"you look too young to have a child."

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  • Ahnimus
    Ahnimus Posts: 10,560
    Did someone say "MILF"?

    No, ok, I was just checking.
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  • Allie
    Allie Posts: 2,908
    Brain of J.Lo wrote:
    I went to some training for a new part-time job I am starting, and while making small talk with a couple of the people training me, I mentioned my daughter. one of the women looked at me and said in a very matter-of-fact way, "You look too young to have a child."

    Huh? :D

    I responded with "well...I'm 27..."

    She also glanced down at my left hand as she said it, and I think she was checking for rings (which I happened to not be wearing...)

    Maybe she was just trying to flatter me, or something, but what a weird comment to make...lol.

    First, congrats on the job!
    second,
    meh some people are yentas J and they don't know when to mind their own business
    it sounds like she wasn't trying to say it to you as a compliment, she was trying to make a commentary and that's none of her business to do so

    either way, yes she's probably either envious or mouthy or a combination of both
    What difference does it make and who is she to comment on that? Blech. Just ignore her. You find all kinds of people in the world.

    I don't know what you look like but when you are attractive you're always going to have haters.

    I'm 34 but I don't look it either and I get comments like that. Or I get asked if I eat anything b/c I'm thin. My doctor asked me if I was anorexic :eek: when she first met me. I was like what? Not eat?! On PURPOSE? Um, no.
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  • GraySaturday
    GraySaturday Posts: 2,878
    I don't have any children, but I get told I am "Way too young looking to be married"...

    I don't know, but it annoys me a lot. People always say that to me, and in a tone like I am white trash for being married young.

    I did get asked at the hospital if I was my brothers younger sister... by his nurse, who knew he was 16.. Haha, gee, thanks, but I'm not 14.
  • Brain of J.Lo
    Brain of J.Lo Posts: 3,259
    GraySaturday wrote:
    I don't have any children, but I get told I am "Way too young looking to be married"...

    I don't know, but it annoys me a lot. People always say that to me, and in a tone like I am white trash for being married young.

    Yeah...it's the implied judgement that comes with it.

    I know there'll come a time when I'm thrilled to be mistaken for younger...but, for now, it can be a liability.

    edit: by the way, I don't think you look 14! :D
  • drtyfrnk29
    drtyfrnk29 Posts: 846
    Perhaps a better retort to that statement would be, "Well, I wouldnt dream of having a child at your age." Then snap a pencil with one hand.
    I'm so dangerous I smoke dynamite.

  • Brain of J.Lo
    Brain of J.Lo Posts: 3,259
    Allie wrote:
    First, congrats on the job!
    second,
    meh some people are yentas J and they don't know when to mind their own business
    it sounds like she wasn't trying to say it to you as a compliment, she was trying to make a commentary and that's none of her business to do so

    either way, yes she's probably either envious or mouthy or a combination of both
    What difference does it make and who is she to comment on that? Blech. Just ignore her. You find all kinds of people in the world.

    I don't know what you look like but when you are attractive you're always going to have haters.

    I'm 34 but I don't look it either and I get comments like that. Or I get asked if I eat anything b/c I'm thin. My doctor asked me if I was anorexic :eek: when she first met me. I was like what? Not eat?! On PURPOSE? Um, no.

    I can't believe a doctor would ask you that, simply based on appearance...lol. That's absurd!

    Oh, and if you want to know what I look like, I finally posted a pic in the pic thread... It's probably a few pages back by now. :D You'll agree; I *do* look young...lol. :)
  • Allie
    Allie Posts: 2,908
    Brain of J.Lo wrote:
    I can't believe a doctor would ask you that, simply based on appearance...lol. That's absurd!

    Oh, and if you want to know what I look like, I finally posted a pic in the pic thread... It's probably a few pages back by now. :D You'll agree; I *do* look young...lol. :)

    you look too young to have children :p Just kidding!!!!

    wow, you are really beautiful. I see where Annabelle gets it from :) (no disrespect to her daddy). No wonder that woman was envious.
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  • Indian Summer
    Indian Summer Posts: 2,296
    27 is too young to have kids.
    "It's all happening"
  • Brain of J.Lo
    Brain of J.Lo Posts: 3,259
    Indian Summer wrote:
    27 is too young to have kids.

