Why are weddings so frigin hard to plan?

Stone Is God
Stone Is God Posts: 1,331
edited September 2008 in All Encompassing Trip
Really. My fiance and I are getting married in January and her family (mother) has been a pain in the ass to her. My fiance and I are completely on the same page. No fights about anything and we have completely supported each others choices.

First she bitched because the sister-in-law wasn't in the ceremony. We only wanted a best man and maid of honor to keep it simple and not hurt anyone's feelings (go figure). Now because we've added the sister-in-law I have the task of choosing between 2 of my closest friends as the second person standing for me. My fiance has already picked out the dresses that she wants the girls to wear (picked out with my mom who has been so cool about everything) and I have a feeling there will be bitching.

Funny thing about the whole deal is that we are paying for it by ourselves. Her parents don't have a lot of money, which is fine, but in my view if your not kicking in for the wedding, shut your fucking mouth and let us do what we want.

I'm sorry, if I'm paying for 85% out of my pocket, we're going to do what we want with it.

Am I wrong to feel this way?

RANT OVER!!!!
I'll ride the wave where it takes me.
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  • shestumbledin
    shestumbledin Posts: 24
    elope.
  • petrocs
    petrocs Posts: 4,342
    I'm suppose to get married October of next year and we havent picked the reception place! My fiance wants us to go through pre-martial counseling first
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  • battan1120
    battan1120 Posts: 310
    Stone Is God wrote:
    Really. My fiance and I are getting married in January and her family (mother) has been a pain in the ass to her. My fiance and I are completely on the same page. No fights about anything and we have completely supported each others choices.

    First she bitched because the sister-in-law wasn't in the ceremony. We only wanted a best man and maid of honor to keep it simple and not hurt anyone's feelings (go figure). Now because we've added the sister-in-law I have the task of choosing between 2 of my closest friends as the second person standing for me. My fiance has already picked out the dresses that she wants the girls to wear (picked out with my mom who has been so cool about everything) and I have a feeling there will be bitching.

    Funny thing about the whole deal is that we are paying for it by ourselves. Her parents don't have a lot of money, which is fine, but in my view if your not kicking in for the wedding, shut your fucking mouth and let us do what we want.

    I'm sorry, if I'm paying for 85% out of my pocket, we're going to do what we want with it.

    Am I wrong to feel this way?

    RANT OVER!!!!
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  • duffy
    duffy Posts: 74
    i asked somebody the other day why women were such bridezillas and they said "because women are the only ones that give a shit about the wedding". LOL
    food for thought.
  • shestumbledin
    shestumbledin Posts: 24
    duffy wrote:
    i asked somebody the other day why women were such bridezillas and they said "because women are the only ones that give a shit about the wedding". LOL
    food for thought.
    I'm a woman.

    ELOPE.
  • the wolf
    the wolf Posts: 7,027
    the easy answer to the question is, because weddings are pointless.


    but than again, im divorced. so i might be off in my thinking.

    my gf wanted us to get married at one point, now she just wants me to give her some bastard children! ;)
    Peace, Love.

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    to not question your government is unpatriotic."
    -- Sen. Chuck Hagel
  • angie76
    angie76 Posts: 646
    So glad I didn't go that far.
    Dig a ditch deep enough
    To keep you clear of the sun
    You've been burned more than once
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  • the wolf
    the wolf Posts: 7,027
    angie76 wrote:
    So glad I didn't go that far.

    you should be ;)
    Peace, Love.

    "To question your government is not unpatriotic --
    to not question your government is unpatriotic."
    -- Sen. Chuck Hagel
  • angie76
    angie76 Posts: 646
    the wolf wrote:
    you should be ;)

    oh yeah..

    Im not much for making a big deal out of stuff anyway. Im so not a girl in that respect. So Im glad I didn't have to deal with doing all that.
    Dig a ditch deep enough
    To keep you clear of the sun
    You've been burned more than once
    You don't think much of trust
  • blackredyellow
    blackredyellow Posts: 5,889
    Do what you and your fiance want to do... it's your wedding, and if things don't turn out how you like them, you will have some regrets.

