Should I ask Agnes out on a date?

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  • OffSheGoes35
    OffSheGoes35 Posts: 3,517
    No
    I've decided on some soothing Tori Amos...
    https://youtu.be/OzFgpAOjAHA
  • oftenreading
    oftenreading Victoria, BC Posts: 12,856
    Yes
    Spiritual_Chaos said:
    Ive completely given up. Went out drinking with my anxioty. 
    Did you go out with friends, too, or just your anxiety? 
    my small self... like a book amongst the many on a shelf
  • lastexitlondon
    lastexitlondon Posts: 15,069
    Yes
    Finding love or feeling love is a very tough subject. 
    I always love so easily. 
    Sometimes  i feel its a bad trait sometimes good. 
    I think  its because i had a very traumatizing child hood with a lack of closeness  that  now im like the orphaned baby  chick asking if everyone  could be their mummy. 
    Sad .. and deep sorry.


    this song is meant to be called i got shit,itshould be called i got shit tickets-hartford 06 -
  • PJ_Soul
    PJ_Soul Vancouver, BC Posts: 50,960
    edited May 2019
    Yes
    OffSheGoes35 said:
    Nancy, is it possible that we are the only ones who have given up all hope of finding romantic love? Good god people are optimistic! I thought Dyer would hang in there with us, but now he is out looking for millennials.
    I'm kind of with you, but for me the hope part is kinda moot. I stopped wanting to find romantic love altogether, so I'm not abandoning attempts to find it because I feel like what I want can't be found, but, rather, out of complete cynicism about romantic relationships altogether. I don't doubt I could find romantic love if I wanted to and actually tried to, but life is better without it as far as I'm concerned. :)
    Post edited by PJ_Soul on
    With all its sham, drudgery, and broken dreams, it is still a beautiful world. Be careful. Strive to be happy. ~ Desiderata
  • HesCalledDyer
    HesCalledDyer Maryland Posts: 16,501
    OffSheGoes35 said:
    Nancy, is it possible that we are the only ones who have given up all hope of finding romantic love? Good god people are optimistic! I thought Dyer would hang in there with us, but now he is out looking for millennials.
    I mean, I certainly look. But I’m not looking.
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  • OffSheGoes35
    OffSheGoes35 Posts: 3,517
    No
    Yeah, I should've thought of a better way to word that post. I meant for it to sound more like PJ Soul's post, but instead I sound like I'm waiting to exhale or some shit. And my inarticulate ass brought Nancy down with me. Sorry Nancy!
  • OffSheGoes35
    OffSheGoes35 Posts: 3,517
    No
    HesCalledDyer said:
    OffSheGoes35 said:
    Nancy, is it possible that we are the only ones who have given up all hope of finding romantic love? Good god people are optimistic! I thought Dyer would hang in there with us, but now he is out looking for millennials.
    I mean, I certainly look. But I’m not looking.
    Yeah, yeah, yeah. :tongue:
  • Spiritual_Chaos
    Spiritual_Chaos Posts: 31,668
    To the ladies:

    Speaking at the Hay festival on Saturday, Paul Dolan, a professor of behavioural science at the London School of Economics, said the latest evidence showed that the traditional markers used to measure success did not correlate with happiness – particularly marriage and raising children.


    “Married people are happier than other population subgroups, but only when their spouse is in the room when they’re asked how happy they are. When the spouse is not present: fucking miserable,” he said.

    “We do have some good longitudinal data following the same people over time, but I am going to do a massive disservice to that science and just say: if you’re a man, you should probably get married; if you’re a woman, don’t bother.”

    Men benefited from marriage because they “calmed down”, he said. “You take less risks, you earn more money at work, and you live a little longer. She, on the other hand, has to put up with that, and dies sooner than if she never married. The healthiest and happiest population subgroup are women who never married or had children,” he said.
    "Mostly I think that people react sensitively because they know you’ve got a point"
  • JPPJ84
    JPPJ84 Hamburg, Germany Posts: 3,464
    Spiritual_Chaos said:
    To the ladies:

    Speaking at the Hay festival on Saturday, Paul Dolan, a professor of behavioural science at the London School of Economics, said the latest evidence showed that the traditional markers used to measure success did not correlate with happiness – particularly marriage and raising children.


    “Married people are happier than other population subgroups, but only when their spouse is in the room when they’re asked how happy they are. When the spouse is not present: fucking miserable,” he said.

    “We do have some good longitudinal data following the same people over time, but I am going to do a massive disservice to that science and just say: if you’re a man, you should probably get married; if you’re a woman, don’t bother.”

