"you look too young to have a child."

Brain of J.Lo
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I went to some training for a new part-time job I am starting, and while making small talk with a couple of the people training me, I mentioned my daughter. one of the women looked at me and said in a very matter-of-fact way, "You look too young to have a child."
Huh?
I responded with "well...I'm 27..."
She also glanced down at my left hand as she said it, and I think she was checking for rings (which I happened to not be wearing...)
Maybe she was just trying to flatter me, or something, but what a weird comment to make...lol.
Huh?

I responded with "well...I'm 27..."
She also glanced down at my left hand as she said it, and I think she was checking for rings (which I happened to not be wearing...)
Maybe she was just trying to flatter me, or something, but what a weird comment to make...lol.
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half the time women say this to find out exactly how old you are...i've heard it many times in my field. younger women are threatening to some older women.
i'd take it as a compliment...tinged with her jealousy.0 -
cute story. heh heh
Maybe she was just trying to make some conversation...at any rate, you do look young and thats not a bad thing. Nor is it bad to look older (ok, i just dont want to offend anyone).
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Brain of J.Lo wrote:I went to some training for a new part-time job I am starting, and while making small talk with a couple of the people training me, I mentioned my daughter. one of the women looked at me and said in a very matter-of-fact way, "You look too young to have a child."
Huh?
I responded with "well...I'm 27..."
She also glanced down at my left hand as she said it, and I think she was checking for rings (which I happened to not be wearing...)
Maybe she was just trying to flatter me, or something, but what a weird comment to make...lol.
That is an odd statement considering teenagers are popping out kids everyday!
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Brain of J.Lo wrote:I went to some training for a new part-time job I am starting, and while making small talk with a couple of the people training me, I mentioned my daughter. one of the women looked at me and said in a very matter-of-fact way, "You look too young to have a child."
Huh?
I responded with "well...I'm 27..."
She also glanced down at my left hand as she said it, and I think she was checking for rings (which I happened to not be wearing...)
Maybe she was just trying to flatter me, or something, but what a weird comment to make...lol.
I get exactly the same thing and I'm 27 too. It never flatter's me, actually it makes me feel really uncomfortable when I'm pushing his pram around.
I look like a single teenager mother... I wish people would stop keep saying it! Sorry... I had a bit of a rant there.0 -
You're making more of it than it really is and I hardly find it a weird comment.
Sometimes a compliment is just that. Who knew that one day people (particularly women) would be off-put by others thinking that they looked young?
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roar wrote:half the time women say this to find out exactly how old you are...i've heard it many times in my field. younger women are threatening to some older women.
i'd take it as a compliment...tinged with her jealousy.but it doesn't mean any offense... it just means you look young
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Heineken Helen wrote:I'd definitely take it as a compliment. Not everything people say has something behind it. I'm sure I've said something like that before but it would just come out of my mouth cos it's simply what I'm thinking at the time
but it doesn't mean any offense... it just means you look young
Jeeeezzz... learn to take a bloody compliment girl
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Heineken Helen wrote:I'd definitely take it as a compliment. Not everything people say has something behind it. I'm sure I've said something like that before but it would just come out of my mouth cos it's simply what I'm thinking at the time
but it doesn't mean any offense... it just means you look young
Jeeeezzz... learn to take a bloody compliment girl
I can't speak for Brain of J Lo but I think I know what she means.
They say it takes one to know one and I have to confess, when I see a teenage girl pushing a pram along, I think *tut* Another teenage pregnancy.
I worry that people look at me and think the same. That I'm a teenager that got knocked up and doesn't know who the father is.
I didn't want to have to confess that but a lot of people have said 'Just take it as a compliment'.0 -
It is definately a backhanded compliment. I don't have kids, but I'm 29 and don't look like it. I get ID'd all the time and I've even gotten a hard time on a few occasions. Like I'd try and pass for 29 LOL.
So long as our youthful good looks don't catch up to us.....
She's probably jealous."Only two things are infinite, the universe and human stupidity, and I'm not sure about the former. "
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MattCameronKicksButt wrote:I can't speak for Brain of J Lo but I think I know what she means.
