Second worst day of the worst year of my life...

supadupa

conman wrote:

hey man, i know exactly how feel.... it sucks. best advice i can give you is don't let yourself sink too deep, keep your mind occupied. if you can learn to take your mind off it, everything will come back(appetite, happiness).

obviously this won't happen over night, just stick with it and you'll be fine.

shoot me a pm if you ever just need to talk to someone...

This. When my ex-husband walked out on me a few years back I felt the lowest I had ever been. But things got okay for me again. I think I'm a better person now from the experience, but at the time it did deeply, utterly suck.

faceintheclouds

DS1119 wrote:

January 10th my Dad passed away. Today, October 24th, my girlfriend/fiance' of almost 8 years have officialy split. Needless to say I was not a willing party for this. I'm heartbroken.

Sucks dude. You can have mine???
Stay strong brother. There are plenty of women out there. Who knows you might score a lovely pj lady on here!!

mfc2006

Sorry to hear this, man. Keep your head up...you'll get through this.

rick1zoo2

from someone that has been in a soul crushing situation for years and went through a season of close relatives and friends dying all I can say is that things will get better, you just have to find a way to get through it. seriously find a hobby, start working out, running, something else to focus on.

Poncier

DS1119 wrote:

January 10th my Dad passed away. Today, October 24th, my girlfriend/fiance' of almost 8 years have officialy split. Needless to say I was not a willing party for this. I'm heartbroken.

I lost my Mom January 2nd. It cast a pall on the year, so I can sympathize.
I'm sorry to hear about your travails, things probably seem like they'll never get better, but they will, just hang in there and remember there's plenty of us here to talk to. Feel free to shhot a PM if you like.

Take Care.

DS1119

mfc2006 wrote:

Sorry to hear this, man. Keep your head up...you'll get through this.

Thanks. :(

FenwayFaithful

Sorry to hear this man. 2011 has been a difficult year for me too. I have a thing about even years being good and odd years bad. Keep the faith and hang in there. Good times are ahead for you.

comebackgirl

So sorry to hear this. Losing two very close people in such a short time is tough. You'll make it through. Just let the feelings come but don't stay stuck in them.

Enkidu

I already sent you a PM but I forgot this part. My boyfriend dumped me after two years and I decided I would never ever fall in love again. Maybe a month later I went on a date and I had this sort of "what the fuck" attitude and at the end of the date I said, "So, am I gonna see you again?" because I didn't care, I was sick of the games and stuff. And he said, "Well, no, cause I'm really busy with work and law school" and I thought - well, at least he's honest.

He called a day later, we dated, fell in love, got married, two kids later and he's still the love of my life.

So - yeah, there's bad stuff. But then there's really good stuff that surprises you, too.

JaneNY

I'm so sorry for the loss of your dad. Mine died in 07, and my mother died in 95. And my dear sweet cat died on Friday. 8 years together then a breakup has got to be so hard. Pain is pain and it hurts. Be easy on yourself and give yourself time to get through everything. Be in a daze when you need to be. Sleep.

morello

Just do one foot after the other for as long as you need to & #1, as much as it's hard right now look after yourself, really really important you make yourself eat, sleep, hydrate(water) etc. Focus on doin that basic stuff, taking good care of you to do your Dad proud & be true to the real you who is a strong, capable & cool guy who deserves the best. Hang in there, stick at making yourself go through the motions & it will get better & along the road you know you have a lot of people here who care.

ShimmyMommy

Dave, I am so sorry to hear this. Please, please take care of yourself. I just want to give you a hug. If you feel like talking, feel free to PM me. Love, light and hugs.

Suziemay

Sorry to hear this DS. You will get through this even if it doesn't feel like you will. Hugs and take good care of yourself.

thefixer9

I'm so sorry to hear this. I know for awhile you are going to feel like you are slipping away from the word but you have to realize that because something bad happens doesn't mean you have to go down too. You are a tough man and will survive this, you are still alive. Your day of rebirth will come soon enough. If you ever want to message me feel free to do so. I just helped out a friend who went through something very similar. We are all here to help you through this, just have faith and patience.

LikeAnOcean

Just make sure you eat food and sleep, man.. i'm going through something similar, but not quite and I can't even immagine.. I've lost a few pounds in the last week and we need to keep surviving! easier said than done!

Poncier

Gob wrote:

Just make sure you eat food and sleep, man.. !

Yeah, a nice steak with ketchup to get some of that weight back on.

pandora

I am very sorry for your losses, time will heal.
With each break the heart mends stronger, you know that.
Wishing you a new year of smiles, happiness and love.

Claireack

So sorry to hear this. :(

gimmesometruth27

oh man, i am sorry to hear that. i have been through a similar experience. i was utterly shattered. i was so depressed i had to resort to meds and therapy because the self medicating i was doing got to the point where i was self-destructive. there was nothing i could do to fill that hole left by that loss. the only thing that filled it was alcohol, and that only worked because it made me forget about my situation for awhile. i made a lot of stupid decisions before i got help with my depression, and getting help was the best thing that ever happened to me. i am a much stronger person now for having experienced it.

trust me, i am living proof that life goes on after heartbreak. lean on your friends. that is what they are there for. keep a journal or just write. you need to do something to get it out. besides, as time passes i can refer back to the journal i kept and i can see how low i was and how far i have come. that really helped me out.

i am not going to give you false hope that things are going to work themselves out between you and her.. a lot of people did that to me initially seemingly just to placate me, and speaking from experience i can tell you that that false hope made things worse, as it delayed my acceptance of the situation. if you really want to stay with her hope for the best, in that you reconcile, but mentally prepare for the worst, that you have lost her for good, and if you salvage a friendship at least she is still in your life to some extent. that is more than i can say for my relationship.

hang in there man, and if i can help in any way shoot me a pm.

BinauralJam

Sorry about your Dad man, women are nuts, hopefully she'll figure out she made a mistake and come back, in the mean while, EAT!