    Men benefited from marriage because they “calmed down”, he said. “You take less risks, you earn more money at work, and you live a little longer. She, on the other hand, has to put up with that, and dies sooner than if she never married. The healthiest and happiest population subgroup are women who never married or had children,” he said.
    Deep down I knew I was doing it right!! 😉
  • Spiritual_Chaos
    Spiritual_Chaos Posts: 31,668
    I did it. I fucking did it.

    I shouldn't have. But I couldn't help myself.

    Fuck.

    A moment of weakness.

    I sent her the pic of Eddie with the koala. 

    Fuck.
    "Mostly I think that people react sensitively because they know you’ve got a point"
  • Spiritual_Chaos
    Spiritual_Chaos Posts: 31,668
    OffSheGoes35 said:
    I've decided on some soothing Tori Amos...
    https://youtu.be/OzFgpAOjAHA
    Posting a Tori Amos video... from one of her greatest albums..

    ... in another life you would be the one dumping me.
    "Mostly I think that people react sensitively because they know you’ve got a point"
  • Annafalk
    Annafalk Sweden Posts: 4,004
    Yes
    Spiritual_Chaos said:
    I did it. I fucking did it.

    I shouldn't have. But I couldn't help myself.

    Fuck.

    A moment of weakness.

    I sent her the pic of Eddie with the koala. 

    Fuck.
    Why did you do that? I bet it was a lovely picture though.
  • PJ_Soul
    PJ_Soul Vancouver, BC Posts: 50,960
    edited May 2019
    Yes
    Spiritual_Chaos said:
    To the ladies:

    Speaking at the Hay festival on Saturday, Paul Dolan, a professor of behavioural science at the London School of Economics, said the latest evidence showed that the traditional markers used to measure success did not correlate with happiness – particularly marriage and raising children.


    “Married people are happier than other population subgroups, but only when their spouse is in the room when they’re asked how happy they are. When the spouse is not present: fucking miserable,” he said.

    “We do have some good longitudinal data following the same people over time, but I am going to do a massive disservice to that science and just say: if you’re a man, you should probably get married; if you’re a woman, don’t bother.”

    Men benefited from marriage because they “calmed down”, he said. “You take less risks, you earn more money at work, and you live a little longer. She, on the other hand, has to put up with that, and dies sooner than if she never married. The healthiest and happiest population subgroup are women who never married or had children,” he said.
    Lol. I remember watching an interview with the oldest woman in the world (she just recently died - that Italian woman. She was like 117 or something). She was asked what she owed her long life to, and she said it was because she drank everyday and never married. :lol:
    Post edited by PJ_Soul on
    With all its sham, drudgery, and broken dreams, it is still a beautiful world. Be careful. Strive to be happy. ~ Desiderata
  • PJ_Soul
    PJ_Soul Vancouver, BC Posts: 50,960
    edited May 2019
    Yes
    Spiritual_Chaos said:
    I did it. I fucking did it.

    I shouldn't have. But I couldn't help myself.

    Fuck.

    A moment of weakness.

    I sent her the pic of Eddie with the koala. 

    Fuck.
    Uh-oh, spaghetti-o!
    Well... it will either lead to good things, or lead to the usual, which is ebbing back and forth until an end finally takes.
    Post edited by PJ_Soul on
    With all its sham, drudgery, and broken dreams, it is still a beautiful world. Be careful. Strive to be happy. ~ Desiderata
  • OffSheGoes35
    OffSheGoes35 Posts: 3,517
    No
    Spiritual_Chaos said:
    OffSheGoes35 said:
    I've decided on some soothing Tori Amos...
    https://youtu.be/OzFgpAOjAHA
    Posting a Tori Amos video... from one of her greatest albums..

    ... in another life you would be the one dumping me.
    No, I think you would be doing the dumping. I'm definitely American, you would hate that...oh wait, is that why you said, "in another life"?  :smiley:
  • hedonist
    hedonist Posts: 24,524
    Spiritual_Chaos said:
    To the ladies:

    Speaking at the Hay festival on Saturday, Paul Dolan, a professor of behavioural science at the London School of Economics, said the latest evidence showed that the traditional markers used to measure success did not correlate with happiness – particularly marriage and raising children.


    “Married people are happier than other population subgroups, but only when their spouse is in the room when they’re asked how happy they are. When the spouse is not present: fucking miserable,” he said.

    “We do have some good longitudinal data following the same people over time, but I am going to do a massive disservice to that science and just say: if you’re a man, you should probably get married; if you’re a woman, don’t bother.”

    Men benefited from marriage because they “calmed down”, he said. “You take less risks, you earn more money at work, and you live a little longer. She, on the other hand, has tl put up with that, and dies sooner than if she never married. The healthiest and happiest population subgroup are women who never married or had children,” he said.
    I call bullshit on the italicized part, plus a couple others.

