Why are weddings so frigin hard to plan?
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Really. My fiance and I are getting married in January and her family (mother) has been a pain in the ass to her. My fiance and I are completely on the same page. No fights about anything and we have completely supported each others choices.
First she bitched because the sister-in-law wasn't in the ceremony. We only wanted a best man and maid of honor to keep it simple and not hurt anyone's feelings (go figure). Now because we've added the sister-in-law I have the task of choosing between 2 of my closest friends as the second person standing for me. My fiance has already picked out the dresses that she wants the girls to wear (picked out with my mom who has been so cool about everything) and I have a feeling there will be bitching.
Funny thing about the whole deal is that we are paying for it by ourselves. Her parents don't have a lot of money, which is fine, but in my view if your not kicking in for the wedding, shut your fucking mouth and let us do what we want.
I'm sorry, if I'm paying for 85% out of my pocket, we're going to do what we want with it.
Am I wrong to feel this way?
RANT OVER!!!!
First she bitched because the sister-in-law wasn't in the ceremony. We only wanted a best man and maid of honor to keep it simple and not hurt anyone's feelings (go figure). Now because we've added the sister-in-law I have the task of choosing between 2 of my closest friends as the second person standing for me. My fiance has already picked out the dresses that she wants the girls to wear (picked out with my mom who has been so cool about everything) and I have a feeling there will be bitching.
Funny thing about the whole deal is that we are paying for it by ourselves. Her parents don't have a lot of money, which is fine, but in my view if your not kicking in for the wedding, shut your fucking mouth and let us do what we want.
I'm sorry, if I'm paying for 85% out of my pocket, we're going to do what we want with it.
Am I wrong to feel this way?
RANT OVER!!!!
I'll ride the wave where it takes me.
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food for thought.
ELOPE.
but than again, im divorced. so i might be off in my thinking.
my gf wanted us to get married at one point, now she just wants me to give her some bastard children!
"To question your government is not unpatriotic --
to not question your government is unpatriotic."
-- Sen. Chuck Hagel
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You've been burned more than once
You don't think much of trust
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"To question your government is not unpatriotic --
to not question your government is unpatriotic."
-- Sen. Chuck Hagel
oh yeah..
Im not much for making a big deal out of stuff anyway. Im so not a girl in that respect. So Im glad I didn't have to deal with doing all that.
To keep you clear of the sun
You've been burned more than once
You don't think much of trust
It's great to get input from parents and other people, but in the end, it's your decision of how things should be done.
was like a picture
of a sunny day
“We can complain because rose bushes have thorns, or rejoice because thorn bushes have roses.”
― Abraham Lincoln
im sure at some point the gf and i will tie the knot, but it will be with just a few friends and family barefoot on a beach ! lol.
"To question your government is not unpatriotic --
to not question your government is unpatriotic."
-- Sen. Chuck Hagel
Those kind of weddings are nice. That's something like I want to do. Im not into the big elaborate weddings.
To keep you clear of the sun
You've been burned more than once
You don't think much of trust
dude i can only sit back and grimly smile because, well, i've been there. good luck!!!
We basically told people we'd be in the middle of fuckin' Nowhere, Wyoming standing next to a waterfall and there might be beer and sandwiches afterwards... maybe.
Surprisingly, very few people made the trek. Not much hassle at all.
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lol yep!
"To question your government is not unpatriotic --
to not question your government is unpatriotic."
-- Sen. Chuck Hagel
Thanks, I think I'm going to need it to get through the next few months.
alcohol helps
was like a picture
of a sunny day
“We can complain because rose bushes have thorns, or rejoice because thorn bushes have roses.”
― Abraham Lincoln
Also, remember, this thing is happening regardless of whomevers opinions. Everything will work itself out. All the little annoyances will eventually be over, just try to enjoy it in the moment as much as possible because it's really really short considering all the BS that goes into it.
well i myself do not want to get married
Going to pick up and 18 pack on the way home.
I flat out told people, "I'm paying for and planning my own wedding. I'm doing it by myself so my wedding will be exactly what I want. Not what someone else wants". Period. I said that they are welcome to give me their advice, but I'm not obligated to take their it, because for this one thing, this one time in my life...it is all about me and hubby, and not about anyone else.
But, I'm a big-fat meanie, so I get away with that stuff.
Bottom line. Someone can't make you do something you don't want to do. It's all about boundaries. It sounds like people are violating your boundaries and that's not ok. (end psychoanalysis)
Destination wedding!
I got married a few weeks ago and we wished we went away to get married. It eliminates some problems (smaller wedding, not very many people care enough to fly/drive/swim to your wedding if its far away) but would add more (there would HAVE to be a trip there before hand to talk with people.
Weddings will always... ALWAYS have some BS no matter what, just because there are too many people involved with too many feelings. I was pretty lucky, but there was still some drama along the way anyway. Just make sure you and your fiance are happy with whats going on. Its nobody's wedding but yours.
And congrats by the way.
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A few bottles of champagne, a keg, beer, wine and liquor, a loud trash metal band and barbeque...
Sounds pretty easy to me.
Oh yeah, the flowers...
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It's the problem everyone has.....it's natures way of saying...'look, don't even fucking bother'....and one day all us stupid bastards will listen to the natural warning signs.....and erm, not bother.
does your church have a close by hall? here at the st. george's greek orthodox church, mostly everybody get's married upstairs in the church, and later head downstairs to the huge hall for the dinner/dancing etc..
i'm still single but alway's have that picture of how things will go when i get married to the right woman. set etc.. as for the trip, the greek islands for the honeymoon for sure, baby!
oxc
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I wish you and your fiancee good luck. Put all these other people in their place, the sooner the better, and don't be afraid of a confrontation! It will be the only way to get your wedding day you both want.
I for my part didn't even get the dress I wanted, just because I didn't fight for it for family's peace sake, and yes, I'm still angry about this mistake.
We had a similar problem with not wanting to offend anyone, especially my mother. In the end because of illness she didn't come and most of my family didn't stay for the evening party.
We could have been in Antigua!!!!! :mad:
I sometimes question who the wedding is for, the bride and groom or the fuckin' relatives.
Divorces are easier!