relationship question

genie
genie Posts: 2,222
edited March 2008 in All Encompassing Trip
just wondering:

once you get into relationship how many times do you speak to/text your bf/gf per week?

i used to think it was women that needed constant calling and attention. but that is until i went out with two guys, and one was calling me each day and the other used to text me each day :rolleyes:

i'm the sort of girl that likes time for herself, and contacting them everyday seemed like a chore until i got used to it. don't get me wrong i liked them but talking to someone everyday i consider madness.

what are your views on this?
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  • South of Seattle
    South of Seattle West Seattle Posts: 10,724
    I'm much like you as far as this goes. But now with my current lady we do talk much, much more. I guess it all depends how often you see your girl/boyfriend. I think if you see them more often, you'd probably talk on the phone less. Every situation is a little different. Many dynamics to consider in a relationship.
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  • SENROCK
    SENROCK Posts: 10,736
    South of Seattle wrote:
    I'm much like you as far as this goes. But now with my current lady we do talk much, much more. I guess it all depends how often you see your girl/boyfriend. I think if you see them more often, you'd probably talk on the phone less. Every situation is a little different. Many dynamics to consider in a relationship.
    i agree that it depends on the person. some people enjoy being with each other daily or in contact 24/7. others prefer their space. if it feels like a CHORE........quit it!!! it should be somn u look FORWARD to when thinkingof talking or seeing that person. Not something you dread. ESPECIALLY if ure in a relationship!
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  • genie
    genie Posts: 2,222
    SENROCK! wrote:
    i agree that it depends on the person. some people enjoy being with each other daily or in contact 24/7. others prefer their space. if it feels like a CHORE........quit it!!! it should be somn u look FORWARD to when thinkingof talking or seeing that person. Not something you dread. ESPECIALLY if ure in a relationship!

    you're right, next time i don't text back my future bf for 3 days or something i will quote what you've said ;):D hehe only joking though

    basically i'll be more tougher next time, and if someone doesn't like it then they weren't meant to be anyways.
  • urbanhippie
    urbanhippie Posts: 3,007
    I think it depends on the nature of your relationship. I can't see my b/f for 6 weeks at a time, so we text lots of times during the day and speak on the phone for an hour most days.

    Basically, it's whatever you feel comfortable with. And I agree with those who've said it should never be a chore. No matter how many texts I get in a day, each one makes me smile again. :)
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  • pearljamgirl07
    pearljamgirl07 Posts: 792
    I agree with the guys all depends how often do you see your gf/bf but if I'm with my boy everyday and then he calls me many times I'll kill him.....hahahahhhaa
    "You're the eve of my destruction in the garden of fears"
  • SENROCK
    SENROCK Posts: 10,736
    urbanhippie wrote:
    No matter how many texts I get in a day, each one makes me smile again. :)
    ahhhhhh i know EXXXACTLY how that feels. :D Texxxting is so good when theres distance isnt it? :D
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  • urbanhippie
    urbanhippie Posts: 3,007
    SENROCK! wrote:
    ahhhhhh i know EXXXACTLY how that feels. :D Texxxting is so good when theres distance isnt it? :D
    Thank God my network has unlimited texts :)... It'd cost me a small fortune. Worth it though ;)
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  • AnnaMelinda
    AnnaMelinda Posts: 331
    SENROCK! wrote:
    ahhhhhh i know EXXXACTLY how that feels. :D Texxxting is so good when theres distance isnt it? :D

    Until the texts mysteriously STOP.

    Then the texting and the distance and the friendship/relationship all seem to SUCK. :(
    sometimes life don't leave you alone
  • Swan
    Swan Posts: 350
    genie wrote:
    just wondering:

    once you get into relationship how many times do you speak to/text your bf/gf per week?

    i used to think it was women that needed constant calling and attention. but that is until i went out with two guys, and one was calling me each day and the other used to text me each day :rolleyes:

    i'm the sort of girl that likes time for herself, and contacting them everyday seemed like a chore until i got used to it. don't get me wrong i liked them but talking to someone everyday i consider madness.

    what are your views on this?

    it's madness, tell them to calm down and behave like men.
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  • FinsburyParkCarrots
    FinsburyParkCarrots Seattle, WA Posts: 12,223
    genie wrote:
    i went out with two guys


    At the same time? I mean, you know ...

