my world has turned to black

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  • Odin
    Odin Posts: 599
    dasnuf wrote:
    we all no life is not fair just wanted to vent a little and put my thoughts on paper ,but heartless pricks like you don't get that you call me a loser for missing a women i wanted to spend the rest of my life with,if that is the definition then you are right i am a loser and you obviously never cared about anything but yourself

    i wish you lots of luck dude you sound very empty inside
    i guess a those songs about loss and grief written by great artist like pj and others are all written by losers also

    I'm too busy making the most of my life to be feeling sorry for myself all the time.

    The difference between Eddie Vedder singing about grief and you posting about it is that one of the two is entertaining.
  • Anon
    Anon Posts: 11,175
    I agree---forget Odin! Some people can be incredibly rude with a keyboard. Pay him no mind.

    You are human and feeling the pain we have all felt at some point in our lives. When Ed sings those words, you understand how he penned them. I never want to feel that way again, but it is never a guarantee. I have been married 9 years and we are solid, but if it fell apart as life sometimes does I would be smacked back to "15 years old", as Odin suggests. It breaks my heart to see your hurt and I don't even know you. Just know that as a female PJ fan, it is one of the most romantic things ever to hear your man can't stand to think of seeing another PJ show without you. Maybe there is hope, and I hope there is. Good luck.
  • dasnuf
    dasnuf Posts: 7
    Odin wrote:
    I'm too busy living my life to the fullest to be feeling sorry for myself all the time.

    yeah i'm sure your life is awesome dude nobody is feeling sorry for themselves they are just dealing with their shit in their own way and if you are that much of an asshole to realize that then nobody can change your mind

    i would love to go back and fourth with you on here and expose you for the narrow minded prick you are but if i fight with a dumb ass then what does that make me, everyone here knows they are smarter than you, so we will just ignore you and hopefully you will scurry away like the cockroach that you are..

    i cant believe you are into the same shit as us you most have found this site by accident looking for jerkoff.com and were to stupid to leave
  • ONCE DEVIDED
    ONCE DEVIDED Posts: 1,131
    Odin wrote:
    Nobody said life would be fair. Learn from your mistakes and move on. You're a grown adult, not an emotional teenager. Nothing pains me more than reading posts from middle-aged losers who possess the maturity of a 15 year-old.
    at least they dont have the maturity of a selfish 2 year old like yourself.
    I didnt realise people sharing how their feeling is a bad thing. sounds like everyone is getting on with life, just that some are having a hard time of it right now.
    A little compassion would go far.
    best of luck to all
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  • froggy bunnyman
    froggy bunnyman Posts: 164
    Hey dasnuf, I see what you mean.
    Take care of yourself.
    Life is so important, so don't waste it.
    Even if it's hard to live sometimes without the one you love beside you.
    It can be fucking hard, but carry on & hold on, mate.

    We are many like you... :)
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  • Samule
    Samule Posts: 3,231
    hey mate, i don't know what to say, apart from aww fuck :( i know nothing i will say will change anything so all i can say is fuck :(
  • reignoerme
    reignoerme Posts: 13
    be sound
  • Indian Summer
    Indian Summer Posts: 2,296
    Odin wrote:
    I'm too busy making the most of my life to be feeling sorry for myself all the time.

    From a purely psychological standpoint, you're life is not very fulfilling, as you make it sound. If it were then you wouldn't need to put down the lives of others and make yourself seem perfect, on a message board no less. You have deep issues, and I hope for you that you can resolve these to find out what true happiness and fulfillment really are like, for it is a beautiful thing. Good luck on this endeavor.



