Kiss and Tell?

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  • libragirl
    libragirl Posts: 4,632
    Lukin66 wrote:
    It's strange to me how many people just blab about relationships. The things that happen between myself and past significant others (even the current) is no one's business but my own. I don't understand how someone can disregard that and just gossip gossip gossip about things that should rightly stay private.

    That's how I feel. I would be pissed if someone I dated was divulging private stuff about the relationship.
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  • Lukin66
    Lukin66 Posts: 3,063
    libragirl wrote:
    That's how I feel. I would be pissed if someone I dated was divulging private stuff about the relationship.
    I'm constantly surprised at the amount of gossip boys divulge in :rolleyes:
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  • libragirl
    libragirl Posts: 4,632
    Lukin66 wrote:
    I'm constantly surprised at the amount of gossip boys divulge in :rolleyes:

    Well I was tempted to tell this one person about stuff that was being said about her because I don't think it's probably true. But I don't want to embarrass her or hurt her. It's not worth it.

    I just think people who do that are immature.
    These cuts are leaving creases. Trace the scars to fit the pieces, to tell the story, you don't need to say a word.
  • genie
    genie Posts: 2,222
    i'm guilty of this :o
  • libragirl
    libragirl Posts: 4,632
    genie wrote:
    i'm guilty of this :o

    It depends what you are saying and your intention. I know I would never discuss anything with my sister..that is weird, nor would I want to hear about her sex life.
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  • genie
    genie Posts: 2,222
    libragirl wrote:
    It depends what you are saying and your intention. I know I would never discuss anything with my sister..that is weird, nor would I want to hear about her sex life.

    i tell my friends and current boyfriends about ex'es. whatever i say in this forum is what i say outside this place..there is no difference. i guess i can be crude sometimes.
  • libragirl
    libragirl Posts: 4,632
    genie wrote:
    i tell my friends and current boyfriends about ex'es. whatever i say in this forum is what i say outside this place..there is no difference. i guess i can be crude sometimes.

    Im sure everyone does it to some extent.
    These cuts are leaving creases. Trace the scars to fit the pieces, to tell the story, you don't need to say a word.
  • pearljamjen
    pearljamjen Posts: 13,578
    Get_Right wrote:
    Guys like to hear chicks talk about sex.

    THAT'S FOR SURE! :rolleyes: :p

    Get_Right wrote:
    But women are more chatty about it. At least it seems that way

    True, or at least that is what you see in movies/on tv
  • iamsampj
    iamsampj Posts: 784
    i have friends who are VERY open about details of their sex life. me...not so much. i'm very private when it comes to those things, and that's the way that i'd like to keep it!! in the past they've had to trick me with questions while i was drunk....then i'll divulge a little, but not much. damn you alcohol ;)
    yes...i do feel like a human. i do not feel like a tree.
  • Heineken Helen
    Heineken Helen Posts: 18,095
    I do it sometimes... I've some pretty funny stories :D BUT I'd hate to think someone was discussing me :o so I know I'm a hypocrite. However, I've never made a joke of anyone I really cared about.
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  • libragirl
    libragirl Posts: 4,632
    Heineken Helen wrote:
    I do it sometimes... I've some pretty funny stories :D BUT I'd hate to think someone was discussing me :o so I know I'm a hypocrite. However, I've never made a joke of anyone I really cared about.

    Well I think if you really care about someone you wouldn't. I think some people do it out of spite. No matter how tempted I am at times I always think they can turn around and do the same...
    These cuts are leaving creases. Trace the scars to fit the pieces, to tell the story, you don't need to say a word.
  • Heineken Helen
    Heineken Helen Posts: 18,095
    libragirl wrote:
    Well I think if you really care about someone you wouldn't. I think some people do it out of spite. No matter how tempted I am at times I always think they can turn around and do the same...
    well even people I've cared about in the past and if it didn't work out or there was a bitter split (actually I've never really had one of those)... I still could not bring myself to discuss anything intimate about them even years later. But certain casual acquaintances who other people wouldn't actually KNOW ;) well that's a whole different story... especially if they're not the kind to gain my respect.
    The Astoria??? Orgazmic!
    Verona??? it's all surmountable
    Dublin 23.08.06 "The beauty of Ireland, right there!"
    Wembley? We all believe!
    Copenhagen?? your light made us stars
    Chicago 07? And love
    What a different life
    Had I not found this love with you
  • libragirl
    libragirl Posts: 4,632
    Heineken Helen wrote:
    well even people I've cared about in the past and if it didn't work out or there was a bitter split (actually I've never really had one of those)... I still could not bring myself to discuss anything intimate about them even years later. But certain casual acquaintances who other people wouldn't actually KNOW ;) well that's a whole different story... especially if they're not the kind to gain my respect.

