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  • pjl44
    pjl44 Posts: 10,654
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    Nope, no phone numbers were exchanged. He does have my number, though, because I gave it to him yesterday in case he needed to reach me today after I had already left to meet him.

    Ah. So what's the plan? Give him a few days to call then maybe drop an email?
  • kellanazzie
    kellanazzie Posts: 1,484
    _ wrote:
    We talked about biological determinism and his theory on how religion may have an evolutionary effect on male mating practices. We talked about the hierarchical nature of friend & sibling relationships in humans and how they relate to baboon interaction. (He brought it up, not me.)
    And then I called my sister and told her I was going to kill her.

    I am so entertained right now & impressed by this thread...you guys are awesome...I gotta say, the above almost made me p :lol: very deep stuff....I'm more impressed that you remembered all that....riveting
  • DS1119
    DS1119 Posts: 33,497
    _ wrote:
    iluvcats wrote:
    ____, do you get the impression he knows he is good looking?

    Maybe. And/or knows he's unbelievably talented & brilliant. He probably gets hit on a lot. He didn't really seem cocky though - just more confident than I imagined. Had he seemed more vulnerable, I think I would have been able to relate to him more.


    Just because he didn't seem vulnerable on the first date doesn't mean he isn't. You broke the ice with him and if you're attracted go for it. Let him know you're interested and go from there. He wouldn't have met with you if he wasn't interested. 8-) :thumbup:
  • RKCNDY
    RKCNDY Posts: 31,013
    I'm glad you had a good time! :thumbup:

    I would let him make the next move, he'll prob ask you to karaoke! :lol:
    The joy of life comes from our encounters with new experiences, and hence there is no greater joy than to have an endlessly changing horizon, for each day to have a new and different sun.

    - Christopher McCandless
  • _
    _ Posts: 6,657
    pjl44 wrote:
    _ wrote:
    Nope, no phone numbers were exchanged. He does have my number, though, because I gave it to him yesterday in case he needed to reach me today after I had already left to meet him.

    Ah. So what's the plan? Give him a few days to call then maybe drop an email?

    I'm not sure what my plan is. The polite person in me feels like emailing him to say thanks, but I'll probably just drop it & let him contact me if he wants to. I'm not trying to chase after anyone. I think I was pretty clear in my initial email that I like him, and I mentioned when I left today that maybe we could continue our conversation sometime. If he wants to continue it, he knows how to reach me.



    Or shit.... I don't know. I don't want to be rude. Maybe I should just email him & say thanks for the lemonade & conversation. (But the problem is that many guys are quick to mistake politeness for eagerness, which is not the message I want to send.)
  • RKCNDY
    RKCNDY Posts: 31,013
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    Or shit.... I don't know. I don't want to be rude. Maybe I should just email him & say thanks for the lemonade & conversation. (But the problem is that many guys are quick to mistake politeness for eagerness, which is not the message I want to send.)

    just email him, "thank-you for meeting with me, I had a nice time chatting with you"

    if you're not actively seeking a date, then leave it at that. He'll ask you if he wants to see you again. You did pursue him in the first place.
    The joy of life comes from our encounters with new experiences, and hence there is no greater joy than to have an endlessly changing horizon, for each day to have a new and different sun.

    - Christopher McCandless
  • stargirl69
    stargirl69 Posts: 6,387
    kellanazzie wrote:
    _ wrote:
    We talked about biological determinism and his theory on how religion may have an evolutionary effect on male mating practices. We talked about the hierarchical nature of friend & sibling relationships in humans and how they relate to baboon interaction. (He brought it up, not me.)
    And then I called my sister and told her I was going to kill her.

    I am so entertained right now & impressed by this thread...you guys are awesome...I gotta say, the above almost made me p :lol: very deep stuff....I'm more impressed that you remembered all that....riveting

    I would have found the topic of conversation on a first date leaving me thinking :wtf: is he trying to be uber intellectual? :?

    But I am impressed that you remembered the little details :lol:
    “There should be a place where only the things you want to happen, happen”
  • pandora
    pandora Posts: 21,855
    I've been wondering what he would think about this thread ...
  • polaris_x
    polaris_x Posts: 13,559
    soooooo ... no janitorial closet!?? ... it's not how i envisioned it ... :lol::lol::lol:

    we wait for second date ... one preferably with a little spirits involved ... ;)
  • iluvcats
    iluvcats Posts: 5,153
    when I read this thread, I'm glad I'm old and married.
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  • Black Diamond
    Black Diamond Posts: 25,109
    pandora wrote:
    I've been wondering what he would think about this thread ...
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  • 81
    81 Needing a ride to Forest Hills and a ounce of weed. Please inquire within. Thanks. Or not. Posts: 58,276
    is it too soon to send him boobie shots? :?:
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  • Black Diamond
    Black Diamond Posts: 25,109
    norm wrote:
    the homeless and biological determinism? :?


    he really is mr sensitive pony tail guy ;):lol::lol:
    I'm trying to think about the first conversation my wife and I had...

