My Living Organ Donor Story

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  • 1ThoughtKnown
    1ThoughtKnown Posts: 6,155
    Hear hear to the kindness of two shining examples of the goodness, the kindness and the caring that exemplifies the Jamily. :) 
    It’s what my family (and friends) doesn’t understand about our Pearl Jam fandom. Sure, PJ is amazing on their own, but the community.... well, it’s made me a better person.  
  • 1ThoughtKnown
    1ThoughtKnown Posts: 6,155
    This is hard to type but......

    Unfortunately.... this story does not have a happy ending.  Despite all the pre-surgery scans and tests, the cancer has re-emerged in my BiL.
    It has spread quickly and after reviewing recent scans with his doctor today they are estimating he has anywhere from a few weeks to a few months left. 

    I only post this because very few people know of this news and here I am somewhat anonymous and some of you were so kind. I cannot accurately describe the pain I feel for him, his wife, his children, his parents and siblings (including my wife).  I would do it all over again of course, it may have given him a few extra months.  

    Thanks again to those of you for your kind words.  It is still, and always will be, the most rewarding thing I’ve ever done.  Times like these remind you of what is really important. 

    The fellas in PJ and 10c and their crew are fine people and so are a good majority of their fans....  Stay cool everyone.  Hopefully we can go to Denver, Phoenix and San Diego as planned.  Only time will tell..... Peace and Love, Peace and Love. 
  • lastexitlondon
    lastexitlondon Posts: 14,870
    This is heart breaking.  You are all in my thoughts . Life is ridiculously  hard. 


    this song is meant to be called i got shit,itshould be called i got shit tickets-hartford 06 -
  • Fifthelement
    Fifthelement Lotusland Posts: 6,965
    I’m so gutted to hear this.  Funny, I was just thinking of you the other day, wondering how things were progressing. and then to hear this,  my heart aches for your families.  Sending all of you love and light as you navigate through this difficult period.  I hope he is well enough to celebrate his life with those he loves in the time he has left.   (((Hugs)))
    "What the CANUCK happened?!? - Esquimalt Barber Shop
  • vogonpoetbythelake
    vogonpoetbythelake Posts: 2,146
    So sorry to hear this...wishing you love and light and the ability to travel to the shows...peace and love
  • Renfield
    Renfield NYC NY Posts: 1,054
    I’m so sorry to hear this sad news... my thoughts are with you and your family. Sending my love.
    Peace, Carol
  • oftenreading
    oftenreading Victoria, BC Posts: 12,856
    This is such tough news for you and your family. I expect your gift did give him some
    extra time, but more than that, you stepped up and let him know that he matters to someone. In a concrete way you gave him love and you gave him hope, and that means an awful lot. 
    my small self... like a book amongst the many on a shelf
  • hedonist
    hedonist Posts: 24,524
    Well goddammit. 

    My best wishes to your BIL and whole family. 
  • 1ThoughtKnown
    1ThoughtKnown Posts: 6,155
    Thanks everyone 
  • josevolution
    josevolution Posts: 31,523
    Oh man that sucks so sorry to hear about the turn of events , my thoughts to you and your bil & family ...
    jesus greets me looks just like me ....
  • Fifthelement
    Fifthelement Lotusland Posts: 6,965
    oftenreading said:
    This is such tough news for you and your family. I expect your gift did give him some
    extra time, but more than that, you stepped up and let him know that he matters to someone. In a concrete way you gave him love and you gave him hope, and that means an awful lot. 
    That was beautifully stated Often.
    "What the CANUCK happened?!? - Esquimalt Barber Shop
  • 1ThoughtKnown
    1ThoughtKnown Posts: 6,155
    I should have said thanks everyone for your kind words and kind energy towards my family and I. It really means a lot. 
    Thanks often, fifthelement is right... you captured it perfectly. What a gift you have. 
  • a5pj
    a5pj Hershey PA Posts: 3,975
    Dang, sending good thoughts to everyone...
    Wouldn't it be funny if the world ended in 2010, with lots of fire?



  • 1ThoughtKnown
    1ThoughtKnown Posts: 6,155
    Just revisited this thread to remind myself of how blessed I am... sure the spring cancellation is disappointing, but my brother-in-law is in a hospital and slowly slipping away. Every. Day.  He will never go home again without some kind of miracle... 😔

    Puts the boys in PJ’s position easy to understand doesn’t it? Does anyone really think they want someone to catch COVID-19 at their show and inadvertently pass it on to someone vulnerable? Someone who could succumb to the illness? Could anyone live with that on their conscience? Certainly not these guys. 

    We are going to use the time we were going to see PJ and head back to my wife’s hometown. Hopefully my BIL will still be with us. 
    Peace and be kind to each other folks. The shows will happen and the band will bring it.  Guaranteed. 

    We will hold onto our Denver GA tickets. Hopefully when the show is rescheduled we will be able to go. Thanks for reading and much love to the Faithful. Peace. Out.


  • hedonist
    hedonist Posts: 24,524
    Oh damn...good thoughts for your BIL.

    And I hear you on blessing-counting.  Been doing that a lot myself lately.
  • lastexitlondon
    lastexitlondon Posts: 14,870
    We are truly lucky everyday.  I can only send love and i think of this page a lot


    this song is meant to be called i got shit,itshould be called i got shit tickets-hartford 06 -
  • 1ThoughtKnown
    1ThoughtKnown Posts: 6,155
    Thanks to both of you. 

    Now the man of the hour is taking his final bow. As the curtain comes down. I feel that this is just goodbye for now. 😔
  • Renfield
    Renfield NYC NY Posts: 1,054
    Very sad news once again... wishing you and your family all the strength needed during this difficult time.
    Peace & Love
  • oftenreading
    oftenreading Victoria, BC Posts: 12,856
    My thoughts are with you, winging their way across the ether East and somewhat North, as you go through this with your family. 
    my small self... like a book amongst the many on a shelf
  • hedonist
    hedonist Posts: 24,524
    As always, I wish you and your family the best.  Know that you gave him the gift of more time.

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