    I would have said the same thing before I had the kid. :D
  • Brain of J.Lo
    Brain of J.Lo Posts: 3,259
    Allie wrote:
    you look too young to have children :p Just kidding!!!!

    wow, you are really beautiful. I see where Annabelle gets it from :) (no disrespect to her daddy). No wonder that woman was envious.

    lol! :D

    You're too kind. :) Thanks!
  • Indian Summer
    Indian Summer Posts: 2,296
    Brain of J.Lo wrote:
    I would have said the same thing before I had the kid. :D

    I'm only kiddin', people are in different stages of their lives in their late 20's....some are ready, some are not. I'm not though. I'm thinking around age 32 at the earliest.
    "It's all happening"
  • Brain of J.Lo
    Brain of J.Lo Posts: 3,259
    Indian Summer wrote:
    I'm only kiddin', people are in different stages of their lives in their late 20's....some are ready, some are not. I'm not though. I'm thinking around age 32 at the earliest.

    Yeah, I figured. :)

    And you're totally right.
  • Allie
    Allie Posts: 2,908
    Brain of J.Lo wrote:
    lol! :D

    You're too kind. :) Thanks!

    You're welcome.

    And I don't think 27 is too young to have kids, and who is anyone to judge, any damn way? I could have had a child at 27, I deeply regret that I didn't try. I would do anything to change that if it were possible. You don't want to live life with that kind of regret.
    "...like a word misplaced, nothing said, what a waste.."
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  • Indian Summer
    Indian Summer Posts: 2,296
    Allie wrote:
    You're welcome.

    And I don't think 27 is too young to have kids, and who is anyone to judge, any damn way? I could have had a child at 27, I deeply regret that I didn't try. I would do anything to change that if it were possible. You don't want to live life with that kind of regret.

    honestly if you can support a child at 16, more power to you.
    "It's all happening"
  • catefrances
    catefrances Posts: 29,003
    Brain of J.Lo wrote:
    I went to some training for a new part-time job I am starting, and while making small talk with a couple of the people training me, I mentioned my daughter. one of the women looked at me and said in a very matter-of-fact way, "You look too young to have a child."

    Huh? :D

    I responded with "well...I'm 27..."

    She also glanced down at my left hand as she said it, and I think she was checking for rings (which I happened to not be wearing...)

    Maybe she was just trying to flatter me, or something, but what a weird comment to make...lol.

    people are weird. i had a girl in one of my classes last semester tell me she nearly choked when i mentioned in class that i was 42. she said she thought i was in my late 20s. i dont think i do. so i had to share with her that the baby i was holding was my grand daughter. that certainly made her stop.
    im not that good at guesstimating people's ages but she really made my day that day. :)
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  • Indian Summer
    Indian Summer Posts: 2,296
    catefrances wrote:
    people are weird. i had a girl in one of my classes last semester tell me she nearly choked when i mentioned in class that i was 42. she said she thought i was in my late 20s. i dont think i do. so i had to share with her that the baby i was holding was my grand daughter. that certainly made her stop.
    im not that good at guesstimating people's ages but she really made my day that day. :)

    42's too young to be a granny. Who had the kid way to young, you, or your kid?
    "It's all happening"
  • Allie
    Allie Posts: 2,908
    Indian Summer wrote:
    honestly if you can support a child at 16, more power to you.
    Obviously I don't think that is a good idea, goes without saying.

    I meant who is anyone to judge J.Lo for having a baby at 27. I don't think it's too young, and if she had a job and a home and all of that, I don't see why should anyone judge her even if she had become a single mother at 27. Let He who is without sin cast the first stone.
    "...like a word misplaced, nothing said, what a waste.."
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  • catefrances
    catefrances Posts: 29,003
    Indian Summer wrote:
    42's too young to be a granny. Who had the kid way to young, you, or your kid?

    i had my 1st at 21 and my 2nd at 23. my 3rd at 32 and my youngest at 34. my daughter was 18 when her daughter was born.
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  • Indian Summer
    Indian Summer Posts: 2,296
    Allie wrote:
    Obviously I don't think that is a good idea, goes without saying.

    I meant who is anyone to judge J.Lo for having a baby at 27. I don't think it's too young, and if she had a job and a home and all of that, I don't see why should anyone judge her even if she had become a single mother at 27. Let He who is without sin cast the first stone.

    You contradict yourself. First you say who's to judge, then you say 16 is too young. Hypocrite!
    "It's all happening"
  • Allie
    Allie Posts: 2,908
    Indian Summer wrote:
    42's too young to be a granny. Who had the kid way to young, you, or your kid?

    I don't know if you're being sarcastic or not, I can't tell

    but you know people do things differently. My mother was married when she was 18 and had my brother at 21.
    Then she had a miscarriage

    and the doctors told her she'd never have any more children. Then at 35, whooops! I came into the world :)
    "...like a word misplaced, nothing said, what a waste.."
    "Sometimes life should be consumed in measured doses"
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