You say you don't tell him that, but it sounds like that's because you respect his buying decisions more than you appreciate the way a $100 makes him look.
What I'm getting at is that your husband clearly appreciates your tush without tush modifying clothing. Therefore, the need for tush modifying clothing becomes vague.
However, if you appreciate your husband's, say, pecks underneath a $100 sweater, then the purchase is not vaguely justifiable. Rather, it is a marriage enhancer on top of a peck enhancer.
He may or may not know where you stand in terms of whether you appreciate his pecks in Target sweaters or in J Crew sweaters, and so I suspect that's why he continues to make these purchases.
Also, I don't feel that it is totally off-topic because we're talking about bodypart glorification through the use of expensive, flattering clothing.
All I have to say is the best marriage enhancer is to support things that makes your spouse happy. If Josh feels confident in something, whatever it may be, then I feel good supporting him in his choice to buy it because I know he'll feel good about himself in it. We work well together because we seem to share that outlook. Just like a gym membership in its self. I guess someone could say that I am spoiled for having a membership to a nice gym when I could go outside and walk and run and whatnot. To each his own.
Yet it sounds as though he is not supporting of your lulu pants. Have you confronted him about it with the views you are now asserting?
He has never been into a lululemon. Neither have I. He has little knowledge as to how much they cost. He knows they are pricey, my boss told me her pants were like 90 dollars. I told him that. He made the comment about the headband. Neither one of us know how expensive a headband is. I mearly said, oh, these headbands are cute, and he looked up from mario kart and said "can't you get a headband at target, whats the difference". To which I answered, I have no idea what the difference is, probably nothing. Which is the truth. But when I did tell him I set a goal and when I reached it I was gonna buy the pants, he said "don't wear yourself out trying to get to the goal, you've come a long way, maybe you should get them soon"
He has never been into a lululemon. Neither have I. He has little knowledge as to how much they cost. He knows they are pricey, my boss told me her pants were like 90 dollars. I told him that. He made the comment about the headband. Neither one of us know how expensive a headband is. I mearly said, oh, these headbands are cute, and he looked up from mario kart and said "can't you get a headband at target, whats the difference". To which I answered, I have no idea what the difference is, probably nothing. Which is the truth. But when I did tell him I set a goal and when I reached it I was gonna buy the pants, he said "don't wear yourself out trying to get to the goal, you've come a long way, maybe you should get them soon"
Really? But, it sounds like this weight loss thing is a recently-set goal of yours. Are you newlyweds?
I was 203 in highschool and college.
JR year of college I did a no carb diet and lost 40lbs.
I eventually gained most back the weight till I was 185. We met when I was in the process of gaining that weight back.
I lost 10lbs for the wedding, so I was 175. We got married in Nov. 06
I went up to 189 till march of 07, and I couldn't take it anymore. I wanted to make a life style change while I was still young and able to get the weight off.
I have steadily lost weight since march of last year by watching what I eat, eating a lot of fruits and veggies, portion control, etc. No working out.
I just started going to the gym, literally a week and 1/2 ago because it's brand new and it just opened. I go for 1.5-2 hours a day. I take a class every day, yoga, weight works outs, abs and I also run and bike.
OK..so you were overweight when the two of you married. Also, you were at least slightly overweight when the two of you met.
I think that might explain for why he is disapproving of lulu pants.
While he may appreciate the way you look now, it probably also makes him somewhat nervous because he knows that you also look hot to other guys as well.
So, the lulu pants just exacerbate that nervousness. Of course, I'm sure the two of you have a strong marriage and that there is an undeniable bond of trust between the two of you, but I think every guy when married to someone who looks really good is going to have some sort of anxiety about it.
So, with that in mind, I would think that it would persuade him to be more approving of lulu pants if it was made clear to him that they serve the sole purpose of impressing him above all else. Perhaps if you included in your "goal rewards" something that only he would be seeing, his opinion of lulu pants would jump from permissive to outright encouraging.
OK..so you were overweight when the two of you married. Also, you were at least slightly overweight when the two of you met.
I think that might explain for why he is disapproving of lulu pants.
While he may appreciate the way you look now, it probably also makes him somewhat nervous because he knows that you also look hot to other guys as well.
So, the lulu pants just exacerbate that nervousness. Of course, I'm sure the two of you have a strong marriage and that there is an undeniable bond of trust between the two of you, but I think every guy when married to someone who looks really good is going to have some sort of anxiety about it.
So, with that in mind, I would think that it would persuade him to be more approving of lulu pants if it was made clear to him that they serve the sole purpose of impressing him above all else. Perhaps if you included in your "goal rewards" something that only he would be seeing, his opinion of lulu pants would jump from permissive to outright encouraging.
Those are my thoughts anyway.
Interesting thoughts. But anyone who knows me well, as he does most of all, knows that I don't do things for the approval of other people. Its quite silly to have to convince him the pants are for him. They are for me, and for me to feel good and happy that I accomplished something I set my mind to. They aren't for him. Just like me busting my ass at the gym every day isn't for him or for any other guy. Its for me, and thats why it is working, because when people decide to do something for themselves, the goal is much more easily achieved. If someone doesn't like me for what I look like, their loss. Just as if someone only likes me for what I look like, their loss, because I can see through that. You don't know me, and you certainly don't know him. You can argue with me all you want over the logistics of getting nice pants, but I already told you he has no problem with it. The fact of the matter is, even if he did think me wanting pants was a dumb idea, I don't care, because I live my life for me. I ask myself why I want things, and what my motivations are for doing the things I do. If I can justify my actions to myself, then I go forward with them. I answer to me, only.
