what's on your mind, right now?

lastexitlondon said:

Off the table onto to the floor?

hahaha!

Thoughts_Arrive said:

Why do girls avoid me?
I just told a girl from university that I worked on an assignment together with this past semester that I am in the same class as her for a summer class and that she can join me and another student I am friends with for any group work and she left the class and joined another one. She saw my message but didn't reply. WTF? :-(
Makes me feel like I am some creep, some weirdo and now I am feeling depressed.

It's not always about you. Not trying to be rude, but just being realistic. Schedules change, things happen. Don't let it get you down.

Lots of relationship problems on here. I hope they all get resolved with peace love and understanding.

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hauntingfamiliar said:

Thoughts_Arrive said:

Why do girls avoid me?
I just told a girl from university that I worked on an assignment together with this past semester that I am in the same class as her for a summer class and that she can join me and another student I am friends with for any group work and she left the class and joined another one. She saw my message but didn't reply. WTF? :-(
Makes me feel like I am some creep, some weirdo and now I am feeling depressed.

It's not always about you. Not trying to be rude, but just being realistic. Schedules change, things happen. Don't let it get you down.

Usually she replies to my messages.
She's moved to a class that is on the same time as mine just with a different teacher, nothing about schedules. 
I've found that it's hard to make friends at university. People either use me and then act like they don't know me or avoid me like I am some creep. It's quite depressing.

When she's right, she's right. You can't take anything personally in life. People are screwy and you really have no idea what they've been through. With certain people you try to make sense of things and it only leads to further confusion.

Thanks guys.

Thoughts_Arrive said:

It's not just this one, last semester this girl asked me for help with her anxiety issues. I gave her advice and checked in on her here and there to see how she was going. Now she walks past me without saying hi or pretends she can't see me as I walk past her. Plus she used to always come up and sit next to me during lectures and tutorials but this semester she chose to sit next to someone else. At the start of this semester she was in the back row of the lecture theatre, she came up to me and didn't say hi but just proceeded to ask me about the subject and after I answered her question she just left without saying thanks. I fucking regret telling her that I am on antidepressants to try make her not so scared to get on them herself. I don't fucking get it. I just get used and disposed all the time by people.

Yes, it seems she takes you for granted and she seems self absorbed. I’m sorry, and I hope you will meet someone kind hearted soon.

I have the best family in the world..i'm not even on a same level..

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Annafalk said:

Thoughts_Arrive said:

It's not just this one, last semester this girl asked me for help with her anxiety issues. I gave her advice and checked in on her here and there to see how she was going. Now she walks past me without saying hi or pretends she can't see me as I walk past her. Plus she used to always come up and sit next to me during lectures and tutorials but this semester she chose to sit next to someone else. At the start of this semester she was in the back row of the lecture theatre, she came up to me and didn't say hi but just proceeded to ask me about the subject and after I answered her question she just left without saying thanks. I fucking regret telling her that I am on antidepressants to try make her not so scared to get on them herself. I don't fucking get it. I just get used and disposed all the time by people.

Yes, it seems she takes you for granted and she seems self absorbed. I’m sorry, and I hope you will meet someone kind hearted soon.

And then there's those 2 that I made a thread about.
Seems like most people at university at suck.
Thanks.

possibilities:

-she is embarrassed about sharing too much with you too soon, so she's regretful and now withdrawn
-she feels maybe you came on too strong with how much you divulged to her and got scared off
-she is interested in another guy and doesn't want to give him the impression she's interested in any other guy at the moment

in my teens and 20's, I struck out with pretty much every girl I ever met. I could never figure out why. i was always the "friend". I found out years later from a few of them that it was because I took too long to make a move. they all thought I wasn't interested. but it was that I had no confidence. every g/f I've ever had, has made the first move. My wife included. Just never crosses my mind that anyone wants to be anything other than a friend. 

ridiculous story:
-I was once hanging out with this girl, we were coworkers at a restaurant; she was actually a model. we had plans to go to the bar that night. She invites me to her place. her parents aren't home. she tells me she isn't done getting ready, so follow her to her room. 

she proceeds to take her robe off down to her bra and panties and do her hair and whatnot. I did nothing. I laid on her bed and watched. It honestly didn't cross my mind to. I thought she was just used to being semi-naked in front of people being a model. I assumed I was already in the friend zone and I was just being gifted a nice view. 

after that night she never spoke to me again. I was told later that she felt humiliated that I did nothing after she had come on so strong. I had heard a similar story about another girl around the same time who then started dating a friend of mine as revenge. i was happy for her and him at the time so we could all hang out together (I was actually jealous!). until i saw them together and she looked at me and gave me the finger. I was so confused. she then told me her issues with why. all I could do was shake my head. she wouldn't believe me that I had no idea. I really didn't. 

another girl at my wedding social professed her attraction to me. I was like "WTF? NOW?". LOL

I didn't know my now-wife was interested until she told me she was in love with me. I thought at the time we were just best friends. LOL

now, there were also several girls who I tried to date and struck out with legitimately. I was just absolutely the worst at reading individual situations. it fucking sucked. 

anyway, it also sounds like you may have a confidence problem. try to hold your head high. the two biggest things humans seem to look for is humour and self confidence (but not ego). I had a big problem with being a guy with confidence. I would seem too eager and self-deprecating, and that was a massive turn off it seemed. 

jnimhaoileoin said:

The impending hurricane. I fear our tendency to be very relaxed about things may not stand us in good stead this time.... We're all laughing and joking about it now but I hope everyone will take sensible precautions to