relationship question

Spunkie

genie wrote:

just wondering:

once you get into relationship how many times do you speak to/text your bf/gf per week?

i used to think it was women that needed constant calling and attention. but that is until i went out with two guys, and one was calling me each day and the other used to text me each day :rolleyes:

i'm the sort of girl that likes time for herself, and contacting them everyday seemed like a chore until i got used to it. don't get me wrong i liked them but talking to someone everyday i consider madness.

what are your views on this?

Twice a week.

genie

tish wrote:

Twice a week.

finally someone who replied to my exact question ok thank you. this seems pretty good for me

GreenTeaDisease

genie wrote:

hhmm..i don't know....i would find it scary if someone was too full on with me and too much into me....i would actually be a bit put off that person thinking they were too desperate. so i don't think he was immature.

no I mean I have been in that position before as well, and I am with you that I too like my space quite a bit, no matter how long I've been in the relationship. but that's not what I was doing- I wasn't even really that into him. he didn't think we should have ANY contact outside of dates. I was just saying hey every once in a while like I would naturally do with any of my friends (and I never use the phone, I don't like it). It's stupid to be dating someone if you can't just be normal with them (like my friend who has been in a serious relationship since sept, yet won't invite her boyfriend anywhere her friends will be, even spur of the moment, for fear that he'll freak out that she's "introducing him" to her friends. come on, we are 30 years old. what bullshit).

genie

GreenTeaDisease wrote:

no I mean I have been in that position before as well, and I am with you that I too like my space quite a bit, no matter how long I've been in the relationship. but that's not what I was doing- I wasn't even really that into him. he didn't think we should have ANY contact outside of dates. I was just saying hey every once in a while like I would naturally do with any of my friends (and I never use the phone, I don't like it). It's stupid to be dating someone if you can't just be normal with them (like my friend who has been in a serious relationship since sept, yet won't invite her boyfriend anywhere her friends will be, even spur of the moment, for fear that he'll freak out that she's "introducing him" to her friends. come on, we are 30 years old. what bullshit).

i see, ok maybe that guy had other intentions on his mind, like gather few different women around him that he is dating and have sex with different woman each week but not having to bother to listen to them.....

the wolf

there are days where my gf and i maybe speak 10 words to each other. and we live together!!!!

J/K

actually, i guess ive always been a bit needy in that dept. cause i like to at least talk for a bit, even when one of us are out of town.

i guess its different for everyone.

fada

I went drinking with a few mates last weekend or so and my mate had his new girlfriend with him whom had a her friend with her. Anyway I got talking to her friend and I thought that he were hitting it off. Anyway we tried to get to a nightclub but they were all shut after the we got out of the pub. I had to go to my brothers place for the night as I was working early the next morning. Anyway I asked my mate to ask her friend what she thought of me and to ask for her number but He gave me the text that she wasn't giving a yes or no. Now come one you either like some one or you don't .

eyedclaar

I have never owned a cell phone, nor will I ever own a cellphone, nor have I ever sent or received a text. In other words, I am of no use to you here... However, obviously I don't keep tabs on my woman nor does she keep tabs on me.

genie

fada wrote:

Now come one you either like some one or you don't .

not with me, i may like someone but wouldn't want to talk to them each day!

and anyway i show my appreciation to someone in other ways. i just like my own space due to my background, how i grew up

Sian-of-the-dead

I talk to my boyfriend via text, msn, facebook, email and phonecalls everyday (obviously not all in one day... that would be weird.) and I don't find it excessive at all. His texts always make me smile and we share the stupidest things about our days. I can't sleep if I haven't spoken to him last thing at night

I agree with most people who've posted, it's whatever you feel comfortable with.

Heineken Helen

SENROCK! wrote:

i agree that it depends on the person. some people enjoy being with each other daily or in contact 24/7. others prefer their space. if it feels like a CHORE........quit it!!! it should be somn u look FORWARD to when thinkingof talking or seeing that person. Not something you dread. ESPECIALLY if ure in a relationship!

I agree... I used to hate almost any texts or calls thinking 'GIMME FUCKING space' even if it was only every 2nd day

But when you meet someone you really want to be with... there's no limit really.