help... manager talks about other employees to me.
CHANGEinWAVES
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I have a slight drama issue at work. My manager talks about each employee to the other employees working. We all know she does it, and she seems to pin point one girl the most (even telling me not to take her home after work anymore because the manager says she thinks the girl is not appreciative enough).
When it's me and this other girl working together we talk (though still doing our work and completing it) but the manager gets mad that we're talking (not mad at us actually talking, but that we're friendly) and she'll get rude with me when I'm friendly to the girl! The other night I was talking about going walking with the girl in the morning (around 6 am) so we can get in shape, the manager comes over and says to me... "you can't do that, I need you here and you'll be too tired for work if you walk that early". She does whatever she can to make sure I do not befriend this other employee.
This woman is driving me nuts but I need this job right now, any suggestions on how to handle this without going insane and killing her? :roll:
When it's me and this other girl working together we talk (though still doing our work and completing it) but the manager gets mad that we're talking (not mad at us actually talking, but that we're friendly) and she'll get rude with me when I'm friendly to the girl! The other night I was talking about going walking with the girl in the morning (around 6 am) so we can get in shape, the manager comes over and says to me... "you can't do that, I need you here and you'll be too tired for work if you walk that early". She does whatever she can to make sure I do not befriend this other employee.
This woman is driving me nuts but I need this job right now, any suggestions on how to handle this without going insane and killing her? :roll:
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This is a good story for the people that say women never should have been allowed into the workplace to use in their arguments.0
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would ask her if your "talking" is getting in the way of you both doing your job. it obviously isn't, but see what she has to say. if she says something that you don't agree with, tell her. if it persists, try talking to HR.
it's always good to have a friend at work. your boss has no authority to choose you friends for you. just my .02!I LOVE MUSIC.
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I agree with this, but I also don't wanna have to deal with her moodiness when I am friendly with the girl.mfc2006 wrote:it's always good to have a friend at work. your boss has no authority to choose you friends for you. just my .02!
The girl used to be her "pet employee" until I started, now I guess it's sort of me she favors.
The manager has even gone as far as to imply that she might fire the other girl. She didn't flat out say it, but I know what she was getting at. I'm not used to drama like this in the work place... and quite honestly I wish another job would just call me so I could get out now! *though I'm also scared that this manager would give me a bad recommendation if I was to leave (daily she asks me if I plan on staying over a year! and one time i mentioned going back to school and she told me it's too expensive and I should stay there!)"I'm not present, I'm a drug that makes you dream"0 -
well everyone else that you would rather not talk to anyone while on the job in less it's work related....explain why and hopefully they'll understand and maybe even follow suit0
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i don't see how she can pressure you into staying. that's certainly not in her job description. and as far as you friend goes, your boss really has no right to say anything to you about how she feels about her. she's obviously not a very good manager.
i would go to HR & explain your situation before you tell your boss that you don't appreciate being pressured & hearing her gossip about other employees.I LOVE MUSIC.
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I agree that this would be the right way to go about it, but this is a small store me, the manager and 2 other girls. The manager has been with the company for a very long time too.... I kinda fear it could make the situation worse (i see how she treats the other girl).mfc2006 wrote:i don't see how she can pressure you into staying. that's certainly not in her job description. and as far as you friend goes, your boss really has no right to say anything to you about how she feels about her. she's obviously not a very good manager.
i would go to HR & explain your situation before you tell your boss that you don't appreciate being pressured & hearing her gossip about other employees.
The other girl had the keys to the store when i started and since the manager has taken to me she's made the other girl give me the keys to the store... it was very awkward."I'm not present, I'm a drug that makes you dream"0 -
I can tell you that I worked with a manager for a year and I absolutely HATED her. It was the worst job ever because she was so fucking dramatic about everything. She would talk behind peoples back and do childish things to her staff when she was angry. It was horrible. I tried to just cope, but I worked 8 hours a day with her. She would even show up at my house to complain about employees on my day off.
I think as long as you can separate work and home you're okay. But since she's your boss you can't really call her on it unless you're alright with the possible consequences.05-10-06, 08-05-07, 06-14-08 , 08-12-08(EV), 06-11-09(EV), 06-12-09(EV), 08-21-09, 05-10-10, 09-11-11, 09-12-11, 07-16-13, 07-19-13, 10-12-13, 10-21-13, 10-22-13,0 -
why am I not surprised that you can understand what I'm going through!Cinnamon Girl wrote:I can tell you that I worked with a manager for a year and I absolutely HATED her. It was the worst job ever because she was so fucking dramatic about everything. She would talk behind peoples back and do childish things to her staff when she was angry. It was horrible. I tried to just cope, but I worked 8 hours a day with her. She would even show up at my house to complain about employees on my day off.