The last thing I'm about to do is try to look good to run off with some dude who cat calls me as he drives by. As classy as that is. I'm trying to get into healthy shape so I can live a long happy life. If nice pants motivate me to reach that goal. Nice pants it is. End of story.
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Very nice!
These may be next for me.
http://www.lululemon.com/products/womens/bottoms/crops/pure_crop
I want to get a different colour for summer.. but maybe I should still go brighter than brown
Mmm, I like those. Chocolate brown is one of my favorite colors, so I can't argue with that color!
Josh asked me if it was a japanese company because it sounded like a little japanese cartoon character.. haha
One of mine too!! I have some other workout capris but I am spoiled now by my lulu's (really I swear I am NOT a princess)
haha I think there is a section in Vancouver called lulu?? I could be wrong but they do come from Vancouver!! Boys :rolleyes:
All I have to say is the best marriage enhancer is to support things that makes your spouse happy. If Josh feels confident in something, whatever it may be, then I feel good supporting him in his choice to buy it because I know he'll feel good about himself in it. We work well together because we seem to share that outlook. Just like a gym membership in its self. I guess someone could say that I am spoiled for having a membership to a nice gym when I could go outside and walk and run and whatnot. To each his own.
Yet it sounds as though he is not supporting of your lulu pants. Have you confronted him about it with the views you are now asserting?
http://forums.pearljam.com/showthread.php?t=272825
EV- 08/09,10/2008.06/08,09/2009
He has never been into a lululemon. Neither have I. He has little knowledge as to how much they cost. He knows they are pricey, my boss told me her pants were like 90 dollars. I told him that. He made the comment about the headband. Neither one of us know how expensive a headband is. I mearly said, oh, these headbands are cute, and he looked up from mario kart and said "can't you get a headband at target, whats the difference". To which I answered, I have no idea what the difference is, probably nothing. Which is the truth. But when I did tell him I set a goal and when I reached it I was gonna buy the pants, he said "don't wear yourself out trying to get to the goal, you've come a long way, maybe you should get them soon"
:eek:
never a good thing.. Never!
Did he marry you when you weighed 200 lbs?
http://forums.pearljam.com/showthread.php?t=272825
no
...to look at that is.
EV- 08/09,10/2008.06/08,09/2009
Really? But, it sounds like this weight loss thing is a recently-set goal of yours. Are you newlyweds?
http://forums.pearljam.com/showthread.php?t=272825
really? ew.
I see women at the gym with that issue going on, and I'm like, dear lord girl, pull that shit out of there!
I guess when they say pants fit like a second skin, they really mean it :P
I was 203 in highschool and college.
JR year of college I did a no carb diet and lost 40lbs.
I eventually gained most back the weight till I was 185. We met when I was in the process of gaining that weight back.
I lost 10lbs for the wedding, so I was 175. We got married in Nov. 06
I went up to 189 till march of 07, and I couldn't take it anymore. I wanted to make a life style change while I was still young and able to get the weight off.
I have steadily lost weight since march of last year by watching what I eat, eating a lot of fruits and veggies, portion control, etc. No working out.
I just started going to the gym, literally a week and 1/2 ago because it's brand new and it just opened. I go for 1.5-2 hours a day. I take a class every day, yoga, weight works outs, abs and I also run and bike.
I weigh 150 now. (I'm 5'8")
OK..so you were overweight when the two of you married. Also, you were at least slightly overweight when the two of you met.
I think that might explain for why he is disapproving of lulu pants.
While he may appreciate the way you look now, it probably also makes him somewhat nervous because he knows that you also look hot to other guys as well.
So, the lulu pants just exacerbate that nervousness. Of course, I'm sure the two of you have a strong marriage and that there is an undeniable bond of trust between the two of you, but I think every guy when married to someone who looks really good is going to have some sort of anxiety about it.
So, with that in mind, I would think that it would persuade him to be more approving of lulu pants if it was made clear to him that they serve the sole purpose of impressing him above all else. Perhaps if you included in your "goal rewards" something that only he would be seeing, his opinion of lulu pants would jump from permissive to outright encouraging.
Those are my thoughts anyway.
http://forums.pearljam.com/showthread.php?t=272825
Interesting thoughts. But anyone who knows me well, as he does most of all, knows that I don't do things for the approval of other people. Its quite silly to have to convince him the pants are for him. They are for me, and for me to feel good and happy that I accomplished something I set my mind to. They aren't for him. Just like me busting my ass at the gym every day isn't for him or for any other guy. Its for me, and thats why it is working, because when people decide to do something for themselves, the goal is much more easily achieved. If someone doesn't like me for what I look like, their loss. Just as if someone only likes me for what I look like, their loss, because I can see through that. You don't know me, and you certainly don't know him. You can argue with me all you want over the logistics of getting nice pants, but I already told you he has no problem with it. The fact of the matter is, even if he did think me wanting pants was a dumb idea, I don't care, because I live my life for me. I ask myself why I want things, and what my motivations are for doing the things I do. If I can justify my actions to myself, then I go forward with them. I answer to me, only.
The last thing I'm about to do is try to look good to run off with some dude who cat calls me as he drives by. As classy as that is. I'm trying to get into healthy shape so I can live a long happy life. If nice pants motivate me to reach that goal. Nice pants it is. End of story.