"you look too young to have a child."

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  • catefrances
    catefrances Posts: 29,003
    Allie wrote:
    you're spot on though! It's a good day! :)


    yeah im having a good day today. my tense meter isnt registering at all. :)
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  • MahoganySouls
    MahoganySouls Posts: 357
    Brain of J.Lo wrote:
    I went to some training for a new part-time job I am starting, and while making small talk with a couple of the people training me, I mentioned my daughter. one of the women looked at me and said in a very matter-of-fact way, "You look too young to have a child."

    Huh? :D

    I responded with "well...I'm 27..."

    She also glanced down at my left hand as she said it, and I think she was checking for rings (which I happened to not be wearing...)

    Maybe she was just trying to flatter me, or something, but what a weird comment to make...lol.
    I dont see it as a weird comment. Her ideals dictated that childrearing is better done by mature, married people.
    "When you're climbing to the top, you'd better know the way back down" MSB
  • soulsinging
    soulsinging Posts: 13,202
    MahoganySouls wrote:
    I dont see it as a weird comment. Her ideals dictated that childrearing is better done by mature, married people.

    and it's impossible for a 27 year old woman to be mature and married? even if her ideals are thus, does that give her a right to take shots at a young mother? what if she WAS 18 and single? should she be made to feel even more shitty and insecure than she already was?

    i dont know why i'm asking, i know what you answer is.
  • MahoganySouls
    MahoganySouls Posts: 357
    soulsinging wrote:
    and it's impossible for a 27 year old woman to be mature and married?
    not if she looks say, 18
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  • MahoganySouls
    MahoganySouls Posts: 357
    soulsinging wrote:
    and it's impossible for a 27 year old woman to be mature and married? even if her ideals are thus, does that give her a right to take shots at a young mother? what if she WAS 18 and single? should she be made to feel even more shitty and insecure than she already was?

    i dont know why i'm asking, i know what you answer is.
    if she was 18 and single I doubt she would be feeling "shitty and insecure" because most likely she would have a chip on her shoulder and exhibit an attitude of arrogance and entitlement to prove herself right in getting pregnant at 18 and unmarried
    "When you're climbing to the top, you'd better know the way back down" MSB
  • Brain of J.Lo
    Brain of J.Lo Posts: 3,259
    soulsinging wrote:
    and it's impossible for a 27 year old woman to be mature and married? even if her ideals are thus, does that give her a right to take shots at a young mother? what if she WAS 18 and single? should she be made to feel even more shitty and insecure than she already was?

    i dont know why i'm asking, i know what you answer is.

    I'm glad that at least some people understand where I'm coming from with this. :)

    And yeah...why bother? ;)
  • Brain of J.Lo
    Brain of J.Lo Posts: 3,259
    MahoganySouls wrote:
    if she was 18 and single I doubt she would be feeling "shitty and insecure" because most likely she would have a chip on her shoulder and exhibit an attitude of arrogance and entitlement to prove herself right in getting pregnant at 18 and unmarried

    This comment is so totally ignorant and judgemental that I am quoting it just in case you later realize how ignorant it is and decide to edit it. :)
  • Brain of J.Lo
    Brain of J.Lo Posts: 3,259
    MahoganySouls wrote:
    not if she looks say, 18

    It's impossible for a 27 yr old woman to be mature and married if she looks young? How's that?
  • MahoganySouls
    MahoganySouls Posts: 357
    Brain of J.Lo wrote:
    It's impossible for a 27 yr old woman to be mature and married if she looks young? How's that?
    Sit down JLo so you can absorb the actual comment. I know its hard. But the woman mistakenly thought she was younger than she really was and made a comment, albeit tactless. No harm, no foul.
    "When you're climbing to the top, you'd better know the way back down" MSB
  • MahoganySouls
    MahoganySouls Posts: 357
    Brain of J.Lo wrote:
    This comment is so totally ignorant and judgemental that I am quoting it just in case you later realize how ignorant it is and decide to edit it. :)
    Nope, I always stand by my comments and opinions. But thanks for the concern.
    "When you're climbing to the top, you'd better know the way back down" MSB
  • Brain of J.Lo
    Brain of J.Lo Posts: 3,259
    MahoganySouls wrote:
    I know its hard.