    As for you dasnuf. Hang in there. It's tough now, but over time you will persevere. We never know what's in store for us in life. Just take one day at a time and remember things could ALWAYS be worse. Peace.
    "It's all happening"
  • Odin
    Odin Posts: 599
    dasnuf wrote:
    yeah i'm sure your life is awesome dude nobody is feeling sorry for themselves they are just dealing with their shit in their own way and if you are that much of an asshole to realize that then nobody can change your mind

    i would love to go back and fourth with you on here and expose you for the narrow minded prick you are but if i fight with a dumb ass then what does that make me, everyone here knows they are smarter than you, so we will just ignore you and hopefully you will scurry away like the cockroach that you are..

    i cant believe you are into the same shit as us you most have found this site by accident looking for jerkoff.com and were to stupid to leave

    Whatever. You registered on this forum to whine to everybody about your personal problems, and quite frankly, I am surprised that anyone even gave a shit. The real world isn't like that. It will go on despite your setbacks. Part of being a man is getting over them instead of reacting to them like an emotional bitch. Life is what you make it, and therefore you have only yourself to blame for any troubles that come your way. Nobody likes whiners -- especially pathetic, middle-aged whiners, so maybe it's time you start being a man and not letting things bring you down so much.
  • Beav
    Beav Posts: 223
    Odin wrote:
    Whatever. You registered on this forum to whine to everybody about your personal problems, and quite frankly, I am surprised that anyone even gave a shit. The real world isn't like that. It will go on despite your setbacks. Part of being a man is getting over them instead of reacting to them like an emotional bitch. Life is what you make it, and therefore you have only yourself to blame for any troubles that come your way. Nobody likes whiners -- especially pathetic, middle-aged whiners, so maybe it's time you start being a man and not letting things bring you down so much.

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  • faithful2you
    faithful2you Madison, WI Posts: 779
    Odin wrote:
    Whatever. You registered on this forum to whine to everybody about your personal problems, and quite frankly, I am surprised that anyone even gave a shit. The real world isn't like that. It will go on despite your setbacks. Part of being a man is getting over them instead of reacting to them like an emotional bitch. Life is what you make it, and therefore you have only yourself to blame for any troubles that come your way. Nobody likes whiners -- especially pathetic, middle-aged whiners, so maybe it's time you start being a man and not letting things bring you down so much.

    Wow

    This is dead on.....
    Indian Summer wrote:
    From a purely psychological standpoint, you're life is not very fulfilling, as you make it sound. If it were then you wouldn't need to put down the lives of others and make yourself seem perfect, on a message board no less.
    Like a word misplaced...nothing said...what a waste
  • fanch75
    fanch75 Posts: 3,734
    dasnuf wrote:
    you guys are great i half expected to get ripped for my post, i should have known better from pearl jam fans.
    thanxs guys still feel like sh*t but your words give me strength
    i don't know if i will ever feel better, but my thoughts are with those of you who posted going threw same crap ,maybe we are just not meant to be with one person for the rest of our lives as much as we would want to be
    thanks again everybody

    And these days, they linger on
    And I'm the night, as I'm waiting on
    The real possibility I may meet you in my dream
    I go to sleep

    I've been through The War and The War sucks.

    I recommend delving into things that are your own. Get with friends, start lifting weights, doing some cardio, work on yourself some, and do some shit you like doing. Go out on weekends and drink some beers if you like doing that. You're going to grieve, but that doesn't mean you can't cover up some of that with good times. It helps.

    Most likely your self esteem is devastated right now....which is why I recommend the exercise and self-betterment stuff. It won't help much today, but in two months you'll have that to hang your hat on.

    You probalby shouldn't listen to much PJ, to be honest. It connects you with your soon-to-be ex and it always will. Maybe listen to some other stuff you like, maybe stuff you grew up with before you knew her.

    Try to know you before you were with her, and start there. Get to feeling youthful and carefree for a bit and eventually you'll get through it.

    Play on playa. Pop ya collar.
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  • DiRtYyELLoWoCeAn
    DiRtYyELLoWoCeAn Medford, Ma Posts: 1,605
    fanch75 wrote:
    I've been through The War and The War sucks.