I worry that people look at me and think the same. That I'm a teenager that got knocked up and doesn't know who the father is.
I didn't want to have to confess that but a lot of people have said 'Just take it as a compliment'.
You summed up my feelings exactly!It's not that I an offended by people thinking I look young, but I'm offended by the fact that they are forming some kind of opinion about my "right" to be a mother...if that makes sense...?
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dharma69 wrote:You're making more of it than it really is and I hardly find it a weird comment.
Sometimes a compliment is just that. Who knew that one day people (particularly women) would be off-put by others thinking that they looked young?
My, how the times have changed.
I'm not really making anything of it... I know I look young.This is not news to me.
It just struck me as something that, in some situations, might not be an appropriate comment.
From her tone, I could tell it was more of a comment than a compliment. And I wasn't necessarily put off by it. The reason it struck me as odd was that *if* I were a very young mother, that might be an issue I am sensitive about and, therefore, not something I would appreciate hearing comments about. Does that make sense?
So...I don't think this is really worthy of being viewed as a comment on our changing world.0 -
Phantom Pain wrote:That is an odd statement considering teenagers are popping out kids everyday!
I'm not saying you don't look young, Jenna
lol! Yeah, I was thinking..."surely she doesn't think I am LITERALLY too young to bear children...lol"0 -
given2fly78 wrote:It is definately a backhanded compliment. I don't have kids, but I'm 29 and don't look like it. I get ID'd all the time and I've even gotten a hard time on a few occasions. Like I'd try and pass for 29 LOL.
So long as our youthful good looks don't catch up to us.....
She's probably jealous.
I get carded a lot, too.
Sometimes, I even get quizzed about the details on my ID.0 -
I bought a bottle of wine the other day and the woman asked me for ID. You have to be 18 here to buy alcohol!
The woman said 'Damn, you look good for 27 girl'.
I think I just look short AND old.I should take it as a compliment, I guess.
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Brain of J.Lo wrote:I get carded a lot, too.
Sometimes, I even get quizzed about the details on my ID.
I just recently stopped getting the ID quiz, and I'm 29. The really funny thing is, I have brother that's almost 6 years younger than me, and when I meet people who know him, they assume I'm the younger sibling. 2 years ago at his college graduation, his friend who was the same as me- 27- asked him how he managed to get me into the bar.0 -
Brain of J.Lo wrote:I went to some training for a new part-time job I am starting, and while making small talk with a couple of the people training me, I mentioned my daughter. one of the women looked at me and said in a very matter-of-fact way, "You look too young to have a child."
Huh?
I responded with "well...I'm 27..."
She also glanced down at my left hand as she said it, and I think she was checking for rings (which I happened to not be wearing...)
Maybe she was just trying to flatter me, or something, but what a weird comment to make...lol.Cause I'm broken when I'm lonesome
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I would think it would be flattering...:)These cuts are leaving creases. Trace the scars to fit the pieces, to tell the story, you don't need to say a word.0
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Brain of J.Lo wrote:I'm not really making anything of it... I know I look young.
This is not news to me.
It just struck me as something that, in some situations, might not be an appropriate comment.
From her tone, I could tell it was more of a comment than a compliment. And I wasn't necessarily put off by it. The reason it struck me as odd was that *if* I were a very young mother, that might be an issue I am sensitive about and, therefore, not something I would appreciate hearing comments about. Does that make sense?
So...I don't think this is really worthy of being viewed as a comment on our changing world.
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This happened to me last month. I was waiting on a nice couple and when they paid, they used their Ariel the Mermaid Visa card. I commented that my daughter loves Ariel and wanted to be Ariel for Halloween. Their jaws both dropped and the wife (who is probably younger than me) said, "I can't believe you have a daughter!" I was offended a little at first thinking, 'why, because a mother should be at home with her children, not working?' And when I told her I actually have 3 daughters, they said I looked to young to have any children. It was nice to hear.I really screwed that up. I really Schruted it.0
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