    I agree. I think if the relationship was serious, you would have enough respect for it not to discuss details, even if it was a bitter split. But I could only speak for myself. Some people have no boundries.
    These cuts are leaving creases. Trace the scars to fit the pieces, to tell the story, you don't need to say a word.
  • Heineken Helen
    Heineken Helen Posts: 18,095
    libragirl wrote:
    I agree. I think if the relationship was serious, you would have enough respect for it not to discuss details, even if it was a bitter split. But I could only speak for myself. Some people have no boundries.
    oh ok :o I thought we were just speaking in general. Then yes, definitely I don't think people should share intimate details of current or past relationships. I don't think intimate behaviour of past relationships should be discussed in current relationships. There are reasons things are left in the past.
    The Astoria??? Orgazmic!
    Verona??? it's all surmountable
    Dublin 23.08.06 "The beauty of Ireland, right there!"
    Wembley? We all believe!
    Copenhagen?? your light made us stars
    Chicago 07? And love
    What a different life
    Had I not found this love with you
  • libragirl
    libragirl Posts: 4,632
    Heineken Helen wrote:
    oh ok :o I thought we were just speaking in general. Then yes, definitely I don't think people should share intimate details of current or past relationships. I don't think intimate behaviour of past relationships should be discussed in current relationships. There are reasons things are left in the past.

    Oh yeah...I did mean general. I do not discuss my personal issues on here anymore. I've learned my lesson. This is actually inspired by a convo I had w/my sister about people at her work :)
    These cuts are leaving creases. Trace the scars to fit the pieces, to tell the story, you don't need to say a word.
  • Heineken Helen
    Heineken Helen Posts: 18,095
    libragirl wrote:
    Oh yeah...I did mean general. I do not discuss my personal issues on here anymore. I've learned my lesson. This is actually inspired by a convo I had w/my sister about people at her work :)
    I've learned several lessons :o (I'm slow :D ). So you're talking about just on the board? Cos I know I have random conversations with friends where we CAN go into details about stuff... but rarely is it about a boyfriend, ex boyfriend. But I don't discuss plenty of things anymore cos of several reasons... you put yourself up for ridicule, people think they can take something very serious and make little of it or turn it into a joke, also... hello IT guys :D
    The Astoria??? Orgazmic!
    Verona??? it's all surmountable
    Dublin 23.08.06 "The beauty of Ireland, right there!"
    Wembley? We all believe!
    Copenhagen?? your light made us stars
    Chicago 07? And love
    What a different life
    Had I not found this love with you
  • libragirl
    libragirl Posts: 4,632
    Heineken Helen wrote:
    I've learned several lessons :o (I'm slow :D ). So you're talking about just on the board? Cos I know I have random conversations with friends where we CAN go into details about stuff... but rarely is it about a boyfriend, ex boyfriend. But I don't discuss plenty of things anymore cos of several reasons... you put yourself up for ridicule, people think they can take something very serious and make little of it or turn it into a joke, also... hello IT guys :D

    Well yes, it seemed I didn't quite learn my lesson though. I confided about something a few days ago just to be ridiculed. But NOW I really know I need to keep stuff too myself. But it's not just about on a message board, just in general. It's one thing to confide to a close friend about something, someone you can trust and takes you seriously. But I guess you are leaving yourself open if you offer personal things about yourself to a bunch of strangers. And I don't necessarily mean a message board or the internet. But I notice people dehumanize a lot on the internet and say a lot of stuff they probably wouldn't say to someone's face.
    These cuts are leaving creases. Trace the scars to fit the pieces, to tell the story, you don't need to say a word.
  • electronblue
    electronblue WPB, Florida Posts: 3,504
    pjhunz28 wrote:
    i agree. it is sick. it seems people want to know and share way too much lately!!




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  • Heineken Helen
    Heineken Helen Posts: 18,095
    libragirl wrote:
    Well yes, it seemed I didn't quite learn my lesson though. I confided about something a few days ago just to be ridiculed. But NOW I really know I need to keep stuff too myself. But it's not just about on a message board, just in general. It's one thing to confide to a close friend about something, someone you can trust and takes you seriously. But I guess you are leaving yourself open if you offer personal things about yourself to a bunch of strangers. And I don't necessarily mean a message board or the internet. But I notice people dehumanize a lot on the internet and say a lot of stuff they probably wouldn't say to someone's face.
    Oh definitely! I used to give much more information but people can be fuckheads... although many of them are great. There was one particular thread when I first started posting that really upset me and a couple of people were simply disgusting but many people pm'd me offering support so, while I learned not to post anything too personal, I also learned there are some great people here who CAN be turned to... and while there may be one or two asses in each advice thread... most people wanna help if they can.
    The Astoria??? Orgazmic!
    Verona??? it's all surmountable
    Dublin 23.08.06 "The beauty of Ireland, right there!"
    Wembley? We all believe!
    Copenhagen?? your light made us stars
    Chicago 07? And love
    What a different life
    Had I not found this love with you
  • libragirl
    libragirl Posts: 4,632
    Heineken Helen wrote:
    Oh definitely! I used to give much more information but people can be fuckheads... although many of them are great. There was one particular thread when I first started posting that really upset me and a couple of people were simply disgusting but many people pm'd me offering support so, while I learned not to post anything too personal, I also learned there are some great people here who CAN be turned to... and while there may be one or two asses in each advice thread... most people wanna help if they can.

    Yeah I guess that is the risk you take for being open. I find its therapeutic to vent anonymously...sometimes you feel like you can't confide to people around you. But a lot of people get annoyed at this...so yeah. I guess I have been guilty of this :o

    But as far as someone discussing personal details about someone else, well that is bad.
    These cuts are leaving creases. Trace the scars to fit the pieces, to tell the story, you don't need to say a word.

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