RIP Dad: Man of the Hour

TorontonianTorontonian Posts: 313
edited October 2018 in The Porch
I don't write in too many forums but Pearl Jam and this community have always made me feel like I was a part of something special.

My Dad passed away suddenly on Friday, September 28th, 2018.  The funeral is tomorrow.  I was very upset the day it happened and days after but was holding it together until "Man of the Hour" came on Pearl Jam Radio just before I was to visit with his best friends.

It's hard.  I lost my Mom to Alzheimer's in 2014 and now my Dad suddenly.  He was in good health but had cardiac arrest.

I was an only child so it's difficult to process that both of my parents are gone.

Pearl Jam's music will help me during these difficult times and crying is natural.  Man of the Hour just hit me hard.  It felt like he was playing it for me.

RIP Mom and Dad, I will always love you.
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  • F Me In The BrainF Me In The Brain this knows everybody from other commetsPosts: 16,713
    Fuck, I am sorry to read this.
    Best wishes to you as you work through this loss.
    The love he receives is the love that is saved
  • 1upstate1upstate near Syracuse NY Posts: 185
    Sorry for your loss. Music has always helped me through difficult times. 
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  • cp3iversoncp3iverson Posts: 5,345
    So sorry to hear this.  Know that you made them proud
  • mfc2006mfc2006 PDX--->KCPosts: 31,935
    So sorry to hear about your loss. Losing a parent is one of the toughest things, but you will get through this. 

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  • on2legson2legs The Jersey ShorePosts: 8,236
    My condolences for your loss.  
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  • willbarclaywillbarclay Ottawa, Canada Posts: 2,965
    I am very sorry for you.
    i can relate as I was also an only child and lost my dad the same way a couple years ago. 
    It takes time but It will get better eventually. 
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  • Sorry for your loss.  That song gets me every time, even w/o the context of losing a parent.  Hang in there!
  • crookedcrosscrookedcross Right Near Da Beach, BoiiiPosts: 1,046
    Sorry for your loss.  Stay strong.
  • AH200403AH200403 GeorgiaPosts: 34
    So sorry for your loss.  
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  • YourDirtisMyfoodYourDirtisMyfood BostonPosts: 3,525
    Thinking of you during these trying times.  
  • Thanks everyone I really appreciate it.  Trying to think of all the good times...
  • LoujoeLoujoe Posts: 772
    Wow. Take care and you're never alone. 
  • mwplummwplum Posts: 1,342
    Very sorry for your loss. Hope that you have a good network of support around you.
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  • Beautiful post. Sorry for your loss.
  • giventofly69giventofly69 VancouverPosts: 746
    Sorry about your loss. A very difficult time for you for sure. We are thinking of you. 
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  • 23scidoo23scidoo Thessaloniki,GreecePosts: 12,749
    Thanks everyone I really appreciate it.  Trying to think of all the good times...
    This is what you should do..sorry for your loss..
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  • SaravaSarava Naperville, ILPosts: 1,563
    I'm sorry for your loss.
  • deftonesdeftones Athens, GreecePosts: 2,432
    My condolences. Sorry for your loss.
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    Please accept my condolences on your loss ...
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  • SD48277SD48277 Woodstock, NYPosts: 12,170
    I am so sorry for your loss. 
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  • hedonisthedonist standing on the edge of foreverPosts: 19,791
    I hope you can find comfort when needed most.  I'm very sorry.
  • Sirens4Sirens4 Posts: 298
    Very sorry!! Use the music to heal! Lost my father unexpectedly 5 years ago right before my wedding!! Pearl Jam music greatly helped and still does !!
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  • So very sorry for your loss , I know at times like these words don't mean much. The only thing I will say is that one day and it may be a long time but one day you will be thinking of your dad and a smile will come across your face before a tear falls from your eye.

    Much love to you.

  • iwasatpj20iwasatpj20 Rockford, ILPosts: 2,919
    Sorry to hear about your dad's passing.  Our words may not mean much, but keep the positive memories of them with you at all times.  That has helped me with my mother's passing in July.  Best to you.
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  • treestrees Columbus OHIOPosts: 853
    I hear you peace and take of yourself, the music does help


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  • treestrees Columbus OHIOPosts: 853
    The music helps take care of yourself


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    PJ Cleveland OH 5/20/2006
    PJ Columbia SC 6/16/2008.....
    e.V Chicago IL 8/21/2008
    e.V Philly PA 6/11/2009
    e.V Bailtimore MD 6/14/2009...
    PJ Chicago IL 8/23/2009
    .PJ...Philly PA 10/27/2009 PJ.Philadephia PA 10/28/2009.
    PJ Columbus OH 5/6/2010
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    BRAD Columbus OH 10/5/2010
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  • EM194007EM194007 Posts: 2,783
    Sorry for your loss. My condolences to you hand all family and friends.
  • kce8kce8 Posts: 1,492
    I am feeling with you. It's the love we will keep forever in our hearts.
  • BasilgBasilg Killingworth, CT Posts: 24
    My sincerest condolences to you bro--rough sledding. Lost my mom on Thanksgiving '13 and 16-days later, my dad passed. So hard to process but know keeping their memories alive thru you helps so much. Say a quick prayer every night thanking them for the life they gave me. Try and integrate stories or anecdotes whenever I can..At the dinner table w/my wife and kids, parties with family/friends, etc.. Not only fills your heart, but makes people laugh, smile, and even cry. If you get all three, they are right there beside you.  Wishing you peace man.       
  • willbarclaywillbarclay Ottawa, Canada Posts: 2,965
    Matts3221 said:

    So very sorry for your loss , I know at times like these words don't mean much. The only thing I will say is that one day and it may be a long time but one day you will be thinking of your dad and a smile will come across your face before a tear falls from your eye.

    Much love to you.


    Speaking from my own experience, This is the opposite. Our words here can actually help quite a bit.

    When my father passed I found a lot of support within the first few days. People reached out to offer condolences and any assistance that they could.  Once the funeral had passed and the shock wore off so to did the support unfortunately. It became a very quiet time and only myself to deal. I was also an only child so I was alone.

    Thank God I had my little kids as they got me through 100%.

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