, seeing the fleeting nature of life, and feeling like I dont really want to spend the rest of my life, feeling so burnt out, tired and listless (as I do after working a shift at work). I come home, after work, and feel so tired I dont want to do anything. When I wake up, I feel sore, tired and burnt out. So its constant. Why wouldnt I feel like I have to quit my job? Why wouldnt I feel desperate?
Whatever your views on Zach Braff, or Joe Strummer, or Sean Penn or whoever, those people, symbolize something to me, I have gotten inspiration and advice from them for years. I have learned as much from London Calling, and Garden State, as I have from any teacher or course.
I listened to The Clampdown for years, and low and behold, work turned out exactly as Joe Strummer said it would.