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Saving your first kiss for marriage.

GraySaturdayGraySaturday Posts: 2,878
edited October 2008 in All Encompassing Trip
So, there are people out there that take part in courtships. My husband had a friend that did this. They only allowed themselves to hug each other until their wedding night, where they shared their first kiss (behind closed doors after the ceremony). I'm also watching a new special on the Duggar family (the family with 17 kids) and its a courtship special, and they are talking about how they are saving their first kiss for marriage. And they have to have chaperons on all dates. And the chaperons have to be of a certain age too.

I'm a little freaked out by this whole concept.. Not a single kiss until marriage.. I can't wrap my head around that.
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  • small town becksmall town beck Posts: 6,691
    I decided to edit out my comment :o

    Sounds weird. What if you had NO chemistry?
  • SoonForgotten2SoonForgotten2 Posts: 2,245
    That's just beyond ridiculous. I don't think I could ever see the point behind that. Live a little, people!!
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  • mookeywrenchmookeywrench Posts: 5,749
    GraySaturday wrote:
    I'm also watching a new special on the Duggar family (the family with 17 kids) and its a courtship special, and they are talking about how they are saving their first kiss for marriage.

    I'm confused about this sentence....

    You're saying that they're a family of 17 kids, but they're unmarried and have yet to kiss?
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  • GraySaturdayGraySaturday Posts: 2,878
    mookeywrench wrote:
    I'm confused about this sentence....

    You're saying that they're a family of 17 kids, but they're unmarried and have yet to kiss?

    Oh sorry, its focusing on the oldest of the 17 children. He's "engaged" or courting.. or something..

    whatever it is.. its not kissing.
  • CHANGEinWAVESCHANGEinWAVES Posts: 10,169
    GraySaturday wrote:
    So, there are people out there that take part in courtships. My husband had a friend that did this. They only allowed themselves to hug each other until their wedding night, where they shared their first kiss (behind closed doors after the ceremony). I'm also watching a new special on the Duggar family (the family with 17 kids) and its a courtship special, and they are talking about how they are saving their first kiss for marriage. And they have to have chaperons on all dates. And the chaperons have to be of a certain age too.

    I'm a little freaked out by this whole concept.. Not a single kiss until marriage.. I can't wrap my head around that.
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  • SoonForgotten2SoonForgotten2 Posts: 2,245
    GraySaturday wrote:
    Oh sorry, its focusing on the oldest of the 17 children.

    Oldest of 17 kids? Ha ha ha, that explains it then!
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  • normnorm I'm always home. I'm uncool. Posts: 31,147
    SoonForgotten2 wrote:
    Oldest of 17 kids? Ha ha ha, that explains it then!


    with 18 on the way :eek:

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  • PJGARDENPJGARDEN Posts: 1,484
    First kiss on your wedding night? Assuming their wedding night is like most people's that's a lot to learn in one night.
  • PJGARDENPJGARDEN Posts: 1,484
    So I guess this means the girls that hug on the first date are the whores?
  • GraySaturdayGraySaturday Posts: 2,878
    Oh my god, these people are wicked brain washed..

    the said they are going to trust the lord to bless them with as many kids as possible, just like their parents..

    these two met at a "home school conference" :eek:
  • normnorm I'm always home. I'm uncool. Posts: 31,147
    GraySaturday wrote:
    Oh my god, these people are wicked brain washed..

    the said they are going to trust the lord to bless them with as many kids as possible, just like their parents..

    these two met at a "home school conference" :eek:


    who are we to judge a lifestyle but....



    these people are just plain creepy :o
  • suns rivalsuns rival Posts: 15,926
    GraySaturday wrote:
    So, there are people out there that take part in courtships. My husband had a friend that did this. They only allowed themselves to hug each other until their wedding night, where they shared their first kiss (behind closed doors after the ceremony). I'm also watching a new special on the Duggar family (the family with 17 kids) and its a courtship special, and they are talking about how they are saving their first kiss for marriage. And they have to have chaperons on all dates. And the chaperons have to be of a certain age too.

    I'm a little freaked out by this whole concept.. Not a single kiss until marriage.. I can't wrap my head around that.

    :eek: talking about an ultra-conservative couple...

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  • justjoshingujustjoshingu Posts: 538
    not quite the same thing but...
    i knew a girl who promised God she would stay a virgin so she never had intercourse. intercourse being a penis in vagina.

    but she loved it up the b**t i thought that was hypocritical
    mean people suck!
    but nice people sw****w

  • Left PorchLeft Porch Posts: 837
    First Date

    Girl: Oh by the way I won't kiss until marriage, that's my rule.

    Left Porch: You know theres other things we can do besides kiss

    Girl: Like what

    Left Porch: (whispers something in girls ear)

    Girl: (Slaps the shit out of Left Porch)
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  • muiren77muiren77 Posts: 3,511
    Left Porch wrote:
    First Date

    Girl: Oh by the way I won't kiss until marriage, that's my rule.