    I am absolutely sure the following phrase was uttered by me... "Soooooo.... How about them Mets? :wtf:
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  • rick1zoo2
    rick1zoo2 between a rock and a dumb place Posts: 12,632
    _ wrote:
    We talked about biological determinism and his theory on how religion may have an evolutionary effect on male mating practices. We talked about the hierarchical nature of friend & sibling relationships in humans and how they relate to baboon interaction.

    wow. is this the kinds of stuff other couples talk about? :?
  • 81
    81 Needing a ride to Forest Hills and a ounce of weed. Please inquire within. Thanks. Or not. Posts: 58,276
    Black Diamond wrote:
    "Soooooo.... How about them Mets?


    my brother says that all the time... :lol:
    81 is now off the air

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  • polaris_x
    polaris_x Posts: 13,559
    rick1zoo2 wrote:
    _ wrote:
    We talked about biological determinism and his theory on how religion may have an evolutionary effect on male mating practices. We talked about the hierarchical nature of friend & sibling relationships in humans and how they relate to baboon interaction.

    wow. is this the kinds of stuff other couples talk about? :?

    first time i met my gf we talked about social constructs and the corruption of the political state and the ultimate need for revolution ... :lol:
  • JonnyPistachio
    JonnyPistachio Florida Posts: 10,219
    _ wrote:
    We talked about biological determinism and his theory on how religion may have an evolutionary effect on male mating practices.

    Is this a metaphor for finding the janitorial closet? ;)
    _ wrote:
    It was funny, but as we were walking out he made a point to assure me that he's really very liberal. (I guess he thought some of the things he said about biology didn't sound very liberal.) I'm curious as to why he felt the need to let me know that.

    Maybe he did some reverse stalking and found this board, confirming that you are a liberal? :shock:

    Glad to hear it went well! all joking aside, that sounds like some interesting conversation. And I wouldnt think too much on the chemistry thing..it was a daytime meeting in a loud crowded place. I know some men (maybe just me, i suppose) need a relaxing environment with some booze to really get the butter rolling. :D
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  • _
    _ Posts: 6,657
    stargirl69 wrote:
    kellanazzie wrote:
    _ wrote:
    We talked about biological determinism and his theory on how religion may have an evolutionary effect on male mating practices. We talked about the hierarchical nature of friend & sibling relationships in humans and how they relate to baboon interaction. (He brought it up, not me.)
    And then I called my sister and told her I was going to kill her.

    I am so entertained right now & impressed by this thread...you guys are awesome...I gotta say, the above almost made me p :lol: very deep stuff....I'm more impressed that you remembered all that....riveting

    I would have found the topic of conversation on a first date leaving me thinking :wtf: is he trying to be uber intellectual? :?

    But I am impressed that you remembered the little details :lol:

    It's funny, because on one hand I thought it was great & felt like we had that in common because those are the kinds of conversations I enjoy having but my friends always tell me to avoid with guys. On the other hand, he was being über-intellectual & it almost made me feel uncomfortable/inadequate because I haven't studied that stuff in a really long time & rarely do have such conversations anymore.
  • Black Diamond
    Black Diamond Posts: 25,109
    _ wrote:
    It's funny, because on one hand I thought it was great & felt like we had that in common because those are the kinds of conversations I enjoy having but my friends always tell me to avoid with guys. On the other hand, he was being über-intellectual & it almost made me feel uncomfortable/inadequate because I haven't studied that stuff in a really long time & rarely do have such conversations anymore.

    It's sounds like you held your own... I am feeling inadequate reading the subject of the conversation :lol:
    Don't put yourself down...
    You put yourself out there... He had to do no work and it sounds like you talked well beyond what he thought would be the length...

    All awesome signs...
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  • _
    _ Posts: 6,657
    JonnyPistachio wrote:
    _ wrote:
    It was funny, but as we were walking out he made a point to assure me that he's really very liberal. (I guess he thought some of the things he said about biology didn't sound very liberal.) I'm curious as to why he felt the need to let me know that.

    Maybe he did some reverse stalking and found this board, confirming that you are a liberal? :shock:

    Well, no. :? I don't think anyone would be able to tell what my political perspective is from this board. :?









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