    :rolleyes:

    It's "it's", not "its". :):D If you're going to make a rude comment that insults someone's intelligence, it's best to check for errors like that. :)
  • MahoganySouls
    MahoganySouls Posts: 357
    Brain of J.Lo wrote:
    :rolleyes:

    It's "it's", not "its". :):D If you're going to make a rude comment that insults someone's intelligence, it's best to check for errors like that. :)
    Oh you are so right. I'm sure YOU never ever typo. I bow to your supreme intellect and am humbled by your lowering of yourself to correct me.
    "When you're climbing to the top, you'd better know the way back down" MSB
  • Brain of J.Lo
    Brain of J.Lo Posts: 3,259
    MahoganySouls wrote:
    Oh you are so right. I'm sure YOU never ever typo. I bow to your supreme intellect and am humbled by your lowering of yourself to correct me.

    You're welcome.
  • MahoganySouls
    MahoganySouls Posts: 357
    Brain of J.Lo wrote:
    Oh we don't. TRust me. When I first became pregnant, we lived in Chicago and I had planned to continue working so we looked into it, and daycare was going to cost us around 1000 a month for a newborn. :eek: :eek: :eek:

    We could have gotten our daughter her own studio apartment in our neighborhood for less. :D
    oops..what do we have here? A capital R where it shouldn't be? Oh and also a run on sentence. Gasp!
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  • Brain of J.Lo
    Brain of J.Lo Posts: 3,259
    MahoganySouls wrote:
    oops..what do we have here? A capital R where it shouldn't be? Oh and also a run on sentence. Gasp!

    lol! I love that you went and hunted that down. :D
  • MahoganySouls
    MahoganySouls Posts: 357
    Brain of J.Lo wrote:
    lol! I love that you went and hunted that down. :D
    Ohhh, I'm sorry to disappoint you. I was just reading through the thread and stumbled upon it.
    "When you're climbing to the top, you'd better know the way back down" MSB
  • Brain of J.Lo
    Brain of J.Lo Posts: 3,259
    MahoganySouls wrote:
    Ohhh, I'm sorry to disappoint you. I was just reading through the thread and stumbled upon it.

    Who said anything about being disappointed? I said I loved it! :D
  • MahoganySouls
    MahoganySouls Posts: 357
    Brain of J.Lo wrote:
    Who said anything about being disappointed? I said I loved it! :D
    I suppose it was the lack of a copious amount of emoticons that led me to that conclusion.
    "When you're climbing to the top, you'd better know the way back down" MSB
  • catefrances
    catefrances Posts: 29,003
    MahoganySouls wrote:
    if she was 18 and single I doubt she would be feeling "shitty and insecure" because most likely she would have a chip on her shoulder and exhibit an attitude of arrogance and entitlement to prove herself right in getting pregnant at 18 and unmarried

    and when exactly did you become judgement king/queen? or is it that you're just the court jester hell bent on entertaining us with your stupid myopic attitudes. 18 year olds are arrogant and have an attitude of entitlement because they need to prove they're right in getting pregnant and being unmarried whilst fornicating?
    even when i was younger than 18 and pregnant i didnt have a chip on my shoulder. nor did i have an arrogant attitude and feel the need to prove myself right. but what i did feel the need for was to have the courage of my convictions and think what was the right thing to do for all concerned.
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  • MahoganySouls
    MahoganySouls Posts: 357
    catefrances wrote:
    and when exactly did you become judgement king/queen? or is it that you're just the court jester hell bent on entertaining us with your stupid myopic attitudes. 18 year olds are arrogant and have an attitude of entitlement because they need to prove they're right in getting pregnant and being unmarried whilst fornicating?
    even when i was younger than 18 and pregnant i didnt have a chip on my shoulder. nor did i have an arrogant attitude and feel the need to prove myself right. but what i did feel the need for was to have the courage of my convictions and think what was the right thing to do for all concerned.
    Oh? So unless you think it is "noble" and "courageous" to be pregnant, unmarried and 18 you are judgemental?

    See, the chip.
    "When you're climbing to the top, you'd better know the way back down" MSB
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