lululemon

sponger wrote:

Really? But, it sounds like this weight loss thing is a recently-set goal of yours. Are you newlyweds?

I was 203 in highschool and college.

JR year of college I did a no carb diet and lost 40lbs.

I eventually gained most back the weight till I was 185. We met when I was in the process of gaining that weight back.

I lost 10lbs for the wedding, so I was 175. We got married in Nov. 06

I went up to 189 till march of 07, and I couldn't take it anymore. I wanted to make a life style change while I was still young and able to get the weight off.

I have steadily lost weight since march of last year by watching what I eat, eating a lot of fruits and veggies, portion control, etc. No working out.

I just started going to the gym, literally a week and 1/2 ago because it's brand new and it just opened. I go for 1.5-2 hours a day. I take a class every day, yoga, weight works outs, abs and I also run and bike.

I weigh 150 now. (I'm 5'8")

sponger wrote:

OK..so you were overweight when the two of you married. Also, you were at least slightly overweight when the two of you met.

I think that might explain for why he is disapproving of lulu pants.

While he may appreciate the way you look now, it probably also makes him somewhat nervous because he knows that you also look hot to other guys as well.

So, the lulu pants just exacerbate that nervousness. Of course, I'm sure the two of you have a strong marriage and that there is an undeniable bond of trust between the two of you, but I think every guy when married to someone who looks really good is going to have some sort of anxiety about it.

So, with that in mind, I would think that it would persuade him to be more approving of lulu pants if it was made clear to him that they serve the sole purpose of impressing him above all else. Perhaps if you included in your "goal rewards" something that only he would be seeing, his opinion of lulu pants would jump from permissive to outright encouraging.

Those are my thoughts anyway.

Interesting thoughts. But anyone who knows me well, as he does most of all, knows that I don't do things for the approval of other people. Its quite silly to have to convince him the pants are for him. They are for me, and for me to feel good and happy that I accomplished something I set my mind to. They aren't for him. Just like me busting my ass at the gym every day isn't for him or for any other guy. Its for me, and thats why it is working, because when people decide to do something for themselves, the goal is much more easily achieved. If someone doesn't like me for what I look like, their loss. Just as if someone only likes me for what I look like, their loss, because I can see through that. You don't know me, and you certainly don't know him. You can argue with me all you want over the logistics of getting nice pants, but I already told you he has no problem with it. The fact of the matter is, even if he did think me wanting pants was a dumb idea, I don't care, because I live my life for me. I ask myself why I want things, and what my motivations are for doing the things I do. If I can justify my actions to myself, then I go forward with them. I answer to me, only.

The last thing I'm about to do is try to look good to run off with some dude who cat calls me as he drives by. As classy as that is. I'm trying to get into healthy shape so I can live a long happy life. If nice pants motivate me to reach that goal. Nice pants it is. End of story.