On-line dating? I give up!

locked · November 2009

my new thread is the inevitable part two of this discussion:

Lauri · November 2009

hinx wrote:

I'm totally hijacking this thread to tell a little story...

So after reading all this and the whole "help I want a PJ bf/gf" thread I thought, fuck it, I'll sign up for one of these sites. Why not. I sign up on OkCupid, have a few IM conversations with random guys that never go anywhere, and then about a week ago, I got a message about one of those 4 or 5 star things. This guy is super cute, lives near by, good taste in music, seems totally cool blah blah. We talk a bit, exchanged phone numbers, have a few chats and everything's going really well. He seems totally normal, he's funny, we get on really well, etc. Friday he texts me and tells me he's having a terrible day at work and I should send him a smiley picture to cheer him up. "Well shit", I thought to myself. "Isn't that cute?" So I take a dorky picture with my phone and send it along and then say "Ok, your turn." Thinking I'll get a dorky picture back.

...

Ready for it?

...

He sends me a picture of his penis.

Yeeeeeeeaaaaaaaaaaah. I think I'm finished with online dating as quickly as I started.

TOTALLY reminds me of Elaine's date when he took *it* out.

locked · December 2009

would it help if I told my dates I was secretly a vampire?

:roll:

hinx · December 2009

locked wrote:

would it help if I told my dates I was secretly a vampire?

:roll:

You should act exactly like this:

http://www.robertisbothered.com/

imspinnin · December 2009

locked wrote:

Imspinnin once said in her thread post that:

"I explain Pearl Jam to people like its my job"..

That's a great description of my existence too..

I'm the only PJ fan in my circle of friends..

They tolerate my obsessive passion for the music and bootlegs of Pearl Jam, but they treat me like a crazy cousin of theirs..

whereas if you're a huge fan of u2 or bruce springsteen you're viewed as completely rational...

hey daz me you talking about... :shock:

Gems and Rhinestones · December 2009

locked wrote:

its been three years and I am still single..

The woman I meet all seem to have the following:
- Constantly talk about nothing but themsleves.
- Expect to be provided for (money, gifts, travel) in their entirety.
- Have a secret wish to have a child despite denying so on profile
- Have an overblown opinion of their own attractiveness level.
- Have an overblown idea of what man they want/ think they can date (Brad Pitt / George clooney cross over)
- Have a very little sense of humor..

and finally.... Do not give a damn about Pearl Jam or hard rock music in general...

I posted it before...

I NEED A PJ GIRL!!!!! PLEASE GOD!?

I have had a Pearl Jam girl.............just because she is a fan of Pearl Jam does not mean she is a great catch!

Lauri · December 2009

I really have to learn not to agree to go out with every guy who IM's me on okc. I have a date tonight that I'm not the least bit interested in going on. Maybe I'll get a penis picture or acquire some other story I can make people laugh with in the morning.

hinx · December 2009

Lauri wrote:

I really have to learn not to agree to go out with every guy who IM's me on okc. I have a date tonight that I'm not the least bit interested in going on. Maybe I'll get a penis picture or acquire some other story I can make people laugh with in the morning.

The penis picture gets funnier every day that goes by

Hope your date isn't a total nightmare!

soulsinging · December 2009

Lauri wrote:

I really have to learn not to agree to go out with every guy who IM's me on okc. I have a date tonight that I'm not the least bit interested in going on. Maybe I'll get a penis picture or acquire some other story I can make people laugh with in the morning.

poor guy :( nothing like going on a date with a girl that already has a chip on her shoulder and has decided she will not have a good time...

i_lov_it · December 2009

Lauri wrote:

I really have to learn not to agree to go out with every guy who IM's me on okc. I have a date tonight that I'm not the least bit interested in going on. Maybe I'll get a penis picture or acquire some other story I can make people laugh with in the morning.

IF your not 'INETERSTED' then ***!!!!! WHY GO !!!!!***...Poor Guy!

Whizbang · December 2009

Lauri wrote:

I really have to learn not to agree to go out with every guy who IM's me on okc. I have a date tonight that I'm not the least bit interested in going on. Maybe I'll get a penis picture or acquire some other story I can make people laugh with in the morning.

Then don't go. Seriously, if you're not interested in going, politely decline. If you weren't interested in him initially, no reason to even respond to him on IM or email. Why put yourself in this position or get his hopes up? Not sure about OKC but on Match, you can respond "no thanks".

locked · December 2009

Whizbang wrote:

Lauri wrote:

I really have to learn not to agree to go out with every guy who IM's me on okc. I have a date tonight that I'm not the least bit interested in going on. Maybe I'll get a penis picture or acquire some other story I can make people laugh with in the morning.

Then don't go. Seriously, if you're not interested in going, politely decline. If you weren't interested in him initially, no reason to even respond to him on IM or email. Why put yourself in this position or get his hopes up? Not sure about OKC but on Match, you can respond "no thanks".

God, what do we do to find mates before the computer was invented?

Face to Face with real conversation???

Heaven forbid!