    Left Porch: You know theres other things we can do besides kiss

    Girl: Like what

    Left Porch: (whispers something in girls ear)

    Girl: (Slaps the shit out of Left Porch)

    what did u tell her? nah, forget it...you probably deserve the slapping..:D
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  • EquallyWorthlessEquallyWorthless Posts: 3,993
    GraySaturday wrote:
    So, there are people out there that take part in courtships. My husband had a friend that did this. They only allowed themselves to hug each other until their wedding night, where they shared their first kiss (behind closed doors after the ceremony). I'm also watching a new special on the Duggar family (the family with 17 kids) and its a courtship special, and they are talking about how they are saving their first kiss for marriage. And they have to have chaperons on all dates. And the chaperons have to be of a certain age too.

    I'm a little freaked out by this whole concept.. Not a single kiss until marriage.. I can't wrap my head around that.


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  • nuffingmannuffingman Posts: 3,014
    Left Porch wrote:
    First Date

    Girl: Oh by the way I won't kiss until marriage, that's my rule.

    Left Porch: You know theres other things we can do besides kiss

    Girl: Like what

    Left Porch: (whispers something in girls ear)

    Girl: (Slaps the shit out of Left Porch)

    :) and that's probably a scene from the Duggars household.

    The mother has spent 12 years and 9 months of her life pregnant. :eek:
  • Heineken HelenHeineken Helen Posts: 18,095
    justjoshingu wrote:
    not quite the same thing but...
    i knew a girl who promised God she would stay a virgin so she never had intercourse. intercourse being a penis in vagina.

    but she loved it up the b**t i thought that was hypocritical
    ah the excuses some people come up with :p
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  • justamjustam Posts: 21,392
    GraySaturday wrote:
    So, there are people out there that take part in courtships. My husband had a friend that did this. They only allowed themselves to hug each other until their wedding night, where they shared their first kiss (behind closed doors after the ceremony). I'm also watching a new special on the Duggar family (the family with 17 kids) and its a courtship special, and they are talking about how they are saving their first kiss for marriage. And they have to have chaperons on all dates. And the chaperons have to be of a certain age too.

    I'm a little freaked out by this whole concept.. Not a single kiss until marriage.. I can't wrap my head around that.

    I knew a married couple in college who waited to have sex until they were married, but they had no rules against everything else. They were quite happy at that time and I think they're still together.

    I think waiting to kiss is a bit extreme.
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  • muiren77muiren77 Posts: 3,511
    justam wrote:
    I think waiting to kiss is a bit extreme.

    i guess they are just super-ultra-mega-conservative-to-the-max!
    what is essential is invisible to the eye

    apparently, 07162056 is THE date...
  • JennytreeJennytree Posts: 5,340
    I watched a documentary on this last night on the channel 4 website called the Virgin Daughters.

    Its the oddest thing ever - waiting until your wedding day for your first kiss... bloody americans :p

    It also told the story of one girl who ended up getting pregnant, cos she was f*ckin this dude, but they were never taught about condoms or the like *facepalm*
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  • Black DiamondBlack Diamond Posts: 25,107
    Wow! This is awesome!

    So now there is a great for me (uhh... Someone) to use when explaining why they lived with their mom until 26 and can count how many episodes I (they) had on one finger.

    I was doing it for the lord!

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  • petrocspetrocs Posts: 4,342
    You cant know if the brownies are good unless you taste the batter! I total disagree with this type of behavior
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  • Sian-of-the-deadSian-of-the-dead Posts: 8,963
    Man, that's like buying a lifetime's supply of Krispy Kremes without even tasting a Tescos Donut... :eek:

    Not for me :o
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  • PoncierPoncier Posts: 16,215
    PJGARDEN wrote:
    First kiss on your wedding night? Assuming their wedding night is like most people's that's a lot to learn in one night.


    Just the kiss will be a bit awkward, thats all they agree to wait on...they've been banging like rabbits for months, just no kissing. :D
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  • CollinCollin Posts: 4,932
    Weird.
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  • ladygooddivaladygooddiva Posts: 4,169
    sorry but i was just laughing that is so wired ..but maybe i am the wrong person on these ...well bec. is on my eyes staying virgin for the marriage is wrong ..for what are the condoms
    and beeing happy while sex is important as well as understanding etc.
    how you should now what your needs are when you don t know what is all about ...
  • stu geestu gee Posts: 1,174
    I watched that virgin daughters programme on tv a while back and all the fathers were trying to get their daughters to save their first kiss for marriage. One of them ended up getting pregnant though which must have been fun breaking the news to her parents lol.

    I suppose they could come back with 'well you only said that it was kissing that was forbidden.'

    Was funny though, one of the over protective fathers had about 12 kids with many different women.
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  • senninsennin Posts: 2,146
    What about oral? Is that still ok?

    :p
  • AmentsChickAmentsChick Posts: 6,969
    You watched the Duggars last night, too?!!! SOOOO interesting! Joshua seemed SOOOO young (which he is), nervous and inexperienced when he "proposed".
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