how i choose to feel is how i am

decides2dream
decides2dream Posts: 14,977
edited December 2007 in All Encompassing Trip
do you believe it?



i find myself quoting that mccready line so often, and i definitely believe it to be true. i fully believe happiness is a choice, when life throws you lemons make lemonade, etc....and all those other good cliches. :p seriously though....i really do believe that no matter what, it's your choice, your perspective...that makes ALL the difference. no matter how fantastic or utterly shiity life may be at any given moment, it is your perspective that helps you fully embrace/enjoy the good times......and perservere and work thru the bad.



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  • SENROCK
    SENROCK Posts: 10,736
    absolutely. its a CHOICE. just like peer pressure, there is NO SUCH THING cuz u have a CHOICE! if more people believed this.....there would be alot more happiness around!!! :D
    ~~~~~~ALWAYS HAVE A GOOD TIME~~~~~~
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  • josevolution
    josevolution Posts: 32,359
    mind over matter no ?? ...

    i agree with your assesment ....
    jesus greets me looks just like me ....
  • GreenTeaDisease
    GreenTeaDisease Posts: 3,359
    I think you can chose to *feel* anyway you want to, but I don't believe all that "the secret" nonsense that if think something good will happen to you it will.
  • audiodave
    audiodave Posts: 1,623
    GreenTeaDisease wrote:
    I think you can chose to *feel* anyway you want to, but I don't believe all that "the secret" nonsense that if think something good will happen to you it will.
    That does NOT work! :rolleyes::p

    Wish it did though.

    I agree to a certain extent, but not completely. I think. I'm going to think about this...
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    I don't wanna think, I wanna feel

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  • GreenTeaDisease
    GreenTeaDisease Posts: 3,359
    personally, I like being neutral.
  • NY PJ1
    NY PJ1 Posts: 9,533
    i like choclate more....
  • Brain of J.Lo
    Brain of J.Lo Posts: 3,259
    decides2dream wrote:
    do you believe it?



    i find myself quoting that mccready line so often, and i definitely believe it to be true. i fully believe happiness is a choice, when life throws you lemons make lemonade, etc....and all those other good cliches. :p seriously though....i really do believe that no matter what, it's your choice, your perspective...that makes ALL the difference. no matter how fantastic or utterly shiity life may be at any given moment, it is your perspective that helps you fully embrace/enjoy the good times......and perservere and work thru the bad.



    thoughts?

    In some ways, yes. I absolutely believe it. My grandma was the living example of this. Obviously, there are some things out of our control...but I think outlook can have a huge impact on the trajectory of our happiness, our health and our lives in general.
  • justam
    justam Posts: 21,415
    The words used for this idea seem incomplete to me although I understand what he's trying to say. :)

    I think he means you can choose to respond to how you feel and then CHANGE how you feel by your choice...but that wouldn't sound as nice in a song... :D

    Oh, and yeah, I like the idea.
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  • SENROCK
    SENROCK Posts: 10,736
    GreenTeaDisease wrote:
    I think you can chose to *feel* anyway you want to, but I don't believe all that "the secret" nonsense that if think something good will happen to you it will.


    thats the problem.....you DONT believe.
    ~~~~~~ALWAYS HAVE A GOOD TIME~~~~~~
    Sir Mike McCready is....THE MASTER!!! WAHHH!!!
    EVENFLOW PSYCHOS H.N.I.C~FEEL THE FLOW!!!

    "Pearl Jam fans are obsessed, they'd see the boys in HELL if tickets were sold."-CROJAM95

    It takes balls to put out a UKE album!
  • GreenTeaDisease
    GreenTeaDisease Posts: 3,359
    SENROCK! wrote:
    thats the problem.....you DONT believe.

    well I had this fitness book that said you have to mediate every day and envision yourself having great work outs and being fit. I did it just like it said for months and it just made me more nervous about my workouts and they got worse.
  • Brain of J.Lo
    Brain of J.Lo Posts: 3,259
    GreenTeaDisease wrote:
    I think you can chose to *feel* anyway you want to, but I don't believe all that "the secret" nonsense that if think something good will happen to you it will.

    I don't believe that either. I especially disagree with the notion that we bring all negative experiences/occurrances into our lives. One of the "experts" somehow connected with The Secret was on Larry King on or around the same day that a pedophile was sentenced (or convicted) for the death of an 11 yr old girl in FL. He was asked if the murdered child had brought about her own demise, and without just answering "yes", he reitterated the idea that we bring everything, both positive and negative, into our lives ourselves... So he essentially said yes, that she was responsible for her own murder. It was absolutely disgusting. (And no, I don't watch Larry King. I saw this on a program that was criticizing the secret. I don't want anyone to get the wrong idea...lol. :D)
  • Brain of J.Lo
    Brain of J.Lo Posts: 3,259
    GreenTeaDisease wrote:
    well I had this fitness book that said you have to mediate every day and envision yourself having great work outs and being fit. I did it just like it said for months and it just made me more nervous about my workouts and they got worse.

    lol, I'm so glad I'm not the only one who gets nervous while meditating. :D

    I'm just a ball of nerves sometimes, I swear. :D
  • SENROCK
    SENROCK Posts: 10,736
    GreenTeaDisease wrote:
    well I had this fitness book that said you have to mediate every day and envision yourself having great work outs and being fit. I did it just like it said for months and it just made me more nervous about my workouts and they got worse.


    hahaha ohhhhhhh you mean in THAT sense! ok ok i get it. i meant for things in general. you know, THINK POSITIVE and KEEP BELIEVING cuz it WILL happen. Those kinds of things. I wouldnt say it if it werent true. Trust me, after stuff ive faced this year, its a MIRACLE im even semi arguing this topic for the better! :D
    ~~~~~~ALWAYS HAVE A GOOD TIME~~~~~~
    Sir Mike McCready is....THE MASTER!!! WAHHH!!!
    EVENFLOW PSYCHOS H.N.I.C~FEEL THE FLOW!!!