    :D
  • brain of c
    brain of c Posts: 5,213
    never ever texed.
    d'oh!!!!!!

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  • justam
    justam Posts: 21,415
    genie wrote:
    just wondering:

    once you get into relationship how many times do you speak to/text your bf/gf per week?

    i used to think it was women that needed constant calling and attention. but that is until i went out with two guys, and one was calling me each day and the other used to text me each day :rolleyes:

    i'm the sort of girl that likes time for herself, and contacting them everyday seemed like a chore until i got used to it. don't get me wrong i liked them but talking to someone everyday i consider madness.

    what are your views on this?

    In my experience, men need a lot of attention. More than one might imagine so you have to figure out what they need and deliver it as efficiently as possible. :D
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  • FinsburyParkCarrots
    FinsburyParkCarrots Seattle, WA Posts: 12,223
    To both of them. :D
  • SENROCK
    SENROCK Posts: 10,736
    suppafreak wrote:
    Until the texts mysteriously STOP.

    Then the texting and the distance and the friendship/relationship all seem to SUCK. :(

    awww you hadd to kill the FLOW!!! its true though. i remember i met someone super cool at the vancouver show in 05. we would texxxt so much and EVERY texxxt was a great one and NEVER failed to brighten my day. Then last year.......it disappeared. :eek: both our faults. But we are still really good frenz no matter what. :)
    ~~~~~~ALWAYS HAVE A GOOD TIME~~~~~~
    Sir Mike McCready is....THE MASTER!!! WAHHH!!!
    EVENFLOW PSYCHOS H.N.I.C~FEEL THE FLOW!!!

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  • norm
    norm Posts: 31,146
    genie wrote:
    but talking to someone everyday i consider madness.


    me too.....too much contact drives me nuts.....what's the old phrase "absence makes the heart grow fonder"....:o :)
  • genie
    genie Posts: 2,222
    Swan wrote:
    it's madness, tell them to calm down and behave like men.

    good advice, i will indeed do so next time i meet another nutter.

    i actually learned how to pay attention to a guy when i was with my first ex cause he was complaining that i was cold towards him, so when i was with the second one i got no complaints, but i did have to tell him not to be romantic with me cause i'm not romantic kinda girl. i dare any guy to bring me flowers on the first date :D ( basically nothing good would come out of such gesture )

    basically men do need to behave like men! i don't want some sensitive, insecure, controlling wreck with me :D , i want a companion.
  • genie
    genie Posts: 2,222
    pearljamgirl07 wrote:
    I agree with the guys all depends how often do you see your gf/bf but if I'm with my boy everyday and then he calls me many times I'll kill him.....hahahahhhaa

    when i was dating them i saw them at least once each week.
  • GreenTeaDisease
    GreenTeaDisease Posts: 3,359
    genie wrote:
    just wondering:

    once you get into relationship how many times do you speak to/text your bf/gf per week?

    i used to think it was women that needed constant calling and attention. but that is until i went out with two guys, and one was calling me each day and the other used to text me each day :rolleyes:

    i'm the sort of girl that likes time for herself, and contacting them everyday seemed like a chore until i got used to it. don't get me wrong i liked them but talking to someone everyday i consider madness.

    what are your views on this?

    I knew I was in a good relationship when I was in one in which I didn't think about stuff like this :).

    the prior one, however, I would usually try to strike up a email or IM convo with him between dates, because you know, I just wanted to get to know him and start acting like friends. when he broke up with me he told me that was a sign that I was too into him. what immature bullshit.
  • genie
    genie Posts: 2,222
    FinsburyParkCarrots wrote:
    At the same time? I mean, you know ...

    :D

    haha, well i'm not that kind of girl. but if i did do such thing with those two i'd be tired constantly, i wouldn't be able to keep up.......mentally ofcourse ;) physically is whole other different story ;):D
  • genie
    genie Posts: 2,222
    GreenTeaDisease wrote:
    I knew I was in a good relationship when I was in one in which I didn't think about stuff like this :).

    the prior one, however, I would usually try to strike up a email or IM convo with him between dates, because you know, I just wanted to get to know him and start acting like friends. when he broke up with me he told me that was a sign that I was too into him. what immature bullshit.

    hhmm..i don't know....i would find it scary if someone was too full on with me and too much into me....i would actually be a bit put off that person thinking they were too desperate. so i don't think he was immature.

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