How do you deal with In-Laws

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  • PatrickBateman
    PatrickBateman Posts: 2,243
    It may be soft....but the song "nothingman" really hits home when I realize noone will ever love me like she does/did. I have recently told my parents this is how it has to be.
    If a man speaks in a forest and there is no woman around to hear him, is he still wrong?
  • WildChildRose
    WildChildRose Posts: 568
    PatrickBateman wrote:
    It may be soft....but the song "nothingman" really hits home when I realize noone will ever love me like she does/did. I have recently told my parents this is how it has to be.

    Good for you! Is there any particular reason they dont like her?
    "I'll ride the wave where it takes me.."
  • libragirl
    libragirl Posts: 4,632
    WildChildRose wrote:
    Ha ha ha seriously. Or at least one that doesn't have two sisters! EEEK. I have 3 brothers, you'd think that would be a bit more intimidating! But my brother's are such wonderful men!

    yeah..or a sister that lives across the country. Well they are your brothers of course you think that ;) nah Im sure they are.
    These cuts are leaving creases. Trace the scars to fit the pieces, to tell the story, you don't need to say a word.
  • WildChildRose
    WildChildRose Posts: 568
    libragirl wrote:
    yeah..or a sister that lives across the country. Well they are your brothers of course you think that ;) nah Im sure they are.


    Hehe eventually we'll be putting some serious miles between us. No seriously, my brothers are really awesome guys. My mom still a stellar job raising them into awesome men. :)

    I think I had a break through today just venting about this. I have a lot of stress to deal with from outside people in this relationship. Tommy's ex is crazy too and we have to deal with her bc she is Skyler's (Tommys son) mother. It's constant bickering with her etc. I think Im going to try to get her on a civil level this weekend. I suggested to Tommy we bring her a present for her newborn and then have a little talk about how to be grow up civil people, for the sake of Skyler. And at the same time, I am simply going to ignore any attempt to start up fights with me from his sister. It's all I can do really and when she does anything it just makes her look like the unstable one with issues.

    I feel so much better.. thank you guys! :-D
    "I'll ride the wave where it takes me.."
  • eyedclaar
    eyedclaar Posts: 6,980
    WildChildRose wrote:
    Hehe eventually we'll be putting some serious miles between us. No seriously, my brothers are really awesome guys. My mom still a stellar job raising them into awesome men. :)

    I think I had a break through today just venting about this. I have a lot of stress to deal with from outside people in this relationship. Tommy's ex is crazy too and we have to deal with her bc she is Skyler's (Tommys son) mother. It's constant bickering with her etc. I think Im going to try to get her on a civil level this weekend. I suggested to Tommy we bring her a present for her newborn and then have a little talk about how to be grow up civil people, for the sake of Skyler. And at the same time, I am simply going to ignore any attempt to start up fights with me from his sister. It's all I can do really and when she does anything it just makes her look like the unstable one with issues.

    I feel so much better.. thank you guys! :-D

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  • fanch75
    fanch75 Posts: 3,734
    Rose, you should have married into a black family. Only white families have the time to create this level of drama and bullshit.
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  • libragirl
    libragirl Posts: 4,632
    venting is good..Im glad you feel better. Taking the highroad is your best bet. It's not worth the aggravation...trust me, some people are just miserable and want to suck people into their misery.


    WildChildRose wrote:
    Hehe eventually we'll be putting some serious miles between us. No seriously, my brothers are really awesome guys. My mom still a stellar job raising them into awesome men. :)

    I think I had a break through today just venting about this. I have a lot of stress to deal with from outside people in this relationship. Tommy's ex is crazy too and we have to deal with her bc she is Skyler's (Tommys son) mother. It's constant bickering with her etc. I think Im going to try to get her on a civil level this weekend. I suggested to Tommy we bring her a present for her newborn and then have a little talk about how to be grow up civil people, for the sake of Skyler. And at the same time, I am simply going to ignore any attempt to start up fights with me from his sister. It's all I can do really and when she does anything it just makes her look like the unstable one with issues.

    I feel so much better.. thank you guys! :-D
    These cuts are leaving creases. Trace the scars to fit the pieces, to tell the story, you don't need to say a word.
  • WildChildRose
    WildChildRose Posts: 568
    fanch75 wrote:
    Rose, you should have married into a black family. Only white families have the time to create this level of drama and bullshit.

    LOL you are too funny. Ahhh life without strife..... that's what I am talking about.

