I lost my wife a week ago (play Come Back at Wrigley)

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  • badbrains
    badbrains Posts: 10,255
    Adam, wow, fuck bro, I dnt have the words........this song WILL BE PLAYED at wrigley and about 3/4 of the fans there will all be singing it WITH SARAH. Hang in there man, sorry just doesn't cut it.
  • -Buru-
    -Buru- Santa Barbara, CA Posts: 1,292
    I'm really sorry for your loss. I hope they play Come Back for you, and any other people that may have recently lost someone they love.
    I am just a dreamer, but you are just a dream...
    If I knew where it was I would take you there.

  • mead60
    mead60 Posts: 31
    Wow. I don't even know where to begin. Having been a part of the PJ family for years, going to concerts, meeting people, listening to the most amazing music ever made, I have been incredibly fortunate to do so among friends and the most amazing person I can imagine (my wife). I truly can't fathom what you must be going through Adam. I do know that faith is a huge part of my life, and I am able to hold steadfast in the fact that eventually all things will work itself out. I have no doubt that Come Back will be played at Wrigley, and 3/4 of the crowd will be crying along with you in memory of Sarah and the amazing bond that you formed. It pains me to think of what life would be like without my wife and our connection to this amazing music that we not only listen to each day, but signify every moment by and enjoy because we have each other. I will pray for you each day before this concert and can't wait to share a small part in your joy/grieving/happiness that your wife's memory is honored in the correct way during this concert.
  • acutejam
    acutejam Posts: 1,433
    Oh man, too young. Too young. So sorry for your loss. I have always thought come back would be a good closer, but I hope they work it in nearer the middle to give you some time to just rage at the injustice of it all....

    "I'm on pain killers tonight because ... you know ... life." --Eddie Vedder, 6/12/09
    [sic] happens
  • Drdeal
    Drdeal Posts: 696
    Adam,

    Very sorry to hear of your loss. I am sure her song will be played and that she will be there in spirit to hear it with you. You and your wife are in my thoughts.

    Andrew
  • demetrios
    demetrios Posts: 97,411
    Very sorry about your loss. :(
  • pretext
    pretext Posts: 1,294
    Oh, man, what a terrible loss. Many, many condolences. I think I stand for everyone here saying that it'd be great to meet you and offer support at Wrigley. This is great community to rally for someone in times of need. Take care of yourself.
  • skanji32
    skanji32 Posts: 592
    Sorry for the abosoultely devestating news...

    Thoughts, prayers and love from Ottawa, Canada...
    My 22 shows:
    1996 - Toronto
    1998 - Montreal, Toronto
    2000 - Montreal, Toronto
    2003 - Toronto, Montreal
    2004 - Boston I, Boston II
    2005 - Kitchener, London, Hamilton, Montreal, Ottawa
    2011 - Toronto I, Toronto II, Ottawa
    2013 - London, Seattle
    2016 - Ottawa, Toronto I, Toronto II
  • skanji32
    skanji32 Posts: 592
    Hoosiers wrote:
    My decision to post this has gone over better than even I imagined. I appreciate all of the kind words everyone has shared with me...it really does help.

    I really can't explain the emotion I am feeling. I tear up at random times that are out of my control (I did it in a fast food drive thru line waiting to get a soda and I also did it at a public park). I wish those around me knew what I was going through so I don't have to hide it. The hardest things are the constant reminders of her presence around our house (even small things like a hair dryer, house plants, her DVR recordings, etc.) that always tug at my heart.

    I go back to work Thursday, so that is when things will probably start getting back to normal. I'm just not ready for it though. Sometimes reality doesn't seem real...and I wish it weren't.

    I miss my wife so much.

    Things aren't okay now, and they won't be for a while. Let yourself feel what you have to feel. Cry. Scream. Shout. Just express yourself, and get help if and when you think you need it. You have the entire Pearl Jam family around you. You are not alone...
    My 22 shows:
    1996 - Toronto
    1998 - Montreal, Toronto
    2000 - Montreal, Toronto
    2003 - Toronto, Montreal
    2004 - Boston I, Boston II
    2005 - Kitchener, London, Hamilton, Montreal, Ottawa
    2011 - Toronto I, Toronto II, Ottawa
    2013 - London, Seattle
    2016 - Ottawa, Toronto I, Toronto II
  • PJForceofNature
    PJForceofNature Posts: 3,087
    skanji32 wrote:
    Hoosiers wrote:
    My decision to post this has gone over better than even I imagined. I appreciate all of the kind words everyone has shared with me...it really does help.

    I really can't explain the emotion I am feeling. I tear up at random times that are out of my control (I did it in a fast food drive thru line waiting to get a soda and I also did it at a public park). I wish those around me knew what I was going through so I don't have to hide it. The hardest things are the constant reminders of her presence around our house (even small things like a hair dryer, house plants, her DVR recordings, etc.) that always tug at my heart.

    I go back to work Thursday, so that is when things will probably start getting back to normal. I'm just not ready for it though. Sometimes reality doesn't seem real...and I wish it weren't.

