RIP Dad: Man of the Hour

hedonist

I hope you can find comfort when needed most.  I'm very sorry.

Sirens4

Very sorry!! Use the music to heal! Lost my father unexpectedly 5 years ago right before my wedding!! Pearl Jam music greatly helped and still does !!

Matts3221

So very sorry for your loss , I know at times like these words don't mean much. The only thing I will say is that one day and it may be a long time but one day you will be thinking of your dad and a smile will come across your face before a tear falls from your eye.

Much love to you.

iwasatpj20

Sorry to hear about your dad's passing.  Our words may not mean much, but keep the positive memories of them with you at all times.  That has helped me with my mother's passing in July.  Best to you.

trees

I hear you peace and take of yourself, the music does help

trees

The music helps take care of yourself

EM194007

Sorry for your loss. My condolences to you hand all family and friends.

kce8

I am feeling with you. It's the love we will keep forever in our hearts.

Basilg

My sincerest condolences to you bro--rough sledding. Lost my mom on Thanksgiving '13 and 16-days later, my dad passed. So hard to process but know keeping their memories alive thru you helps so much. Say a quick prayer every night thanking them for the life they gave me. Try and integrate stories or anecdotes whenever I can..At the dinner table w/my wife and kids, parties with family/friends, etc.. Not only fills your heart, but makes people laugh, smile, and even cry. If you get all three, they are right there beside you.  Wishing you peace man.       

willbarclay

Matts3221 said:

So very sorry for your loss , I know at times like these words don't mean much. The only thing I will say is that one day and it may be a long time but one day you will be thinking of your dad and a smile will come across your face before a tear falls from your eye.

Much love to you.

Speaking from my own experience, This is the opposite. Our words here can actually help quite a bit.

When my father passed I found a lot of support within the first few days. People reached out to offer condolences and any assistance that they could.  Once the funeral had passed and the shock wore off so to did the support unfortunately. It became a very quiet time and only myself to deal. I was also an only child so I was alone.

Thank God I had my little kids as they got me through 100%.

Torontonian

Thank you to this great community for all of your well wishes.  These words did mean a lot.  I have found that almost every Pearl Jam fan I have run into, I have a lot in common with, and we all share our love for this band and the music that has helped us in good times and in bad.

The funeral was yesterday.  It was both difficult and amazing.  So much support from friends and family.  Amazing to hear stories about my Dad that I have never heard.  I am very happy he had great relationships with amazing friends.  I spoke and my Dad's best friend spoke.  It was so hard to hear his best buddy talk about his loss.  I also found it hard to speak but kept it together and people said I honoured him in a way he would have loved.

I am not sure how I feel today.  The stress of the funeral planning is gone.  It is crazy you can take a year or more to plan a wedding but for a funeral you have to plan this big event while being f**ked up at the same time.

I am Canadian so going to Parry Sound cottage for the weekend with family which will be good to finally get away and try to get back to some normalcy.

I really appreciate all the words and thoughts of so many here.  I am a bit messed up still but I think time and memories will help me heal.

I am going to try to stay in touch more with friends and family and make sure I don't lose touch with my Dad's buddies.  Even a coffee here and there.  Life is so fast these days with so many demands but this event has punched me in the face and make me realize what is really important in life.

Thanks all.

jjflash

So sorry to hear about the loss of your parents, especially the sudden loss of your dad. May you find comfort in the grieving, and may the love and memories rise above the pain.

Vedder Vitamins

Our hearts and thoughts are with you. I lost both of my parents within 6 months of each other in 2013. Such trying times to say the least and it took a few years for the fog to lift.

But one day I woke up and said I can’t be miserable forever, plus no way they would want me to be anything but happy. Ever since that day, I have a new outlook on life and enjoy it everyday. It’s a great feeling. 

I like to believe I had a conversation with them that night.

giventofly69

Vedder Vitamins said:

Our hearts and thoughts are with you. I lost both of my parents within 6 months of each other in 2013. Such trying times to say the least and it took a few years for the fog to lift.

But one day I woke up and said I can’t be miserable forever, plus no way they would want me to be anything but happy. Ever since that day, I have a new outlook on life and enjoy it everyday. It’s a great feeling. 

I like to believe I had a conversation with them that night.

I lost my dad 10 years ago. It was one of the hardest times of my life.  And, I still miss him every day. But I can still feel him so close ... which is amazingly beautiful. I was in Seattle for the 2018, and the openers of Long Road into Release had me in tears, but it was this moment in time when I really felt my dad with me ... my heart was so full.  It's indescribable.  A beautiful memory that means so much to me.

whoyouare72

Sorry for your loss, hang in there.

Vedder Vitamins

giventofly69 said:

Vedder Vitamins said:

Our hearts and thoughts are with you. I lost both of my parents within 6 months of each other in 2013. Such trying times to say the least and it took a few years for the fog to lift.

But one day I woke up and said I can’t be miserable forever, plus no way they would want me to be anything but happy. Ever since that day, I have a new outlook on life and enjoy it everyday. It’s a great feeling. 

I like to believe I had a conversation with them that night.

I lost my dad 10 years ago. It was one of the hardest times of my life.  And, I still miss him every day. But I can still feel him so close ... which is amazingly beautiful. I was in Seattle for the 2018, and the openers of Long Road into Release had me in tears, but it was this moment in time when I really felt my dad with me ... my heart was so full.  It's indescribable.  A beautiful memory that means so much to me.

That’s awesome gtf69! Long road has always been my bugaboo, and now release has taken on so much more meaning. Completely agree with your ‘can’t describe’ comment