:roll:

Lauri · December 2009

locked wrote:

Whizbang wrote:

Lauri wrote:

I really have to learn not to agree to go out with every guy who IM's me on okc. I have a date tonight that I'm not the least bit interested in going on. Maybe I'll get a penis picture or acquire some other story I can make people laugh with in the morning.

Then don't go. Seriously, if you're not interested in going, politely decline. If you weren't interested in him initially, no reason to even respond to him on IM or email. Why put yourself in this position or get his hopes up? Not sure about OKC but on Match, you can respond "no thanks".

God, what do we do to find mates before the computer was invented?

Face to Face with real conversation???

Heaven forbid!

:roll:

Hey, I'd LOVE to meet a guy offline, want to tell me how to do it? Besides, just because it's online doesn't mean it's not "real" conversation. I had a really good conversation with this guy before we went out.

I wasn't trying to get the guy's hopes up or hurt his feelings by agreeing to go out with him. My problem is that I respond to IMs and have a good conversation with someone because I sort of forget the ultimately, they're IMing me because they want to ask me out. If someone IMs me with an interesting question or something, I respond before I even look at their profile most of the time, just because I want to talk to them. But then I sometimes don't even think to look at their profile until they ask me out (and they get a pop up showing that I viewed their profile) so if I said no, they'd be like well howcome you seemed nice when we were talking? Obviously, this girl was all sweet and then saw what I looked like and now doesn't want to go out with me (though it's actually more than that). So I figure it's easier to go out with someone and THEN, once I've give them a chance, make a "decision." Not that I go out with everyone who writes to me- I actually respond to very few people, but I can't have a nice long conversation with someone and then reject them based on their profile.

This date the other night actually wasn't bad, but as usual I don't really see anything happening. We don't really have anything in common and he's not really my type (not so much in terms of looks, just in general).

locked · December 2009

Good for you Lauri!...

OffHeGoes29 · December 2009

So I got a question.....is Eharmony and better then match? I did the match thing for a while and found that 99% of the women I went on a date with from there were crazy. I took a break from it but want to get back into it again next month. I work with nothing but dudes so meeting women isn't an easy task. Eharmony is expensive, so are you getting what you paid for?

TS96221 · December 2009

I need to start a pearl jam love connection website

no photos allowed!

it would be a surprise meeting for the two pearl jam fans...

Franny · December 2009

TS96221 wrote:

I need to start a pearl jam love connection website

no photos allowed!

it would be a surprise meeting for the two pearl jam fans...

I love this idea!!!!!

Hey guys, I find the whole online dating thing a bit scary really. I have been single for jjust over 5 years. After an 8year relationship, I really needed time out to focus on myself...oh and a baby!! I keep looking at rsvp (australia) etc and just get freaked out by it all. I have a friend who was using rsvp for a while and was chatting to a guy, geting really friendly, organised a meet up and then started getting really wierd feelings about this guy. The next day she goes into work, and plastered across the front page of the newspaper is this guys photo and how he got done for kiddie porn!!!! NO KIDDING!!! Now that's fairly F@#$%d up!

See there are whacky blokes and gals everywhere........ I just want a guy who can take the piss out of himself, doesn't treat his parents like a bank, doesn't ask his mummy for permission to fart and has backbone.
Really am I asking too much???

PearlOfAGirl · December 2009

Black-Corduroy wrote:

TS96221 wrote:

I need to start a pearl jam love connection website

no photos allowed!

it would be a surprise meeting for the two pearl jam fans...

I love this idea!!!!!

Hey guys, I find the whole online dating thing a bit scary really. I have been single for jjust over 5 years. After an 8year relationship, I really needed time out to focus on myself...oh and a baby!! I keep looking at rsvp (australia) etc and just get freaked out by it all. I have a friend who was using rsvp for a while and was chatting to a guy, geting really friendly, organised a meet up and then started getting really wierd feelings about this guy. The next day she goes into work, and plastered across the front page of the newspaper is this guys photo and how he got done for kiddie porn!!!! NO KIDDING!!! Now that's fairly F@#$%d up!

See there are whacky blokes and gals everywhere........ I just want a guy who can take the piss out of himself, doesn't treat his parents like a bank, doesn't ask his mummy for permission to fart and has backbone.
Really am I asking too much???

I think that it's a pretty rare thing, to actually meet someone via on line or in person that you can actually trust enough to have a relationship with...

locked · December 2009

OffHeGoes29 wrote:

So I got a question.....is Eharmony and better then match? I did the match thing for a while and found that 99% of the women I went on a date with from there were crazy. I took a break from it but want to get back into it again next month. I work with nothing but dudes so meeting women isn't an easy task. Eharmony is expensive, so are you getting what you paid for?

Eharmony is a maze of questionariires and by the time you've finally gotten someone's phone number, its time to renew your membership..

waaaaayy too much red tape IMO..

BinFrog · December 2009

I found EH very easy to use. It's a bit time consuming and thorough to sign up for (allow for a couple of hours), but after that it is very easy. They make you go through certain steps before you get to open communication. What's the harm there?

On-line dating? I give up!

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