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I sit out here at the parents house waiting for it to claim the life of my stepfather. They say the end is any minute. I type away on an iPhone with nearly a fully drained battery and I had the thought that I wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy.
I'm somewhat filled with regret that I didn't spend more time with him. You figure things like work keep you busy until this point arrives then you know what really matters.
That's all for now. I have a hard time describing what this is like. It's hard to see someone in this condition.
I'm somewhat filled with regret that I didn't spend more time with him. You figure things like work keep you busy until this point arrives then you know what really matters.
That's all for now. I have a hard time describing what this is like. It's hard to see someone in this condition.
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Wish you were here...
♥~RIP Dad
Godfather.
Good luck to your son. Chinnup and stay strong.
Good luck to you and your family.
My thoughts are with you in this painful time, you don't know me I don't know you but if you need to talk I'll be around here.
Neil deGrasse Tyson
Why not (V) (°,,,,°) (V) ?
i know this will change you
let it
it's part of how we all die
we need to know
let it show you what is truly important in this life
and let it show you what is not
i hope peace can be with you and your family at this time
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You're in my thoughts and I wish for peace and grace for all of you.
I've lost a grandmother, a great-grandfather, an uncle, a cousin, etc. to cancer. I thank God every day that I've never lost a parent.
Fuck cancer. :evil:
Edit to add: The woman in my avatar is my grandmother who we lost to cancer.
The most important thing I have learned in my years doing this work is this...
People never realize what they have until it's gone. From the patient's perspective, once diagnosed it's always "Ok, I'm going to beat this and I'm going to change how I live my life". Sadly, those changes are often too little, too late. They quickly discover how beautiful the world is, and how they squandered away their lives when they could have done so much more...
From the family and friends perspective it's often a time to look back and realize all the shit you missed in their life. A huge sense of selfishness, and regret come into play.
Any way you look at it, it always boils down to this...
Live your life for every second. Enjoy what you have and never hesitate to show the love you have for the important people in your life.
1998: Noblesville; 2003: Noblesville; 2009: EV Nashville, Chicago, Chicago
2010: St Louis, Columbus, Noblesville; 2011: EV Chicago, East Troy, East Troy
2013: London ON, Chicago; 2014: Cincy, St Louis, Moline (NO CODE)
2016: Lexington, Wrigley #1; 2018: Wrigley, Wrigley, Boston, Boston
2020: Oakland, Oakland: 2021: EV Ohana, Ohana, Ohana, Ohana
2022: Oakland, Oakland, Nashville, Louisville; 2023: Chicago, Chicago, Noblesville
2024: Noblesville, Wrigley, Wrigley, Ohana, Ohana
I just hope your stepfather has ALL of his loved ones around him in this time of grief for your family. I also hope he made to be comfortable through Hospice who do such a passionate job in these times for those about to meet their end. I wish for you and your family all the best.
Peace
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what are you but my reflection? who am i to judge or strike you down?
"I will promise you this, that if we have not gotten our troops out by the time I am president, it is the first thing I will do. I will get our troops home. We will bring an end to this war. You can take that to the bank." - Barack Obama
when you told me 'if you can't beat 'em, join 'em'
i was thinkin 'death before dishonor'
Good post.
Stay strong Unsung.
+1 let it take it's course, let it hurt you, make you cry, make you angry, make your mind hurt and your heart feel empty, then one day you'll wake up a different, stronger person with a different outlook on life. The sooner the better, but ONLY U will know when the healing ends.......and u know, wether we all agree with u or not, your pj family is here for you. Here for anyone who needs to vent, bitch, cry, or laugh. Hopefuly we can do a lot more laughing in the near future......good luck to you and your family in the healing process....
i hate to bring this up at a time of personal pain but the reality is that we can do stuff about it - why do we continue to allow this to grow and take lives young and old? ...
I have 5 aunts and my mom also had breast cancer (they all survived). it is a shame that we have not found a cure for this yet. but here is hoping that we do 1 day and people like your dad unsung and all the millions and millions of people can live a great long life.
wish you all the best unsung.
I pulled a 40 hour shift staying awake before I was able to sleep for about 2.5 hours. Woke up and went home to grab some things and I am about to leave to head back over there.
R.i.p. My Dad - May 28, 2007
R.i.p. Black Tail (cat) - Sept. 20, 2008
Don't forget to get a bit of time for youself once in a while. It doesn't have to be much. Your favourite couple of PJ song at full blast in the car or something like that. It'll put you in the right frame of mind to deal with whatever comes up.
He passed yesterday morning after Hospice said on Sunday that he had less than 12 hours left. His heart just kept beating.
I've been helping with the planning of the funeral and wake, been trying to be there to help my mother. Last night was the first night I slept for over four hours, probably got a total of ten the previous five nights. Cancer really sucks, being kind of blunt not in the mood for big words. If you haven't gone through it with someone close I hope you never have to. It changes you. I'm not sure for the better either.
I tried to get my Mom to play Release at the wake but she isn't biting so far.
An extra thank you to TriumphantAngel for your message, I tried to reply but your PM reception is turned off. Thank you.
i know you and i rarely agree on anything, and i have never taken any of our disagreements presonally in any way. I just wanted to say that i am sorry you and your family
had to go through what you have recently experienced.
i know what it is like to lose someone close to me to cancer.
my best friend i ever had, Nikki, passed away from throat and tongue cancer in 2002 at the age of 26 after a 6 year battle. she initially had tongue cancer and 1/4 of her tongue was removed, and the cancer came back much more aggressively the following year and it eventually killed her. the doctors thought that this was due to chronic ulcers in her throat brought on by years of fighting bulimia. it seems her own digestive acids caused ulcers that were untreatable and provided a warm environment for cancerous tumor growth.
in the last 5 years i lost my father's mom and dad both to rare and very aggressive forms of the disease
i never got to say goodbye to any of them, Nikki included. it is a very painful thing to try to recount here, but just when i think i am doing ok, the memories and regrets come rushing back to me. this has haunted me for years.
since both grandparents died from rare and aggressive types of cancer i know that that is most likely the lot i have drawn in my life.
i hope you accept my sincerest sympathies and i hope that you and your familiy
can have peace with your memories of your stepfather. i hope he will rest in peace knowing that he was surrounded by those that loved him the most in this world.
sincerely,
gst 27
"Well, you tell him that I don't talk to suckas."
I found out in July that now my father has the exact same cancer that my step-father had. Yesterday we found out that chemo is not working and that it is spreading very quickly. I'm going to see him next week, there's going to be a lot to talk about. I'm not really sure how to approach some touchy topics.
Wishing you and your dad the best, unsung. You know, we may not agree on a lot of stuff but when it comes down to the realities of life, all of that stuff seems trivial in comparison. Good thoughts going out for your dad. I truly wish you and yours the best.
You're well-spoken, unsung. The touchy subjects will be broached as they can. I bet just your being there will help.
May your father get through this with as little pain as possible.
Good energy and thoughts to you and your family from here.