I think as long as you can separate work and home you're okay. But since she's you boss you can't really call her on it unless you're alright with the possible consequences.
I'd love to talk about the situation to HR... but I'm afraid to "stoke the fire" if you know what I mean!"I'm not present, I'm a drug that makes you dream"0 -
CHANGEinWAVES wrote:
why am I not surprised that you can understand what I'm going through!Cinnamon Girl wrote:I can tell you that I worked with a manager for a year and I absolutely HATED her. It was the worst job ever because she was so fucking dramatic about everything. She would talk behind peoples back and do childish things to her staff when she was angry. It was horrible. I tried to just cope, but I worked 8 hours a day with her. She would even show up at my house to complain about employees on my day off.
I think as long as you can separate work and home you're okay. But since she's you boss you can't really call her on it unless you're alright with the possible consequences.
I'd love to talk about the situation to HR... but I'm afraid to "stoke the fire" if you know what I mean!
Don't talk to HR...more drama, I swear. Your sucked in now...it's hard to get out. Unless you love the job and you're rolling in your paycheques...maybe see if there's any other jobs in your area.05-10-06, 08-05-07, 06-14-08 , 08-12-08(EV), 06-11-09(EV), 06-12-09(EV), 08-21-09, 05-10-10, 09-11-11, 09-12-11, 07-16-13, 07-19-13, 10-12-13, 10-21-13, 10-22-13,0 -
I hate the job and the pay sucks ass... but there's no one else calling me back right now even thought I apply at other jobs daily. :(Cinnamon Girl wrote:Don't talk to HR...more drama, I swear. Your sucked in now...it's hard to get out. Unless you love the job and you're rolling in your paycheques...maybe see if there's any other jobs in your area."I'm not present, I'm a drug that makes you dream"0 -
CHANGEinWAVES wrote:
I agree that this would be the right way to go about it, but this is a small store me, the manager and 2 other girls. The manager has been with the company for a very long time too.... I kinda fear it could make the situation worse (i see how she treats the other girl).mfc2006 wrote:i don't see how she can pressure you into staying. that's certainly not in her job description. and as far as you friend goes, your boss really has no right to say anything to you about how she feels about her. she's obviously not a very good manager.
i would go to HR & explain your situation before you tell your boss that you don't appreciate being pressured & hearing her gossip about other employees.
The other girl had the keys to the store when i started and since the manager has taken to me she's made the other girl give me the keys to the store... it was very awkward.
so you can't go to HR b/c you're worried that you may lose your job or that it may damage your friends' job status? wow. there has to be someone within the company that you can talk to about this. i understand that it's a risk....
or, you could ask to have a meeting. just the 3 of you & try to hash it out that way. (i would suggest having someone else there, btw) but a meeting might work. if it's just the 3 of you, maybe you can all come up with a solution.I LOVE MUSIC.
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hahahahahahahahahahahaha.........................................soulsinging wrote:This is a good story for the people that say women never should have been allowed into the workplace to use in their arguments.
how was your vacation????Take me piece by piece.....
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im going to lean towards "go insane and kill her"..........CHANGEinWAVES wrote:I have a slight drama issue at work. My manager talks about each employee to the other employees working. We all know she does it, and she seems to pin point one girl the most (even telling me not to take her home after work anymore because the manager says she thinks the girl is not appreciative enough).
When it's me and this other girl working together we talk (though still doing our work and completing it) but the manager gets mad that we're talking (not mad at us actually talking, but that we're friendly) and she'll get rude with me when I'm friendly to the girl! The other night I was talking about going walking with the girl in the morning (around 6 am) so we can get in shape, the manager comes over and says to me... "you can't do that, I need you here and you'll be too tired for work if you walk that early". She does whatever she can to make sure I do not befriend this other employee.
This woman is driving me nuts but I need this job right now, any suggestions on how to handle this without going insane and killing her? :roll:Take me piece by piece.....
Till there aint nothing left worth taking away from me.....0 -
that's where this is headed! :twisted:SPEEDY MCCREADY wrote:
im going to lean towards "go insane and kill her"..........CHANGEinWAVES wrote:I have a slight drama issue at work. My manager talks about each employee to the other employees working. We all know she does it, and she seems to pin point one girl the most (even telling me not to take her home after work anymore because the manager says she thinks the girl is not appreciative enough).
When it's me and this other girl working together we talk (though still doing our work and completing it) but the manager gets mad that we're talking (not mad at us actually talking, but that we're friendly) and she'll get rude with me when I'm friendly to the girl! The other night I was talking about going walking with the girl in the morning (around 6 am) so we can get in shape, the manager comes over and says to me... "you can't do that, I need you here and you'll be too tired for work if you walk that early". She does whatever she can to make sure I do not befriend this other employee.