    I recommend delving into things that are your own. Get with friends, start lifting weights, doing some cardio, work on yourself some, and do some shit you like doing. Go out on weekends and drink some beers if you like doing that. You're going to grieve, but that doesn't mean you can't cover up some of that with good times. It helps.

    Most likely your self esteem is devastated right now....which is why I recommend the exercise and self-betterment stuff. It won't help much today, but in two months you'll have that to hang your hat on.

    You probalby shouldn't listen to much PJ, to be honest. It connects you with your soon-to-be ex and it always will. Maybe listen to some other stuff you like, maybe stuff you grew up with before you knew her.

    Try to know you before you were with her, and start there. Get to feeling youthful and carefree for a bit and eventually you'll get through it.

    Play on playa. Pop ya collar.









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  • fanch75
    fanch75 Posts: 3,734
    Thanks. Hearing "It'll get better" and "THis too shall pass" are nice in sentiment but don't help very much. He needs action steps to follow up on. Things are out of control; what can a brother do to get back in control? "It'll get better" doesn't do shit for that.
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  • greasyt
    greasyt Posts: 49
    This is very sad to read indeed. I hope for you some how there is a way to patch things up and make it work. If not, like another poster said, time does heal. Just keep you're head up & hang in there.
  • harmless_little_f***
    harmless_little_f*** Posts: 8,005
    fanch75 wrote:
    Thanks. Hearing "It'll get better" and "THis too shall pass" are nice in sentiment but don't help very much. He needs action steps to follow up on. Things are out of control; what can a brother do to get back in control? "It'll get better" doesn't do shit for that.

    On the flipside of that, you don't always want to be told about 'steps to take' either. This isn't careers advice or a graduate degree. Sometimes you just want your emotions heard and acknowledged... The 'steps' just tend to happen by themselves, because they have to. Life doesn't stop for anyone. But sometimes we have to stop for ourselves.
    'We're learning songs for baby Jesus' birthday. His mum and dad were Merry and Joseph. He had a bed made of clay and the three kings bought him Gold, Frankenstein and Merv as presents.'

    - the great Sir Leo Harrison
  • fanch75
    fanch75 Posts: 3,734
    harmless_little_f*** wrote:
    On the flipside of that, you don't always want to be told about 'steps to take' either. This isn't careers advice or a graduate degree. Sometimes you just want your emotions heard and acknowledged... The 'steps' just tend to happen by themselves, because they have to. Life doesn't stop for anyone. But sometimes we have to stop for ourselves.

    Well see, in my original post (you may have missed it) I stated that he is going to grieve emotionally as part of the process. Can't avoid the grieving.

    I've been through what he's been through (maybe you have been too, I don't know) and I know what this can do to a self-esteem: it destroys it. There's that feeling of loss of control & direction. "Doing" gives you the control back, at least of your own life and your own betterment.
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  • harmless_little_f***
    harmless_little_f*** Posts: 8,005
    fanch75 wrote:
    Well see, in my original post (you may have missed it) I stated that he is going to grieve emotionally as part of the process. Can't avoid the grieving.

    I've been through what he's been through (maybe you have been too, I don't know) and I know what this can do to a self-esteem: it destroys it. There's that feeling of loss of control & direction. "Doing" gives you the control back, at least of your own life and your own betterment.

    Going through it right now mate.. and you're right. I'm just not in that stage yet where I want to hear about 'steps to take'... That said, I have to because I have a job to maintain.. Teenagers don't realise how lucky they are that they are able to just slob around, get fat and write 'Fuck the Police' on their bedroom wall.
    'We're learning songs for baby Jesus' birthday. His mum and dad were Merry and Joseph. He had a bed made of clay and the three kings bought him Gold, Frankenstein and Merv as presents.'

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  • fanch75
    fanch75 Posts: 3,734
    I hear you!

    You can always resort to previous advice of repeating "Bytchez ain't shyt but ho's and tryckz" over and over again. It brings a smile and becomes true in your mind, eventually. :)

    Keep your head up. :thumbs-up:
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  • pools of maroon
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