    Further, I'm fortunate that I not only love my husband, but like him too.  Happiness isn't skipping around la-la-la-ing while wearing rosy glasses.  It's about living through some of life's worst blows together, and knowing there's no one else in the world we'd want with us in both good and bad times.  Vows and all...

    In the end, if possible, do what's right for you.
  • JPPJ84
    JPPJ84 Hamburg, Germany Posts: 3,464
    hedonist said:
    Spiritual_Chaos said:
    To the ladies:

    Speaking at the Hay festival on Saturday, Paul Dolan, a professor of behavioural science at the London School of Economics, said the latest evidence showed that the traditional markers used to measure success did not correlate with happiness – particularly marriage and raising children.


    “Married people are happier than other population subgroups, but only when their spouse is in the room when they’re asked how happy they are. When the spouse is not present: fucking miserable,” he said.

    “We do have some good longitudinal data following the same people over time, but I am going to do a massive disservice to that science and just say: if you’re a man, you should probably get married; if you’re a woman, don’t bother.”

    Men benefited from marriage because they “calmed down”, he said. “You take less risks, you earn more money at work, and you live a little longer. She, on the other hand, has tl put up with that, and dies sooner than if she never married. The healthiest and happiest population subgroup are women who never married or had children,” he said.
    I call bullshit on the italicized part, plus a couple others.

    Further, I'm fortunate that I not only love my husband, but like him too.  Happiness isn't skipping around la-la-la-ing while wearing rosy glasses.  It's about living through some of life's worst blows together, and knowing there's no one else in the world we'd want with us in both good and bad times.  Vows and all...

    In the end, if possible, do what's right for you.
    Well I for one took it rather tongue in cheek. I’m not single voluntarily so please leave me my illusion that it’s brilliant to be alone and free ;-) it’s so much easier to have all these happy(ish) couples around you when you’ve convinced yourself that you don’t need/want that. Works most of the time 😎
  • kce8
    kce8 Posts: 1,636
    Spiritual_Chaos said:
    I did it. I fucking did it.

    I shouldn't have. But I couldn't help myself.

    Fuck.

    A moment of weakness.

    I sent her the pic of Eddie with the koala. 

    Fuck.
    That old Eddie pic? ...Man... 

    ...but I understand, at least you're honest! 
  • hedonist
    hedonist Posts: 24,524
    JPPJ84 said:
    hedonist said:
    Spiritual_Chaos said:
    To the ladies:

    Speaking at the Hay festival on Saturday, Paul Dolan, a professor of behavioural science at the London School of Economics, said the latest evidence showed that the traditional markers used to measure success did not correlate with happiness – particularly marriage and raising children.


    “Married people are happier than other population subgroups, but only when their spouse is in the room when they’re asked how happy they are. When the spouse is not present: fucking miserable,” he said.

    “We do have some good longitudinal data following the same people over time, but I am going to do a massive disservice to that science and just say: if you’re a man, you should probably get married; if you’re a woman, don’t bother.”

    Men benefited from marriage because they “calmed down”, he said. “You take less risks, you earn more money at work, and you live a little longer. She, on the other hand, has tl put up with that, and dies sooner than if she never married. The healthiest and happiest population subgroup are women who never married or had children,” he said.
    I call bullshit on the italicized part, plus a couple others.

    Further, I'm fortunate that I not only love my husband, but like him too.  Happiness isn't skipping around la-la-la-ing while wearing rosy glasses.  It's about living through some of life's worst blows together, and knowing there's no one else in the world we'd want with us in both good and bad times.  Vows and all...

    In the end, if possible, do what's right for you.
    Well I for one took it rather tongue in cheek. I’m not single voluntarily so please leave me my illusion that it’s brilliant to be alone and free ;-) it’s so much easier to have all these happy(ish) couples around you when you’ve convinced yourself that you don’t need/want that. Works most of the time 😎
    Oh, no worries!  I've just read similar articles / studies posted by the OP about what women supposedly want and what makes them happy.  I was offering a differing mindset.

    For what it's worth, I figured I wasn't going to be with anyone long-term and that was fine...great, even.  But we met (here!) when I was in my early 30's and that was it.  I know of others here who've come together (no pun intended) in similar fashion.

    Sometimes things simply go better when unplanned.  Regardless, enjoy the ride ;)


  • OffSheGoes35
    OffSheGoes35 Posts: 3,517
    No
    Isn't it Thoughts Arrive who posts the articles/studies about women? I don't really remember Spiritual ever doing that before, but then again I don't really read the AMT threads anymore.

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