    I miss my wife so much.

    Things aren't okay now, and they won't be for a while. Let yourself feel what you have to feel. Cry. Scream. Shout. Just express yourself, and get help if and when you think you need it. You have the entire Pearl Jam family around you. You are not alone...

    This is so true. You are not alone. We are here for you, sending love and prayers your way. Please let us know if there is anything we can do for you.
    "A beacon on dry land"
  • PureandEasy
    PureandEasy Posts: 5,818
    very sorry for your loss

    I'm pretty sure you will get your wish at Wrigley, I think the mods tend to pass notices like this on.

    Take care.
    Don't come closer or I'll have to go
  • HEX
    HEX Posts: 235
    I'm so sorry to hear about your loss. My heart goes out to you and your family.
    Wishing you strength and all the best. Peace.
    I hope Come Back will be played at Wrigley.
  • PorchgirlCO
    PorchgirlCO Colorado Posts: 1,377
    So sorry for your loss!! I hope they play your requeat and I agree with boxorbag...
    boxorbag wrote:
    I don't think it's asking too much to dedicate it to her also. If they don't dedicate it to her every ten club member will know it is for her and be thinking of her.
    Shawn

    Take care,
    ginger
    I'll ride the wave where it takes me...

    Orlando 4/24/92 & 8/23/92, Miami 3/28/94, Ft Laud 10/7/96, Alpine Valley 6/26/98, Missoula 9/30/12, EV Jax 11/24/12 & 11/25/12, Chicago (Wrigley) 7/19/13, Charlottesville 10/29/13, Charlotte 10/30/13, Tulsa 10/8/14, Lincoln 10/9/14, Denver 10/22/14, Jacksonville 4/12/16, Greenville 4/16/16, Telluride 7/9/16, Boston (Fenway) 8/5/16 & 8/7/16, Seattle (Safeco) 8/10/18, Boston (Fenway) 9/2/18 & 9/4/18, Dana Point 10/1/21 & 10/2/21, MSG 9/11/22, Denver 9/22/22, Austin 9/18/23 & 9/19/23.
  • landingonwater
    landingonwater Posts: 325
    So sorry for your loss. The 10C community is here for you. Please play this at Wrigley! Eddie performed "Man of the Hour" for my grandfather who passed away shortly before the last Detroit solo show. I handed Eddie a letter before the show, so I hope this message reaches the band.
  • LB113337
    LB113337 Posts: 40
    Hoosiers wrote:
    My decision to post this has gone over better than even I imagined. I appreciate all of the kind words everyone has shared with me...it really does help.

    I really can't explain the emotion I am feeling. I tear up at random times that are out of my control (I did it in a fast food drive thru line waiting to get a soda and I also did it at a public park). I wish those around me knew what I was going through so I don't have to hide it. The hardest things are the constant reminders of her presence around our house (even small things like a hair dryer, house plants, her DVR recordings, etc.) that always tug at my heart.

    I go back to work Thursday, so that is when things will probably start getting back to normal. I'm just not ready for it though. Sometimes reality doesn't seem real...and I wish it weren't.

    I miss my wife so much.

    I am so sorry for your loss. While I can't know exactly what you are going through, the feelings you describe are very familiar to me.

    Last January, we unexpectedly lost our 5-year-old daughter, Maddy. On the second day back at kindergarten after Xmas break, during the after school care at her school, she complained about a headache, vomited, and quickly became unresponsive. Paramedics beat my wife to the school, and I was told to go straight to the emergency room to wait for them. "Pediatric code blue arriving in 5 minutes" was announced over the hospital intercom, and my heart sank. A few moments later I was met by a nurse and the hospital chaplain and brought to a small room to wait with my wife. Maddy's heart had stopped on the way to the hospital and they were currently trying to resuscitate her. They were able to restart her heart and immediately took her to have a CT scan.

    They told us that she had a massive hemorrhage in her brain and that there was zero brain activity. The next morning she was officially pronounced dead.

    Two weeks later I went back to work. I hope that returning to work helps you, but for me it did not. I could not concentrate on work, and I just felt so alone. Everyone was so afraid to upset me that they avoided me like the plague. I could only handle being at work for a few hours at a time at first. Luckily, my employer was very understanding.

    My only advice is to listen to your self, and do what it helping you.

    My wife and I will be at the Wrigley show. I'm hoping to hear Light Years, as that is the one that has been most meaningful to me. I hope they play Come Back for you. It's a great song, and is special for me too.
  • letim
    letim Posts: 60
    Hoosiers wrote:
    My decision to post this has gone over better than even I imagined. I appreciate all of the kind words everyone has shared with me...it really does help.

    I really can't explain the emotion I am feeling. I tear up at random times that are out of my control (I did it in a fast food drive thru line waiting to get a soda and I also did it at a public park). I wish those around me knew what I was going through so I don't have to hide it. The hardest things are the constant reminders of her presence around our house (even small things like a hair dryer, house plants, her DVR recordings, etc.) that always tug at my heart.