    "Pearl Jam fans are obsessed, they'd see the boys in HELL if tickets were sold."-CROJAM95

    It takes balls to put out a UKE album!
  • Jeanie
    Jeanie Posts: 9,446
    Yeah, used to be that I believed that d2d but depression and illness are complex biological processes in the human body, so I don't believe that people deliberately CHOOSE to be unhappy. I think that sometimes that's just what happens to them and no amount of wishing/choosing to be happy is going to change that. Sure "how I choose to be is how I am" is a fantastic lyric and something we should all strive to achieve in positive terms but I don't think it's as simple as choosing all the time and quite frankly, exhausting to even try if your body/mind is working against happiness. :)
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  • SENROCK
    SENROCK Posts: 10,736
    Brain of J.Lo wrote:
    I don't believe that either. I especially disagree with the notion that we bring all negative experiences/occurrances into our lives. One of the "experts" somehow connected with The Secret was on Larry King on or around the same day that a pedophile was sentenced (or convicted) for the death of an 11 yr old girl in FL. He was asked if the murdered child had brought about her own demise, and without just answering "yes", he reitterated the idea that we bring everything, both positive and negative, into our lives ourselves... So he essentially said yes, that she was responsible for her own murder. It was absolutely disgusting. (And no, I don't watch Larry King. I saw this on a program that was criticizing the secret. I don't want anyone to get the wrong idea...lol. :D)


    :eek: you watch larry king??????? :D jk. the only time i watched him was a few months ago when KID ROCK was on there lookin freakin HOTTTTT!!!!! carry on....
    ~~~~~~ALWAYS HAVE A GOOD TIME~~~~~~
    Sir Mike McCready is....THE MASTER!!! WAHHH!!!
    EVENFLOW PSYCHOS H.N.I.C~FEEL THE FLOW!!!

    "Pearl Jam fans are obsessed, they'd see the boys in HELL if tickets were sold."-CROJAM95

    It takes balls to put out a UKE album!
  • GreenTeaDisease
    GreenTeaDisease Posts: 3,359
    SENROCK! wrote:
    hahaha ohhhhhhh you mean in THAT sense! ok ok i get it. i meant for things in general. you know, THINK POSITIVE and KEEP BELIEVING cuz it WILL happen. Those kinds of things. I wouldnt say it if it werent true. Trust me, after stuff ive faced this year, its a MIRACLE im even semi arguing this topic for the better! :D

    hahaha well I don't really buy that either. good or bad stuff is going to happen and I don't think there's shit we can do about it but you can "feel" or react to that stuff anyway you chose to.
  • audiodave
    audiodave Posts: 1,623
    Ok. I think this is true to a certain extent. If you have a more positive outlook on life, then I think you will be happier than a person (in identical circumstances) who has a more negative attitude in life. Doesn't mean one person is right or wrong...the optimist may be called delusional and the pessemist may like to call themselves more of a "realist" (I use that one a lot :D). BUT...I think there is a certain level of happiness that cannot be attained by merely THINKING you're happy. You know what i'm talking about...when you're at you're happiest...there's an underlying reason...some reason that you can't attain that most of the time.

    Also, I think there are certain emotions that take more control of you than others. Such as anger, jealousy, sadness (real sadness)...these are things you can't really think away. To me at least.
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  • rearviewmiror
    rearviewmiror Posts: 894
    I think the sentiment is true, but not always applicable.

    When a woman breaks your heart you're not choosing to feel that pain. When someone passes away, you'd probably rather not be depressed. Now it is a choice on how you deal with it and where you want it to take you, but I have been listening to this a lot recently and taking it too literally.
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  • romybian
    romybian Posts: 1,644
    Where someone sees a smile,
    Someone else can see tears,
    It all deppends on how you look,
    And what you really want to see.
    If you don't put your head up,
    You'll miss the sunset and the stars,
    But that crack in the floor
    Will fill like it's a reflection of your life.
    Reality is not a fact,
    The fact is we're born and will die.
    What we do in between,
    Only we can decide.
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  • urbanhippie
    urbanhippie Posts: 3,007
    I find it hard to believe that anyone CHOOSES to be or feel unhappy.
    Maybe a positive outlook can help you to feel more philosophical about the bad things that happen, I'm not sure...
    I have always been a very positive, optimistic person, so when the depression hit me it was like a bolt from the blue.
    I do not choose to feel like this and I hope it doesn't last long, but feel it I do.
    If I could think it away I would, believe me.
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