    It's great to get input from parents and other people, but in the end, it's your decision of how things should be done.
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    was like a picture
    of a sunny day
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    ― Abraham Lincoln
  • the wolf
    the wolf Posts: 7,027
    angie76 wrote:
    oh yeah..

    Im not much for making a big deal out of stuff anyway. Im so not a girl in that respect. So Im glad I didn't have to deal with doing all that.


    im sure at some point the gf and i will tie the knot, but it will be with just a few friends and family barefoot on a beach ! lol.
    Peace, Love.

    "To question your government is not unpatriotic --
    to not question your government is unpatriotic."
    -- Sen. Chuck Hagel
  • angie76
    angie76 Posts: 646
    the wolf wrote:
    im sure at some point the gf and i will tie the knot, but it will be with just a few friends and family barefoot on a beach ! lol.

    Those kind of weddings are nice. That's something like I want to do. Im not into the big elaborate weddings.
    Dig a ditch deep enough
    To keep you clear of the sun
    You've been burned more than once
    You don't think much of trust
  • Steve Dunne
    Steve Dunne Posts: 4,965
    Stone Is God wrote:
    Really. My fiance and I are getting married in January and her family (mother) has been a pain in the ass to her. My fiance and I are completely on the same page. No fights about anything and we have completely supported each others choices.

    First she bitched because the sister-in-law wasn't in the ceremony. We only wanted a best man and maid of honor to keep it simple and not hurt anyone's feelings (go figure). Now because we've added the sister-in-law I have the task of choosing between 2 of my closest friends as the second person standing for me. My fiance has already picked out the dresses that she wants the girls to wear (picked out with my mom who has been so cool about everything) and I have a feeling there will be bitching.

    Funny thing about the whole deal is that we are paying for it by ourselves. Her parents don't have a lot of money, which is fine, but in my view if your not kicking in for the wedding, shut your fucking mouth and let us do what we want.

    I'm sorry, if I'm paying for 85% out of my pocket, we're going to do what we want with it.

    Am I wrong to feel this way?

    RANT OVER!!!!

    dude i can only sit back and grimly smile because, well, i've been there. good luck!!!
    I love to turn you on
  • eyedclaar
    eyedclaar Posts: 6,980
    Do what we did.

    We basically told people we'd be in the middle of fuckin' Nowhere, Wyoming standing next to a waterfall and there might be beer and sandwiches afterwards... maybe.

    Surprisingly, very few people made the trek. Not much hassle at all.
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  • the wolf
    the wolf Posts: 7,027
    Steve Dunne wrote:
    dude i can only sit back and grimly smile because, well, i've been there. good luck!!!

    lol yep! :)
    Peace, Love.

    "To question your government is not unpatriotic --
    to not question your government is unpatriotic."
    -- Sen. Chuck Hagel
  • Stone Is God
    Stone Is God Posts: 1,331
    Steve Dunne wrote:
    dude i can only sit back and grimly smile because, well, i've been there. good luck!!!

    Thanks, I think I'm going to need it to get through the next few months.
    I'll ride the wave where it takes me.
  • blackredyellow
    blackredyellow Posts: 5,889
    Stone Is God wrote:
    Thanks, I think I'm going to need it to get through the next few months.

    alcohol helps
    My whole life
    was like a picture
    of a sunny day
    “We can complain because rose bushes have thorns, or rejoice because thorn bushes have roses.”
    ― Abraham Lincoln
  • Pacomc79
    Pacomc79 Posts: 9,404
    seriously, totally and completely... Destination Wedding.

    Also, remember, this thing is happening regardless of whomevers opinions. Everything will work itself out. All the little annoyances will eventually be over, just try to enjoy it in the moment as much as possible because it's really really short considering all the BS that goes into it.
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  • ladygooddiva
    ladygooddiva Posts: 4,169
    well it is so bec. it is a difficult choice as well in everything and familys put their minds and head on it ..and friends etc..
    well i myself do not want to get married
  • Stone Is God
    Stone Is God Posts: 1,331
    blackredyellow wrote:
    alcohol helps

    Going to pick up and 18 pack on the way home.
    I'll ride the wave where it takes me.

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