    I go back to work Thursday, so that is when things will probably start getting back to normal. I'm just not ready for it though. Sometimes reality doesn't seem real...and I wish it weren't.

    I miss my wife so much.

    Adam,

    We will be thinking of you tomorrow. Stay strong and cry like hell if you want to. You dont have to hide this. We're rooting for you and we are one big PJ Fam. Sarah will be with you always! WE WANT TO HEAR COME BACK AT WRIGLEY
    (twitter) @presleyleti
    4/21/2003 Lexington
    7/19/2013 Wrigley
    10/11/13 Pittsburgh
    10/12/13 Buffalo
    12/6/13 Seattle
    I know someday you'll have a beautiful life....
  • Hoosiers
    Hoosiers Indiana Posts: 189
    LB113337 wrote:
    I am so sorry for your loss. While I can't know exactly what you are going through, the feelings you describe are very familiar to me.

    Last January, we unexpectedly lost our 5-year-old daughter, Maddy. On the second day back at kindergarten after Xmas break, during the after school care at her school, she complained about a headache, vomited, and quickly became unresponsive. Paramedics beat my wife to the school, and I was told to go straight to the emergency room to wait for them. "Pediatric code blue arriving in 5 minutes" was announced over the hospital intercom, and my heart sank. A few moments later I was met by a nurse and the hospital chaplain and brought to a small room to wait with my wife. Maddy's heart had stopped on the way to the hospital and they were currently trying to resuscitate her. They were able to restart her heart and immediately took her to have a CT scan.

    They told us that she had a massive hemorrhage in her brain and that there was zero brain activity. The next morning she was officially pronounced dead.

    Two weeks later I went back to work. I hope that returning to work helps you, but for me it did not. I could not concentrate on work, and I just felt so alone. Everyone was so afraid to upset me that they avoided me like the plague. I could only handle being at work for a few hours at a time at first. Luckily, my employer was very understanding.

    My only advice is to listen to your self, and do what it helping you.

    My wife and I will be at the Wrigley show. I'm hoping to hear Light Years, as that is the one that has been most meaningful to me. I hope they play Come Back for you. It's a great song, and is special for me too.

    This just broke my heart. Poor, poor Maddy. Never had a chance at life. I couldn't imagine knowing what you went through. Unfortunately for me, I am all out of bereavement and vacation time and even though my employer told me I could take off more time, it would be out of my own pocket (I can't afford that right now).

    Thank you for taking time to write me...it really helps.

    It's amazing what this band's music can do for the healing process in humans...they amaze me more every day.
    ___________________________________________________________
    "A whisper in the dark...is that you, or just my thoughts?"
    -EV
  • Last-12-Exit
    Last-12-Exit Charleston, SC Posts: 8,661
    Hoosiers wrote:
    LB113337 wrote:
    I am so sorry for your loss. While I can't know exactly what you are going through, the feelings you describe are very familiar to me.

    Last January, we unexpectedly lost our 5-year-old daughter, Maddy. On the second day back at kindergarten after Xmas break, during the after school care at her school, she complained about a headache, vomited, and quickly became unresponsive. Paramedics beat my wife to the school, and I was told to go straight to the emergency room to wait for them. "Pediatric code blue arriving in 5 minutes" was announced over the hospital intercom, and my heart sank. A few moments later I was met by a nurse and the hospital chaplain and brought to a small room to wait with my wife. Maddy's heart had stopped on the way to the hospital and they were currently trying to resuscitate her. They were able to restart her heart and immediately took her to have a CT scan.

    They told us that she had a massive hemorrhage in her brain and that there was zero brain activity. The next morning she was officially pronounced dead.

    Two weeks later I went back to work. I hope that returning to work helps you, but for me it did not. I could not concentrate on work, and I just felt so alone. Everyone was so afraid to upset me that they avoided me like the plague. I could only handle being at work for a few hours at a time at first. Luckily, my employer was very understanding.

    My only advice is to listen to your self, and do what it helping you.

    My wife and I will be at the Wrigley show. I'm hoping to hear Light Years, as that is the one that has been most meaningful to me. I hope they play Come Back for you. It's a great song, and is special for me too.

    This just broke my heart. Poor, poor Maddy. Never had a chance at life. I couldn't imagine knowing what you went through. Unfortunately for me, I am all out of bereavement and vacation time and even though my employer told me I could take off more time, it would be out of my own pocket (I can't afford that right now).

    Thank you for taking time to write me...it really helps.

    It's amazing what this band's music can do for the healing process in humans...they amaze me more every day.
    Hang in there man. I feel so bad for u and your family. I won't be at Wrigley, but ill be singing come back along with u guys in July.
  • Catwoman1
    Catwoman1 Posts: 482
    What a beautiful tribute. I am so sorry.

    Please play Come Back at Wrigley.
    You can't be neutral on a moving train.
  • eddiec
    eddiec Posts: 3,959
    That was a very emotional video to watch. I'm very sorry for your loss. I hope Pearl Jam grants your wish.

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