My husband just killed himself, and I wanted to let you know that..

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Killoran
Killoran Posts: 27
he really appreciated your music.

I know it is highly unlikely that anyone from the band actually reads this stuff, I just wanted to say it.

He's an incredibly talented guitar player, and I'm not talking all this new Good Charlotte type crap.. he developed his own scale and everything. He can play everything.

Indifference was the first song he ever recorded, and the last one I remember him screaming.

I just wanted to say thank you for writing good music. I'm sorry, I just don't know what else to do.. just.. thank you.
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  • restlesssoul
    restlesssoul Posts: 6,952
    WELCOME TO THE PEARL JAM MESSAGE BOARD

    we hope you are okay, i think we are all a little shocked.....if we can ease your pain in anyway, let us know, as we are a loving bunch. im sorry. take care.


    (somebody had to say something) hope this helped
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  • kdpjam
    kdpjam Posts: 2,303
    Killoran wrote:
    he really appreciated your music.

    I know it is highly unlikely that anyone from the band actually reads this stuff, I just wanted to say it.

    He's an incredibly talented guitar player, and I'm not talking all this new Good Charlotte type crap.. he developed his own scale and everything. He can play everything.

    Indifference was the first song he ever recorded, and the last one I remember him screaming.

    I just wanted to say thank you for writing good music. I'm sorry, I just don't know what else to do.. just.. thank you.

    i'm so sorry, from the bottom of my heart. i don't know what to say except god bless you. you can't take away love. it lasts forever... strength to you and yours.
    lay down all thoughts; surrender to the void
    ~it is shining it is shining~
  • gimmesometruth27
    gimmesometruth27 St. Fuckin Louis Posts: 23,998
    i am so sorry to hear that. you and your family are in my prayers.
    "You can tell the greatness of a man by what makes him angry."  - Lincoln

    "Well, you tell him that I don't talk to suckas."
  • I am really sorry for your loss.
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    Circle comes around each time
  • Ms. Haiku
    Ms. Haiku Washington DC Posts: 7,368
    I'm very sorry for you.
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  • I don't pray often but i will pray for you and your family tonight.
    I am really sorry for your loss.
    M.A.R.S....
    Mars Bitches!
    -Black Bush
  • grooveamatic
    grooveamatic Posts: 1,374
    Listen to lots of Pearl Jam. I guarantee he'd want you to.
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  • Sorry for your loss. Stay strong and know that there are many on this board who are here for you.
  • puremagic
    puremagic Posts: 1,907
    How sad that this should be your first post. May the music that he created and the music that he loved give you the strength to remember the happier times you both shared. Peace be with you and your family. The answer to your question is no, there was nothing else you could have done. The decision was his. Sorry for your lost.
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  • JDE-PJ
    JDE-PJ Posts: 721
    I am sorry for the pain and suffering you must be going through, and I hope you and your family find the peace to get you through this terrible time.



    I think the bands management or if not them, the moderators of this forum can alert the management of this post, and the band will at least know of the passion your husband had for the band and the music, I hope so anyway.


    Treasure his music and your shared memories, and again I am sorry for your loss.
    I know someday you will have a beautiful Life


    Jason
  • You are in my thoughts and prayers. Just always remember the good times you had and hold on tight to them.
    " When you want more than you have
    You think you need
    And when you think more than you want
    Your thoughts begin to bleed."
    E.V. Society


    "And by the way, their real and their spectacular!"
  • I understand the pain you are going thru
    I hope that you just remember that life is a journey and we are all going to get to the end.

    The only person I have ever loved died three years ago. and it still is just sitting in my chest.

    love is worth it all and I will see him again soon...you will see your love soon as well.
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  • ladygooddiva
    ladygooddiva Posts: 4,169
    damn that´s hard and must be very shocking for you and your /his family .
    we are here for you ...music but nothing can keep the pain away ...i am soooooo very sorry for your loose
  • Killoran
    Killoran Posts: 27
    JDE-PJ wrote:
    I am sorry for the pain and suffering you must be going through, and I hope you and your family find the peace to get you through this terrible time.



    I think the bands management or if not them, the moderators of this forum can alert the management of this post, and the band will at least know of the passion your husband had for the band and the music, I hope so anyway.


    Treasure his music and your shared memories, and again I am sorry for your loss.

    It just sucks.. I can't remember his voice very well anymore, he's only 26.. I want to get his demo tape, but his brother may want it.
    Sorry.
  • to hear that one of us died in this way. i think all of our thoughts are with you. you should do what he would wanted you to do (and what the others already said): hear the music he loved, that he made...maybe there´s a little help for you in the music in this situation.

    i´m very moved, and i´m very shocked about to hear that, i wish and i hope the best for you and your family. you´re not alone; if you have something you want to talk about, the pj fans will stand by your side.
    i hurt myself today,
    to see if i still feel,
    i focus all the pain,
    the only thing that´s real...
  • i know how hard this has to be for you...only time will make any sense of it all, if there is any sense to be had. all my thoughts and hopes are for you, right now...just be okay.
    I'll dig a tunnel
    from my window to yours
  • moyboy
    moyboy Posts: 131
    my thoughts are with you and I am so sorry for your loss. there is nothing that I could possibly say that might console you, but there is a great group here if you need someone to talk with. please take care and realize that he lives on in your heart and memories.
  • Kaddikat
    Kaddikat Posts: 1,194
    :( sorry to hear of your loss. hang in there. :( :(
    **Get outa my way, just step aside, or pay the price ~ AC/DC**

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  • Killoran
    Killoran Posts: 27
    Thank you for the support, it is very much appreciated.

    A week before he died he smashed all the CDs while in a fit of rage, yet all the Pearl Jam CDs survived, so I'm going to get those as well.. if he didn't smash those, too.. I doubt he did.

    Thanks again
  • pearlmutt
    pearlmutt Posts: 392
    you are in my thoughts.