Kiss and Tell?

libragirl

Heineken Helen wrote:

I do it sometimes... I've some pretty funny stories BUT I'd hate to think someone was discussing me so I know I'm a hypocrite. However, I've never made a joke of anyone I really cared about.

Well I think if you really care about someone you wouldn't. I think some people do it out of spite. No matter how tempted I am at times I always think they can turn around and do the same...

Heineken Helen

libragirl wrote:

Well I think if you really care about someone you wouldn't. I think some people do it out of spite. No matter how tempted I am at times I always think they can turn around and do the same...

well even people I've cared about in the past and if it didn't work out or there was a bitter split (actually I've never really had one of those)... I still could not bring myself to discuss anything intimate about them even years later. But certain casual acquaintances who other people wouldn't actually KNOW well that's a whole different story... especially if they're not the kind to gain my respect.

libragirl

Heineken Helen wrote:

well even people I've cared about in the past and if it didn't work out or there was a bitter split (actually I've never really had one of those)... I still could not bring myself to discuss anything intimate about them even years later. But certain casual acquaintances who other people wouldn't actually KNOW well that's a whole different story... especially if they're not the kind to gain my respect.

I agree. I think if the relationship was serious, you would have enough respect for it not to discuss details, even if it was a bitter split. But I could only speak for myself. Some people have no boundries.

Heineken Helen

libragirl wrote:

I agree. I think if the relationship was serious, you would have enough respect for it not to discuss details, even if it was a bitter split. But I could only speak for myself. Some people have no boundries.

oh ok I thought we were just speaking in general. Then yes, definitely I don't think people should share intimate details of current or past relationships. I don't think intimate behaviour of past relationships should be discussed in current relationships. There are reasons things are left in the past.

libragirl

Heineken Helen wrote:

oh ok I thought we were just speaking in general. Then yes, definitely I don't think people should share intimate details of current or past relationships. I don't think intimate behaviour of past relationships should be discussed in current relationships. There are reasons things are left in the past.

Oh yeah...I did mean general. I do not discuss my personal issues on here anymore. I've learned my lesson. This is actually inspired by a convo I had w/my sister about people at her work

Heineken Helen

libragirl wrote:

Oh yeah...I did mean general. I do not discuss my personal issues on here anymore. I've learned my lesson. This is actually inspired by a convo I had w/my sister about people at her work

I've learned several lessons (I'm slow ). So you're talking about just on the board? Cos I know I have random conversations with friends where we CAN go into details about stuff... but rarely is it about a boyfriend, ex boyfriend. But I don't discuss plenty of things anymore cos of several reasons... you put yourself up for ridicule, people think they can take something very serious and make little of it or turn it into a joke, also... hello IT guys

libragirl

Heineken Helen wrote:

I've learned several lessons (I'm slow ). So you're talking about just on the board? Cos I know I have random conversations with friends where we CAN go into details about stuff... but rarely is it about a boyfriend, ex boyfriend. But I don't discuss plenty of things anymore cos of several reasons... you put yourself up for ridicule, people think they can take something very serious and make little of it or turn it into a joke, also... hello IT guys

Well yes, it seemed I didn't quite learn my lesson though. I confided about something a few days ago just to be ridiculed. But NOW I really know I need to keep stuff too myself. But it's not just about on a message board, just in general. It's one thing to confide to a close friend about something, someone you can trust and takes you seriously. But I guess you are leaving yourself open if you offer personal things about yourself to a bunch of strangers. And I don't necessarily mean a message board or the internet. But I notice people dehumanize a lot on the internet and say a lot of stuff they probably wouldn't say to someone's face.

electronblue

pjhunz28 wrote:

i agree. it is sick. it seems people want to know and share way too much lately!!

LOL...~

Heineken Helen

libragirl wrote:

Well yes, it seemed I didn't quite learn my lesson though. I confided about something a few days ago just to be ridiculed. But NOW I really know I need to keep stuff too myself. But it's not just about on a message board, just in general. It's one thing to confide to a close friend about something, someone you can trust and takes you seriously. But I guess you are leaving yourself open if you offer personal things about yourself to a bunch of strangers. And I don't necessarily mean a message board or the internet. But I notice people dehumanize a lot on the internet and say a lot of stuff they probably wouldn't say to someone's face.

