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A question for the divorced....

CHANGEinWAVESCHANGEinWAVES Posts: 10,169
edited November 2008 in All Encompassing Trip
what did you do with your wedding ring(and engagement rings for the ladies)?
"I'm not present, I'm a drug that makes you dream"
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  • pearljamjenpearljamjen Posts: 13,578
    CHANGEinWAVES wrote:
    what did you do with your wedding ring(and engagement rings for the ladies)?
    I LOVE mine, but I know it would just be weird to ever wear them again.

    sell it. or put it in your ex's food so he chokes on it.
  • CHANGEinWAVESCHANGEinWAVES Posts: 10,169
    pearljamjen wrote:
    sell it. or put it in your ex's food so he chokes on it.
    i was thinking about selling them :(

    I'd rather choke him on something a little less expensive!
    "I'm not present, I'm a drug that makes you dream"
  • pearljamjenpearljamjen Posts: 13,578
    CHANGEinWAVES wrote:
    i was thinking about selling them :(

    I'd rather choke him on something a little less expensive!

    :D Okay, maybe try glass then ;)

    Yeah, sell it!
  • Thorns2010Thorns2010 Posts: 2,201
    I'll probably get crap for saying it, but why not give the engagement back to him?
  • small town becksmall town beck Posts: 6,691
    What about having the rings made into other rings by a custom jeweler? I used to work with a girl who did that and the new ring was awesome.
  • CHANGEinWAVESCHANGEinWAVES Posts: 10,169
    Thorns2010 wrote:
    I'll probably get crap for saying it, but why not give the engagement back to him?
    after 6 year of marriage and having the engagement ring for 8 years he doesn't want it back.
    "I'm not present, I'm a drug that makes you dream"
  • CHANGEinWAVESCHANGEinWAVES Posts: 10,169
    small town beck wrote:
    What about having the rings made into other rings by a custom jeweler? I used to work with a girl who did that and the new ring was awesome.
    i was thinking of that with the diamond of the engagement ring... but my wedding ring is Pave` and i don't know what can be done with all the little diamonds.
    "I'm not present, I'm a drug that makes you dream"
  • South of SeattleSouth of Seattle West Seattle Posts: 10,724
    Sell it and get a male stripper!
    NERDS!
  • CHANGEinWAVESCHANGEinWAVES Posts: 10,169
    South of Seattle wrote:
    Sell it and get a male stripper!
    ohhhhh :eek: ;):p
    "I'm not present, I'm a drug that makes you dream"
  • Brain of J.LoBrain of J.Lo Posts: 3,259
    CHANGEinWAVES wrote:
    i was thinking of that with the diamond of the engagement ring... but my wedding ring is Pave` and i don't know what can be done with all the little diamonds.

    Could you maybe stack the pave band with another ring and wear it on the right hand? And then maybe you could turn your stone from your engagement ring into a necklace or something? Or, maybe you could just reset it into a ring that looks less "engagement-ringy" and stack that with your wedding band on the right hand.
  • small town becksmall town beck Posts: 6,691
    South of Seattle wrote:
    Sell it and get a male stripper!

    You volunteering? :eek: :p
  • CHANGEinWAVESCHANGEinWAVES Posts: 10,169
    Brain of J.Lo wrote:
    Could you maybe stack the pave band with another ring and wear it on the right hand? And then maybe you could turn your stone from your engagement ring into a necklace or something? Or, maybe you could just reset it into a ring that looks less "engagement-ringy" and stack that with your wedding band on the right hand.
    that's a good thought...but I still don't know if I can bring myself to wear it again. Maybe in time, but not now:( It's a shame cause it's a beautiful ring.
    "I'm not present, I'm a drug that makes you dream"
  • CHANGEinWAVESCHANGEinWAVES Posts: 10,169
    small town beck wrote:
    You volunteering? :eek: :p
    that might call for another thread if he is;) :p
    "I'm not present, I'm a drug that makes you dream"
  • small town becksmall town beck Posts: 6,691
    CHANGEinWAVES wrote:
    that might call for another thread if he is;) :p


    Agreed ;)



    :D

    You may want to look into selling them and moving on. Sometimes keeping things starts to keep you(someone told me that once...can't remember who, so I can't remember if they are wise :p)

    Plus it sounds like he may not have left you in the best financial situ so the rings could help out.
  • South of SeattleSouth of Seattle West Seattle Posts: 10,724
    small town beck wrote:
    You volunteering? :eek: :p

    Nope, but they are http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9RajNvJ3bCU
    NERDS!
  • CHANGEinWAVESCHANGEinWAVES Posts: 10,169
    small town beck wrote:
    You may want to look into selling them and moving on. Sometimes keeping things starts to keep you
    this is a very good point!
    "I'm not present, I'm a drug that makes you dream"
  • small town becksmall town beck Posts: 6,691
    South of Seattle wrote:
    Nope, but they are http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9RajNvJ3bCU


    Damn I was going to get some Loonies and Twoonies out :p


    :eek: Nobody wants to see that video
  • CHANGEinWAVESCHANGEinWAVES Posts: 10,169
    small town beck wrote:
    Damn I was going to get some Loonies and Twoonies out :p