This woman is driving me nuts but I need this job right now, any suggestions on how to handle this without going insane and killing her? :roll:"I'm not present, I'm a drug that makes you dream"0 -
mfc2006 wrote:CHANGEinWAVES wrote:
I agree that this would be the right way to go about it, but this is a small store me, the manager and 2 other girls. The manager has been with the company for a very long time too.... I kinda fear it could make the situation worse (i see how she treats the other girl).mfc2006 wrote:i don't see how she can pressure you into staying. that's certainly not in her job description. and as far as you friend goes, your boss really has no right to say anything to you about how she feels about her. she's obviously not a very good manager.
i would go to HR & explain your situation before you tell your boss that you don't appreciate being pressured & hearing her gossip about other employees.
The other girl had the keys to the store when i started and since the manager has taken to me she's made the other girl give me the keys to the store... it was very awkward.
so you can't go to HR b/c you're worried that you may lose your job or that it may damage your friends' job status? wow. there has to be someone within the company that you can talk to about this. i understand that it's a risk....
or, you could ask to have a meeting. just the 3 of you & try to hash it out that way. (i would suggest having someone else there, btw) but a meeting might work. if it's just the 3 of you, maybe you can all come up with a solution.
That would definitely be beneficial with any professional...but this woman obviously isn't professional. It's a shame. With my boss, I would often wonder how on earth she made it to manager being so petty and childish.
Brandi, if there's no other job possibilities than you have to suck it up and try to keep the peace. Try to keep the topic off the other girls. If she starts, change the subject. Maybe she'll catch the hint that you don't wanna play that game.05-10-06, 08-05-07, 06-14-08 , 08-12-08(EV), 06-11-09(EV), 06-12-09(EV), 08-21-09, 05-10-10, 09-11-11, 09-12-11, 07-16-13, 07-19-13, 10-12-13, 10-21-13, 10-22-13,0 -
can't I just kill her?!Cinnamon Girl wrote:
That would definitely be beneficial with any professional...but this woman obviously isn't professional. It's a shame. With my boss, I would often wonder how on earth she made it to manager being so petty and childish.
Brandi, if there's no other job possibilities than you have to suck it up and try to keep the peace. Try to keep the topic off the other girls. If she starts, change the subject. Maybe she'll catch the hint that you don't wanna play that game.
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but seriously, you are right. I guess I have deal with it and try to avoid any "employee bashing" I can. Keeping my fingers crossed I find another job soon! thanks "I'm not present, I'm a drug that makes you dream"0 -
CHANGEinWAVES wrote:can't I just kill her?! :twisted:
Well, you could...but then you'd have to hide the body......and frame the other girl...which wouldn't be to hard since we all know she hates her!
hmmmmmmm...... :twisted:05-10-06, 08-05-07, 06-14-08 , 08-12-08(EV), 06-11-09(EV), 06-12-09(EV), 08-21-09, 05-10-10, 09-11-11, 09-12-11, 07-16-13, 07-19-13, 10-12-13, 10-21-13, 10-22-13,0 -
it's all going according to plan! mmmmmmwwwwwaHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAH! :twisted: :twisted: :twisted:Cinnamon Girl wrote:CHANGEinWAVES wrote:can't I just kill her?! :twisted:
Well, you could...but then you'd have to hide the body......and frame the other girl...which wouldn't be to hard since we all know she hates her!
hmmmmmmm...... :twisted:"I'm not present, I'm a drug that makes you dream"0 -
CHANGEinWAVES wrote:
it's all going according to plan! mmmmmmwwwwwaHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAH! :twisted: :twisted: :twisted:Cinnamon Girl wrote:CHANGEinWAVES wrote:can't I just kill her?! :twisted:
Well, you could...but then you'd have to hide the body......and frame the other girl...which wouldn't be to hard since we all know she hates her!
hmmmmmmm...... :twisted:
holy crap. :shock:
this is what happens when i leave a thread. scary, scary!!!
(just remember to wipe off your prints!)I LOVE MUSIC.
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mfc2006 wrote:
holy crap. :shock:
this is what happens when i leave a thread. scary, scary!!!
(just remember to wipe off your prints!)
Sound advice....also;
-erase all incriminating murder posts on the pit.05-10-06, 08-05-07, 06-14-08 , 08-12-08(EV), 06-11-09(EV), 06-12-09(EV), 08-21-09, 05-10-10, 09-11-11, 09-12-11, 07-16-13, 07-19-13, 10-12-13, 10-21-13, 10-22-13,0
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