    Oh another note, I was very disappointed to discover that is is only 1:30 pm here. I thought it was closer to like 3 pm and I am ready to get my drink on! I'm hoping my boss says happy hour starts early bc it's sunny and nice today! wooo...... i love drinking at the office!
    "I'll ride the wave where it takes me.."
  • WildChildRose
    WildChildRose Posts: 568
    libragirl wrote:
    venting is good..Im glad you feel better. Taking the highroad is your best bet. It's not worth the aggravation...trust me, some people are just miserable and want to suck people into their misery.

    Thanks! Yep, I dont know why I didnt think of this before. :) Prob just bc I can't stand both his ex and his sister... but as long as Tommy and I are happy, I don't really care.
    "I'll ride the wave where it takes me.."
  • WildChildRose
    WildChildRose Posts: 568
    eyedclaar wrote:
    That will be $150, please...

    hey at least you are cheaper than a therapist! nice deal! ;-)
    "I'll ride the wave where it takes me.."
  • duffy
    duffy Posts: 74
    women are such massive bitches. :rolleyes:
  • PatrickBateman
    PatrickBateman Posts: 2,243
    WildChildRose wrote:
    Good for you! Is there any particular reason they dont like her?
    NOt so much they dont like HER...just things she does. The biggest thing is that tehy cant come to our house for any birthday parties including their grandchildren (our kids)
    If a man speaks in a forest and there is no woman around to hear him, is he still wrong?
  • libragirl
    libragirl Posts: 4,632
    duffy wrote:
    women are such massive bitches. :rolleyes:

    ha...I'm a women and I agree. I work with mostly women and it isn't fun. :p

    But then again sometimes being a bitch is the only thing a women has to hold on to. That is a quote from some movie.
    These cuts are leaving creases. Trace the scars to fit the pieces, to tell the story, you don't need to say a word.
  • WildChildRose
    WildChildRose Posts: 568
    PatrickBateman wrote:
    NOt so much they dont like HER...just things she does. The biggest thing is that tehy cant come to our house for any birthday parties including their grandchildren (our kids)

    Hmm ... how do you feel? Does she purposely do things to be a bitch to your family?? Is there some background?
    "I'll ride the wave where it takes me.."
  • PatrickBateman
    PatrickBateman Posts: 2,243
    WildChildRose wrote:
    Hmm ... how do you feel? Does she purposely do things to be a bitch to your family?? Is there some background?
    I wish they would all just get over themselves...honestly


    How is this for a wrench in my gears....we are now expecting our fourth child. Yup, 4 days before she gets her tubes tied....POW
    If a man speaks in a forest and there is no woman around to hear him, is he still wrong?
  • WildChildRose
    WildChildRose Posts: 568
    PatrickBateman wrote:
    I wish they would all just get over themselves...honestly


    How is this for a wrench in my gears....we are now expecting our fourth child. Yup, 4 days before she gets her tubes tied....POW


    Oh wow... congrats. Has it always been this way? Is there anyway to peacefully coexist?

    I am going to try my best to just coexist with my fiance's family. I just don't like his sister at all and I'm never going to, so I'm not going to be fake. She says I am not invited and all that crap but I don't do that to her. She could show up, I wouldn't talk to her, but I wouldn't really care if she were there.
    "I'll ride the wave where it takes me.."
  • PatrickBateman
    PatrickBateman Posts: 2,243
    WildChildRose wrote:
    Oh wow... congrats. Has it always been this way? Is there anyway to peacefully coexist?

    I am going to try my best to just coexist with my fiance's family. I just don't like his sister at all and I'm never going to, so I'm not going to be fake. She says I am not invited and all that crap but I don't do that to her. She could show up, I wouldn't talk to her, but I wouldn't really care if she were there.
    thanks....Glad I didnt fill in the rest of my tattoo after our 3rd.

    The only person that it really affects, is me because they all put me in the middle. My wife and her sisters are big time grudge carriers....they dont let anything go. Unlike my side who will let bygones be bygones.
    If a man speaks in a forest and there is no woman around to hear him, is he still wrong?
  • WildChildRose
    WildChildRose Posts: 568
    PatrickBateman wrote:
    thanks....Glad I didnt fill in the rest of my tattoo after our 3rd.

    The only person that it really affects, is me because they all put me in the middle. My wife and her sisters are big time grudge carriers....they dont let anything go. Unlike my side who will let bygones be bygones.

    Yea well... no one wants to live with strife in their life, especially when you have no choice in the matter.
    "I'll ride the wave where it takes me.."
  • samick
    samick Posts: 373
    blood is thicker than water
  • PatrickBateman
    PatrickBateman Posts: 2,243
    samick wrote:
    blood is thicker than water
    yeah...that's where it gets complicated
    If a man speaks in a forest and there is no woman around to hear him, is he still wrong?

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