    :eek: Nobody wants to see that video
    yeah hopefully the sale of my rings could get me some strippers better then that! ;)
    "I'm not present, I'm a drug that makes you dream"
  • yellowled24yellowled24 Posts: 3,118
    Sell it. Then with the money from that, go our and by yourself another NEW peice of jewelry that can symbolise your independance and freedom!!! :D

    It can be a momento of you being strong and happy! :D
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  • CHANGEinWAVESCHANGEinWAVES Posts: 10,169
    yellowled24 wrote:
    Sell it. Then with the money from that, go our and by yourself another NEW peice of jewelry that can symbolise your independance and freedom!!! :D

    It can be a momento of you being strong and happy! :D
    Ohhhh i LIKE this idea:D
    "I'm not present, I'm a drug that makes you dream"
  • wolfbearwolfbear Posts: 3,965
    I have no imput re: a divorce, but lots due to inheritance. If you like the stone, reset it, if not sell it or pass it on. If you don't like it you won't wear it so what's the point? I suppose you could save it and pass it down? But again what's the point? :)
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  • ZanneZanne Posts: 899
    South of Seattle wrote:
    Sell it and get a male stripper!


    My name is Sue Peace and I approve this message.

    ;)
    Just me
  • CHANGEinWAVESCHANGEinWAVES Posts: 10,169
    Zanne wrote:
    My name is Sue Peace and I approve this message.

    ;)
    so it's unanimous then?? I should sell them and get tons of male strippers??!!!! ;)
    "I'm not present, I'm a drug that makes you dream"
  • urbanhippieurbanhippie Posts: 3,007
    I think selling them and using the money to buy yourself something really special is a great idea. I was going to save mine for my daughter, but maybe she wouldn't want a ring with such a negative history :confused:

    I'm not sure what to do with mine now.... :o
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  • Black DiamondBlack Diamond Posts: 25,107
    This is going to be a strange story. So there are a few religous items one brings to synogogue with them when they pray in judaism. When I got divorced from a very short and painful marriage, I must have taken my ring off and put it in a bag that I carry my items to pray with (I can't remember the circumstances but I was probably cursing G-d at my misfortune and misery).

    Fast forward nine years later and I am praying with my wife one Saturday. When I was pulling out the stuff I needed from my bag, the ring must have popped out. It wound up on the floor. My wife picked it up and thought that the person before us must have dropped it. I did not correct her (She does not like to think of me as being previously married and who am I to burst her bubble). She takes it to the office and leaves it.

    I call the next week to tell them the truth and donate it for the sake of the synogogue.

    So I guess what I am saying is you could donate it..

    But the male strippers sounds great ;) or you could pay your electric bill :mad:
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  • comebackwomancomebackwoman Posts: 7,271
    I don't wear my former wedding/engagement rings - just keep them in a box with some other special jewelry. I have an anniversary ring which I just adore and I still wear it on my right hand. He still uses the stereo system I bought him for that anniversary, so why shouldn't I wear the ring? :p
    There's a light when my baby's in my arms :)
  • pinot768pinot768 Posts: 295
    yellowled24 wrote:
    Sell it. Then with the money from that, go our and by yourself another NEW peice of jewelry that can symbolise your independance and freedom!!! :D

    It can be a momento of you being strong and happy! :D
    My thoughts exactly! That is what I did with mine from my first marriage. We got married with just plain gold bands, I had waited 10 years to get the set that I wanted, and it was gorgeous. The marriage ended (or should I say when it officially ended) on the day before our 11th wedding anniversary, so I didn't have the set that long. However, it still meant a great deal to me. The best thing I did to move forward was to sell it and buy myself something I wanted that I picked out just for me. It was a cleansing experience that helped me put a lot of crap behind me.
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  • Drowned OutDrowned Out Posts: 6,056
    mine is in my medicine cabinet with a pile of other gold I don't like wearing...never was a fan of jewellery, esp gold, so I'm glad I don't have to wear it anymore.
    I've never put much thought into it...but I will probably have it melted and made into something for my kids when they're older.
    Would there be karmic implications if I had all that gold made into something for some future gf? Me thinks I'd have to keep my mouth shut about it :D
  • decides2dreamdecides2dream Posts: 14,977
    CHANGEinWAVES wrote:
    what did you do with your wedding ring(and engagement rings for the ladies)?
    I LOVE mine, but I know it would just be weird to ever wear them again.


    i am not divorced, but my oldest sister is twice-divorced. both times, she sold her rings. definitely not something she wanted to hold onto for 'nostalgia's sake.' and yes, she loved hers too...but when they no longer held the true meaning of why she received them or worse them, she knew she no longer wanted them.


    good luck. :)
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  • Urban HikerUrban Hiker Posts: 1,312
    I threw mine over the Wanapum Dam while shouting "FUCK YOOOUUUU!!!!"


    My first husband was a real fucking asshole. We met near that dam, so it just seemed perfect.
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