A question for the divorced....

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  • wolfbear
    wolfbear Posts: 3,965
    I have no imput re: a divorce, but lots due to inheritance. If you like the stone, reset it, if not sell it or pass it on. If you don't like it you won't wear it so what's the point? I suppose you could save it and pass it down? But again what's the point? :)
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  • Zanne
    Zanne Posts: 899
    South of Seattle wrote:
    Sell it and get a male stripper!


    My name is Sue Peace and I approve this message.

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  • CHANGEinWAVES
    CHANGEinWAVES Posts: 10,169
    Zanne wrote:
    My name is Sue Peace and I approve this message.

    ;)
    so it's unanimous then?? I should sell them and get tons of male strippers??!!!! ;)
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  • urbanhippie
    urbanhippie Posts: 3,007
    I think selling them and using the money to buy yourself something really special is a great idea. I was going to save mine for my daughter, but maybe she wouldn't want a ring with such a negative history :confused:

    I'm not sure what to do with mine now.... :o
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  • Black Diamond
    Black Diamond Posts: 25,109
    This is going to be a strange story. So there are a few religous items one brings to synogogue with them when they pray in judaism. When I got divorced from a very short and painful marriage, I must have taken my ring off and put it in a bag that I carry my items to pray with (I can't remember the circumstances but I was probably cursing G-d at my misfortune and misery).

    Fast forward nine years later and I am praying with my wife one Saturday. When I was pulling out the stuff I needed from my bag, the ring must have popped out. It wound up on the floor. My wife picked it up and thought that the person before us must have dropped it. I did not correct her (She does not like to think of me as being previously married and who am I to burst her bubble). She takes it to the office and leaves it.

    I call the next week to tell them the truth and donate it for the sake of the synogogue.

    So I guess what I am saying is you could donate it..

    But the male strippers sounds great ;) or you could pay your electric bill :mad:
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  • comebackwoman
    comebackwoman Posts: 7,271
    I don't wear my former wedding/engagement rings - just keep them in a box with some other special jewelry. I have an anniversary ring which I just adore and I still wear it on my right hand. He still uses the stereo system I bought him for that anniversary, so why shouldn't I wear the ring? :p
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  • pinot768
    pinot768 Posts: 295
    yellowled24 wrote:
    Sell it. Then with the money from that, go our and by yourself another NEW peice of jewelry that can symbolise your independance and freedom!!! :D

    It can be a momento of you being strong and happy! :D
    My thoughts exactly! That is what I did with mine from my first marriage. We got married with just plain gold bands, I had waited 10 years to get the set that I wanted, and it was gorgeous. The marriage ended (or should I say when it officially ended) on the day before our 11th wedding anniversary, so I didn't have the set that long. However, it still meant a great deal to me. The best thing I did to move forward was to sell it and buy myself something I wanted that I picked out just for me. It was a cleansing experience that helped me put a lot of crap behind me.
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  • Drowned Out
    Drowned Out Posts: 6,056
    mine is in my medicine cabinet with a pile of other gold I don't like wearing...never was a fan of jewellery, esp gold, so I'm glad I don't have to wear it anymore.
    I've never put much thought into it...but I will probably have it melted and made into something for my kids when they're older.
    Would there be karmic implications if I had all that gold made into something for some future gf? Me thinks I'd have to keep my mouth shut about it :D
  • decides2dream
    decides2dream Posts: 14,977
    CHANGEinWAVES wrote:
    what did you do with your wedding ring(and engagement rings for the ladies)?
    I LOVE mine, but I know it would just be weird to ever wear them again.


    i am not divorced, but my oldest sister is twice-divorced. both times, she sold her rings. definitely not something she wanted to hold onto for 'nostalgia's sake.' and yes, she loved hers too...but when they no longer held the true meaning of why she received them or worse them, she knew she no longer wanted them.


    good luck. :)
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  • Urban Hiker
    Urban Hiker Posts: 1,312
    I threw mine over the Wanapum Dam while shouting "FUCK YOOOUUUU!!!!"


    My first husband was a real fucking asshole. We met near that dam, so it just seemed perfect.
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  • anotherclone
    anotherclone Posts: 1,688
    CHANGEinWAVES wrote:
    what did you do with your wedding ring(and engagement rings for the ladies)?
    I LOVE mine, but I know it would just be weird to ever wear them again.

    I have mine saved in a storage box. I don't know why. I'm remarried and it's not like I'm going to wear it again.
  • g under p
    g under p Surfing The far side of THE Sombrero Galaxy Posts: 18,236
    CHANGEinWAVES wrote:
    what did you do with your wedding ring(and engagement rings for the ladies)?
    I LOVE mine, but I know it would just be weird to ever wear them again.

    I still have my band in my jewelry case and I think she pawned hers to piss me off. Aw well I'm not mad she needed to behave like a lady. :)

    Ps I'll melt mine if I ever get married again.

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  • eyedclaar
    eyedclaar Posts: 6,980
    I honestly have no idea where my ring is. I really don't care either...
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  • CHANGEinWAVES
    CHANGEinWAVES Posts: 10,169
    Another question sort of the same.... As my wedding gift he gave me the jewelry to wear on my wedding day (diamond necklace, earrings,and a bracelet) again I love then but don't ever see wearing them again. Do you suggest the same? I'm only asking cause these are items I thought I'd have forever and pass on to my children, but seeing as IF I have children they will be from another man, I don't see them being interested in any of these things.
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  • decides2dream
    decides2dream Posts: 14,977
    CHANGEinWAVES wrote:
    Another question sort of the same.... As my wedding gift he gave me the jewelry to wear on my wedding day (diamond necklace, earrings,and a bracelet) again I love then but don't ever see wearing them again. Do you suggest the same? I'm only asking cause these are items I thought I'd have forever and pass on to my children, but seeing as IF I have children they will be from another man, I don't see them being interested in any of these things.



    haven't you answered your own question in all that?
    obviously it's your indifvidual choice...but from what you wrote....i'd sell it, donate the proceeds to a fave charity or buy yourself something nice. do something *positive*...:)
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  • CHANGEinWAVES
    CHANGEinWAVES Posts: 10,169
    decides2dream wrote:
    haven't you answered your own question in all that?
    obviously it's your indifvidual choice...but from what you wrote....i'd sell it, donate the proceeds to a fave charity or buy yourself something nice. do something *positive*...:)
    Ahhh yes I guess I did... Nothing like a little pit therapy to see where our hearts are! :D
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  • mammasan
    mammasan Posts: 5,656
    I sold my ring the day of my divorce. It helped pay for my divorce party.
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  • mammasan
    mammasan Posts: 5,656
    CHANGEinWAVES wrote:
    Another question sort of the same.... As my wedding gift he gave me the jewelry to wear on my wedding day (diamond necklace, earrings,and a bracelet) again I love then but don't ever see wearing them again. Do you suggest the same? I'm only asking cause these are items I thought I'd have forever and pass on to my children, but seeing as IF I have children they will be from another man, I don't see them being interested in any of these things.

    Sell them as well and treat yourself to something nice, a day at the spa, some new clothes, etc…
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  • CHANGEinWAVES
    CHANGEinWAVES Posts: 10,169
    mammasan wrote:
    I sold my ring the day of my divorce. It helped pay for my divorce party.
    Maybe I should wait and use the money to fund my next PJ tour:)
    "I'm not present, I'm a drug that makes you dream"
  • mammasan
    mammasan Posts: 5,656
    CHANGEinWAVES wrote:
    Maybe I should wait and use the money to fund my next PJ tour:)

    There you go.
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