Oh definitely! I used to give much more information but people can be fuckheads... although many of them are great. There was one particular thread when I first started posting that really upset me and a couple of people were simply disgusting but many people pm'd me offering support so, while I learned not to post anything too personal, I also learned there are some great people here who CAN be turned to... and while there may be one or two asses in each advice thread... most people wanna help if they can.

libragirl

Heineken Helen wrote:

Oh definitely! I used to give much more information but people can be fuckheads... although many of them are great. There was one particular thread when I first started posting that really upset me and a couple of people were simply disgusting but many people pm'd me offering support so, while I learned not to post anything too personal, I also learned there are some great people here who CAN be turned to... and while there may be one or two asses in each advice thread... most people wanna help if they can.

Yeah I guess that is the risk you take for being open. I find its therapeutic to vent anonymously...sometimes you feel like you can't confide to people around you. But a lot of people get annoyed at this...so yeah. I guess I have been guilty of this

But as far as someone discussing personal details about someone else, well that is bad.

Heineken Helen

libragirl wrote:

Yeah I guess that is the risk you take for being open. I find its therapeutic to vent anonymously...sometimes you feel like you can't confide to people around you. But a lot of people get annoyed at this...so yeah. I guess I have been guilty of this

But as far as someone discussing personal details about someone else, well that is bad.

Yes, venting anonymously is great... but I'm no longer anonymous :( I need to find a new board cos I've met about half the people on this one and consider a big chunk of them to be friends.

libragirl

Heineken Helen wrote:

Yes, venting anonymously is great... but I'm no longer anonymous :( I need to find a new board cos I've met about half the people on this one and consider a big chunk of them to be friends.

lol..well yeah that is a problem. I only met one person on this board.

decides2dream

Get_Right wrote:

Guys like to hear chicks talk about sex.

damn straight.
my husband LOVEs it.

i am most definitely not one to kiss and tell....but sure, with my husband....he knows lots of details. hell, he is my husband, so why not? i don't think i've ever gone into great detail with anyone else tho, not my style and much too private. sure the occasional things you've done, various experiences but NOT about divulging specific partners. however, sure in the past my sister would ask if i'd have sex with certain guys, etc......nothing wrong with that. no details, just did it happen, was it good? that sorta thing. kinda a good guage for a relationship....or just a fling....;)

xavier mcdaniel

everyone loves details, although i've never had anyone say they're not in the mood, forcing me to say well you get in the mood...

Cosmo

libragirl wrote:

This question is for both you ladies and guys...

Do you tell your friends about your past "experiences" or for that matter your current boyfriends or girlfriends? Now I don't mean the disclosure people should do about their sexual history, I mean details about acts. I think that is in such poor taste. I had someone tell me this stuff and I thought it was awful, like how would I feel if someone was saying that type of stuff about me. Who knows if it was even true? I even had somone I dated confide in me that his sibling asked if we had sex. I was so offended. How is that would that be their business and why would they want to know..that is sick.

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I don't know... it depends, I guess.
I mean, I have re-told stories of past episodes. Like, when an ex-girlfriend asked about the scar on my shin. What was I gonna do? Lie?

eyedclaar

I kiss and tell and also make up a bunch of lurid crap to toss into the rumor mill...

eyedclaar

Cosmo wrote:

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I don't know... it depends, I guess.
I mean, I have re-told stories of past episodes. Like, when an ex-girlfriend asked about the scar on my shin. What was I gonna do? Lie?

So, you told her how you won that Medal of Honor in Vietnam, eh? Excellent!

libragirl

eyedclaar wrote:

I kiss and tell and also make up a bunch of lurid crap to toss into the rumor mill...

awesome...causing trouble is fun.

Cosmo wrote:

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I don't know... it depends, I guess.
I mean, I have re-told stories of past episodes. Like, when an ex-girlfriend asked about the scar on my shin. What was I gonna do? Lie?

I'm not really talking about stuff like that. But now you have me intrigued, how did you get that scar?