Second worst day of the worst year of my life...

Oh and dude. Breakups suck i know this but they are much cheaper than a divorce. Trust me i know all to well from the super whore who was spawned from satans arm pit that is my ex wife. That bitch emptied my savings, took all my stuff (Except for army stuff and a dresser full of clothes) took the car and gave away my dog when she got back to Ohio all while i was in Bosnia. Nothing like coming home to a empty house after being in a shitty country for 13 months. Whats my point?

Simple there were times when i had a gun barrell in my mouth ready to pull the trigger. I pussied out (thank god) and as time went by i focused on me (with mandatory counciling Thanks First Sgt Hall) and started to realize she is a demon cum gargling whore and i'm awesome. Obviously i had other issues for me to be suicidal and i did p.t.s.d was/still is a big one. But my point is dude. I can drag my ass up from the pitt of destruction and disbelief than damnit you can to. You wanna know why? Cause you're awesome.

Hang in there Dave. It may be tough right now, but focus on the now. Don't let the emotions and feelings fester in you. Feel them. They are real and they are ok to have. Just try not to stay in one emotion too long. What I found that works when I was going through my seperation was journaling. Write it all out or shoot yourself an email with what's in your head at the moment. That has saved me on numerous occasions
And remember you are number 1. You are your own first priority. Eat, sleep, rest, do what needs to be done for you first. Because you are so worth it.
Hang in there. If you need to talk or vent or anything...I'm here. I know how it feels..I went through it as well.

Sorry you are having a bad year. As others have said, you have to take care of yourself and eat....and as corny as it sounds: one day at a time.

Take care........

JaneNY wrote:

And my dear sweet cat died on Friday.

And I'm so sorry to hear this, too, Jane. I can understand this pain as well. The end of a life, or a relationship, is never easy, no matter what. My thoughts are with you. My cat is 17 and he's my baby and I think he had a stroke or something in his brain happen just last night, so it's not an easy time here. Sadness..

I'm so sorry

This year has been a load of fucking garbage, I swear. Can't wait for it to end already.

Get_Right wrote:

Sorry to hear you are in a bad place.
Whenever this kind of stuff happens to me, I always think about other people in much worse situations than me. You lost loved ones, but you have life, and that is precious. Dont lose sight of that despite the bad feelings.

Agreed...as difficult as it is to only look inward at your hurt, look out and see that (i'm sure) that there are other people that love you and you should try and focus on them AND not forget them as I AM SURE that they would and will be there for you and all you have to do is ask.

Look at this post...all these kind words and some of these people you haven't even met..yet.

chin up. You are loved, liked and appreciated don't loose sight of that.

10c and its members are ALWAYS here for you.

Sorry you're going through a rough time...this seems to be a rough year for lots of us...In January, I had a friend & coworker take his own life (which is a very different kind of grieving) and then I lost my Uncle shortly after that and my stepdad had to have his 2nd open heart surgery this year too (he made it through ok..but it was very scary). It sounds cliche, but I try to think how much I should value life during bad times like these. I try to focus and remember the good things that happened this year...like driving 14 hours to Wi to meet up with strangers (now friends) and having the time of my life

In regards to the breakup...I think most of us have had our heart thrown around..it sucks, but time will help even if it doesn't seem like that now. Focus on whatever makes you happy...friends, family, music, charging stations

Just remember that you're not alone...I know this is an amazing community that will help you through this!

1 day at a time bro, 1 day at a time. Self medication in public leads to meeting more girls.
(So long as you are a nice guy drinker and not angry guy drinker.)

Use it as a reason to get together with some friends you have lost touch with. Never know what can lead where.

Hope u feel better today brotha. From 1 RF to another.
What does self medicate involve btw?

DS1119 wrote:

faceintheclouds wrote:

Hope u feel better today brotha. From 1 RF to another.
What does self medicate involve btw?

Just beer. All of the other stuff,and there was a lot of it, ended when college ended...ok maybe a couple of summers after college it ended.

If you are just hanging out I would suggest good vodka. on the rocks. wont gain the beer weight, takes much less of it to do the trick and you will feel better in the AM.